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Do you want more sleep?   Yes! I need more sleep.

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  1. Emily DeJeu says:

    @ Neel — thanks!

    @ Lori — In my experience, kids can be soooo different. So maybe your second will be an easy-going sleeper who isn’t bothered at all by overtiredness? One can dream, anyway… 😉

  2. Lori says:

    Nice article! We just have one at the moment, almost 25 months. However, we are expecting our second son in November. Since our first is extremely sensitive to being overtired, and very picky when it comes to sleep, I am curious to see how our second will compare and how our first will respond. Thanks a lot!

  3. Nice insights !!

  4. Emily DeJeu says:

    @ Meagan — good insight! That is, in fact, what my kids always mean when they shout “Not fair!” at the top of their lungs. 🙂

  5. Meagan says:

    @Emily That’s true to an extent, but I think just as often they use the word “fair” to mean they want more. They know it’s a powerful word, and they know it’s leverage. I hear older kids all the time yelling “that’s not fair!” when all they really mean is: “that’s not what I want to happen!”

  6. Emily DeJeu says:

    @ Meagan — You’re definitely right, but wait till your toddler is a bit older; he’ll become the “fair police!” (At least, that’s been the case with my two older kids.) Kids seem to have this strong, innate sense of justice, and in their eyes, justice means everyone has exactly the same thing. It’s kind of a rude awakening for them when they realize life doesn’t actually play out that way! 😉

    @ Lynn — I love your doctor analogy! So true — the emphasis should be on what our kids need, versus what everyone else is getting/doing. Thanks for sharing!

  7. Lynn says:

    As a teacher and a mom of 2 young boys I use this phrase often, “Fair is not always equal” (except in Math!) LOL 🙂 Basically, it’s the idea that children get what he or she needs (different sleep schedules, food-allergies, support with learning, etc) rather than what everyone else has. I’ve also used the analogy (with school aged children) of going to the doctor. Does a doctor give someone with a cold the same treatment as someone with a broken arm? Of course not! The doctor gives patients what they need! 🙂

  8. Meagan says:

    I’ve just got one so far, but I’m guessing “fair” doesn’t really work in any aspect of life. Different kids have different needs, and treating one child according to another child’s needs seems much less “fair” to me than treating them differently. As for sharing? Please don’t try to force a toddler to share. They aren’t developmentally capable of understanding the concept and you end up teaching all the wrong lessons. A few weeks ago at the sand box my 13 month old crawled over to a bigger boy (2 or so) and tried to take one of the kid’s trucks. The boy yelled “no” and grabbed it back, and my son lost interest. As far as I’m concerned, that’s the perfect toddler interaction. Then his mom stepped in and insisted the boy share one of his trucks, resulting in screams, tears, and mom threatening to leave the park. I told her it was unnecessary, but she insisted that her son “Has to learn to share!” Thanks lady, I really want MY kid to learn that grown ups will back him up when he steals toys!

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