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  1. Kylie S. says:

    I have a 6 month old that will wake up anywhere from 1-6 times during the night. We are desperate to start sleep training but he seems to always have a cold (with congestion) or is teething. Do I need to wait until both are cleared to start? He goes to daycare 3x a week and I’m afraid he will constantly be congested like my other two kids. Difference is, the congestion seems to really bother him unlike the others. He’ll be going to the doctor soon to make sure it’s not something worse; if not, I don’t think we can wait much longer…. so tired!

    • Janelle Reid says:

      Hi @Kylie S. – Thanks for visiting the Baby Sleep Site. I am sorry you’ve been struggling with so many wake ups from your little one. Since you have older kids, you know that teething is a battle that will continue for a few years most likely (or probably at least another year). Here is an article we for help with teething: https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-sleep-comfort/baby-teething-sleep/
      We usually would suggest to hold off on sleep training until your child is feeling themselves (meaning no colds – again, teething is a part of life) but I would mention it to your doctor and see what they suggest. I’m sorry he’s got so much congestion, hopefully you can find a solution so he has some relief and isn’t getting sick all the time from school, but I know that can be hard.
      Hang in there! If you need more help with this once you get started, please let us know. We are always happy to help!

  2. Lydia Glassmer says:

    I have a 10 week old baby. She was a great sleeper. Would only wake up once in the middle of the night and stopped and would wake up around 6 am from 11 pm. I stopped swaddling about 4 days ago and now she doesn’t sleep. She’s kicking her legs, fussy and waking up again in the middle of the night to eat. Once i feed her she’s still kicking and complaining. I’m about to start work in a few days and not sure if i should start swaddling again. We don’t have her on a strict schedule, but most feedings and naps are around the same time every day sometimes earlier or later just not exactly the same time, but we do put her to bed at the same time everyday and i usually feed her asleep before i go to bed which is 11. What should we do?

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says:

      Hi @Lydia!
      Thanks for writing! Stopping swaddling can be tough for some babies, and though she may adjust in a few more days or so, it is very common for babies to continue to be swaddled through and past 4 months of age. As long as you are using a safe swaddle and sleep area, you are free to swaddle her back up and see if she sleeps better once again. You can give it a few more weeks and try again, or use a different product to slowly wean from traditional swaddle, to a sleep sack type of product.
      This article will give you more info and some links to some of our favorite swaddling items:
      https://www.babysleepsite.com/sleep-training/how-when-to-stop-swaddling-baby/
      I hope that you are both sleeping better very soon!!

  3. Sarah says:

    I have a super sensitive/high needs 4 week old daughter that has started catnapping during the day making her tired and grumpy most of the time. Is it too early to start sleep training? I also have 2.5 yr old toddler at home who is of same temperament so find it very difficult to spend time alone rocking the baby back to sleep every 40-50mins of the day. Do you have any recommendations to get her day sleeps better? Thanks!

    • Danielle says:

      Hi Sarah,
      Thanks for writing! I’m sorry to hear you’re having trouble with your newborn’s sleep. This is very common, so you’re definitely not alone! We don’t recommend formal sleep training until around 4 months-old – younger babies are simply not developed enough to learn to fall asleep on their own. However, there’s still plenty you can do to promote better day sleep. Making sure she’s not awake too long should actually help her sleep longer during naps, so do keep an eye on her schedule. I personally found babywearing to be a huge help with my highly-sensitive infant, and it was nice to just have her sleep on me so I could still play with my toddler too.

      We also have a couple of resources on the site to help:
      https://www.babysleepsite.com/newborns/newborn-sleep-baby-tips-10/
      https://www.babysleepsite.com/15-free-baby-sleep-facts-new-parents-must-know/

      And we offer an ebook specifically about newborn baby sleep, which may be helpful: https://www.babysleepsite.com/essential-keys-to-your-newborns-sleep/

      I hope these will give you some ideas, but please do write in to us at contact@babysleepsite.com if you continue to have trouble. Good luck!

  4. Emily DeJeu says:

    @ Laurie — Good thinking! A week should be enough time to make some progress.

    So funny that both you and @ Ann Klassen mention waiting until your husbands are out of the house. Maybe we add that as a 6th point to the article — “wait until your husband goes out of town for a few days!”

  5. Laurie says:

    I have another month before hunting season and I can sleep train with hubby out of the house for over a week! I am so hoping this works.

  6. Emily DeJeu says:

    @ Accidental Supermommi — you can check out our “Recommended Sleep and Feeding Schedules” page to get an idea of how many feedings are considered standard for a 4 month old. That should help.

    This article also offers suggestions about when to night wean, and how many night feedings are standard for different ages: https://www.babysleepsite.com/sleep-training/night-feedings-by-age-when-do-you-night-wean/

    Hope these resources help! Be sure to stop by and let us know how it’s going. 🙂

  7. I’m hoping to let my 4 month old cry it out this weekend, because my older child is away, so his sleep won’t be disturbed, and both of us parents will be there to support one another. He should be over his cold, and sees the doctor tomorrow, so should have a medical green light. BUT…how do you know when he’s able to go all night without eating? Can you let him cry if he wakes within a certain timeframe, but go to him and feed him if he wakes after that? Or is that essentially being inconcistent? :s

  8. Emily DeJeu says:

    @ Anne Klassen — Ha! You’re not alone on this; I know many parents have this experience with their partner. One is ready to deal with the crying that sometimes comes with sleep training, but the other just can’t take it.

    Glad you found a solution that worked for you! Way to plan! 🙂

    @ G. Smith — Yay! So glad to hear this! Thanks for sharing your good news with us. 🙂

  9. G. Smith says:

    Night 4 of sleep training using “pick-up put-down” method, and I didn’t have to pick him up even once. The first night at one point I had to pick him up as much as 15 (but not 115 like some experience!) times. I was skeptical at first but this seems to be working! So far…..

  10. Anne Klassen says:

    I just waited for my husband to go out of town for a weekend fishing trip. He couldn’t stand to hear our daughter cry for even a minute. It took just 2 nights of her crying for no more than 2 minutes a couple of times during the night and she was sleeping through the night the 3rd night he was gone. I had wanted to cut out the 3am nursing session at least a month earlier as I knew she was just waking out of habit and not actual hunger. I had never been so happy for my husband to be out of town for a few days 😉

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