Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.
Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.
Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.

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  1. Taiwo says

    My baby is 10 months old but she won’t sleep on her own except you rock her or breast feed her. This has been quite tasking. She doesn’t allow outsiders carry her except family members she is familiar with but your articles have been of great help. Thank you much.

  2. Rayne says

    This was interesting for me to read. My 2 1/2 year old is very extroverted. We have had trouble with her sleeping for a little less than a year. She will not take a nap and still does not want to go to bed at night. Our pediatrician said she should get around 12 hours of sleep so we focused more on bedtime than napping. We finally got her in a routine of going to bed around 7 and getting around 7. Except for those wonderful morning when she comes to my bed screaming at 4:00. This seems to work for her but makes for an exhausting day for whoever is caring for her (she’s on the go ALL Day!) Thankully, my 16 month old still loves her 3 hour nap. Nicole…Thank you for all the great info. you provide.

  3. Carnita says

    I’m with Ophelia and Marcia in this one! My very sociable extroverted young man(11mo) will NOT sleep anywhere except in his crib at home(in a darkened room, and pref not TOO much crazy loud noise)no matter how tired he is! He definitely wants to be where the action is and thinks hes missing out on something exciting in the neighborhood lol! I seem neurotic to others when I emphasize that it’s best for me to be home for his naps-because their kids all ‘sleep anywhere,anytime’ ! I’m told I spoil him by doing that but they DO NOT UNDERSTAND! UUURRGGGHHH! it irks me! anyway, glad to know I’m not alone 🙂

  4. Manju says

    My toddler (turning 2 this month!) is definitely an extrovert. He talks non stop and loves to talk to everyone – known or unknown. I think he knows more people around the block than I do!
    But he absolutely must sleep in his hammock or else he cannot sleep. I have been trying to move him to sleep on the bed, but no luck. I rock him to sleep in the hammock and then move him. He wakes up in a couple of hours and cries to go back. We do this every night.
    He readily takes his afternoon nap but fights tooth and nail against the nighttime sleep.
    Wonder if this has anything to do with him being an extrovert.

  5. Sharayu says

    My 2 1/2 yrs son is introvert.he will not feel secure with strangers.even the family and friends who have not visit oftenly ,my son will not be comfortable with them for long time.even in the pre nursery school he sat alone,will not mingle with the classmates.i think this will affect his afternoon bedtime its very difficult to get him into sleep.Most oftenly we have to take him to the car.

  6. Lori says

    Great article! I’m not sure whether my 15-month-old is an introvert or an extrovert, but I’m leaning more towards extrovert. He’s definitely not shy! He will usually go to anyone, at least for a while, and he will play by himself for long periods. He has always resisted sleep, naps especially, and my husband & I joke that he’s afraid he’ll miss something. My mom says he’s just different. No matter how tired he is, he will not sleep out and about whether it be church, for a walk in the stroller, or even in the car for the most part. I can totally relate to Marcia and Ophelia. Family and friends think I am a neurotic new mother and just do not understand! Even my husband can be trying at times because he wants to do things on the weekend when he is home. He has gotten a bit less sensitive to being overtired as he’s gotten older. However, we’re still dealing with a super early bedtime as he transitions to one nap.

  7. Ophelia says

    Marcia, that’s good to hear because my lo sleeps fantastically well at home in her crib/nursery (after months of training!) but won’t sleep out and about in her stroller or anywhere new. I have been feeling bad because so many people seem to be able to take their babies out with them in the evening or daytime and they just drop off and they somehow judge me for not being as flexible as them! Like yours, mine loves other people although she doesn’t necessarily welcome being picked up randomly, so I guess it’s just in her nature. Phew, so nice to read this article and feel a bit better!

  8. Marcia says

    My little one is shy, but VERY extroverted. This has been a challenge from day 1 with her sleep because she would rather be with people than in her room sleeping. She needs her sleep, though. She will not sleep anywhere there is something more stimulating going on. Through many months of “training,” she will now accept that it is nap or bedtime, but she must sleep in a darkened room with no loud noises or she will stay awake. This has made me very rigid with being home at naptimes and bedtime because she is not fun to be around if she is tired. We’ll see how she becomes as she gets older, but she definitely thrives on being around other people.

