I believe one of the biggest misconceptions about sleep coaching is that sleep coaching has to be a black and white thing. This could be due to the fact that some of the books and literature out there paint it this way. “Don’t ever EVER pick up your baby during sleep coaching” one book might say. Another might say you need to parent your baby to sleep 100% of the time, or else she will have problems for the rest of her life. But, in actuality, all children will sleep independently one day – the only difference is the pace at which that will happen. Will you force it, encourage it, or let her decide when it’s time (even if it’s when she’s 8 years old)? The pace of sleep coaching is really family dependent, and there are a few things that influence the pace.
What Influences the Pace of Sleep Coaching?
I currently have a client who is taking things slow, but seeing definite progress. Since she has an unlimited e-mail package, she checks in with me almost daily to let me know how each step of her sleep plan is going. She told me yesterday how worried she was about the second step and had put it off for a few days because of it. But, she finally went through with it, and it went so much better than she had hoped! So, the first thing that will influence the pace of sleep training is YOU! You may lack confidence in your baby or your method, and that will influence how fast or slow you may go. But remember, until you take the first or next step, you won’t know how your baby or toddler will respond. Some parents actually get in their own way, in terms of progress. 🙂
Of course, it’s not always that easy. The next thing that will influence your pace is, obviously, your baby or toddler. Her temperament will be a huge factor in how big or small a change will be. If you have an adaptable baby, you may be pleasantly surprised how quickly he responds to changes. However, if you have an intense and independence-seeking toddler, you may have slower progress.
Other things that may influence your pace are things like illness and teething, of which you have no control over and are unpredictable, but your consistency and follow through in the long-term will make a difference in your success!
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