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Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.

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  1. Adele says

    My 17 month daughter has no problem being put to bed or fall asleep on her own. However, she wakes early from her nap and night sleep. Her nap is around 12:15 for 1.5 hrs. Her night sleep is from 7pm to 5:30am. Both sleep she will wake up and immediately throw her stuffie out of the crib and will cry until we decide to get her. How can I ger naps and night sleep longer? She is tired throughout the day and has lots of tantrums especially in the late afternoon.

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says

      Hi @Adele – Thank you for writing to us! While your toddler’s total nap time is on the average scale, those early morning wake ups can be tough!! If she has not been doing this long, it may be a temporary regression, which will hopefully smooth out, as long as you are not encouraging it by getting her up consistently at the 5:30am hour.
      Here is an article that may help understand that:
      If she has been only sleeping for 10 hours at night for a while (more than a few weeks), and is clearly tired, you may want to try and add another quick nap in the schedule temporarily, just to get her a little more sleep.
      Again, those early morning wake ups are tough, and we recommend treating them as you would a middle of the night wake up, so that she knows it is still time to be asleep!
      Adjusting her schedule may help, and one of our expert sleep consultants can help with that! If you find that things do not smooth out, and you need more help, please check out our offerings here:
      Good luck and thanks again for visiting!

  2. Racial says

    We saw that our daughter had a 45 minute fuss, and if we left her alone she really would go back to sleep, and sleep for hours. Now I know why! Thank you.

    • Janelle Reid says

      @Racial – We are glad the article was helpful! Thank you for stopping by!

  3. Laura says

    My 2.5yo is waking up early between 4:45-5:30. He will sit in his crib for about 10-15 minutes and then just starts screaming. We don’t go in until 6 so it’s
    not like he has learned if wakes up early we come earlier. He takes one midday nap typically around noon and it lasts 1-2 hours. He is not necessarily cranky when first wakes but is definitely tired because he is having a lot more meltdowns during the day. We have tried earlier and later bedtimes and nothing seems to work. Any other ideas? Is he ready for one of those clocks where it turns green when okay to come out of bed? Would that maybe help at least with screaming? I would love for him to just sleep till 6 and not scream. We also have a 5 mo and I feel like my toddler’s screaming is starting to wake my baby.

    • Janelle Reid says

      @Laura, thank you for writing! I am so sorry to hear you are struggling with early wakings from your toddler. Here is a link to a sample toddler schedule for you to use as a reference and see if there are any changes there you may need to adjust (note: it’s just a sample but will give you a good idea of time gaps):
      I have 2 babies with a similar age gap to yours and went through this exact same thing with my toddler and I also bought an OK to Wake clock at that time! It helped us a lot, but definitely took some patience on my part explaining it to him before he really “got it”. I also found that when the new baby came alone my toddler started pushing more boundaries with his sleep to get my attention so I had to find a balance of juggling life with two! So he may be adjusting to that as well and experiencing some FOMO (fear of missing out) like my son did.
      Here are a couple other links with some resources that will hopefully help:
      Thanks for using the Baby Sleep Site as a resource, and I hope you see a change soon!

  4. Caitlin Beam says

    Help! My 22 month old has been waking at 3:45/4 for the past week and a half. I though that it was just a regression that would pass, but we are still in it. I think it is partly hunger- he demands food as soon as he is awake. I try not to feed him before 5, but sometimes he is inconsolable, and cries through his breakfast. He eats dinner at 5:30 and I take him upstairs at 6:30 for bath/bed routine. I offer a bedtime snack, but he usually doesn’t want it since he literally just ate. I try not to pick him up and get him out of bed, but he cries unless I am rubbing his back. His room shares a wall with his big sister, and sometimes he wakes her up too. So, what should I do? Stay in the room with him rubbing his back until 6? And if he is out of bed at 4:00, what time do I put him to nap? He is grouchy by 10/11, but I cannot get him
    To take 2 naps anymore. Would love your ideas- thanks!

