7 Gentle, Natural Ways To Help Your Newborn Baby Sleep Better

 
7 Ways To Gently Naturally Help Your Newborn Baby Sleep

Fact: newborns and young infants aren’t usually the best sleepers, what with the waking every few hours to eat and all. That’s why the phrase ‘sleeping like a baby’ is so misleading, in my opinion! ;)

Understandably, parents often become very interested in how to help their newborns sleep pretty soon after delivery. The thing is, newborns and young babies aren’t ready for sleep coaching (we usually advise waiting on that until baby is at least 4 months old and have moved past the 4 month sleep regression).

Don’t let that make you feel hopeless, though – just because your newborn is too young for sleep coaching doesn’t mean you’re destined to endure months of sleeplessness. There are steps you can take to naturally, gently encourage your newborn to sleep better.

And that’s what we’re looking at today! Below are 7 ways you can naturally and gently promote better sleep for your newborn. Let’s take a look!

7 Ways To Gently, Naturally Encourage Your Newborn Baby To Sleep Better (and Longer!)

  1. Go for a walk with your baby. Turns out your grandmother was right – fresh air really does help children sleep better! Once your baby is a few weeks old, you can start incorporating a daily walk, or some time spent sitting outdoors. This will go far towards helping improve sleep at night and during naps.
  2. Give infant massage a try. We’ve written before about the benefits of infant massage in improving baby sleep, but we’ll say it again – infant massage is an easy and natural way to help your newborn relax, which in turn can help promote better sleep. Not only that, but infant massage can improve digestion (great for colicky newborns), strengthen the mother-child bond, and even aid growth and development!
  3. Keep days bright and nights dark. Newborns aren’t born knowing that days are for playing and nights are for sleeping – in fact, many newborns have their days and nights mixed up, and sleep for long stretches during the day while being up every hour at night! You can gently, naturally correct this by making sure that your baby is exposed to sunlight during the day (not direct sunlight, but rather filtered sunlight in a bright, sunny room). In addition, work to keep nights dark – keep the room dim during diaper changes and feedings, for example. Over time, this will help re-set your newborn’s circadian rhythms and guide her towards sleeping long stretches at night and napping during the day.
  4. Cluster feed in the evening. It’s perfectly natural for newborns and young babies to ‘tank up’ on feeds in the evening, and to feed more frequently than they do during the the rest of the day. While cluster feeding can feel overwhelming for mom and dad (especially for mom, if she’s nursing – she may feel like she needs to camp out on the couch for hours every night!), many experts agree that cluster feeding is a natural part of the newborn stage. In fact, many agree that newborns do this as a way to get in a longer stretch of sleep at night- many babies will sleep their longest stretch of the day after cluster feeding! So if you’re looking to promote longer, better nighttime sleep, cluster feeding is a good strategy.
  5. Keep baby close. We don’t mean simply holding or wearing your baby (more on that in a moment). Keep baby close at night, too – consider sharing a room with your baby, and having your baby sleep near your bed in a bassinet or small crib. There are lots of benefits to having your newborn nearby at night – it can make middle of the night feedings more convenient, for one. But research indicates that room-sharing is more than convenient; babies who room-share and sleep close to mom have actually been shown to sleep better. They tend to cry less and sleep longer. They also tend to have slightly lower rates of SIDS. For these reasons, the AAP actually recommends room-sharing as the best sleeping arrangements for babies. Of course, room-sharing isn’t for everyone; there are definite pros and cons to sharing a room with your baby. As always, we recommend you find a sleeping arrangement that works best for your unique situation.
  6. Strive for adequate daytime naps. If your newborn or young baby is up every hour, all night long, then you’ve no doubt toyed with the idea of keeping him up more during the day, in the hopes that it will encourage him to sleep better at night. Be wary of this line of thinking – generally, babies who don’t nap well during the day actually sleep worse at night, because they are overtired! Yes, it’s important that your newborn have some awake time during the day (this helps correct any newborn day/night confusion). However, your newborn’s awake time should be relatively short (no more than 45-60 minutes, generally), and your newborn should take plenty of naps during the day.
  7. Carry/wear your baby. Nothing is more soothing for baby than being held close to mom or dad. Consequently, most newborns sleep best when they are in mom’s or dad’s arms, or held snugly in a baby sling. This is especially true for colicky babies – baby wearing is a great way to soothe colic! Remember that holding your baby, or wearing her around the house, certainly are not permanent sleep solutions. Rather, these are short-term strategies that will help maximize your baby’s (and your) sleep during those first few months after birth.

