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  1. ugh says:

    I don’t think it has anything to do with sleeping position. I think something else causes SIDS that is still not understood. Too many generations of healthy babies have been sleeping on their tummies for this to REALLY make that much sense. Some babies aren’t comfortable on their backs. I say, do what works for you and your baby and discuss things with your doctor. The.. IF you have a healthy baby they should sleep on their backs thing just doesn’t make sense. If you have a healthy baby they should be able to sleep however. And wouldn’t placing unhealthy babies on their tummy just quadruple their odds of dying? We need more research… I’m not buyin this thing. Basically, for the most part, people who have no children do these studies and write books about what’s best for them.

  2. Pam says:

    Andrea, It sure can be confusing for a new mother. Right now, it’s kind of a scary time. We almost know enough to start using the word “prevent” but we don’t know quite enough. SIDS and suffocation are not the same thing; however, all the tools that we use to reduce the risk of SIDS can 100% prevent an accidental suffocation. That’s how the terms become interchangeable.

    The good news for new parents is that you have more tools than ever to reduce the risk of SIDS. You get to chose which tools you use. We don’t yet know what the “tipping point” is, but we do know that of the babies that are dying, 95% of them have at least one risk factor and 87% have two or more risk factors present.

    Also, remember, most babies live!

  3. Andrea says:

    Hello, this might be a bit late, but I wanted to comment about the earlier posts about SIDS. Being a new mother, I read everything and had everything given to me about SIDS. I think some of the info is a bit confusing at times. A lot of it seems to lump suffocation and SIDS into the same thing. So I can see why the one post, was very adamant about the fact that it is not the same. I think also because the way to prevent these two things are so similar, people have just assumed that SIDS is a form of suffocation. So hopefully with forums like this and the more we inform people of what SIDS really is, the more we can try our best to prevent it and all the confusion. Thanks

  4. Lindie says:

    Hi Jesica,

    Thanks for your input. I understand that CIO has worked for many families to restore restful nights, but I’ve done my research on the topic and decided it’s not right for our family at the moment.

    My son hasn’t developed object permanence yet (I can test him simply by hiding a toy he’s playing with under a blanket and see if he tries to uncover it. which he doesn’t, he just gets confused and starts looking around), so maybe when he understands that once I’m out of the room I am still there to protect him, just not right next to him, then I might consider the controlled crying method.

    Anyway, the frequent waking last night turned out being nothing to do with the rolling/crawling. This morning I checked his gums and he has five, yes FIVE, top teeth cutting through. Today has been a mess of crying, snot, drool, fever and cuddles.

    I put him to sleep at 7:30pm and now it’s 10:30pm and he hasn’t stirred. I just went to check on him and he had rolled onto his stomach successfully.

    Here’s to a (hopefully) good night’s rest!

  5. Jesica says:

    Lindie,

    Emma, now 14 months, also wakes and cries in the middle of the night. At about 9 months, we decided to resist the temptation to go in. The first few nights were hard, esp the night she cried for over an hour! I know some people aren’t comfortable with the CIO, but after a month of running in to help her and not getting any sleep ourselves, we realized it was time for her to learn to get back to sleep herself.

    For a long time, when she would wake she’d cry, but max of 2 min and usually more of a yelp. Occasionally, this still happens. Then she goes back to sleep. I guess that means she learned to settle herself back to sleep.

    She started waking up earlier and earlier in the morning around 12 months. But she was tired and grumpy until her first nap… usually 1.5 hrs after waking up. We finally realized she needed to sleep longer so we needed to go through the same process again.

    The first night she woke at 5 and we let her cry until 6. It was intermittent. I assume she either fell back to sleep or was playing in her crib. The next morning she slept until 6 am and we got her up. Since that still didn’t seem to be late enough for her, the next morning when she woke at 6, we let her cry again. And again, it was intermittent until about 7. The next morning, she slept until 8 am!!!

    Now she tends to wake somewhere between 6:30 and 8. If she wakes before 7, I have to listen carefully to determine if she will go back to sleep or if she really is ready to get up. Those cries do actually sound different.

    Another interesting thing that happened, she loves her crib! When she is awake and I go in to get her, she wants to play in the crib for a few more mins.

    One more thing we did. Since the chances of SIDS drops dramatically at 6 months, we put a small stuffed animal in her crib. We decided it was small enough that she was not going to suffocate her if she slept over it or it over her. I think some mornings she actually played quietly with the stuffed animal for awhile. This “quiet play” seems like a nice restful way to wake up. And now that she is beyond the SIDS statistics, we have put a couple more stuffed animals in her crib. And she seems to enjoy that. As a matter of fact, now that we seem to be moving away from the afternoon nap, sometimes she just sits in her crib and talks to her animals. Again, 30 min of quiet play is often great rest.

    You know your child, so you know if CIO may not work. But by 8 months, he probably knows you are there for him and he is feeling the need to assert some independence. Especially since he has started crawling. (Part of the reason he is waking up might be because he is excited about this new skill!) I suggest you give him the chance to learn how to comfort himself back to sleep.

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