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  1. Rachel Roelands says:

    My 3 year old and 10 month old have been sharing a room since the baby was about 4 or 5 months. It went well for a while. The baby waking never disturbed the toddlers sleep.

    Recently the toddler has been waking at about 5 am to pee. (Note he wears a diaper only overnight). This wakes baby who has a hard time falling back asleep.

    The toddler just spent the week at my moms house and I discovered that the baby would sleep uninterrupted until 6:15 / 6:30. It was glorious.

    Now I’m wondering if I should move one of them to the spare bedroom. Or maybe if I might potty train the toddler then that could stop the 5am pee

    Note: baby does not night nurse. She goes to bed at 7pm. She has 2 naps during the day. She has recently started standing. I think she has a hard time falling back asleep because she can stand. But I don’t think it’s a sleep regression because she slept like an angel when the toddler was gone for a week.

    Another note: room has humidifier to act as white noise though it might not be as loud as white noise should be. Room is cave dark. I usually don’t respond to baby’s cries until 6am

    Hopefully that is enough detail

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says:

      Hi @Rachel – Thank you for visiting us! Sorry to hear about your toddler’s early waking, which then wakes the baby! That is tough! If you have a spare room, it sounds like it may be well worth the effort to move one child to that room and see if sleep improves for one or both children! If things do not improve after a few weeks of trial with them in their own rooms, you can always move them back together! Good luck and we hope that everyone is sleeping well very soon!

  2. Shelby says:

    I have twin 4 year olds (Boy and Girl). We separated them when they were about 18 months and were transitioning to toddler beds as they were starting to wail on each other. We just put them back together in a bunk bed. This is night 3 and our struggle is getting them to play nicely and go to bed in a timely manner. They will play happily for a long while but it usually always ends in screaming, biting, hitting. We’ll always intervene at that point, calm them down and put them back to bed, we also have a video monitor that we use to make sure they’re playing nicely. Bedtime seems to last for hours each night. We’re trying very hard to be consistent and having a lights out, no talking moment, but my husband is really close to giving up and putting them in separate rooms again. I’d like to ride this out and hopefully see some progress. Any advice?

    • Janelle Reid says:

      Hi @Shelby, thanks for writing! That age can be so tough as they definitely have their own ideas about things so I am sorry to hear you are struggling. You may find our free guide with help on toddler (and preschooler!) sleep has a few tips, although not targeted at twins: https://www.babysleepsite.com/toddler-sleep-tips
      As with any sleep training, it may take some time and consistency before you see results or need to regroup and make another plan. If you need help, let us know, it can be hard to know where to go next if you’re not seeing success. Our sleep consultants would love to work with you and help create a plan to get your twins together and sleeping without hours of fighting to wind down for sleep. If you’re interested in learning more, please visit here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-toddler-sleep-consulting-services/
      Good luck with everything and I hope everyone is sleeping better soon!

  3. Kosette says:

    I have twin girls that will be a month shy of 3 years old when our baby is due. The girls are currently sharing a room and seem to take a good hour to settle into sleep each night (talking, singing, pooping, and occasionally squealing). We want to have all of the kids upstairs with us for a while and are planning on having the baby in our room for the first 4 months or so. Is it possible to room share with twin toddlers and a baby??? The girls are still in cribs as of now and we just started potty training. When is the best time to transition into big beds with all of these other changes? I’m feeling nervous about sleep in our house in the near future.

    • Danielle says:

      Hi Kosette,
      Thank you for visiting The Baby Sleep Site, and congratulations on your growing family! In general, we recommend sticking with the crib for as long as it’s safe and comfortable for your children, and perhaps especially if you’re expecting big changes. It will also be safer for your newborn if your preschoolers are in cribs. But, if you do need to transition to a toddler bed, this article should help: https://www.babysleepsite.com/sleep-training/twin-transitions-to-toddler-beds/
      Best of luck with everything, and please let us know if we can help further!

