10 Month Old Baby Schedule
Posted by Nicole on September 16th, 2008
This article outlines the average 10 month old baby schedule, including feedings, solids, naps and night sleep.
10 month old’s sleep
At this age, most 10 month olds can sleep through the night, without a feeding, and take two naps for a total of 2 to 2 1/2 hours per day plus 11-12 hours at night. A very small percentage transition to one nap as early as 10 months, but not many, so assume 2 naps unless you are certain. Most babies get very very overtired and sleep can spiral out of control, so I always recommend keeping two naps as long as possible as the average age to transition to one nap is 15-18 months. If you’re having trouble with naps, you might be interested in helping your baby nap.
Although many babies can go all night without a single feeding, in my experience, some do better with one feeding after 4 or 5 a.m. and sleep longer than not feed and get an early wake-time. I would need to know your specific situation to make a recommendation, but just recognize that all babies are different. By this age I would not expect more than 1 feeding, typically, if any at all. I would recommend at least an attempt at night-weaning because it is a chicken and egg problem. It’s hard to encourage more eating during the day when he is eating at night and it’s hard to discourage eating at night when he isn’t eating more during the day.
All babies vary, but here are some rough schedules you can use to make your own for your unique baby. I should warn you that I am in the camp that breast milk or formula should be the primary nutrition for the first year and solids come secondary. Below are the amounts recommended from Super Baby Food, the book I use for reference (as a guide, not as the end-all-be-all because I don’t give my kids nuts before a year or follow other things in the book, but it’s a good reference guide). Another useful reference is Wholesome Baby Food. Although I work full time, I did make most of my baby food (I’d make 1 big batch of something each weekend in 1-2 hours), but even if you don’t, the website is useful as a guide when to introduce what food and other meal ideas.
Note: At 10 months, sometimes you notice a sharp increase in appetite (no doubt partially due to activity levels with crawling and possibly cruising), so what’s different about the 9 month schedule is the addition of another snack, some of the serving sizes and the # of servings.
Amounts per day:
• At least 3-4 nursing sessions per day or 24-32 ounces formula or combination of both
• No more than 6-8 oz of water or juice (to ensure they drink enough breast milk or formula)
• 2 servings (1 serving = 1-2 Tablespoons dry) baby cereal
• 2 servings grain (1 serving = 1/2 slice bread, 2 crackers, 1/2 cup Cheerios, or 1/2 cup whole grain pasta)
• 2 servings fruit (1 serving = 3-4 Tablespoons)
• 2-3 servings vegetable (1 serving = 3-4 Tablespoons)
• 2-3 servings protein (1 serving = 1-2 Tablespoons)
• 1 serving Dairy (1 serving = 1/2 cup yogurt, 1/3 cup cottage cheese or 1 oz grated cheese)
• You can also offer cooked egg yolk (but no egg whites until 1 year old due to allergans)
The first schedule is what I call a “staggered” approach. My first son did better nursing fully and then having solids a bit in between nursing sessions. He was a little hungry but not famished. He just didn’t do well with stopping nursing mid-way to eat solids.
7:00 – Wake and Breast milk or Formula
9:00 – Breakfast
10:00 – Morning Nap (at least 1 hour)
11:00 – Breast milk or Formula plus snack
1:00 – Lunch
2:00 – Early Afternoon Nap (at least 1 hour)
3:00 – Breast milk or Formula plus snack
5:00 – Dinner
6:15 – Begin bedtime routine
7:00 – Breast milk or Formula and Bedtime (goal to be asleep at this time)
If your baby doesn’t mind a more “consolidated” approach to eating, like my second son, here is another type of schedule:
Schedule 2
7:00 – Wake
7:15 – Breakfast plus Breast milk / Formula feeding
9:15 – Snack
10:00 – Morning Nap (at least 1 hour)
12:00 – Lunch plus Breast milk / Formula feeding
2:00 – Afternoon Nap (at least 1 hour)
3:30 – Snack
5:00 – Dinner plus Breast milk / Formula feeding
6:15 – Begin bedtime routine
7:00 – Small BM/Formula feeding (possibly) and Bedtime (goal to be asleep at this time)
Note: When giving any feedings during your bedtime routine, be careful not to create sleep associations, which we saw become important at 4 months old.
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What is your 10-month old’s schedule?
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September 16th, 2008
Great article and very detail explanation!
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September 16th, 2008
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October 10th, 2008
My son is 10 months old and never sleeps more than 2 hours straight at night. And naps are horrible.
Gonna try your tips! Thank you
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February 4th, 2009
My 10-month old schedule:
6h30 wakes and formule
7h30 breakfast
09h30 or 10h00Nap (usually 2 hours) Formule
11h30 or 12h00 wakes and formule
13h00 lunch
14h30 or 15hoo nap (usually 1h to 1h30) and formula
17h30 Dinner
19h00 Bathtime
19h30 Formule and put to bed (usually sleeps around 20h. Is my baby sleeping too much during the day? Should i wake him up earlier? He will be 11 months in one week. He doesn’t take more than 30oz a day. i split his formule into smaller amounts.