    • Janelle Reid says

      @Caitlin Beam – Thank you for your comment! I am sorry you are struggling with your sons early wake up calls! Hopefully it is a little regression that will smooth out in the next couple of days or so. We always suggest that at these super early wake ups to treat them as night wakings, rather than allowing them to get up. It may take time to explain this to your son, but hopefully he will get it soon. What’s really worked for my toddler, is I got him an OK to Wake clock, and I set it to light up at a specific time in the morning – when it’s time to wake up! When he was waking early I started by setting it at the earliest time I was comfortable with him getting up – I had to help him understand how it worked at first by staying in the room or doing lots of checks/reminders to wait for the clock to light up. Once he got it I began slowly pushing the time later and later until it was where I wanted. There are mornings he still wakes up early, but he waits quietly in his room until it is time to get up. If you are interested, you can purchase the clock on Amazon here: tag=pinisbr-20

      Additionally, here is a link to a toddler schedule, which includes snack times so you can evaluate if he is getting enough food throughout the day or not:

      I hope this smooths over soon for you! Thank you for using the Baby Sleep Site as a resource for sleep!

  5. Catherine says

    Hi, I was wondering about my son who is 4. He wakes every morning at around 5:45. I know he is still tired because he is rubbing his eyes but refuses to go back to sleep. I even try and lay with him and tell him it’s not time because the sun on his clock has not come up yet. This has been the case for months, but he started school in September and I thought he would definitely sleep better since school, but that’s not the case. I even make sure he is in bed between 6:30-7:30. Why is he still waking so early? He has never been a good sleeper. Thank you.

    • Jessica Diller says

      @Catherine, thank you for your comment. I’m sorry to hear that your little one is having a tough time with early wakings. Sometimes new changes, such as starting a new school, can cause disruptions in sleep. If possible, make adjustments to his daytime nap. Or, if he is no longer napping during the day, try to give him about an hour of “downtime” to recharge his batteries. Reading books or doing puzzles quietly in a dimly lit room can give him a chance to rest and may help prevent these early wakings. You can also try shifting his bedtime later, as children this age need approximately 10-11 hours of sleep at night. It may help to take a look at some of the different toddler schedules for this age:

  6. Lauren Decktor says

    My 20 month old has been waking up around 4:45am every morning. He goes to bed at 7 on the dot and is very tired at that time. He takes one nap a day for about an hour, two max. Is this amount of sleep normal?

  7. Laura says

    My 10 month old has been an early riser for a while now and i dont know what to do to fix it. He sleeps through the night from 7pm but wakes up consistently between 5:15 and 5:45. He naps from 9-10ish and then from 1-2. Sometimes take a cat nap from 4:30-5. Should i eliminate the third nap? Or should i push his bedtime later?


    • Jessica Diller says

      @Laura, Thank you for your question. Early risers can be quite a challenge, and I understand how hard this can be for everyone in the household! If your child is sleeping well through the night, and his only problem is early rising, then I would suggest looking at his naps. You could try to push the first nap to start at 10:00 a.m., and the second nap to begin at 2:00 p.m. You may find that this naturally pushes out the third nap, which may be causing the early wakings. I recommend taking a look at our 10 month schedule to see how you can align it with your son. Here is the link: Best of luck!

  8. Mary says

    Hello, I have a 10,5 months baby that just started childcare. He used to wake up at 6:30 and then have a nap at 10 am for around 2 hours and then at around 15h also almost 2 hours and then he would go to sleep at 20h. Since he started childcare they have been changing his habits and he sleeps now from around 12:15 to 14h and I have no idea when or if he should have a second nap. I am trying at the moment to make him have a second nap at 17h but then he has trouble to go to bed at 20h or even 21h and he still wakes up at 6:30 which I consider quite early. If I continue with the second nap and I put him to sleep at night at 21:30 can I try to make him sleep until 7:30? He wakes often during the night every 2h/2,5h but at 6:30 he normally doesn’t want to go back to sleep.
    Is there something I can do?

