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  1. Stacie says:

    I dream feed my 5 month old, have been doing it for about 3 months and it works great. Little dude sleeps from 8pm-8am every night and I feed him around 4am when I get up to pump. I may try an 11pm feeding though and see if that works better.

    • Janelle Reid says:

      @Stacie, I am so glad to hear dream feeding works so well for your little guy! Thank you for leaving a comment!

  2. Jill Mott says:

    I tried dream feeding my 4 1/2 mo old for 2 nights…before the DF my LO was eating at 8pm, going to sleep between 8:30-9pm & waking up between 3am-5am so he was going 7 hours.

    I thought feeding him before I went to bed at 11pm would help him to wake up between 6am-7am which is when we get up. It did the complete opposite. Not only did he still wake up at 4am, he woke up at 1am too and would only be comforted by eating again. I knew he just ate at 11pm so after doing more research I came to the conclusion dream feeding is not for us. It created a habit of him waking up every 2-3 hours to eat and we were already way past that stage. My hope is he will adjust back to waking up once a night to eat and he will eventually wean off the middle of the night snack on his own. Hopefully by 12 months!

    • Janelle Reid says:

      Hi Jill, thanks for commenting! I’m so sorry adding in the dream feed threw off your son’s sleep schedule so much! I do hope it gets back on track soon.
      If you haven’t yet, you may benefit from our article on sleep associations, because it sounds like he may have developed a habit and now needs you to feed him back to sleep: https://www.babysleepsite.com/sleep-training/sleep-association/

      I hope it gets better in the next few days!

    • CARRIE CASE says:

      This is EXACTLY what’s happening to me right now. With twins. I’m happy if they go 3 hours at night. Today I decided to search for “dream feedings backfiring” and I stumbled on this. So glad I read this! They were sleeping from 8ish to 3 or 4 but now wake up every 2 hours and sometimes even sooner. I really hope I can get them back to where they were!???

  3. Nothing worked that well when we were trying to get our little angel to sleep… so many sleepless nights…. I was tired I walked straight into a wall once

    • Emily DeJeu says:

      @ Healthy Pregnancy — ouch! That had to hurt!! Are you still struggling with a sleepless baby now, or have you found a solution at this point?

  4. Emily DeJeu says:

    @ Julia Foster — yep, not every baby really responds ideally to the dream feed. 🙂 You could always try again, but there’s no guarantee it’ll work.

    Thanks for commenting, Julia! 🙂

    @ Nicole T — wow! This sounds like the perfect dream feed scenario! No wonder you’ve stuck with it 🙂 The next step, as you point out, will be to wean away from it; 6 or 7 months may be a good age to start doing that.

    Thanks for sharing a bit about how dream feeding has worked for you, Nicole!

    @ Aloka — good for you! As we say around here, “It’s not a problem until it’s a problem.” Sounds like your son’s nighttime waking has become routine and workable for everyone — which means it’s not a problem, so no need to make changes right now. 🙂

    Thanks for sharing your viewpoint, Aloka! 🙂

    @ Michelle — glad the dream feed worked for you, and that your girls were able to wean off it without any issues. Funny, though, about their tendencies to stir and fidget around the same time they had the dream feed — maybe that’s related? Who knows? Certainly is interesting, though!

    Thanks for commenting, Michelle. 🙂

    @ Marianne — yes, exactly! As long as the dream feed works for you and baby, then it’s a great tool. But when it’s not making an ounce of difference for baby, or when it’s becoming something stressful for you, then it’s ceased to be useful and should probably be scrapped in favor of a different technique.

    Thanks for sharing your experience with us, Marianne! 🙂

  5. Marianne says:

    I was dreamfeeding for about 6-8 weeks until just recently (he’s now 4.5 months). It was helpful to begin with because instead of being woken up at 12/1am and again at 4/5am, I could feed him at 10:30pm and then (ideally) he’d wake once through the night at about 3am.

    Theoretically, he was then supposed to gradually go longer through the night, but I found he was never consistent about what time he’d wake after the dreamfeed, and the dreamfeeds were getting longer and later and more stressful.

    I decided to stop one night when I knew that I had to stay up late anyway to prepare for going away so I thought “what’s the point feeding him when I’m going to stay up later anyway?” He woke at about 12am and then slept through til 6:30 I think. (He was 4 months then)

    Since then he’s either slept right through (from 7pm to 6:30am once!), or woken only once through the night anyway, usually around 4/5am. Very happy! I can now relax and go to bed earlier and it’s not so bad if I wake once.

    As the article says, it was helpful when he was younger to sort of regulate the night time feeding times, but now that he’s a bit older I think following his natural pattern and needs is better.

  6. Michelle says:

    I dream-fed both of my girls as a way of getting more sleep. It worked a dream – pardon the pun – with both of them. I’m afraid after my first daughter took ‘feeding’ for four hours between 2am and 6am 3 nights on the clock we saught Gina Ford for advice and followed her 10pm feed. Sometimes we gave a bottle of expressed milk and then it was even better for me to get a good stretch of sleep in. The first had totally dropped this feed by about 5 months (and so slept 7-7) and the second did the same a bit earlier (she was bigger) at 4 months. I don’t know if we did create a funny wake up as a habit thing though. Girl #1 always used to have a really good fidget and sometimes a moan between 10 and 11 and girl #2 (who is a much lighter sleeper) went through a phase where she’d wake and cry in her sleep at about the same time.

  7. Aloka says:

    Nothing has worked for us. My one year old still wakes at 12 am 4 am and 7 am. We co sleep so it really doesn’t disturb me and though even my doctor has asked me to wean him in the night, I don’t plan to until he is about 18 months and can understand when I explain why he won’t get his beloved Milk in the night.
    He had an internal clock ever since he was a new born. Since he was a few days old we were able to set a routine because he is just so regular. Now I don’t even need to check the clock to know what time he has woken in the night. It’ was hard when I worried about his sleep but now I am happy I’ve taken a decision not to worry and go with the flow.

  8. Nicole T says:

    I wasn’t going to dreamfeed my son, but at around 3 months we were out late one night and he didn’t get to bed until 10pm. He slept right through!! Since then I have dream fed him every night at around 10 immediately before I go to bed and 95% of the time he sleeps through until 730 am or so. He occasionally wakes at 4-5am for a feed but that Is quite rare now (he is 4.5 months). It definitely worked for us. My plan is to start phasing it out when he is settled in with solids in a few months time

  9. Julia Foster says:

    I tried giving my 6 week old his first dreamfeed last night and it made no difference..he still woke up 3 hrs after, at 1am, and the whole time I was doing it I was just paranoid I was going to wake him unnecessarily! Don’t think I’ll bother with it from now..

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