5 Things To Do BEFORE Sleep Training

Sleep Training Things to DoYou just can’t take it anymore. The exhaustion, the bleary eyes, the waking-up-more-times-each-night-than-you-thought-humanly-possible…you’ve had it! “Enough is enough!” you’ve said to yourself. It’s time to take action. It’s time to reclaim your nights. It is time to start sleep training!

This, readers, is the point at which many parents first visit the Baby Sleep Site. They’re beyond exhausted. They know their babies are waking more frequently than is necessary, but they just don’t know how to make the night-waking stop. However, they also know that if something doesn’t change soon, “death by sleep deprivation” is going to become a real possibility!

Our solutions for these parents? Sleep training. We’ve written a ton on this subject — from free guides to blog articles — and we’ve created a consultation system to help clients through the sleep training process. So we’re not going to go into the ins-and-outs of how to sleep train in this article.

Instead, we’re going to focus on 5 things parents should do BEFORE they start sleep training. We believe strongly that having a plan can take you far on the road to success; with that in mind, let’s talk over 5 steps to take before you start sleep training.

Sleep Training: 5 Things To Do BEFORE You Start

  1. Catch up on sleep (this means everyone!)

    You’ve heard the expression “things will get worse before they get better”, right? Well, that applies to sleep training in a big, big way. When you start sleep training, expect for everyone to lose some sleep before things start to improve. Remember, your baby is learning a new skill here — sleep probably won’t come easily right from the beginning! For this reason, it’s critical that mom, dad, and baby be well-rested before starting this process.

  2. Develop bedtime and naptime routines.

    Consistency is one of the most important parts of any sleep training plan — the faster your baby learns that the same things will keep happening at the same times, the faster he’ll learn how to break his sleep associations and start sleeping through the night. And routines go a long way towards building consistency.

    Start developing small, simple patterns before naps and bed — this could include reading a few books, rocking and singing a song, having a bath, etc. Start on these bedtime routines and naptime routines before you begin sleep training; that way, your baby will already be familiar with them before you actually start the sleep training process.

  3. Make a trip to the doctor.

    The idea here is that you want to rule out any underlying medical issues common to babies that might be causing your baby’s sleeplessness. Sleeplessness can be caused by simple things, like illness or teething; however, it can also be caused by more serious medical conditions, like food allergies, reflux or sleep apnea. If you have any concern that your baby’s lack of sleep might be related to a medical issue, see your doctor. Once you’ve ruled out a medical issue, you can continue with sleep training.

  4. Make a plan.

    We like planning, remember? 🙂 Just as you may have made a birth plan or a plan to start your baby on solids, you’re definitely going to want to make a plan for how you’re going to actually sleep train. There are a variety of sleep training methods you can try; determine which one seems best for your family and your situation, and then set about implementing it at home. But, take a step further than that and outline exactly what you plan to do every step of the way. We find families are more apt to follow through and be successful.

    We usually recommend that parents try a sleep training method for at least a week before deciding whether it’s successful or not (again — consistency!) However, if you put in a solid 7 days trying one method, and it’s proving to be disastrous, don’t be afraid to try something else. Your plan isn’t carved in stone, after all. Do what works best for your baby and your family.

  5. Clear your calendar.

    When you start sleep training, you’ll want things to be as normal as possible around your house for at least a few weeks. Again, consistency is a huge part of the sleep training process. We want to establish predictability and routine. And it’s hard to do that if your days (and nights) at home don’t look the same from one day to the next.

    This is why we don’t recommend that people start sleep training right before a move, or before a vacation. Sleep training shouldn’t happen right before the birth of a new baby, or before major surgery. All those things cause disruptions to the normal flow of life in your home, and those disruptions are going to disrupt any sleep training you’re trying to do, too.

    Nicole’s Note
    “We get asked a lot whether to start now or after an upcoming vacation. My general advice is if you have at least two weeks before a vacation, you can at least start ‘Phase 1’ now, which might mean just a part of your short- and long-term goals. If you have at least 3-4 weeks prior to a vacation, I recommend you go for it! It may even lead to a better vacation and there is never really a ‘perfect’ time for big changes. You can always find an excuse for not taking that first step, which is the hardest.”

    What’s more, if you’re an “on the go” parent, you may need to cancel some of your plans. You’ll probably need to spend your days and nights at home for a few weeks — no all-day errands, no late-night excursions. You want baby to have plenty of time to practice sleeping in crib or bassinette, and plenty of opportunities to adjust to the new schedule and routine.

What about you? What steps did you take to prepare for sleep training? Share your story below!

