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  1. Emily DeJeu says:

    @ Sarah — okay, thanks! That’s great info. I conferred with two of our sleep consultants (Shaye and Miriam) and they both confirmed that you don’t necessarily have to wait and wean from the swaddle before you start gentle sleep training techniques. Shaye let me know that she began sleep training her daughter when her daughter was still in the swaddle (she had a strong startle reflex, like your daughter) – then, when it was time to wean from the swaddle, Shaye reports that they had one rough night and then things were back on track.

    I would suggest you think about purchasing a copy of our newborn e-book (access it here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/essential-keys-to-your-newborns-sleep/). There’s lots of info in there about gentle methods you can use in the first 4 months, that allow for things like swaddle and pacifier use, while still helping your baby learn better sleep habits.

    Hope this helps, Sarah! And thanks fr this suggestion, too – I’ve added swaddling + sleep training as a possible article topic for 2014!

    Thanks for commenting, Sarah – and for suggesting! 🙂

    @ Tricia — Oh, good point! Yes, this is so true – even within the same family, kids are so, so different. That’s certainly true in my own family. So yes — no fair comparing baby to his/her big siblings! 😉

    Thanks for sharing this point, Tricia!

  2. Tricia says:

    I just wanted to mention about #5, which talks about not comparing your baby to your friend’s baby. Remember not to compare your baby to your OTHER babies too! With my second I made that mistake. The same sleep approach did not work at all for both kids.

  3. sarah says:

    @Emily, she’s only 3 months old. Before this week, I’d swaddle her, nurse her to sleep, and then transfer her to the bassinet. However, lately she seems to be struggling and crying more than being comforted by her swaddle and it takes ages to get her to fall asleep. The question became: how to get her to sleep in her bassinet or crib on her own? We’ve been cosleeping, which doesn’t work for us because she’s constantly startling herself and moving around and waking everyone up. I’m not sure how to get her into her crib *without* starting some sleep training. I’m totally confused!

  4. Emily DeJeu says:

    @ sarah – This is a great question! First, though, can I ask how old your baby is? That’ll help me know how to best answer.


  5. sarah says:

    These articles are such great resources — thank you for making them available! I have a question that I’ve never seen addressed before. I know that to start sleep training, your child should already have given up the swaddle. But what if they still have a very strong startle reflex? My daughter will wake herself up frequently from this reflex and I either have to swaddle her or physically hold down her arms to get her settled during the night — does that mean we should delay sleep training until it’s calmed down? Or will sleep training allow her to resettle herself from even these frequent wakings?

  6. Emily DeJeu says:

    @ Kendra – good for you! My husband and I try to go to bed early(ish) on weeknights, so that we can wake up before our kids do. Even 20 minutes of peace in the morning, in which to eat breakfast and drink some coffee, make a HUGE difference in our moods and demeanors!

    Glad to hear, too, that you have a good, workable schedule going for your toddler. Sounds like you have excellent plans for a sleep-filled 2014!!

    Thanks for commenting, Kendra! 🙂

  7. Kendra says:

    We’re staying the course with my 2.5 year old’s sleep. The plan is to stay consistent. It has been great the past several weeks, feels like we can keep this schedule for a while! Our bigger plans are changing our own bedtime – going to bed shortly after the toddler goes down and waking before he does in the morning, vs. staying up too late only to wake up groggy and grumpy.

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