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  1. Heather says:

    20 month old twins going through a sleep regression. I thought we had this sleep thing all figured out, naps and nighttime, until a couple of weeks ago. The twins share a room, of course, and one seems to go and stay to sleep pretty well…but the other one will just stand up and scream and cry. Help!

    • Janelle Reid says:

      Hi @Heather, hang in there! Sleep regressions are tough with one baby, so I can only imagine the added difficulty with two!! With regressions the key is definitely staying consistent and not creating bad habits for the baby that is struggling, and of course you have to maintain a balance to make sure the other doesn’t wake up. Here are some tips for room sharing that may (hopefully) help although I’m sure you are pretty comfortable with that aspect at this point: https://www.babysleepsite.com/siblings/sibling-room-sharing-tips/
      If things don’t resolve soon or the other starts waking too and you are feeling overwhelmed, let us know. We can help but I do think you would benefit the most from working with one of our expert sleep consultants that can give you specific advise. We often work with families with multiples and would love to work with you. To read more about our services you can visit here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-toddler-sleep-consulting-services/
      Hang in there! I hope this passes for you soon!

  2. Debbye says:

    @ Twins And Multiples- Thanks for writing! We are so glad that our information is helpful! 🙂

    @ Carrie- I understand how tired you must be from all these months of interrupted sleep. Your situation is especially hard because of your son’s history, and you do want to be sensitive to that. 🙂 You can wean him from the bottles more gently than cold turkey, but are most likely in for a few hard days or so, no matter the approach you take. You can try removing one feed at a time, so he can get used to eating less at night, and then be there to help him through without the bottle. After a couple or few days, remove one more feeding until he is no longer eating at night. Because you have already worked so hard at this, you may want to consider a sleep consultation package, where we can work with you to create a specific plan to follow, and support you through it. You can read more here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/services/
    I hope things do improve soon, and good luck!

  3. Carrie says:

    I have 4 internationally adopted children 4,3, 15 months and 13 months. My 2 youngest were in foster care together and came home together in April so they are “virtual” twins. The youngest has had huge sleep issues from the moment he was place in our arms. He has a very itchy skin condition on his feet (side effect of orphanage living) that flairs up from time to time, but there is no cure and basically no treatment, just something he will grow out of in his preschool years. Initially that kept him from sleeping for more than an hour or so at a time. The only thing that would soothe him was a bottle. Well now 7 months later he is still waking up 2-3 times a night and without a bottle he will not go back to sleep. Rocking, carrying, bouncing, pacifier, music, we’ve tried it all. He just screams and screams until he is hoarse. On top of all this he is a VERY light sleeper. We have had to move him into our room so that he doesn’t wake up his “twin” and our 3 year old (who by the way sleep through the night like logs). I am sure that at least part of his sleep problem is adoption/attachement related, but it is wearing us down. He does not self soothe (even when awake) and we can’t think of anything to replace his bottle with. Do we just have to cold turkey it, live with a few nights of screaming to break him of the bottle? Thanks in advance for any input.

  4. This blog has provided me really important and useful information.It helps me to keep twins or multiples on the same sleep and feeding schedule.

    Really thankful to this article.

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  5. Meg Waller says:

    I have 22 month old twin boys. I agree–the first few months are the hardest ( I had a 3 and 5 year old when they were born…it was a totally different experience with twins). It definitely helps to try and coordinate schedules; however, I found sometimes i probably focused on this too much. My boys were short nappers until around 9 months, but I often wonder if I sabotaged one twins sleep at times, as I would wake the second twin within a reasonable amount of time to try and get them to go back down together. I started a routine and “teaching” them to put themselves to sleep early–before 4 months. Books, sleep sack on with lovey, and bed! Thankfully, they do still nap together(often 2 or 3 hours, yay!!) and share a bedtime at night. However, it is nice when one wakes up a bit earlier than the other at times so we can have a little one on one time! We still have occasional off nights/days, but overall things are much smoother, and easier now. For any mom’s of infant twins out there, I would recommend getting as much help as you can, especially so you can get a break or a nap!

  6. I have 10 month old b/b twins. As you mentioned in your article the first few months are brutal! We started sleep coaching when the boys were about 7 months old, using somewhat of a cry it out approach. This worked beautifully until they could pull themselves up in the crib. They would stand and scream at each other for hours. So we went back to rocking. I am a stay at home mom, so I am alone with them during the day, which as you say in the article is very difficult. We have only hired a babysitter once since I am so worried that the babysitter will not be able to get them asleep on his/her own. When I am alone, I was using a staggered approach, rock and get one baby to sleep, then do the same with the next. As I was rocking the first baby to sleep the other would be in their playpen in the living room watching Yo Gabba Gabba. This staggered approach only worked for about a month and then the boy that would be watching TV as I rocked the other one, began to scream when I would leave the room. So we are now in the process of sleep coaching again. It is a long process, but we have little successes everyday. I usually rock each of them for about 5 mins. and then put them in their crib with their paci and stuffed animal and pat their bottom. Then I leave the room. I come back in the room to lay them down every 15 mins. Some days it will take over an hour for them to get to sleep for naps. They usually are not crying, but playing/chatting with each other. They usually sleep for an hour each naptime, which is twice a day. Night time has gotten much better and they are back to sleeping through the night…mostly. I believe that we had created sleep associations with the rocking and they were having trouble getting themselves back to sleep in the middle of the night. Hopefully the boys will be able to fall asleep on their own soon and I can feel confident leaving them with a babysitter at bedtime. In due time!

    • Nicole says:

      @Christina It sounds like it’s been an exhausting 10 months, but you’re finding your bearings! I’m sure the boys will be sleeping better in no time and more date nights are in your future! 🙂

      @Meg Wow! 4 kids with the youngest being twins must be tough! It sounds like you’re a super mom! 🙂 Thank you for sharing your story with everyone!

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