February 4th, 2009
I have 10 month old twins–one loves eating and the other refuses to eat most of the time. The one that hated eating until my Dr told me to try finger foods with her at 6 months. I could not believe it, but she loved it and did so well–she was even self-feeding mid-month that month. Now she eats anything I put in front of her. My other one will eat squash or sweet potatoes (and not even that all the time). What gives?
My schedule is this:
6-6:30 AM–wake, eat 4 oz bottle, back to sleep
8-8:30 AM–wake up
9 AM–breakfast (usually one baby eats and takes a bottle while the other
one refuses food and only takes a bottle–and yes, I have tried formula
then food, food then formula, formula and food, every variety of
food….). They take about a 6 oz bottle here or before 10AM
10:30–11AM–Nap–1 to 2 hours (sometimes one will go 3 hours)
12:30-1:30–lunch (same pattern as breakfast–except the one that
doesn’t really eat takes a 6 oz bottle and the other one eats, takes
water, then about a half hour later wants about a 4 oz bottle)
3:30-4:30 6 oz bottles and then a nap (1 hour usually)
5:30–Dinner (both will usually eat here)
6:30–4-6 oz bottle
7:30 Bath
8-9 PM 4-6 oz bottle and bedtime.
Does this same normal?
My doctor does not seem concerned that one is not interested in food. She also says not give them juice or yogurt or dairy or cheese??? Oh, and no honey, nuts, fish, etc….
My girls actually love water, so I am happy I never gave into juice. They are growing fine and about average for weight. They were born 6.5 weeks early, so maybe this has something to do with it? Any ideas?
February 5th, 2009
@Yolanda Your 10 month old napping sounds great! As for whether it’s “too much” I can’t answer without knowing how he’s sleeping at night. In general, if there are no sleep problems, a baby won’t sleep too much. 3 1/2 hours is probably on the high-end at this age (assuming he’s sleeping at least 10 hours at night), but well within normal range.
@Tel It sounds very normal to me. It just goes to show that all babies are different, even twins! I would not worry about the twin who isn’t eating. She will, eventually. Most babies don’t need any water until 10+ months and I didn’t give my boys juice until after a year and then watered it down. Juice has a lot of sugar in it, so better to give the fruit rather than the juice. In fact, when my eldest was 3 and went to his first dental appointment, they said they were seeing a rise in cavities and to limit juice to once per day. I am not sure why your pediatrician said no yogurt, dairy or cheese, but some pediatricians are more cautious than others when it comes to allergies. Honey should not be given until after 1, some even wait until 2, due to botulism. Nuts, fish and seafood should wait until at least 1 year (some people wait until 2 for nuts) due to allergies.
February 16th, 2009
my son is 10months old he goes to bed between 7-8 and wakes between 10-11 thenhe wakes at 12ishhe has 1oz of progress milk and goesback to sleep but seems ver unsetted
February 20th, 2009
my daughter is almost 10 months old. she was sleeping all night but now has decided to wake in the middle of the night or wake earlier than her normal time. she wakes now between 5:30 and 6:15. She was sleeping till 7. her bedtime is anywhere between 7-7:30.
April 7th, 2009
My daughter is 10 months and is constantly fighting the afternoon nap. I am trying to put her on a schedule so that she naps b/n 9-10am and then b/n 2 and 3pm. However, her morning wakings vary so much (she usually goes to bed b/n 6 and 7pm). What do you do when you are trying to get them on a routine but they always wake a different time?? If she wakes at 5am, I can’t keep her up until 9 or 10 or she’ll be overtired. I’m baffled about what to do. She will nap if we are out and I know she is tired but she will just cry if I try to put her down in the afternoon.
April 10th, 2009
Tina – we are having the same experience with our 10-month old. She is shifting to 2 naps and the timing for the second one is a crap shoot. Also, she’s been waking up at 5:30 am after consistently waking at 6:30 forever (goes down at 6:45 pm). I can deal with that; it’s the afternoon naps that are a pill. Once in a while she sleeps up to 2 hours, and the rest of the time its still 45 minutes. Arg!