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15 thoughts on “5 Things To Do BEFORE Sleep Training”

  1. I have a 6 month old that will wake up anywhere from 1-6 times during the night. We are desperate to start sleep training but he seems to always have a cold (with congestion) or is teething. Do I need to wait until both are cleared to start? He goes to daycare 3x a week and I’m afraid he will constantly be congested like my other two kids. Difference is, the congestion seems to really bother him unlike the others. He’ll be going to the doctor soon to make sure it’s not something worse; if not, I don’t think we can wait much longer…. so tired!

    • Hi @Kylie S. – Thanks for visiting the Baby Sleep Site. I am sorry you’ve been struggling with so many wake ups from your little one. Since you have older kids, you know that teething is a battle that will continue for a few years most likely (or probably at least another year). Here is an article we for help with teething: https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-sleep-comfort/baby-teething-sleep/
      We usually would suggest to hold off on sleep training until your child is feeling themselves (meaning no colds – again, teething is a part of life) but I would mention it to your doctor and see what they suggest. I’m sorry he’s got so much congestion, hopefully you can find a solution so he has some relief and isn’t getting sick all the time from school, but I know that can be hard.
      Hang in there! If you need more help with this once you get started, please let us know. We are always happy to help!

  2. I have a 10 week old baby. She was a great sleeper. Would only wake up once in the middle of the night and stopped and would wake up around 6 am from 11 pm. I stopped swaddling about 4 days ago and now she doesn’t sleep. She’s kicking her legs, fussy and waking up again in the middle of the night to eat. Once i feed her she’s still kicking and complaining. I’m about to start work in a few days and not sure if i should start swaddling again. We don’t have her on a strict schedule, but most feedings and naps are around the same time every day sometimes earlier or later just not exactly the same time, but we do put her to bed at the same time everyday and i usually feed her asleep before i go to bed which is 11. What should we do?

    • Hi @Lydia!
      Thanks for writing! Stopping swaddling can be tough for some babies, and though she may adjust in a few more days or so, it is very common for babies to continue to be swaddled through and past 4 months of age. As long as you are using a safe swaddle and sleep area, you are free to swaddle her back up and see if she sleeps better once again. You can give it a few more weeks and try again, or use a different product to slowly wean from traditional swaddle, to a sleep sack type of product.
      This article will give you more info and some links to some of our favorite swaddling items:
      I hope that you are both sleeping better very soon!!

  3. I have a super sensitive/high needs 4 week old daughter that has started catnapping during the day making her tired and grumpy most of the time. Is it too early to start sleep training? I also have 2.5 yr old toddler at home who is of same temperament so find it very difficult to spend time alone rocking the baby back to sleep every 40-50mins of the day. Do you have any recommendations to get her day sleeps better? Thanks!

  4. @ Laurie — Good thinking! A week should be enough time to make some progress.

    So funny that both you and @ Ann Klassen mention waiting until your husbands are out of the house. Maybe we add that as a 6th point to the article — “wait until your husband goes out of town for a few days!”

  5. I have another month before hunting season and I can sleep train with hubby out of the house for over a week! I am so hoping this works.

  6. @ Accidental Supermommi — you can check out our “Recommended Sleep and Feeding Schedules” page to get an idea of how many feedings are considered standard for a 4 month old. That should help.

    This article also offers suggestions about when to night wean, and how many night feedings are standard for different ages: https://www.babysleepsite.com/sleep-training/night-feedings-by-age-when-do-you-night-wean/

    Hope these resources help! Be sure to stop by and let us know how it’s going. 🙂

  7. I’m hoping to let my 4 month old cry it out this weekend, because my older child is away, so his sleep won’t be disturbed, and both of us parents will be there to support one another. He should be over his cold, and sees the doctor tomorrow, so should have a medical green light. BUT…how do you know when he’s able to go all night without eating? Can you let him cry if he wakes within a certain timeframe, but go to him and feed him if he wakes after that? Or is that essentially being inconcistent? :s

  8. @ Anne Klassen — Ha! You’re not alone on this; I know many parents have this experience with their partner. One is ready to deal with the crying that sometimes comes with sleep training, but the other just can’t take it.

    Glad you found a solution that worked for you! Way to plan! 🙂

    @ G. Smith — Yay! So glad to hear this! Thanks for sharing your good news with us. 🙂

  9. Night 4 of sleep training using “pick-up put-down” method, and I didn’t have to pick him up even once. The first night at one point I had to pick him up as much as 15 (but not 115 like some experience!) times. I was skeptical at first but this seems to be working! So far…..

  10. I just waited for my husband to go out of town for a weekend fishing trip. He couldn’t stand to hear our daughter cry for even a minute. It took just 2 nights of her crying for no more than 2 minutes a couple of times during the night and she was sleeping through the night the 3rd night he was gone. I had wanted to cut out the 3am nursing session at least a month earlier as I knew she was just waking out of habit and not actual hunger. I had never been so happy for my husband to be out of town for a few days 😉

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