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  1. Sarah says:

    Hi Julie!
    Question….my 3 week old loves his paci, but I usually have to put it back in about 10 or 15min into his naps, sometimes 2 or 3 times in a row. I also have to put it back in a few times at night. I want to set myself up for success, as my previous baby wound up waking 15 times per night for the paci by 3 months old! Would you just go to him and pat him, etc, while he fusses instead of replacing the paci and hope he learns to go back to sleep without it? Or should I just wait and only do something if it gets worse? I would love to just let him learn to self soothe but feel like he can’t as he is swaddled right now…everything I’ve read says to do this til he is at least 4months old though, and I’m worried about how bad things will get up until then! I’d like to move him out of our room before then as well, but won’t get any sleep if I’m walking back and forth all night. So basically, is he too little to not replace the paci? Does it matter if he’s swaddled? If not, how would I do it? Thanks!!

    • Janelle Reid says:

      Hi @Sarah, thanks for writing to us and congratulations on your new baby! Honestly, the answer to that question is going to be up to you. If you know your baby is waking because he wants the paci and he is not fussing because he is hungry, then how you approach it is going to be your decision. As it sounds like you know, there will come a point your baby is old enough to replace the paci on his own, but it is a while from now before he’ll be able to get there. I’ve heard of different approaches and some parents decide to let them fall asleep with it but then remove it, helping them learn to sleep without it, or some parents never use them at all (I did this with my second and regret it as he’s now addicted to sucking his fingers which I can’t take away). Here is a link to a free guide to help with your newborn’s sleep – while we agree we wouldn’t want you to do any formal sleep training until closer to 4 months and generally suggest to help your baby as he needs it at this age, there are still natural ways to help soothe your baby: https://www.babysleepsite.com/15-free-baby-sleep-facts-new-parents-must-know/
      I hope this helps! We also have an ebook all about sleep for newborns that starts from now through the first year if you want a little more in-depth information on that you can read about it here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/essential-keys-to-your-newborns-sleep/
      Thanks again!

  2. Erin says:

    My 9 month old has never had a pacifier but wakes every 1-2hrs at night and often will only go back to sleep suckling At breast. She has never fed to sleep for naps, should I introduce one at this stage?

    • Jessica Diller says:

      @Erin I’m sorry your daughter has been waking so frequently at night. It sounds as though your 9 month old may have a sleep association that is keeping her from putting herself back to sleep when she wakes up during the night. I recommend reading this article that specifically addresses sleep associations: https://www.babysleepsite.com/sleep-training/sleep-association/

  3. Debbye says:

    Hi Julie,
    Yes, you can wean him from the pacifier at night but continue to use it during the day. Actually I did just that! Different parts of the brain handle naps and nights, so you can be inconsistent about how most babies get to sleep for naps and nights. This age can often be a difficult one with regards to baby sleep too. At this age, their sleep becomes more like an adults as they begin to mature and have deep and light sleep cycles. We don’t usually recommend sleep training until a baby is at least 4 months old and often most babies are not ready until between 4-7 months of age when they have gained a better ability to learn how to self soothe, which is a key skill to them learning how to go to sleep and stay asleep on their own. That doesn’t mean you can’t Try!!! Go ahead and remove the pacifier and begin to teach him how to fall asleep on his own. He is young, and will forget all about the pacifier very quickly!
    Good luck!!!

  4. Julie says:

    Our son is waking 10-20 times per night wanting the pacifier. He is only barely 4 months old. Is it possible to still give it to him during the day, but sleep train him for night? Is sleep training even possible at this age? (I feel mean taking it away from him when he is so young, but I am exhausted!!!)

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