    • Jessica Diller says

      @Mary I am sorry to hear that childcare has not been ideal for your son’s sleeping situation. It sounds like you are doing everything in your power to prevent him from becoming overtired, and you are doing a great job! It can be very difficult when a child does not have a consistent schedule. If you haven’t already, I recommend speaking with your childcare provider. Many times they will accommodate your request to maintain a two-nap schedule, which is really the best for your son. Otherwise, I recommend reading this great article that could really help your situation:

      The article will give you a few tips on how to adjust things on your end, and what to expect if your childcare provider is unable to accommodate your scheduling request. I hope this article gives you the information you are looking for. Best of luck!

  9. Rh says

    I dont know what our problem is, little guy is almost 18 months old and usually takes 2 naps. He has been sick last week and slept lots extra and we let him. Now, he is taking a morning nap fine but refuses afternoon nap. So then I try to have just one nap so his wake time isn’t 3 hours, then 7 or 8 hours. He is waking more at night and earlier and in the morning, isn’t going back to sleep very much. I have read all the articles on transitioning naps but can’t quite tell if he is ready. If I do a few days of 1 then try 2, he often just wont take the afternoon one then I am stuck with the 7 hour awake time. I understand it may be the regression or leftovers from his illness as well, I guess it just seems like i still don’t understand what to do. If advice is just wait it out then how do you help them in that meantime? Aren’t they getting crazy thrown off by it, or just lt them throw themselves all over (not literally, yet ha!). If we keep trying for 2 naps and he just refuses the second every day then do I just let him have a crazy long awake time or do I push to the 1 nap so it’s consistently a bit more even? (If it’s the regression).

    • Danielle says

      Hi there! I’m sorry to hear you’re having some trouble with the nap transition. The transition to one nap can be really tough and take a long time for many families, so you’re definitely not alone in it. As you mentioned, this transition can come on the heels of the 18 month sleep regression, which also can cause a big upset in your baby’s usual routines. Based on your description, it does sound like he’s probably ready to transition to one nap, and you can do that by basically pushing back his morning nap time 15-30 minutes every day or every other day until he is taking one midday nap. You may have to offer an earlier bedtime during the transition to offset the big awake time, and his schedule and night sleep will be “off” from anywhere from a few days to 2 weeks, but that can be normal, even though I know it can be frustrating.

      You mentioned you’ve already read many of our articles, but if you do need more help with this issue, our Member’s Area has a lot of nap transition resources, and we also offer a weekly chat with a sleep consultant where you get questions like this answered directly by one of our senior consultants. If you’re still having trouble after trying to transition for a week or so, that might be a good option for you to get some support. You can read more about our Member’s Area here:
      Thanks for reading and commenting, and good luck with everything!

  10. Kylie says

    Help! My 9 month old nurses to fall asleep around 7:30/8pm most nights. She sleeps in her crib but wakes up at 10pm, 2am and 5am if not more often crying and won’t go back to sleep on her own. I’m at the end of my rope I’m so tired.

    • Neosha says

      @Kylie Oh no, I’m sorry to hear that your little girl wakes so frequently at night! It sounds as though she may have developed a sleep association that is keeping her from sleeping in longer stretches – possibly with feeding. The goal is to have her fall asleep at bedtime on her own with minimal support from you, and be able to fall back to sleep on her own when she wakes without feeling she needs help in order to be able to. This is a process that may take some time but if you stay consistent and committed to the process, you should see results! You may want to read this series of articles for tips on how to teach her the skills that she needs to be able to learn how to sleep on her own. It will also give you an overview of sleep training techniques: Once you’ve read this, you can see what type of sleep training (if any) you would like to try and then give it at least a week before making changes.

      If you find you would like additional support, you may benefit from one of our Personalized Consultation Packages, where we will work directly with you on a detailed plan you can commit to and feel good about. You can read about all of our sleep packages here:

      I hope this helps – keep us posted and please keep reading! Hang in there, Kylie.