I didn’t have the heart to trim this testimonial, so I made a separate page for those who want to read the whole thing.
“Our son was 9 months old when I came across Nicole’s website. At that point, I had been, for about 3 months, holding him almost all night, every night, in a glider chair. He had been a decent sleeper until he got some back-to-back respiratory viruses between 4 and 6 months old and had to be “helped” to sleep and to stay asleep. Things got to the point where, unless I had him in the glider chair, he would wake up crying almost every hour to two hours all night long. We also had to put him into his crib asleep – or very close to asleep – in order to avoid long periods of crying at the outset of the night.
At the advice of our pediatrician’s office and of numerous books, we tried variations on the Ferber Method and other check and console and “cry it out” methods. We had many nights, with us either coming and going every 10 minutes or just constantly in the room, where he cried – without stopping – for four hours or more and never went to sleep. The best we ever got with our attempts was, about a week into one of our Ferber efforts, him waking up 2-3 three times a night, with 1-2 hour crying stretches at each wake-up. One night, he cried from 1:30 a.m. until daybreak (even with us coming in and shh-ing and patting) and never stopped and never fell asleep. At that point, I could not take any more and just went back to holding him in a chair all night long.
We read all sorts of articles, books and websites and talked to our doctors’ office. Our frustration was that a lot of these books never talk about what to do if your child is not one who responds – quickly or otherwise – to the “plan” or “program” being advocated. We would read that hours and hours of crying was not expected, but nowhere would those books/articles say what to do if that’s what is, in fact, happening at your house. We also tried pick-up/put down methods, ssshhh-ing and gradually moving further from the crib each night, and other suggestions — all to no avail. People told us to just shut the door at 7 p.m., to turn off all monitors and to not come back until morning. I was not willing to/capable of doing that and, we knew from past experience, that our son could – and probably would – cry all night long and never go to sleep.
Somehow, in a last-ditch internet search, I came upon Nicole’s website. What impressed me about Nicole’s articles and postings was that she really did seem to understand that it sometimes takes a very individualized, non-“textbook” approach to deal with sleep problems. What impressed me about the testimonials was that they all talked about different methods and many of the parents described frustrations like ours — where they had tried and tried, but nothing was working. Unlike other books and methods, Nicole’s response was not “well, that’s not what I generally see” or “that’s not what I would expect.” Rather, she continued to work with the parents to figure out something/some way that WOULD work for their child. She listened to the specific problems of the families and babies and came up with a very specific, individualized plan for each. So, we decided to give the 30-day subscription a try.
Nicole responded to us on the very first night and proposed a detailed plan to try to re-teach our son how to go to sleep and to stay asleep on his own. We got started right that night. Progress came in fits and starts but, as had not been the case with anything else we had been doing, progress DID come. A little less than 2 weeks into the process, I found myself writing to Nicole to report that our son had slept almost 9 hours in his crib without crying and without needing us to help him back to sleep when he had brief wake-ups during the night. We continued to work with Nicole to tweak the plan to help our son rely less and less on us to get to sleep and to stay asleep. By the end of the 30 days, he was consistently putting himself to sleep, without crying, at the outset of the night. He is also putting himself back to sleep when he wakes up during the night.
We still have some issues with the early morning hours (5-7 a.m.) and are continuing to work to get him not to need me or the glider chair to push through that last part of the night. I would never have believed, upon my first e-mail to Nicole, that by the end of the 30 days, I would have only this smaller issue to handle. I also know that if we need it, Nicole will continue to provide her considered, thoughtful advice and encouragement. I highly recommend this website and Nicole’s services. We are very thankful to have finally found someone who took the time to really consider our baby’s specific issues and problems and to come up with a plan to help us turn things around in a way that worked best for us and for him. Thank you so much!!”