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  1. Sarah Varnell says:

    I’ve heard toddlers will often drop their nap when weaned from the paci, even if they’re too young to go all day without sleeping (our toddler is 2.5). Is this true? Any ways to help prevent that?

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says:

      Hi @Sarah – Thank you for writing to us! We received your other comment too, but thought I’d reply here as well!!! We find that toddlers can and will sleep again after weaning the pacifier, though it can be a bumpy road sometimes (depending on how attached she was to the paci)! Keep offering those naps and be patient as she adjusts to learning how to nap without it!
      Good luck Sarah – and if you find that you need more help, please contact us any time!

  2. Katie says:

    We actually just took the paci away from our almost 15 month old, who used it for naps and nighttime. We liked it as much as she did, but it was moving her teeth and we were worried about palette development, etc. So far, it’s been surprisingly smooth.

    Snipped a small piece off of the end and showed her in the late afternoon – telling her it was broken/ doesn’t work anymore/ she’ll be able to sleep without it now… She was very interested – would suck on it and it’d pop out, she’d grab it off the floor, pop it back in, then take it out and hand it to us, then wanted it back, etc.

    So, bedtime routine as usual until we got to book time, when she’d ask for paci and suck while we read a couple books. She asked and I showed it to her reminding her it was broken and she could sleep without it. She threw it on the floor and i left it there and we read books, i sang to her as usual as i turned off the light and put her down – she wanted rocked , so I rocked her, had to remind her a couple times it was broken, and it was time to sleep….

    Then she wanted in her crib and went to sleep without a peep… and slept all night.
    We were shocked.

    I recommend this approach!!! Should add that her paci was only for sleeping – she never had it outside of sleep times.

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says:

      Hi @Katie – Thanks for writing and for sharing your success story in stopping the pacifier! It is great that your daughter did so well with this, and we hope that it continues! Thanks again for sharing, and we hope that you’ll keep reading!

  3. Steph says:

    Our son only used his paci in his crib but our pediatrician told us it was time to get rid of it. We decided to use the cold turkey approach to take the paci from our 16 month old son. However it has been 2 months now and he still screams and cries for 5-15 minutes at nap time and bed time in his crib and it isn’t getting better. What should we do? Should we give them back to him and try a different approach? Help! It breaks my heart to hear him cry so much every time he goes to sleep. Going in and soothing him doesn’t help either because he starts up crying again when we leave the room. Looking for some advice!

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says:

      Hi @Steph – Thanks for writing! I’m sorry to hear that your toddler had such a tough time giving up the pacifier! It’s been quite a while now, so it may not be the pacifier that he is missing when he cries. While it is common for some babies or toddlers to cry for a few minutes before sleeping, you may want to take a peek at his before sleep routine, and fine tune to help him get relaxed and ready for sleep, and take a look at your toddler’s schedule to make sure that he is being offered sleep at good times for him. Feel free to use our free schedules as a guide. Here is a link:
      https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-sleep-feeding-schedules/
      You can talk to your pediatrician about offering the pacifier again, since he thought it was time to wean him from it.
      Good luck Steph! I hope things smooth out soon!

  4. Caroline says:

    Giving up a pacifier can be traumatizing for both the baby and the mother. It was for us, she just didn’t want to stop using it. Had to ask for some help from outside, so reached out to the books. found one of the best by Susan Urban. She gives clear instructions to follow, keeping the process short and accurate. What to do when hysteria attacks happen? Well there is the answer. Really recommend. Made early parenting a bit less stressful 🙂

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says:

      Thanks for sharing what worked for you @Caroline!

  5. Christine Ekstrom says:

    My 19 month old was doing fine self-weaning from the pacifier right at 12 months old. He would just suck on it for maybe 10 seconds, fall asleep and not use it for the rest the night. I never took it with us if we left the house from birth on so it was purely a sleep associated thing and he was not allowed to use it walking around the house either. However, I went back to working overnight shifts once he turned a-year-old. I work 2 to 3 nights a week and if he woke up my husband would offer him the pacifier. He still breast-feeds, but just once or twice in 24 hour period for about five minutes. I didn’t want him screaming for me if I wasn’t home and keeping my husband up all night so I thought the pacifier was an OK option. So fast forward six months and he got super attached to the pacifier. He asked for it constantly, and we insist that it’s only for naptime and bedtime and they stay in his crib. Sometimes he asks to sit in his crib just so he can suck on it now! I would like him off of it as he’s approaching two years and is getting super attached. Should I go cold turkey or is there a gentler approach you would recommend? I feel bad because obviously he used it as a replacement soother since I went back to work.

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says:

      Hi @Christine – Thanks for writing! how you choose to wean the pacifier is up to you! Many go “cold turkey” while other like to go more slowly, for example, taking it away for naps, but nighttime is okay, and then removing all together. As a toddler now, your son may not like the idea of saying goodbye to the paci, but involving him by letting him know ahead of time and sticking with what you decide will be helpful! Use the tips in this article too! I hope things go very smoothly!

