This past week a new online debate went live on the Opposing Views website titled Should You Let Your Child Cry It Out? and I had the honor of being chosen as one of the experts! Little did I know that I would be going up against the Elizabeth Pantley, who is the author of The No-Cry Sleep Solution! I respect her a lot and she has a lot of knowledge and experience in this matter. I just happen to disagree with her extreme stance on the matter.
I’ve said many times on this site that I’m not a cry-it-out pusher and all of us need to find our own way to parent our children. The main thing that just really boils my blood is the extreme thinking on both sides of the debate. Not one thing is going to work for everyone (add to the fact that “cry it out” means something different to everyone) and I don’t like the feeling that some parents will go away feeling like failures or that they are not good parents because they did resort to cry-it-out. Or, worse, there will be some parents who don’t resort to it but are extremely sleep-deprived to the state of depression (or to the point they can’t drive straight) and still feel like a failure because they can’t get anything else to work, either. It makes me sad. Every situation is different and I wholeheartedly believe that when done in a certain way, cry-it-out will not damage your child and will not change his personality. There is such a wide range of things to try between no-cry to full-blown cry-it-out and it really boils down to figuring out what works for you and your family.