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Are Probiotics A Cure For Your Baby’s Colic?

Can Probiotics Cure Colic?One of our priorities here at The Baby Sleep Site® (aside from doing everything we can to help your baby sleep!) is to stay on top of current sleep-related research and best practice recommendations. Nicole and our team of sleep consultants really are sleep experts, but there’s a reason for that – they keep up with what’s happening in the field of sleep research!

Well, last week, one of our consultants forwarded a new and interesting article on to the rest of us. This article, from NPR’s health blog, poses the question, “Can probiotics help soothe colicky babies?”

Given that colic can lead to lots of nighttime waking, we were all ears! So what’s the scoop? Can probiotics help colicky babies? Or is this just another ‘cure’ that’s not actually a cure, like melatonin supplements?

Let’s take a look!

What Are Probiotics, And How Do They Help Newborns And Young Babies?

Simply put, probiotics (also known as ‘lactobacillus‘) are good bacteria. This is the type of bacteria found in the human digestive system – it’s the bacteria that helps us digest our food properly, and that prevents things like diarrhea and constipation.

What does this have to do with newborns and young babies? Well, as it turns out, many people (from parents to doctors and medical researchers) believe that colic symptoms are due largely to baby tummy troubles, like gas and bloating for example. The theory is that colicky babies in particular struggle with stomach problems, and that’s where the long bouts of inconsolable crying come from.

It follows, then, that giving newborns and young babies a dose of probiotics would help ease their tummy troubles, and would thereby reduce (or maybe even eliminate) their colicky symptoms.

This seems logical – but is it true? Does it actually work?

Are Probiotics A Cure For Colic?

Here’s the short answer – maybe.

Here’s the longer explanation. According to the NPR blog article, several studies (mostly done in Europe) have shown a link between probiotics and reduced colic symptoms. So it does seem that there’s some connection between the two. Even more interesting, though, is a recent study published by the JAMA Pediatrics, which indicates that probiotics may actually be useful in preventing colic.

Yes, you read that right — it might be possible to actually prevent colic. To put it lightly – wow!!

How does it work? Well, the theory is that offering probiotics actually helps a baby’s digestive system develop properly, which can in turn prevent chronic tummy issues, like gas and indigestion. Prevent those, and you can possibly prevent colic. From the article:

“There are a number of effects that we know probiotics can have,” says Dr. Robert Shulman, a professor of pediatrics at Baylor College of Medicine. For example, probiotics may affect the immune system, improve the lining of the intestine and influence the balance of bacteria living in the digestive system, Shulman says.

But don’t rush out and buy every probiotic on the shelf just yet — this research is still very much in its infancy (no pun intended!), and Shulman cautions that much more research needs to be done before any broad, sweeping recommendations can be made. This means that, if you have a colicky baby at home, you will need to discuss any probiotic supplements with your baby’s healthcare provider first, before offering them.

Tips From The Baby Sleep Site® Sleep Consultants

This is all interesting stuff (especially to those of us who are Baby Sleep Site employees, and who are therefore obsessed with sleep!) But does it really work? And how can you put this information to work at home?

I asked our sleep consultants to share their own personal experiences with colic remedies, to see if probiotics proved useful for them. Here’s what they had to say:

  • Shaye’s daughter had colic, but the probiotics that Shaye gave her didn’t help much. As it turns out, Shaye’s little one didn’t have simple colic and actually needed medication to control her symptoms.
  • Miriam tried probiotics with one of her babies, but didn’t like them, and didn’t think they were effective. She says Colic Calm™ was a better solution for her family.
  • Sarah (one of our newest sleep consultants – check out her bio!) found probiotics extremely helpful in controlling her daughter’s colic. She had a pediatrician recommend them early on, and as she puts it, “I haven’t looked back!”

Of course, there’s no telling exactly what will work best for your colicky baby – you won’t know until you try various remedies. Just be sure not to offer any probiotics to your baby or toddler without first speaking to your healthcare provider.