  4. Katie says:

    HELP!

    We have had our girls share a room since the younges was 6 mo old and rolling of out sleep and play in our room. Time for the crib!

    I liked what you said about respecting how kids have different sleep needs and may go to bed at different times. Our issue is, when we put the youngest to sleep first, the older girl will be noisy and disobedient when trying to get her in bed. Then baby is awake. How have you tackled this?! Because for us, once the little one is awake after the hour power nap, she stays up for a minimum of two hours……. last night we didn’t get to bed till 1am……

    • Janelle Reid says:

      Hi @Katie, I’m sorry you’ve been struggling with your older daughter waking your younger daughter! I can only imagine how frustrating that can be. I don’t know the age of your oldest, but she may be old enough to understand what she is doing and needs some limits set in place for her so she knows where the line is and not to cross it (aka: wake baby sister). We have an article you can read through that may give you some ideas for how to get through this: https://www.babysleepsite.com/toddlers/limit-setting-toddler/
      Hang in there, I hope this helps!

  5. Fran Galo says:

    Hello
    We are welcoming a new baby-girl in the family in about 2 months
    Our 2year old boy will need to share his bedroom then
    The bed he sleeps in needs to go back to be a crib for the new sister, so he’s getting a big-box bed (veeeery similar to what he has now)
    My concern is that we need to move some furniture to accommodate the 2 beds, plus my husband strongly suggests to change as well the location of the bed where our son currently sleeps
    Would this be already too much? Or if we are changing anyway, better do it all?
    Any similar experiences ?

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says:

      Hi @Fran – Congrats on your upcoming new arrival! And we wish you all the best in the transition to a big bed for your son! I am sure that there are many parents out there with similar situations, and hope that they chime in and that their shared experiences are super helpful! I would recommend changing his bed ahead of time, so that it is not as “big” of a change, once baby arrives – This will give him time to adapt and acclimate, and I do not see any reason to not move his bed location! For my kids, it really helped to let them help pick out the new bed linens, or a special blanket or stuffed toy for their new bed!
      Hope it all goes smoothly!

  6. JJ says:

    We have to have 3 in one room (10, 8 and 5 year old boys), there is no other safe area for them to sleep. The baby ( a girl) is in the tiny 3rd bedroom (not enough room to cram 2 in that one). We have a basement but no secondary egress so that can’t be a bedroom and there isn’t a place to put one in with the setup of the house. And it’s only partially well finished so the kids don’t like to go down there. Financially we can’t add on or move to a bigger house anytime in probably the next 5-10 years.
    Our little 2 do ok sharing but it seems to be a huge problem for the 10 year old. It’s been a year now of all 3 in together and it is a constant source of trouble. With 3 in one room there’s not much room for personal space other than ones own bed. Even dressers have to be shared because we simply can’t fit 3 in the room. Any tips to help these boys share a room?

    • Janelle Reid says:

      Hi @JJ, thanks for writing to us! I am sorry your 10 year old has been struggling this past year sharing his room with his brothers. I do not have an answer for you but I will hopefully offer you some encouragement letting you know you’re not alone! My husband shared a room with his 3 younger brothers for a huge portion of his childhood, and his older brother slept on a couch and his sister got her own room – sometimes things just have to be a little crammed in big families. Hopefully you will be able to figure out some solutions to give your 10 year old a sense of his own space (maybe a wall he can decorate however he’d like as just an idea) or joining a team where he is able to be separate from his brothers for a bit and get some energy out! I realize you may have tried these things and I’m not giving you any super new information, but hopefully other readers will see this and chime in if they have any ideas as well. 🙂 I hope that helps! Oh, and to finish my story, my husband and his brother’s are all best friends now. 😉 We are actually living with one of his younger brothers while we are in the middle of moving ourselves so it’s made it full circle for them for sure.

