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  1. Jen says:

    I have a 4MO boy, we have been advised to wean early due to his reflux. So currently he has breakfast, lunch and dinner of either baby rice or veg. He’s taking 6oz bottles too, through the day he will have 4 of these bottles. At night he has a regular routine from 5pm: bath, massage, song, story, last bottle (4th one) between 6-6.30pm. He is usually asleep by 7pm at the latest. Then we try to dream feed at midnight (5th bottle) but he keeps waking before the dream feed and sometimes he is wanting it by 10.30pm, he settles within 30 mins of this feed but will always wake for a 6th bottle at 3.35am by this time his nappy has usually leaked all over the place. We have started changing his nappy at the first night feed but this makes him cry-a lot. We tried going up a size, tried night time nappies, hes worn them backwards. No matter what we do he drinks too much to make that nappy last.
    I feel like he is taking too much milk, especially on top of the food. We have tried to offer less at night but he cries and searches for the bottle. We have tried to soothe him without the bottle and he becomes banshee-like.
    I just dont want an overweight baby who doesnt sleep. He is 17lb and 18wks old.

    • Jessica Diller says:

      @Jen, Thank you for commenting. I am sorry to hear that your little guy is having trouble with reflux and sleep. I can assure you that it is normal for a 4 month old to need 2 night feedings at this age. Here is a link to a 4 month old schedule for you to reference. At 4 months, 30 oz of formula per day is typical too, and it looks like he is getting 36 oz. You may be able to make the 2 night bottles less ounces, but be sure to ask your baby’s doctor first. You can also check with his doctor to make sure his weight gain is right on track. As for diapers, it sounds like you have tried just about everything to fix this. It is a common issue, and can be tough to deal with at night. I recommend booster pads that you place inside the diaper to catch leaks, they absorb about 8 oz of liquid. Here is a link: https://www.amazon.com/Select-Kids-Booster-Diaper-Doubler/dp/B0083973FK?tag=pinisbir20 Also, a quick diaper change during the first night feed may be another solution, though I’m sorry that he may not like the change at that time. You can try to dress him in easy-change pajamas to make the diaper change quicker and smoother. Hang in there and best of luck!

  2. Lauren says:

    My little one started sleeping 8-9 hour stretches at 3 months but then started waking for an early-morning feeding again around 8 months I would say. We were in a great rhythm of going to sleep at 10:30PM, doing one feeding at 4:30AM and then waking up for the day at 8:30AM. I remember I couldn’t wait until he slept through the night, and then when he gave up that early-morning feeding at about 11/12 months, I missed it! I couldn’t believe it! Looking back, I don’t remember how exhausted I was–I just remember those sweet, quiet moments together.

    • Emily DeJeu says:

      @ Lauren – you offer such great perspective here! Thanks for sharing a bit about your experience, and for reminding those moms who are deep in the metaphorical “trenches” of motherhood that the exhaustion and sleep-deprivation does get better. 🙂 (And lovely blog, by the way – your little guy is a cutie!)

  3. Emily DeJeu says:

    @ DAD – So glad to hear you’ve found the resources on the site helpful! And glad to hear from a dad; we always love it when dads chime in and contribute in the comments section. 🙂 As for what to do in your situation: I’d say that everything you lay out here is perfectly normal for a 5.5 month old. 2 night feedings is good (not excessive), and they seem to be spaced apart pretty well. Are you and/or your wife having to rock him to sleep for long periods of time, or getting up often to replace a pacifier, or anything like that? If so, then that’s what you’d want to focus your sleep training around – breaking those sleep association. The goal of sleep training in this case shouldn’t be to eliminate the nighttime feedings; at 5.5 months, he still needs those (although, for some 5 month olds, 1 night feeding is sufficient.) This sample schedule for 6 month olds may be helpful to you and your wife, as you figure things out: https://www.babysleepsite.com/schedules/6-month-old-baby-schedule/

    If you do want to work on sleep training, we have a free guide that can help with that: https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-sleep-through-night-free-ebook/. Hope these resources help! And thanks for taking the time to comment. Keep us updated on what happens! 🙂

    @ Joyce – I’d say that’s less a night waking and more an early rising. If you want to shift that schedule a bit, so that the morning wake-up time is later, you can check out our Shifting Schedules e-book for guidance on how to do that: https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-waking-too-early/.

    Thanks for commenting, Joyce! Hope this resources helps. 🙂

    @ Michelle – interesting observations, for someone who’s in the unique position of being able to compare twin babies and how they grow/develop differently! Thanks for sharing this. 🙂

    @ Sonia – well, rest assured that by 15 months, a toddler doesn’t need any night feedings to flourish and thrive. And an hour of nursing is definitely excessive, so it’s understandable that you want to wean her away from this habit! This is likely due to her teething, and possibly to her growth and development (babies tend to have sleep regressions that coincide with developmental milestones, like walking and talking; read more about regressions here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-toddler-sleep-regressions/).

    As for how to help your daughter gently break this habit, without having to resort to crying techniques, check out our toddler free guide: https://www.babysleepsite.com/toddler-sleep-training-secrets-free-ebook/. There are gentle methods you can use, so no worries about having to listen to your daughter cry! Thanks for commenting, Sonia; let us know how it goes! 🙂

  4. Emily DeJeu says:

    @ Kerry – You’re right in thinking that, by 14 months, night feeds are no longer necessary. And your observation about your little on eating less during the day because he eats at night, sounds accurate. In terms of what sleep training will look like – how much crying/melting down there’ll be depends on the method you choose to use. Some gentle methods keep crying at bay, but they can take awhile. CIO methods, on the other hand, involve tears (which may be particularly hard for you to deal with, if you share a room!), but they generally work quickly.