Okay, parents – share your tips! How did you cope / are you coping with a colicky baby? Share your wisdom with us!

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4 Newborn Baby Items You Should Never Pay Full Price For (and 2 That You Should)

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Baby Items To Buy New and UsedWhen I was pregnant with my first child, I have a clear memory of walking into my local Babies-R-Us, ready to register for cute baby gear and feeling so excited. And then the nice checkout girl handed me the list of ‘must-have’ registry items. And there were eighty-two things on it.

EIGHTY-TWO. Seriously — how can such a tiny person need so many things?!

Well, in all honesty, your newborn doesn’t need quite that much stuff. But if you’re having a baby, you will need to buy some baby gear. And if you’re anything like me, you’ll want to focus on buying the things that you need at the lowest price possible.

But which newborn items can you afford to skimp on, and which should you buy new? Let’s take a look!

4 Newborn Baby Items You Should Never* Pay Full Price For

  • CLOTHING: This is one thing you can trust other people to buy for you – people love to shower new parents with cute baby outfits! Need more clothing? Hit up yard sales, thrift stores, and consignment stores. Or, even better, see if you can work out a borrowing arrangement with a friend. I did this, with a friend who had a little girl exactly 1 year older than my little girl. She loaned me clothes, and at the end of the season, I’d return everything back to her PLUS I’d add in any outfits or accessories that I’d picked up along the way. It was a great arrangement for both of us.
  • BEDDING: You know the cute (and pricey) bedding sets they sell in stores? Here’s a secret: you don’t need most of the stuff included. The quilts and comforters aren’t safe to put in the crib (they present a SIDS risk); same is true of the bumper pads. The crib skirt is nice, but non-essential. All you really need are a few good-quality crib sheets.
  • TOYS: Again – so cute, but too expensive! And your baby will outgrow many these fairly quickly. Remember, too, that your baby may end up being more interested in the box the toy came in than in the toy itself – another reason not to spend big bucks on these! Friends and family will buy these for you, too, and you can scour yard sales, thrift stores, and consignment stores to get them used. Borrowing from friends also works well. If you borrow or buy used, though, be sure to check the CPSC list of recalled items, to be sure what you’re buying is safe.
  • EQUIPMENT: By equipment, I mean things like bouncy seats, swings, high-chairs, baby bathtubs, etc. Lots of these things can be really useful during the newborn and early infant stages, but your baby will outgrown them pretty fast, so it’s better not to spend a fortune on these. Better to let others buy them for you, or to buy them used. Borrowing is great, too. (Again — when buying used or borrowing, check the CPSC recalls.) We have friends who have 4 children, and every time they had a new baby, they would borrow our baby swing. It was a great arrangement – it saved them money, and we didn’t have to let the baby swing sit in our basement, taking up space and collecting dust.
  • *You don’t need to pay full price for these things, but needing and wanting are two different things! I fully recognize that shopping (especially for a baby) is fun. So if you want to buy some of these things brand-new, and you have the money to do it – then go crazy, my friend! ;)

2 Newborn Baby Items You Should Probably Buy New

  • CRIB: Buying a used crib, or borrowing one from a friend, can be dicey. That’s because in 2011, the CPSC issued new regulations for crib manufacturers. Cribs sold prior to these new regulations most likely don’t comply with new safety standards, and therefore aren’t considered safe. For instance, most older cribs have drop-sides, and those are big no-no’s by today’s standards.

    Be careful, too, of buying or borrowing a newer used crib – even if it does meet safety standards, there’s no way for you to know if it’s been assembled properly. The only way to ensure proper assembly is to buy a new crib and then assemble it yourself.

  • CAR SEAT: I’m a bit of a cheapskate, but this is one item I was happy to pay full price for. Why? Because used car seats are most likely missing the original manufacturer instructions, and could very well be missing important pieces and parts. And if the car seat has ever been in a serious accident (something you can’t verify, if you buy it used), then its quality is compromised. It’s best to go with a new model, so that you can be sure you have proper installation instructions and all necessary installation equipment, and so that you know the car seat is in perfect working order.

So – what do you think of our list? Any items you’d add or change? Chime in, and help parents of newborns know how to get the most bang for their buck!