  9. Christine says

    We figured out in our one-on-one consulting (totally worth it btw!) that my son is a lot like your older son. He tends to be shy and does not like to be alone in his room at bedtime. I think he wants the security of knowing Mama or Dada is right nearby. He is very analytical, so I think he just needs to think about things for awhile before he determines if he is comfortable in a situation.

  10. Lisa says

    My 3 year old is definitely shy, and so was/am I, so easy to see the connection. She takes a good 20 minutes to warm up to most people, even family members that she sees pretty regularly. I wonder if it does affect her sleep in that she may not have as much confidence / independance (may not really be the right words) and tends to want someone there with her (at bedtime although we rarely give in to this one, and in the morning when she wakes at 5:45 and can’t go back to sleep).

    • Nicole says

      @Lisa 20 minutes is pretty good compared to my boys! 🙂 Personalities are so complicated, but I would say that it is possible that she prefers a confidence boost from mommy rather than be alone. There are plenty of people who don’t like being alone, so in that way I can definitely understand why kids don’t want to be. I certainly have empathy about that. It can be so tricky having a good balance. All we can do is try to boost their confidence that it’s okay to be alone, sometimes, but they are not alone all the time. Hopefully, that gives them a healthy outlook as they grow older, too, rather than “relationship hop” for fear of being alone, for example. Parenting is so hard, isn’t it?? Thanks for commenting!

      @Christine Thank you!! I’m so glad your one-on-one consultation was helpful to you! 🙂 Yes, my older son is very similar. I can see the confidence building over time and he doesn’t need to stand back and watch *as long* before jumping in, but he definitely still assesses the situation. I rather like that. I’d rather him think about potential consequences than do something dangerous. He is cautious by nature, so that’s good in some ways, at least. 😉 Thank you for sharing!

      @Marcia I know exactly what you mean. My eldest was always afraid he’d miss the party in the other room and still does not like to think he’s missing something! He very very very rarely has slept somewhere other than his bed. Even on a trip down South for a Family Reunion he stayed awake IN THE CAR until 11 p.m. because he didn’t want to miss the state signs as we went into a new state. He never ceases to surprise me how much sleep he’ll miss just to be involved in what’s going on around him. 😀 Thank you for sharing!

      @Ophelia You are definitely NOT alone in needing to be home to sleep! And, even those who have babies who sleep out and about, it isn’t necessarily healthy to let your baby “crash” in the stroller. My boys would sleep EVENTUALLY in a stroller but it was after they were beyond exhausted and that wasn’t good for anyone (especially Mr. Cranky Pants). 🙂 Of course, there are some who love their sleep and will sleep in a stroller even with a lot going on and they are good with that and that’s great! We are not all that lucky, for sure, though! Thank you for commenting!

      @Lori He could be like me who is an introvert who leans extrovert sometimes. It’s blurry. 🙂 And, of course, he will start to change a lot. My youngest has always played SOOOO well on his own but nowadays he’s becoming much more social and is more often asking for someone to play with him much more often than before. Of course, we love playing with our kids but sometimes you have to cook dinner, do laundry, etc. so it’s been interesting to watch him grow and change. It’s always hard when family and friends don’t get it, but they would also probably be the first to wonder why you have such a whiny and misbehaved kid who is just overly tired, right? 😉

      @Sharayou I know this can be challenging and you feel bad for the family members that so much want to engage with your child. He will grow and change and his confidence will build, I’m sure. When my youngest first started preschool the teachers didn’t even know if he could talk (though he talks A LOT at home), but he has opened up a lot over the last year. But, it did take a year!! Hang in there!!

      @Manju Awww! He sounds very social and cute, I’m sure! It sounds like he believes he “needs” to be rocked or in the hammock to fall asleep. Although it may be a few rougher nights, if you got him accustomed to falling asleep without moving to sleep, first, but in the hammock, and then try the bed, it would probably go much smoother. Try rocking his hammock but then stop before he’s asleep and wean him off the movement. Then, try the bed later. Breaking it into pieces can make a big difference. With practice, we can always learn a new way to sleep. Good luck!

      @Carnita You are definitely not alone! Not with the sleep and not with people who don’t understand. I just said that if they weren’t going to deal with the aftermath, they should not say anything about it. We are the ones who have to be up with them if they wake at night from being over-tired or what-not, right? 🙂

      Thank you everyone for all the great conversation! Sorry it took me a couple of days to get back to everyone. Cold/flu season is starting early in our house and it’s been a rough week. I hope this Winter is better than last, though!