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  1. Cindy says

    I am wondering if you can help me with my 11 month old. I am still rocking him to sleep for naps and it is torture for both of us. He would rather not sleep it seems. At night time he nurses himself to sleep which is going to be ending soon since I plan on weaning him in the next month. I am willing to buy consultations but just want to make sure you think it will help. My child is very persisntent and strong willed and I am really nervous about changing things up. I need to do something though. To make matters more complicated I just found out I ma pregnant (Yikes – wasn’t planning on this) and realize that he won’t get all of me for long. Can you help????

    • Nicole says

      @Cindy I sent you e-mail. I can definitely help! Congratulations on your pregnancy!!

  2. sherly says

    Hi Nicole,
    Thank you so much for your article. My daughters docs recommended the ferber method. We started 3 nights ago and I finally felt like I made the right choice for my daughter but last night she woke at 2 am falling back to sleep an hour later. While waiting for her to go back to sleep I read an article about some Harvard study that claims your children might grow up to have anxiety and stress as they get older. I was wondering what you felt about this study. My husband suggested this was for parents who were probably not their for them during the day as well. I woke up feeling so horrible that I let her cry an hour… I think now that she might have just been cold. Should I have taken her out and added some more clothes on her??? I thought if I take her out it would only upset her more when i put her back in. My docs said to not even go back in intervals cuz it just angers them more… Would love your thoughts.

    thanks

    • Nicole says

      @sherly I have read about that Harvard study. In my article, “Will Cry It Out Change Your Baby’s Personality?”, there is a good link about it: https://www.babysleepsite.com/sleep-training/cry-it-out-personality/ I agree with your husband that the study is more about responding to the baby day and night, day in and day out. Breaking sleep associations often does not come with some protest and upset, but I stand by that when done right, it will not damage your baby forever and ever. I don’t know all of your details, but when I’m doing a sleep consultation, we typically will start with no-cry-it-out methods and work our way up, if necessary. I realize you are probably done with sleep training at this point, so I hope it went well! I hope right now you are all enjoying a good night’s sleep.

  3. Ash says

    I don’t know about others, but when I tried the Ferber or cry-it-out, I noticed my son cried everytime I put him in the crib. He almost developed a fear of the crib, and would start screaming as soon as I put him in, and he never used to do that before! So I stopped that method…I can’t let him cry for an hour…didn’t work for us…

  4. MarkN says

    Question on naps!
    We started the Ferber method yesterday after reading your site. At night, it worked pretty well! She cried for about 30 mins (5-10-15) and then slept untill the morning.
    But today, during the day for naps, it was a huge non. She is 5months and a half old and we aim for 1x 2hours nap in the morning and 1x2hours nap in the afternoon. Her awake time is about 2 hours so I put her in bed after the nap routine after 1h55 mins approx.

    The first nap, she slept 45 mins and cried for another 1 hour 🙁
    Second nap, she slept 1 hour and 15 mins and have been crying for now 1h00. She looks tired so I think she still needs sleep…Does Ferber work for nap time?

    • Nicole says

      @MarkN Ferber does work for naps, but they are generally harder than nights. The chance of a baby going back to sleep after sleeping 45 minutes or longer is not as likely, so you should not let her cry another hour. It will not be realistic to always expect 2 hour naps. I hope you worked it out as it’s taken me a few days to get to these comments.

  5. Ash says

    Nicole, I was looking for a website to read about my baby’s development at 7 months and read something interesting. They said that at 7 months your baby is going to start experiencing anxiety when you’re not around, including at night, and that this is not a good time to start trying the cry-it-out method since your baby will be too sensitive. Any comments?

    • Nicole says

      @Ash It depends on how you define cry-it-out and what the problem is, in my opinion. I do think it’s important to already have a routine in place, which gives them a sense of security knowing what comes next. If you already have that in place, then I do think you can develop a plan to be sensitive to your baby’s needs, but also not have a baby who wakes every 1-2 hours. I think every situation is unique and as I always say, I think it’s important to have a plan so you are successful. Thanks for asking!

  6. Agnes says

    PS to those co-sleeping and wondering how to get their babies to sleep better – putting them in their own quiet room might help. I slept with my babies and then after 3 months (when their feeding needs weren’t so demanding) I put them in their own room because I knew my “sleep noises” and my husband’s were disturbing their sleep. The premise of co-sleeping is wonderful but if being too close is taking away something else (ie. their sleep/good sleep habits) then it may be worth a second thought.

  7. Agnes says

    Hi Nicole, I think our mommy lives are parallel! I have 2 boys both born screamers too. Went through the same thing with my first son (I thought my arms would fall off). Sleep is the most vital thing I instill in my household as well. I think good sleep is the precursor to learning, discipline, and, basically, good temperament. I cringe when people brag that their babies can sleep through anything and would vacuum in their room while they’re sleeping. I am so against interrupted sleep. Even if they don’t physically wake up their sleep cycle is probably interrupted and they’re not getting QUALITY sleep. That’s one of the reasons I’m having trouble sleep training my second son (5 months). I can’t let him cry too long because I feel so guilty interrupting my older son’s sleep. He’s such a good sleeper (I trained him well LOL) that even if hears him crying (who can ignore such screaming anyway) he just rolls over and goes back to sleep. But poor guy wakes up in the morning with bags under his eyes! Do you have this problem?

  8. Ash says

    My 7-month old wakes up several times at night, about every 1.5 to 3 hours. The only way he’ll fall back asleep is while I breastfeed him. I feed him and put him back in the crib, and I have to be careful that he doesn’t wake up during the process or he’ll start crying again…MAJOR SLEEP ASSOCIATION WITH BREASTFEEDING…My mom suggests that he may be waking up cuz I don’t produce enough milk and he falls asleep hungry again. Sometimes when I can’t take it anymore and wanna shoot myself, my hubby takes him and cuddles with him, and then he falls asleep, but it doesn’t work when i cuddle with him, he keeps leaning over for milk. How am I supposed to take away these sleep associations without having him cry???

    • Nicole says

      @Ash ((HUGS)) It is common for women to wonder if it’s a milk supply issue, but this is very rarely the reason a baby wakes every 1-3 hours at this age, and like you said, it’s most often due to a sleep association problem. If my sleep training series did not help you find a method that works for you, please consider checking out my sleep consultation services (https://www.babysleepsite.com/services). Good luck!

  9. Theresa says

    Hi Nicole, Donne has been falling asleep without her pacifier and even in the night does not always need it but, she does drink her bottle twice a night, and she wakes up 4 time, I see that Fairuz mentioned a protein shake which I will try that as she does not eat alot and perhaps that is why she drinks so much in the evening. I also think she may be teething at the moment, I do give her teething gel and vidal powder but that does not seem to see her through the night, perhaps there is something else I could try.

  10. Theresa says

    Please would you advise me, my 11month old baby girl falls asleep on my bed alone I just lay next to her, but she wakes up 3 – 4 times in the evening I sometimes just put her pacifier in her mouth and will feed her 2 twice in the eveing, could it be that she is not getting enough iron in how do I know if it is habit or if something is wrong.

    • Nicole says

      @Theresa Have you read the article about sleep associations? Here is the link: https://www.babysleepsite.com/sleep-training/sleep-associations

      It sounds like the pacifier might be a sleep association that you might want to break. Otherwise, I’d need to know more information about your daughter’s schedule and other routines to help you further. ((HUGS))