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What You Should Know About Newborn Baby Sleeping Patterns

Newborn Baby Sleep PatternsBefore I had children, I remember thinking (based on my very limited experience with babies!) that newborns slept all the time. Most of the newborns I’d see would be fast asleep in their strollers, in their carseats, in their slings, or in their moms’ arms, at any given time of day.

When I had a newborn of my own at home, however, I learned that my observation was only partly true. Yes, newborns do sleep a lot – but they don’t sleep for long!!

What’s that about, anyway? Why are newborns light sleepers? Why do they wake so frequently?

Why Does Your Newborn Baby Wake Frequently?

If you’ve done any reading on newborn sleep, then you know that newborns do, in fact, sleep a lot. On average, newborns sleep anywhere from 14-17 hours in a 24-hour period — that’s a lot of sleep! But here’s the thing – that sleep happens in short, 2-4 hour chunks around the clock. In this way, newborn sleep is far more fragmented than adult sleep – or even older baby and toddler sleep.

Why is newborn sleep so fragmented? Well, in part, it has to do with your newborn’s drive to eat. Remember, your newborn is growing at a phenomenal rate – she will double her birthweight in the first 4-5 months of life! It’s no wonder, then, that she needs to feed every few hours. Her tummy is small, and her calorie needs are quite high.

But hunger isn’t the only driving force behind your newborn’s frequent waking.

Your Newborn Baby’s Sleep Cycles Explained

The truth is, your newborn’s sleeping patterns are very different from yours. We adults tend to have longer sleep cycles – ours last anywhere from 90 – 100 minutes. And the majority of our sleep cycles are spent in deep sleep, with only a small percentage spent in more active, REM sleep.

But things are very different for your newborn. For one thing, your newborn’s sleep cycles are much shorter – they are only about 50 minutes long. That’s almost half as long as yours! And it’s not just sleep cycle length that’s different. Newborns spend way more time in active sleep than we adults do, and way less in deep sleep. In fact, it’s estimated that newborns spend about 75% of their sleep time in active sleep, compared to 20% for adults.

Short Cycles + Lots of Active Sleep = A Newborn Baby Who Wakes Up A Lot

Here’s how all these scientific facts fit together. It’s during the transition from one sleep cycle to the next that a person is most likely to wake up briefly. This is true for children and adults alike. If you think about it, this makes sense – you probably wake sometimes in the middle of the night, for no apparent reason, and then roll over and go back to sleep. That’s most likely because your brain was moving from one sleep cycle to the next. The same thing happens to your newborn.

But here’s the thing – your newborn goes through many more sleep cycles each night than you do. While we adults may have 4 or 5 sleep cycles in a given night, your newborn has up to twice that many. That means double the chances of waking up between cycles.

And we have to take all that active sleep into account, too. Active sleep tends to be lighter sleep – when we are in active, REM sleep, we are dreaming, and tend to stir and move more frequently. We are also much more prone to being woken up during active sleep. The same is true for your newborn – during lighter sleep, your newborn is more vulnerable to being awoken.

So when you add these two facts together – the fact that your newborn goes through many more sleep cycles each night, and the fact that newborns spend the majority of their sleep time in light, active sleep – and then you add in the round-the-clock need for food, it’s easier to understand why your newborn wakes often.

Why Are Your Newborn Baby’s Sleeping Patterns So Different?

We know the ‘what’ behind newborn sleeping patterns, but what about the why? Why do our newborns have many short sleep cycles, and why do they spend so much time in active sleep?

As it turns out, your newborn’s sleeping patterns are designed to keep your little one healthy and safe. The fact that your newborn spends lots of time in active sleep ensures that she will wake up to feed; it may also help to protect babies from SIDS. Some researchers have also indicated that the long amounts of time newborns spend in active sleep is crucial to their brain development.

What Does This Mean For You?

Well, it clearly means that if you have a sleepless newborn on your hands, that is completely normal! For the first 8-12 weeks of life, babies really do need to wake every few hours in order to eat, and they need to have more active sleep so that their brains develop normally.

But of course, the newborn stage is short-lived – by 4 months or so, most babies are ready to start having a long stretch of sleep at night. And by about 9 months of age, most babies are either sleeping through the night or are down to just one nighttime feeding. So yes – it does get better!

Don’t let all this talk about how normal night wakings are make you think that there’s nothing you can do to maximize your newborn’s nighttime sleep, however. While you can’t expect a newborn to sleep through the night, there are gentle, safe things you can do to help maximize your newborn’s sleep.

