Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.
Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.
Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.

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  1. Emily DeJeu says

    @ Emily – oh, so tough! Daycare can definitely mess with naps. You have a few options, in terms of the shortened nap situation: 1) You can go with the daycare schedule, and stick to offering one nap consistently at home. This *might* help her adjust to the daycare schedule better. OR, 2) You can try to make up for lost sleep at home, and offer extra-long naps during the 3 days she’s home with you.

    As for the getting on all fours/sitting up thing – no easy fix here! The good news is that as she grows, she’ll figure out how to maneuver herself from all fours back to lying down, so this won’t be a long-term problem. In the short-term, though, you could definitely keep going back in and laying her down.

    Hope this helps, Emily – hang in there!

  2. Emily says

    I have 2 very annoying new nap issues! Firstly, I went back to work about three weeks ago, and Imogen now goes to nursery (daycare) 4 days a week. I’m not sure what they’re doing to get her to sleep there or whether it’s just the noise and too many distractions etc, but she has gone from taking at least an hour nap, twice a day (often more like 1 hour 15 mins) to just 30-40 minutes. And because she is there 4 days a week, that is now “the norm” for her – crazy how quickly she can get into a new habit! How can I fix this, when I only have her 3 days a week now? Secondly, Imogen now sleeps on her front, but when I lay her down for a nap, she immediately gets onto all fours and sits up, and then cries because she can’t figure out how to lie back down again. Should I keep going in and lying her back down again, over and over until she gets it, or should I just leave her to figure it out? So frustrating as she was a previously good napper and is now pretty rubbish, argh! She has just turned 13 months. Thank you!

  3. Emily DeJeu says

    @ Zahrah – awww! Thanks 🙂 I don’t know that I’m an expert (I’ll leave that title for our team of sleep consultants!) But I’m so glad to hear that you’re finding the articles and resources on the site both helpful AND encouraging. We strive to make the Baby Sleep Site® a place where all moms feel welcome and safe to ask questions and share their viewpoints. So glad to know that, for you, the site is just that!

    @ Kate — oy! Sleep regressions are no fun. 🙁 You’re right, though; this will pass, and even though his good sleeping habits are frustrating now, you’ll love them in the long run! Sounds like you have your head on straight, so to speak, regarding this regression. Now, let’s hope it passes quickly! 🙂

    Thanks for commenting, Kate!

  4. Kate says

    Enjoyed the article and the comments…I’ve been thinking the last few days about how nice it would be in certain situations to still have some of the old sleep associations (nursing, stroller walks, car rides) that we worked so hard to get rid of! After having a really good month and a half of scheduled naps, my little guy is changing things on me again! In the long run, I know that it’s great that he only really sleeps well in a crib and that I can no longer really help him go to sleep, but oh boy…Time for the 9 month sleep regression! Thanks for the article, Emily!

  5. Zahrah says

    Aawww thanks Emily! Coming from an expert like you sure does make me feel like I’m doing a good job and you just put a huge smile on my face as I read your comment. Keep up the good work! Thumbs up!

  6. Emily DeJeu says

    @ Zahrah — no problem! Glad this info has been helpful to you. Let me say that it sounds like you’re an excellent mom, and that you’re doing a fantastic job in working to understand your daughter’s sleep, and in trying to make sure that she gets enough. Good job, mama! 🙂

  7. Zahrah says

    Thanks Emily you sure did put my mind at ease with the weaning issue, I’ve been fretting about wether to do it or not for a while now. I will try a 60 minute wake time and see how that works out. Once again thanks for your feedback.

  8. Emily DeJeu says

    @ Suzzaine — thanks for sharing your insights!

    @ Zahrah – 90 minutes of wake time is on the longish side, but it’s not necessarily too much (some 4 months olds are fine with this amount). I’d suggest you keep watching her sleep cues (as you mentioned you already are) and see if she consistently starts to show signs of being tired before the 90 minute mark.

    As for the pacifier, I wouldn’t be in a huge hurry to wean this early. Lots of babies have strong suck reflexes, and really do NEED to suck frequently. If the pacifier is working for you and for your daughter, then no need to rush into weaning.

    Hope this helps! Thanks for commenting, Zahrah! 🙂

  9. Zahrah says

    Thanks Suzzaine and Emily. Things are starting to make more sense slowly…. @ Suzzaine i do give her a last feed well before bedtime or nap time. Another major concern I have is every single time wether for naps or bedtime, she MUST cry for a while and fuss and make strange sounds(as if she’s constipated but she definitely isn’t) before she falls asleep. I do put her in her cot as soon as I notice any signals that she is sleepy and I also time to put her down 90 minutes from her last sleep session. Am I perhaps putting her down slightly too early or a bit too late and missing her “sleep window” if so how do I make sure I put her down at the exact proper moment? Also, she is dependent on a pacifier for sleeping I don’t give it to her at any other time. She is a very “sucky” baby and she also is experiencing itchy gums at the moment. Will it be to early to wean her off from the pacifier @ 4 months? As some experts says it assists with teething issues. Any tips and suggestions welcome. Thanks

  10. Suzzaine Rains says

    Thanks Emily! This topic is interesting for me… And I love to shared about it…

    WEll, I believe that you should start by revamping the bedtime routine. what I mean is that if your baby’s dependent on a bottle or breast to sleep, start and initiate scheduling the last feeding a good thirty mins prior to her usual bedtime or nap…

    And then, when she is sleepy – but not asleep – make your move and place her in her crib. I am sure that she will fuss (perhaps loudly) at first, but give it a chance.

    Once she accepts and learns to soothe and calm herself — perhaps by sucking on her thumb (a harmless, helpful habit for babies) or a pacifier, or by rocking herself or fingering her blanket — she won’t need you anymore… Ofcourse this is at bedtime only!

    That’s it… Any ideas to expand the conversation?