  7. Sarah says:

    Help! I have a 5 month old and a two year old who I need to share a room. I put the little guy down at 7:00 and at 7:30 I need to put his older sister in her bed. I had help from the site for her and sleep trained her at 5 month and she’s been an awesome sleeper since. From time to time she wants her bedtime routine to be longer and it can’t be so she cries. Tonight she did that and wouldn’t stop crying and woke up her little brother. Now he is being rocked by my husband. Because he can’t settle down. We need help.

    • Janelle Reid says:

      Hi @Sarah, thanks for writing to us. That is so tricky! We would love to work with your family on this, but because of the uniqueness of each situation, it sounds like you would best benefit from working one-on-one with our sleep consulting team. To get started, please email us directly and we can help figure out the best package for your situation: https://www.babysleepsite.com/contact
      Hang in there and thank you for using the Baby Sleep Site as a resource for sleep!

  8. Chantelle says:

    I have a 8 year old autistic son , a 3ans a half year old son and a 2 year old ..at the moment we are trying to get our oldest and middle to share a room for the first time on there lives , our goal is to get all three children sleeping in one room and utilising our other room for a complete play room …the problem we have is that they wake up at rediculous times like 2 and 4 am and start talking , playing , they are very loud in there bedroom while everyone should be sleeping , they make so much noise that it wakes everyone up in the house including our youngest , our oldest does go to school so I am extremely concerned how this would be affecting his attention at school and his grades , I guess I am at a loss , I have no idea what to do really …..I would not mind so much if they made this noise as they were just going to bed but it’s happening while everyone should be sleeping during hours where it is so dark….they do not have night lights of any sort , they sleep without it

    • Neosha says:

      @Chantelle – Thank you for reading and for sharing! We know how immensely frustrating getting kiddos of such different ages to successfully share a room can be. As the article mentioned, creating a consistent, firm approach to this type of behavior is a good idea along with having a back up plan in case things don’t line up exactly as you hope. Hang in there, Chantelle – we hope it works out well!

  9. Jennifer Martinez says:

    My toddler (3.5 years old) shares a room with her twin brothers (16 months old). She is waking up too early in the morning and waking her brothers up also. She’s tired and cranky the rest of the day until nap time. I have tried to walk her back to her bed to go back to sleep but she doesn’t and just keeps her brothers up. I have also tried to help her go back to sleep by putting her in our bed but again, it hasn’t worked. We have a clock that turns green when she is supposed to get out of bed, problem (as stated above) is she doesn’t sit quietly and go back to sleep. She’s not getting enough sleep and no one else in the house is as a result also. Help please

    • Janelle Reid says:

      @Jennifer Martinez, Thank you for visiting the Baby Sleep Site! I am sorry you have been struggling with your daughter waking up your twins – room sharing is so tricky! Here is a link with some tips for helping to set some limits for sleep with your toddler to hopefully help guide her to stay quiet (and ideally fall asleep because she wouldn’t be playing): https://www.babysleepsite.com/toddlers/limit-setting-toddler/
      I do think that because your situation is more unique you would benefit from working with one of our sleep consultants so that we could help give you specific advise for helping your daughter with these early wakings and with tips on how to handle it. If you are interested please contact us directly at contact@babysleepsite.com and we can help send more information on what the right package would be for you. Hang in there!

  10. Tabitha says:

    How do you transition the toddler to a bed instead of a crib while room sharing with the baby? They currently both have cribs in the same room; that transition went pretty well, but I’m worried about when big brother is ready to switch to a bed and disrupting little brother’s sleep.

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says:

      Hi Tabitha – Thank you for writing! It sounds like you are well on your way to successful sibling room sharing! It is great news (and a good sign) that the first transition went well! Some families will move the younger sibling out of the room temporarily, when transitioning the older child to a “big bed.” White noise can help too, if you do not already use that in their room. Big brother may surprise you, and there may be no or minimal disruptions! Hopefully it is a very smooth transition. Let us know how it goes!

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