Questions about your newborn’s sleeping patterns? Tips to share on how to improve newborn sleep? Share ‘em below, in the comments!

  • Need more sleep training resources? We have a ton! Browse our list of e-books and e-book packages, designed to help your baby or toddler better sleeping and napping habits. We even have a book that’s designed just for newborns, and focuses on gentle methods to shift sleep! These are perfect solutions for parents who want to sleep train on their own, but need more information.
  • Want 5 free e-Books, plus a weekly chat with a consultant? Join our Members Area packed with exclusive content and resources: e-Books, assessments, detailed case studies, expert advice, peer support, and teleseminars. It actually costs less to join than buying products separately! And as a member, you have access to a once-a-week chat with one of our expert sleep consultants – ideal for those times when you need some expert advice!.
  • Need Personalized Help? For those looking for a more customized solution for your unique situation with support along the way, please consider one-on-one baby and toddler sleep consultations, where you will receive a Personalized Sleep Plan™ you can feel good about! Sometimes it’s not that you can’t make a plan. Sometimes you’re just too tired to.

Top 10 Tips for Sleep-Deprived Royalty

Top 10 Tips for Sleep Deprived RoyaltyUnless you’ve been hiding under a rock for the past week, you’ve likely heard the news: Great Britain has a new prince! His Royal Highness, Prince George Alexander Louis of Cambridge, was welcomed by the world on Monday, July 22nd. Parents William and Kate looked thrilled as they presented their new baby to the public a week ago.

Of course, by this time, they’re probably both looking more than a little tired as well. As every parent knows, few things are as mind-numbingly, soul-crushingly, “I-could-just-die-I’m-so-tired” exhausting as having a newborn in the house. While the royal couple will likely have quite a bit more help than the average new parent can expect, William and Kate are still in for some bleary-eyed days and sleepless nights in the months ahead. Even royals need 6-8 hours of sleep each night – and the little prince isn’t going to let that happen any time soon!

Luckily for William and Kate, we’re here to help. We’re offering up 10 royalty-themed tips that are sure to help mom, dad, and little George get plenty of sleep during the next few months.

  1. Sleep When The Baby Sleeps. None of us should be surprised if, in the next few months, we see the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge sacked out and drooling in the back of a limo. After all, new parents need to take every opportunity to nap – even if that opportunity happens to be during a royal motorcade.
  2. Don’t Be Afraid to Ask For Help. Remember: Charles and Camilla are just a phone call away.
  3. Create a Flexible Schedule. At this point, George’s daily schedule will mainly consist of eating and sleeping. But try to work in a few playtime activities each day, like tummy time, snuggling, reading board books, and watching parliamentary debates. You know — the usual.
  4. Swaddle George When He’s Fussy. Just be sure to leave his right hand free. A prince has gotta practice his royal wave, after all!
  5. Try Wearing George Around the House. Baby-wearing is another sure-fire way to calm George when he cries. Now, as far as we know, Alexander McQueen hasn’t yet introduced a line of baby slings. But then again, Kate, you would probably rock an Ergobaby.
  6. Develop a Bedtime Routine. Create a routine that helps George relax and settle in for bed. A bath, a few bedtime books, and a round of “God Save The Queen” should do the trick.
  7. Take Turns Doing the Night Shift. Note to William: nothing is sexier than a future monarch who changes diapers at 2 a.m.
  8. Avoid Overstimulation. An overstimulated baby is a fussy baby, and a fussy baby is a sleepless baby. So, when possible, ask the noisy crowds of adoring Brits to keep it down, and request that the hordes of paparazzi ease up on the pictures a little.
  9. Make Time For Yourselves. It’ll be easy to get lost in the demands of caring for little George. So be sure to make time for yourselves every once in awhile, to indulge in the kinds of grown-up activities that everyone enjoys: a trip to the gym, a visit to the spa, a spot of tea with Her Majesty the Queen, etc.
  10. Remember: We’re all rooting for you. This fact may not make your nights any easier, but it’s true: the whole world is celebrating this birth and cheering you on! May you both be blessed in your new role as parents, and may little George be sleeping through the night soon! :)

What tips would you offer the royal couple? Share them below!

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