    Have you checked out our free toddler guide yet? If not, you can access it here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/toddler-sleep-training-secrets-free-ebook/ Thanks for commenting, Kerry, and keep us posted on what happens! 🙂

    @ Goli – you’re probably spot-on in thinking that all that nighttime eating is interfering with his daytime eating. The goal (as you point out) would be to gradually reduce those nighttime feeds, and make up for them in the daytime. In terms of how to do that – you can check out our free guide for sleep training tips (access it here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-sleep-through-night-free-ebook/) There are ways to sleep train gently, that will allow you to continue co-sleeping (if you want to). Nicole wrote an article about that, actually: https://www.babysleepsite.com/sleep-training/attachment-parenting-sleep-training/

    Hope these resources help, Goli! Thanks for commenting, and thanks for your kind feedback about the site! 🙂

    @ Jen – hard to say for sure which one to cut. Hopefully, a few other moms will hop on and give you some insights here. You could always try eliminating one first (say, the midnight feed) and then see how your son responds.

    Thanks for commenting, Jen, and for your kind feedback about the site! Best of luck to you. 🙂

    @ Wendy Kommany – wow! This sounds like a dream situation. So glad your little one was able to figure this out on his own, and that it happened naturally and easily. 🙂

    @ Lisa – Do you feel confident that your son is getting enough to eat/drink during the day? If you’re not sure, you can use this chart as a reference: https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-solids-how/solid-food-feeding-schedule/. If you know he’s getting enough to eat during the day, then one feeding at night should be more than sufficient. You could also try eliminating the night feeds altogether; that’s fine to do at this age. I think you’re suspicion that this nighttime eating is a habit is probably correct; by 9 months, your little guy doesn’t need to feed every 2-3 hours at night.

    For help in gradually eliminating these nighttime feeds, check out our free guide: https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-sleep-through-night-free-ebook/. Of course, if you’d like help with this process, you can always consider a consultation: https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-toddler-sleep-consulting-services/. Hope these resources help, Lisa! Thanks for commenting, and keep us posted! 🙂

    @ KatN – Sounds like this might be a bit of a scheduling issue. What time does your daughter go to bed? You mention that if you don’t nurse her around 6, she stays awake, and that means she’s only getting about 9 hours of sleep each night. That would indicate a bedtime of about 9 p.m. – is that right? If so, then I’d suggest moving bedtime earlier. As odd as it sounds, an earlier bedtime can actually promote sleep and help with early waking. We have an e-book on this topic, if you’re interested: https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-waking-too-early/

    Hope this helps, Kat! Thanks for commenting. 🙂

  5. Sonia says:

    My daughter is 15 months old and since about her first birthday she was waking only once per night (some nights not at all) for feeding. About a month ago she began waking 2 sometimes 3 times per night. She nurses for an hour or more before I can get her back to sleep in her crib. Some nights I lay down with her on the couch (too tired) and she will stay on my breast for 2 or 3 hours. She is teething, so I am hoping that is the reason for the frequent wakings I want to wean her off of the breast entirely but I do not want to use the “cry it out” method….. she acts like she is hyperventilating if she cries for too long- it scares me

  6. Michelle says:

    I can attest that different babies will night wean at their own pace (or you can help them if needed). I have 15 month old twin girls, both nursed until 1 year old (no formula). One stopped night feedings at 11 weeks, the other forcibly at 11 months. They were obviously parented the same, but one has just always been a good sleeper and the other still wakes up most nights….

  7. Joyce says:

    My 13-month-old son is sleeping 8-10 hours (8pm-5/6am) and then waking for a bottle and then usually staying in bed or sleeping for another hour or two. Is that considered night-weaned already since he sleeps 9-10 hours? Or isn’t it because he wakes for that bottle?

  8. DAD says:

    My son is now 5.5 months old, he is waking generally 1-2 times a night. He is still on breast milk and this week we have started him on some solids which he loves. My wife is exhausted and needing more sleep and it is causing difficulties between us. She is trying to give him time to self sooth as well. She is keen to try sleep train and the cry it out method. I think hes making good progress and he even slept for 6 hours a few nights ago. We dont know if we need to purservere for another couple of months with what we are doing. Or to start sleep traing. She seems to think that he relys on my wife for settling. Isnt that normal for a baby of his age?. His routine is generally bath feed and down at 7pm (not cuddle to sleep).Feed at 10-11 back down feed at 2-3 then awake at 630-7.00. Its hard to know what to do and when to do it. I have found your web page really helpful.

  9. KatN says:

    My daughter is nearly 2yo. And we’ve just recently dropped her night feedings at around 19mos. But she still wakes early in the morn around 6ish (wakes up 7/730) to nurse. Reading the signs, I think its what causes her to eat less during the day, esp breakfast. She doesnt nurse much during the day either. Only at naptime & occasionally bedtime. If i dont nurse her at 6ish, she’ll wake-up so early & wont get enough sleep(9hrs). ????

  10. Lisa says:

    My son is 9mnths old today! He has been waking to feed every 2-3 hrs at night since around 3mnths. He is on solids(a small jar per meal 3x a day) plus breast milk in between. We started to wean my daughter from 9-10mnths. By the time I stopped at 10 mnths she started sleeping through the night… Does my son need the extra calories or is this habit? What to do?????

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