The Ferber Method of sleep training babies, also known as Ferberizing or Ferberization, has been popular since the mid-80's when Dr. Richard Ferber wrote his book, and for good reason. It is a very structured approach and provides a clear path for parents to follow. For those of us who need very specific guidelines, this can work very well, so if you choose to Ferberize your baby or toddler, you are in good company! When done correctly, Ferberization can be very effective, and often, many babies
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Cry It Out, Ferberizing, Controlled Crying, or No Cry Sleep Training: What’s The Difference?
Crying during sleep training is a touchy subject, but it's one that's worth addressing. Why? Because most parents aren't aware that crying during sleep training is a spectrum. Many families who are new to The Baby Sleep Site® mistakenly assume that sleep training is nothing BUT crying....heartbreaking, seemingly endless crying. However, while a very small percentage of parents are okay with nonstop crying, the vast majority aren't. Most of the parents with whom we work accept
Will Your Baby Be Spoiled If You Don’t Sleep Train?
A client e-mailed me not too long ago concerned about what a co-worker told her about her baby. Her co-worker told her that if she didn't sleep train and let her baby cry it out, her baby would grow up to be spoiled. She alluded to the fact that by the time he was 7 or 8 years old, he'd be "running the show." This particular client has experience with two very different cultures, one being in the West and one in the East. In the West (where she lives now) she feels tremendous pressure to let
How Sleep Training Progress Looks
When parents update me on their sleep training progress, sometimes it is a little frustrating for them if their baby has a good night one night, then a bad night and some back and forth. I thought it would be a good idea to talk about that in today's post and why it happens. If nothing else, I know it helps to have realistic expectations while sleep training. One of the biggest lessons I learned when I was struggling with my own son's sleep problems is that when the books implied all of our
Can You Mix Attachment Parenting With Sleep Training?
Before I had a baby, I did not know anything about "attachment parenting" nor had I ever heard the term. It is a little "weird" considering I am an avid reader (well, before kids and this website when I used to have time), but I guess none of my friends ever mentioned it and I was never exposed, even though Dr. Sears coined the term with his wife over 20 years ago. I did know I wanted to breastfeed. I did know I didn't want to co-sleep (though we did anyway out of necessity for a