Ready to Begin Your Sleep Journey?   Yes! Show Me How
Ready to Begin Your Sleep Journey?   Yes! Show Me How

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  1. Emmy C says

    I think it is pretty poor, at best, that you mention the CIO method. This just teaches a baby that no one will come when they cry and actually it is very harmful to babies of any age. Even as an adult crying alone is horrendous. It should never be used on a baby and you should say that, instead of sitting on the fence.

    • Danielle says

      Hi Emmy,
      Thank you for your comment! We agree, and we think most parents do, that cry-it-out is a last resort, and we always recommend trying a gentle sleep coaching method first. That said, the research on cry-it-out is that, done correctly and not as a replacement for parenting your baby, it is not harmful, and can indeed be beneficial when you consider the damage that lack of sleep can do to a baby’s overall health and well-being. We have an article with further information about our philosophy on cry-it-out here:
      I hope this helps! Please let us know if you have any questions 🙂

  2. Mary says

    This article has been very helpful. I hope to apply these methods asap!
    How long do you suggest trying to get a child to nap before calling it quits for that particular nap? Or do you suggest trying until the child falls asleep no matter the amount of time it takes? Thank you for your advice!

    • Danielle says

      Hi Mary,
      Thank you for your comment – I’m so glad to hear that the article was helpful for you! Generally we suggest trying for about an hour before giving up, but it can depend on the baby’s age and personality. We do have an article all about nap training that may help you here, as well:
      Good luck! Please let us know if you have any questions!

  3. Charanya says

    My lo completed 3 months this month 1st. She hardly crosses 1 sleep cycle (40-50 mins). I try extending her nap by patting,holding her, rocking . Sometimes, she sleeps but most of the time she fights and refuses to nap again. She cries and fusses till next nap cycle off and on. Is it sleep regression? Am at my wits end. Her nighttime is getting worst day by day. She Is up every hour or two. Things are getting worse . She used to give 6 hr stretch then 3 hrs. Should I start sleep training? She is almost 16 weeks.

    • Danielle says

      Hi Charanya,
      Thank you for checking out The Baby Sleep Site! I’m sorry to hear you’re having so much trouble with sleep. Based on your comment, it does sound like your little one might be coming into the 4 month sleep regression. We have an article with a lot of information on that here:
      Generally, you can start gentle sleep coaching with a health baby, born on time, at 4 months-olds. Please see our sleep coaching article series here:
      And, although some babies take long, solid naps almost from birth, many more do not start taking longer naps until around 6 months-old. Sometimes nap training can help, after you coach nights. We have a good article on short nights here:
      I hope this helps, but please get in touch if you need more support!

    • Adriana says

      Thanks for the articule. I’ve bien searching around so desperately for something that can help my 14 mo girl. My girl doesn’t sleep thru the night and also doesn’t fall asleep on her crib. If I lay her in bed she moves around until she falls asleep, but if I try the same in bed she cries and scream so hard and so long (she has a strong temper). Would like to try a gentle method but they seem to be suited for little babies, not this age.

      • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says

        Hi @Adriana – Thank you for writing to us. Sorry to hear that your toddler is having issues with sleeping in her own crib and sleeping through the night! There are MANY parents that use gentle sleep training with their toddlers and even preschoolers and older! If that’s what you’re comfortable with – go for it! If you’d like help formulating a Plan just for her, please contact us for some more info and recommendations! Good luck Adriana!!

  4. Farzana Akhtar says

    Hi there,

    I have a 5 month old girl who has been inconsolable when it’s has come to going to sleep, whether it be nap time or bedtime. Up until 6 weeks ago she was very good at self soothing, where I’d put her down drowsy/almost asleep, put on some soothing music and she’d toss and turn for a few minutes and fall asleep. Initially I thought it was the famous 4 month sleep regression but now it’s starting to get out of hand. Just to note, she used to sleep about 30-45 minutes and occasionally longer. She seemed happy and content when she woke so I assumed she had had enough rest, although I would’ve preferred longer naps. Also to note, She currently sleeps anything up to 8 hours at night and wakes for a feed around 3-5am.

    After reading some content online I believed she was overtired so I tried putting her down 15, 20, 30 minutes earlier. I’ve also watched her carefully for sleepy cues and put her down accordingly.

    Putting her to sleep currently goes like this:
    Singing a few lullabies to set the mood, put her down while she’s settled, she’ll play with her hands and feet for about 10-15 minutes, she starts fussing so I give her a chance to settle (but never does), then it turns into full blown crying. I try to lull, shush, pick up and rock but it doesn’t help. It seems like she doesn’t want to be held nor put down. After crying so much that she turns blue and me rocking the life out of myself she falls asleep. I can’t put her down until she is in deep sleep otherwise she will wake.

    Please could you recommend something.

    Thank you

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says

      Hi @Farzana – Thanks for writing, and I’m sorry to hear that getting your little one to fall asleep has been so tough! We definitely understand how tough this can be! It sounds like you’re working hard to get her sleeping better! It could have been the 4 month sleep regression, that is still causing issues! Since you’ve been doing your reading and research, and you’re still struggling, I’d recommend one on one help from one of our consultants. This way, she can look at your daughter’s full sleep history, and create a Plan with you to get her on a good schedule and falling asleep on her own again!
      There are essentially two types of packages: email only, and e-mail plus telephone support, and we have packages to fit every need and every budget. You can read more here:
      Hang in there Farzana!