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Do you want more sleep?   Yes! I need more sleep.

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  1. Cristina Rodriguez says:

    Nicole, that is the reason why we have people like you! I remember NEVER got a piece of information about sleep from my pediatritian. Not even in the wellness checkup they asked me a single question about sleep…..so I thought I should not even ask them about the topic and I went and researched…..read books, articles…. until I found your website almost 4 years ago and it was a blessing!! my two boys are terrific sleepers now….it wasn’t easy, but your advise was an important key in this process!

  2. Meagan says:

    Man no wonder so many people react so strongly against CiO. Our doc suggested it, but it was in no way phrased as: “You SHOULD do this” just as worth trying to help with sleep issues. If my son’s pediatrician were this absolutist about sleep or feeding, I’d be furious and feel betrayed.

    I agree that doctors pretending to be experts when they really know very little is a huge problem, I didn’t mean to imply that all the responsibility is on the parent in terms of knowing what and what not to trust. With non-medical issues our pediatricians have always been very good about sounding like experienced adults giving advice, not experts giving directives!

  3. SW says:

    The pediatricians in the practice we go to all act as experts in sleep and feeding issues. They’ve been giving me advice since I was in the hospital from my son’s birth, and much of it has not been helpful. For example, I was told to have someone give my son formula at night so I could sleep, and this was while I was in the hospital and before breastfeeding was well established. I was also told at the 4-month checkup to stop feeding my son at night and that I should put him to bed and let him cry it out all night without going in to check on him, because he no longer needed to eat that much and “should” be able to sleep just fine for 10-12 hours. I tried it and it was a complete failure, upsetting both me and my baby very much. I can say with certainty that he was not ready for that. I’ve never been very comfortable with crying it out, but our pediatricians act as if that’s the only way. Now I don’t want to talk to them about sleep issues at all, I’ll just say everything’s fine.

  4. K says:

    I am towards the Attachment parenting end of the spectrum and a physician myself, though not a pediatrician. My husband is a much stronger proponent of CIO, which I could not stomach. We have 3 year old twins. It would be scary and frustrating for me to go to the well child visits, when the children were younger, knowing that the pediatrician would invariably give the “they are old enough to sleep on their own” and “you should let them cry it out…it won’t hurt them” speech, when I knew that I could not do that, and that this advice would just add fuel to the fire of my husband’s and my differing philosophies. As others have commented, there is minimal training on sleep and other issues in medical school, and often the pediatrician’s advice is 1) personal opinion or 2) based on some sort of written statement by the pediatrician group (as ours was) that does not take into account the vast variation in beliefs and practice. Physicians as a whole would be better off being more open about what they know about and what they don’t know about, as well as areas in which the research in non conclusive.

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