Ready to Begin Your Sleep Journey?   Yes! Show Me How
Ready to Begin Your Sleep Journey?   Yes! Show Me How

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  1. Trish says

    My baby is now 22 months she has just one nap during the day which last for about 2 and a half hours she will go to bed at night around 08:30 in my husband and my bed and then we move her to her crib only to wake up at about 01:30 for a bottle and will not go ack to sleep in her crib so we co sleep. Please help on how to get her to sleep through the night in her crib. What am i doing wrong.

  2. Emily DeJeu says

    @ Jordan — so, so glad to hear that things are going more smoothly now! Yay!! I’ve had similar experiences with sleep training all three of my kids; I always wanted to do gentler, no-cry methods (for my own sake), but then I quickly figured out that all my checking and consoling was only making it worse for my kids. They’d get all riled up every time they saw me.

    In terms of moving bedtime earlier — have you tried an earlier bedtime, and she’s just not having it? Or is this something you’re gradually working on?

  3. Jordan says

    @Emily: thanks for your response! We’re doing better! We were doing a no-cry/intermittent reassurance method at first, but after a few days we realized that us going back in was only upsetting g her more. The last 48 hours we’ve gone to regular CIO and she’s doing much better. Taking 10-30 minutes to settle and she’s now getting 2 1-1.5 hour naps and last night she slept for 9 hours straight without waking!

    Her bedtime is still later than I’d like, we’ve gone from 10pm to 8:45, but I would like to get it moved up to around 7-7:30. We’re keeping her pack and play in our room and that’s where she’s sleeping with a white noise machine in the room too.

  4. Emily DeJeu says

    @ Jordan — First, you should know that what you’re experiencing is totally normal. TOTALLY normal. Weaning an older baby from co-sleeping can be rough. So even though this is (understandably) frustrating, rest assured that you haven’t done, and aren’t doing, anything “wrong”.

    In terms of how to make this transition — what is your approach now? Knowing that would probably help some of us offer tips/insights.

  5. Jordan says

    We have a 9month old, our first, and we’ve been struggling with sleep. We resorted to co-sleeping just to get some sleep in the beginning and it kind of stuck. Now that she’s so mobile, it was making both night time sleep and nap sleep a nightmare. We recently started transitioning her to a pack and play in our room, but I’m having a hard time getting her down! Once she falls asleep at night (usually takes close to an hour after the bedtime routine) then things are fine and she is sleeping better than before. Naps however, are another issue. Again, taking her close to an hour to settle before she finally falls asleep. Today I tried putting her down earlier, after only 1.5 hours of being awake, and still not any better. I know it’s only been a few days, but needing some advice/encouragement from other mamas who’ve been here :/

  6. Emily DeJeu says

    @ KBevis — I’m so sorry your toddler’s sleep has proven difficult lately! With a new baby in the house, things can’t be easy for you right now.

    A personalized sleep plan may be just what you need (especially if you feel like you’re too overwhelmed to try and tackle this on your own. And with a 4 month old to care for, it’s perfectly understandable that you’d be feeling that way!) You can see a listing of all our personalized consultation packages here: The Deluxe e-mail package tends to be our most popular.

    I don’t know enough about your particular situation to offer detailed, in-depth observations, but I will say that having been through the toddler phase twice (and I’m about to enter it again — my daughter will be 2 in a few weeks), this sounds like such typical 2 year old behavior to me. That’s what makes the 2 year sleep regression tough; it’s as much about your toddler’s growing sense of independence and strong will as it is about actual developmental milestones and changing sleep patterns. Not easy to deal with!

    Best of luck to you! I hope a personalized sleep plan proves just the thing you need to help you navigate this stage. Do keep us posted on what happens! And thanks for commenting. 🙂

  7. KBevis says

    My 2yo has struggled with naps and bedtime since about 9 months old! He started out singing and shaking his crib and has graduated to asking for water and complaining of hurt toes/hands/eyes/ears/knees… and having to use the bathroom (we are potty training so it is hard not to rush him to the bathroom when the urge arises). I have tried waking him up earlier and putting him down for a nap earlier, putting him down later- he still will cry and fuss for at least an hour. I have tried “quiet time”, staying in the room with him, rocking, stories, songs…it feels like I have tried everything. When he does settle down for a nap (always after a fight and at least an hour) he has to be woken up and is very groggy. We have a new baby now (4mo old) She has displayed normal sleep patterns, I would like to keep her on track, but desperately need help with my toddler. We are going to try transitioning to a toddler bed and see how that goes but I think a personalized sleep plan through the sleep site, might be our next step. Any ideas on what has been helpful for you?

  8. Melissa says

    My son has is 13 months, naps twice a day for an hour to hour and a half each. Only thing is I have always laid with him for naps. At night he sleeps in his crib but I am not sure how to make this transition at his age for napping.

    • Emily DeJeu says

      @ Melissa — you could do it gradually, by slowly spending less and less time lying with him at nap time, until you’ve finally weaned him off of needing you around. This kind of “fading” approach tends to be gentler and kinder than “cold-turkey” methods. Of course, it also takes more time on your part. But if you’re concerned about how your son will react to this change, then fading may be a good idea.

      Hope this helps, Melissa! And thanks for commenting.

  9. Emily DeJeu says

    @ Kate — I think your plan sounds good. Just remember to keep any schedule really, really flexible for at least the next month or so, and you should be fine. 🙂

    Also, it might be helpful for you to think about your son’s sleep in terms of overall amounts, instead of the length of each nap. Some babies break up their daily allotment of sleep into lots of little naps and shorter nighttime sleeping; other babies tend to be more “efficient” and take longer naps and/or sleep longer at night, so those more efficient babies don’t need as many naps during the day. At 4.5 months, your son needs 13-15 total hours of sleep during the day, and 2-4 of those hours will probably be naps.

    Hope this helps, Kate! And thanks for your words of encouragement for other parents; for many of our readers, encouragement like that is really, really helpful!

  10. Kate says

    Emily, thanks for the feedback. I feel like I knew deep down that it was normal, but it’s so hard to read material put forth by other sleep “experts” and see it not match up at all with my baby and our experiences.

    I think what we’ll do is work hard on the first nap of the day being regular (not only is it the most important, it also happens to be the busiest time of day for the three girls that I watch as a nanny!) and continue to let the other 2-3 naps fall where they may for now.

    If you have time, could you address a follow-up question? I know that Nicole generally recommends keeping as many naps as possible for as long as possible, but I’m not sure if that applies to lots of short naps like my son tends to take. I think my plan is to continue offering the fourth nap (unless he wakes from his last nap after 5pm) until he skips it regularly. Is that a plan that you would recommend?

    Also, for anyone out there reading this, I have compassion for you. Remember that you’re doing your child a great service by helping him or her get the sleep that he or she needs!