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Are you tired of one-size-fits-all advice? Yes! I need a personalized sleep solution.

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  1. Chandni Patel says:

    Hi,

    I could really do with some information or even reassurance. I’m a soft hearted mamma but after long periods of sleep deprivation I decided to start check and console. It’s been 4 days now and I’m only seeing very little progress she cries anything from 45mins-1hr and then will fall asleep, once asleep she may or may not wake up in the night but thankfully does self soothe and wakes at 6-6.30.
    What’s really thrown me however is that now when we start her bedtime routine she knows what’s coming and starts to cry before we’ve even finished bathing her. I’m scared I’ve introduced a fear that wasn’t there before. Will it get better. I’m desperate for an answer before I pack in the training and live like a zombie for however long it takes ?

    • Janelle Reid says:

      Hi @Chandni Patel, thank you for writing to us. I am so sorry to hear you’ve been struggling with sleep, and that you are also now struggling with sleep training. I know the feeling of having your sweet baby cry! It can take some time to adjust for sure, and we typically suggest going forward with your plan for about a week or a little more before your change it up. Here is a link to a free guide with tips to help your baby sleep through the night (which would include getting her to sleep as well) if you are interested: https://www.babysleepsite.com/sleep-through-night-free-ebook/
      Hang in there and please let us know if you need anything!

  2. Rebeca says:

    Hello,

    First off, thank you so much for your site, it has been a tremendous resource for us! My daughter is 6 months old, I have waited to sleep train her until now because I’ve read this time is best. She gets very sensitive if overtired or among too many people- inconsolable crying at times. We tried yesterday for the first time, we did the same thing we did with my first daughter (she slept great after only one night) – sit next to her and touch her but not pick her up and slowly move farther away until one day we just set her down and leave… well, she cried for about 30 min before gong to sleep, but woke up 45 min later and she was hysterical- she cried so much she actually threw up (so I couldn’t take it and nursed her to sleep) She is breastfed and has been sleeping poorly for the past 3 months … she wakes 5 times a night. we have tried co-sleeping but still wakes up a bit, and has to be rocked or nursed back to sleep. She is like I said a bit sensitive and I want to make sure I don’t push her beyond her limits. Can I sleep train her

    • Neosha says:

      @Rebeca – Thank you for reading and for sharing with us. 6 months can definitely be a great age to start working on a formal sleep training plan, and you can definitely sleep train her (assuming there are no medical issues). You’ll want to come up with a plan that you can stick with then work that plan consistently. We’d welcome the opportunity to work with your family on developing a personalized sleep plan just for your family and daughter. If you’d like to learn more about our services (from DIY to full-support via emaail or phone), please read here:https://www.babysleepsite.com/services Hang in there, Rebeca.

  3. Erica Bersentes says:

    Hello advise please. I started CIO with my son at 8 months he did great, I mean it for the first time he cried 10 mins. And after that it was less then 1 minute. I did his naps and nights together for 1 weeks he was soothing himself within mins. During first week he was sick for about 4 days and still it didn’t phase him. 12 hrs of sleep a night 2 or 3 feedings (BF). Now it’s been the end of week 2 and hes having a difficult time taking a lot longer, I find myself having to go in and reassure him at 15 mins of crying and he starts to fall asleep and wakes up crying over and over during the 15 min period. I have gotten almost to the max number of reassurances for the night. Any clue what could be diffrent? He was always nursed and rocked to sleep. Now he doesn’t nurse to sleep at all I lay him down awake or half awake do the same talk same routine. Hes not as sick as he was so I am wondering if that would make a diffrence.oh and hes always been on a set schedule with feedings naps bed time routines.

    • Danielle says:

      Hi Erica,
      Thank you for using The Baby Sleep Site as a resource, and congratulations on your *huge* progress! I’m sorry to hear you’re experiencing some bumps, though. First, it can be normal for a baby to progress very quickly with sleep training at first, and then to regress a bit. We have an article on that here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/sleep-training/sleep-training-process/
      However, since he’s almost falling asleep and then waking himself up, I do wonder if he’s struggling with an undiagnosed medical issue, like an ear infection, or teething pain, which are making it harder for him to put himself to sleep. It may be worth checking in with a doctor, or if you suspect teething, asking his pediatrician about whether ibuprofen or acetaminophen might be safe to give him before bedtime. I hope this helps, but please let us know if you have any other questions!

  4. gina says:

    hi. i would love to hear answers with regard to my 18month old daughter whom i’m breastfeeding until now. I really wanted to wean her to bottles but my husband and i are having difficulty doing it. if u can share your past experience and techniques i would appreciate it. thanks a lot

    • Kimberly says:

      Hi Gina,
      Are you working on weaning your daughter from breastfeeding all together or just for night feedings? If it’s related to night feedings and wakings, you might want to read through this four post breastfeeding series which also talks about breastfeeding and night weaning. You can find all four posts here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/category/breastfeeding/

      If you are weaning completely, then you might want to do a search on this search for additional help and ideas for how to approach that: http://www.healthychildren.org/

      Breastfeeding is also a source of comfort for many babies and toddlers, so it might take some time for her to adjust. You might try limiting breastfeeds a little more each day or let her know that feeding with mommy will only be before naps or before bedtime so that she starts to get used to the idea of fewer feedings.

  5. Jessicka says:

    My son is 13 months old and I just took that quiz for him and it says that he is spunky,but what of the 9 temperment trates does that fall under?

    • Nicole says:

      @Jessica If you take the quiz and enter your e-mail, it will give you all the questions and your answers. It really just depends on how you answered the questions and what makes him “spunky”.

  6. Jennifer says:

    This is a great site! I esp. appreciate the summaries of the different sleep training methods. I’m also glad to hear that I’m not the only one with a baby who refuses to learn from “crying-it-out”! I am a new mom with a 2 month old, and he has had trouble getting to sleep since he was born. Now I’m getting to know him better (Intense, Sensitive, Persistent boy!), but it was really rough at first and continues to be a new challenge everyday!

    • Nicole says:

      @Jennifer Typically, 2 months is too young for cry-it-out anyway as their ability to self-soothe is limited. No amount of crying will help any baby, regardless of temperament, if they do not yet have the ability to self-soothe so they really can’t learn how. Usually, it’s closer to 4 months old that this can work. It depends on the baby. At some point, you can work with your baby to help them learn how to fall asleep and at some point you will realize what they once NEEDED to fall asleep, now they simply WANT it and they do have the ability now. Thank you for commenting and I’m glad you’re enjoying the site! Good luck!

  7. Emily says:

    I really appreciate this series, I’m enjoying reading all the different traits of temperament! Right now I’m going through an awful sleep time with my 11-week old son, and it’s interesting to try to figure-out his temperament and compare it with my 2 year-old daughter’s who was also a horrible sleeper at this age. I get so frustrated when people take a one-size-fits-all approach and simple things seem to work for their easy babies and it seems like I must be doing something wrong because those things don’t work for my difficult babies. (I mean “spirited!”) It doesn’t make me any less tired, but it is comforting to know that I’m not doing anything wrong, it’s just how they’re wired, and that’s ok.

    • Nicole says:

      @Emily I feel the same way when people would give me simple things to try like I hadn’t already tried them. The worst was when people told me to keep my son up so he’d sleep better. Not!!! Very frustrating, so I’m glad you don’t feel as alone, now.

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