What Does Drowsy But Awake Mean Anyway, When It Comes to Helping Your Baby Sleep?

What Does Drowsy But Awake Mean Anyway, When It Comes to Helping Your Baby Sleep?

Pick up any book about baby sleep or read any website, including this one, and the instructions are to put your baby down “drowsy but awake” in order to teach your baby how to sleep and stop waking up at night or nap longer during the day. But, what does “drowsy but awake” actually mean? Does it mean eyes closed or just relaxed? This article will paint a picture about the ideal drowsiness to help your baby or toddler sleep better.

Drowsy, But Awake Definition

In a perfect world, you’d soothe your baby to the point of being calm, relaxed, and eyes closed. You’d lay your baby down, she repositions, flutters her eyes, briefly looking at you leaving the room, and drift off into peaceful sleep.

Of course, this doesn’t always work very easily.

For some of your babies, they go from wide awake to asleep. There is not much of a “drowsy” state with your baby. In this case, your “drowsy, but awake” would be somewhere in the calm state, but not with eyes closed. He may appear wide awake, yet content enough to not be moving around and crawling, walking, or playing.

How Hard Should You Work on Drowsy, But Awake?

In a perfect world, we’d get our babies drowsy every single time we put them down for sleep, but is this really realistic? Is that a good idea? How hard should we work at this ideal state?

In my opinion, when you are first sleep training, you will want to have your baby as calm and relaxed as possible before you start teaching her a new routine or skill. However, I do not recommend you take soooo long getting to the ideal state of “drowsy, but awake” just to put her down.

First, if you are teaching her a new routine, she is likely to perk up and wake up a bit anyway, once you lay her down. You don’t want to spend an hour and then watch it come undone in a matter of seconds.

Second, you don’t want your baby overtired, which will work against you. If you work for 30 minutes pushing her past her comfortable awake time, she is likely to get more upset, faster, and resist the new routine even more.

Third, work at it a long time and you have to redo it each time she cries, unless you are doing controlled crying or cry it out, anyway. In that case, you are really just dragging out the inevitable. If you are doing a no-cry sleep method, you still don’t want her to be overtired by the time she is laid down.

Ultimately, your goal is to create a consistent bedtime routine or nap time routine and stick to it. If you have an age-appropriate baby sleep schedule, your baby should be content at the end of your routine and over the course of weeks, you should be able to have your baby less drowsy and more awake (depending on your baby’s temperament) as she gets better and better at falling asleep. While my eldest son (who inspired this site) always resisted nap time for 5-10 minutes, his younger brother got to the point where you could say “nap time”, put him in his crib, and walk out. He’d play for about 10 minutes and fall asleep. It was seriously that easy, but it didn’t happen overnight. It did take time and consistency to get to that point. They both just have different personalities.

When you are first sleep training, I recommend spending up to 10-15 minutes getting your baby “drowsy, but awake” and then cut it off (I don’t mean the whole routine is this long, I mean just the soothing portion). If he isn’t drowsy with your soothing methods, make sure you are trying sleep at the right time. Too tired might look like lots of crying OR hyper-activity. Under-tired can be playful and happy, smiling up at you, rather than getting sleepy. Cute, but not ready for sleep.

What Does Your Baby’s Drowsy, But Awake Look Like?

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24 thoughts on “What Does Drowsy But Awake Mean Anyway, When It Comes to Helping Your Baby Sleep?”

  1. What about babies that don’t get drowsy?! My first still talks and talks and moves around and then bam asleep. My 1yr old is the same! They are either awake or asleep. I have tried and tried but if I don’t put her to sleep then she doesn’t sleep. My son was the same way until 2 1/2! He goes to sleep by himself now but is still talking and singing and reciting books right up to the second he’s asleep. They are very bright and I think have trouble shutting their brains off. If I put baby down awake at all she is up and ready for the day. And that after trying for 40+ minutes to get her to sleep. It just doesn’t seem worth it anymore!

    • @Kristin Some babies are like that and for those babies, we typically stick to the routine and then put them down awake. With enough repetition and consistency, they typically learn to fall asleep from an awake state. It might take several weeks, so while 40 minutes might seem like a lot of time, you may need to give her longer and more days in a row to see progress. And, make sure her room is very dark. Good luck!!

  2. Hi.
    I started sleep training my baby at 4and half months old using ferber method and put him down drowsy awake. He was doing great after the 3rd night fell asleep on his own. If he woke up at night it would take less then 10 minutes he would fall asleep on his own and i would feed him at 2am but he would wake up at 530am.
    He then started rolling on his stomach while sleeping and wouldn’t wake up and i would do a dream feed at 3am he would wake up 6am.
    That was great until he started waking.up when rolling. I started putting him down awake.on his stomach. He falls asleep no problem but he now wakes up at random times during the night. I still.use ferber method but it took him 1 hour to fall asleep from 1245am to 110am to waking up at 4am..which i gave him his feeding He then woke up at 7am
    What do i do? I want him to go back to waking up once a night anytime after 2.am. Why is this not working anymore.

    • Hi @Stephanie, thank you for writing to us. I’m sorry that the method that was working so well hasn’t been working as well recently. Hang in there! Here is a link to a sample schedule for a 4 month old so you can check and make sure the daytime sleep doesn’t need to be tweaked a bit (as this can be a factor in night time sleep): https://www.babysleepsite.com/schedules/5-month-old-baby-schedule/
      You’ll see that at this age you may still need 1-2 feedings, so even if he was doing 1, if he went up to 2, that would be ok too since he is being so much more active with the rolling he may be using a bit more calories than he was before.
      If you need more help let us know! Feel free to contact us directly at [email protected] and we can help more from there!

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