  6. Cayla Poblacion says:

    My daughter is five months old. She has always taken the pacifier but only for naps bedtime and car rides. She has always slept pretty well through the night only waking to nurse wants and sometimes waking for the pacifier one or two times. Couple of days she has been waking every 1 to 2 hours for her pacifier. Should I wean her off of it now? She is also still in arms up swaddle. Thank you!

    • Danielle says:

      Hi Cayla,
      Thank you for using The Baby Sleep Site as a resource! When to start weaning the pacifier is a really personal choice depending on your situation. Basically, if you feel like the pacifier is hurting sleep, more than it’s helping, we recommend going ahead and weaning. We do have another article I recommend when you’re deciding, as sometimes you can help your baby learn to retrieve the pacifier herself instead of weaning: https://www.babysleepsite.com/sleep-training/the-pacifier-trick-every-parent-should-know/
      I hope this helps!

  7. Michelle says:

    Hi there!

    My little man is 4 months old and was horribly colicky since 2 weeks old. As a result, he was held/rocked/bounced/nursed constantly to help simmer the crying. Now that the colic has subsided, he can not (I mean this very literally) CAN NOT fall asleep on his own. He has never done it not even in the car or stroller. He will scream for hours if allowed to and will not tire into sleep (CIO would never be effective for him) He often takes upwards of 45 minutes to settle to sleep with rocking/bouncing and the pacifier for a nap that lasts no longer than 30 minutes. At night, he is awake 5-7 times when I usually cave and nurse him to sleep out of sheer survival. I know he needs to learn to fall asleep, and more importantly, back to sleep on his own because he is living in a perpetual state of fatigue and overtiredness…not to mention my husband and I are severely sleep deprived. Just popping the pacifier back in does not settle him back to sleep. My question is, would a cold turkey approach work in this situation? If so, should I introduce a other soothing technique like a lovey as a more “independent” sleep association? Lastly, I know you can’t predict the future, but how long can I expect this training to take? I should also mention he is exclusively breastfed and I fully understand babies wake to nurse 1-3 times a night…of which I am more than happy to do. 5-7 times with a early wake up at 5am is not ALL hunger related. His sleep environment is ideal: Black out shades, white noise, 70-72 degrees. Thank you to anyone reading this and thank you in advance for your time. My tired little body appreciates it 🙂

    • Janelle Reid says:

      Hi @Michelle, thank you for visiting the Baby Sleep Site. I am so sorry to hear your son experienced colic and while you are still struggling with his sleep, I am happy for you that that part of the sleep trouble has been resolved. We would love to help. Without knowing the full history, sleep routine, etc, it is difficult for me to offer specific advise, but we do offer this in our one-on-one sleep consultations. What may help is reading through our free guide to help your child sleep through the night (and you are correct, a few night wakings are ok at this age, but it sounds like he’s got some sleep associations waking him up so the guide can still provide advise to get him back on track): https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-sleep-through-night-free-ebook/
      He is at a great age to begin teaching him this skill, but hang in there as it can be challenging. If it doesn’t stick yet, some babies respond better more around 6 months (my first was ready at 4, my second at 6, so they are all different). If you’re interested in walking through this with someone that will offer help each step of the way, be sure to read about our Personalized Consultation Packages here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-toddler-sleep-consulting-services/
      Hang in there! Let us know if you need anything else.

  8. Emerald Rose Smith says:

    I am doing the cold turkey method with my 2yr old. He was deeply attached to his pacifier. It started out that we were only giving it to him at nap times and bedtime. It eventually turned into all day long. Which I feel isn’t great. On top of that, my toddler started chewing on them. His pacifier were starting to tear and become a hazard to him. Thats when I decided it was time to get rid of the pacifier.

    Yesterday was the first day. He did pretty well throughout the day, but at bedtime is when he was really missing it. He was having trouble sleeping, so I decided to rock him to sleep. Is that bad? I feel like I’m starting a new bad habit.

    Today is Day 2 and the moment he woke up, he was looking for his pacifier. He continues to whine for it. I know I need to stand firm.

    Any suggestions? Thank you.

    • Danielle says:

      Hi Emerald,
      Thanks for your comment! It sounds like you are doing great work. Weaning the pacifier can be hard, but setting an empathetic, but firm, limit will be your best bet. Good luck with everything!

    • Frida says:

      I read in some book, I think it was something like ‘how to help your child give up the pacifier?’, that your strongest weapon is an absolute consistency, no matter what method you will choose. I also wanted to go ‘cold turkey’ or what is also called the three step method. It took me three weeks with my one year old, first few days were even ok, but then he noticed that something is wrong and here came a first crisis. But I stayed strong and somehow we did it 🙂 Today sometimes I need more time to put him to sleep because he needs some comfort, but it is better than weaning the pacifier later.

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