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July 23rd, 2009
My 9 month old (almost 10 mos.) wakes every two to three hours every night. I have tried everything! I have tried putting her down w/o nursing, letting her cry, following the sample schedules etc. Almost every night when I think that “this is the night,” because I did everything right… she still wakes. I normally put her down at night around 8:00. She wakes at 7am and eats breakfast around 8:30. She wants a nap really bad at 9:00 b/c she was up so much at night. (will sleep an hour) My older daughter gets a nap at 12:00 and we have quiet time… my 10 month old falls asleep at this time too. Sometimes she will sleep until 2:00. Somewhere between 4:00 and 6:00 she falls asleep even in my arms or in her highchair. I have tried putting her down for the night at 6:00 only for her to wake at 9:00 full of energy! She is the happiest baby on Earth despite all of this, which helps… and which also makes this hard at the same time. I am just praying that one night she will just sleep all night! Even days when we are out all day and she has only had one nap, she is up all night. I am assuming she has a sleep association problem?? but don’t know how to fix this! I am desperate I guess
July 27th, 2009
Hello,
I started using the staggered approach on my baby (will be 10 months in a few days) boy about a month ago. He has no problem sleeping at night; he is asleep by 7 and wakes up between 6:30 and 7. He is also a very good eater. However, he is a terrible napper. A month ago, he took two 30 minute naps a day. Now, he takes a nap at 10 for 30 to 40 minutes. And he has started refusing his afternoon nap. He just sits/stands in his crib, or walks the perimeter. I am wondering if he is ready to only have one nap a day. If I only give him one nap, what time should it be and how to I adjust the rest of the schedule (for formula and solid feedings)? Another problem, he almost always poops about 10 minutes after I put him in the crib for both of his naps. I can’t let him sleep in a dirty diaper, so I have to go get him and start the process over again. I have tried waiting until he poops before putting him down, but he won’t! It is like he is purposefully waiting until he is in his crib because he knows I will come get him. By the way, I know he poops because I can hear his grunts over the monitor. Any advice?
July 28th, 2009
Hi,
Please comment on how to get baby in a routine, I also have the problem that the morning nap might be 30 min or 2.5 hours, which means the afternoon nap can’t happen at the same time every day.
Also getting the baby asleep in the afternoon is so difficult and sometimes it doesn’t happen because he woke up too late in the morning wich then makes dinner en bedtime at night frustrating. He deffinately needs an afternoon nap.
I would like a 10am nap and a 2pm nap – how can I do this?
August 7th, 2009
My 10 month wakes up every 2 hrs to eat at night time, I think he has gotten into a bad habit. I tried to not give him a bottle but he will not stop screaming if I dont.He takes a morning nap for 1 hr and a noon nap for 1.5- 2 hrs and sometimes he will take one around 3:30 -4:00 for 45 min. I dont have any problem getting him to go down for his nap times , i just put him to bed and he goes right to sleep on his own.I just cant seem to get him to sleep through the night with out feedings. And he wont take a pacifier!
August 7th, 2009
Kristy,
I am in the same situation with my 10 month old. She will not take a pacifier either! I have tried every kind! I am nursing still, but her schedule is very similar to your son’s. Well, at least we are not alone while we are up at night.
August 7th, 2009
@Tiffany Waking every 2 hours is most definitely an issue with sleep associations. My son mastered going TO sleep much sooner than going BACK to sleep throughout the night. You also want to make sure you aren’t rushing in there too soon. Waking between sleep cycles fussing and crying is actually normal. Here’s a link to an article: http://www.babysleepsite.com/sleep-quick-tips/baby-wake-up-crying/ It sounds like she is also transitioning from 3 to 2 naps, so if you do a late nap, limit it to just 30 minutes. I’d love to help more, but need more information and to find out exactly what you’ve tried. Hope this helps!
August 7th, 2009
@Danielle LOL! Babies are so funny about their pooping, sometimes. Maybe he likes the privacy.
Some 10 month olds transition to one nap at this age, but it’s fairly rare. Before you go to one nap, I’d recommend bumping wake time by 30 minutes, first, for the 2nd nap. Make sure you give him time to go back to sleep after a short nap, too. He might take a few days but he might start going back to sleep. He is sleeping well at night, at least, so that’s great! For the pooping, there isn’t much you can do since you’ve already tried to wait him out. I’d probably just put him down, change his diaper, and put him right back down. I wouldn’t necessarily redo the whole routine unless he absolutely needs it. I’d try to make the diaper change as little incentive as possible. Good luck!
August 8th, 2009
I dont rush into the room to soon, But you can only take the screaming for so long , When I get him out to feed him he only takes 2-3 oz and goes right to sleep when I put him back to bed. Last night he woke up at 11:00 I fed him and then he woke up at 12:00 and I thought to myself no way am I getting him up already so I let him scream and it lasted for 50 min I couldnt stand it ( i need my sleep also) So I got him up again he took 3 oz and then slept untill 5:30 .
August 14th, 2009
@Vivien Do you give him time to go back to sleep when he wakes early from a nap? I’d have to know more about what time he wakes up and some other details to tell you exactly how to guarantee a 10am nap. You might want to make sure he’s up at the same time every morning for at least a week to help set his internal clock. Also, I don’t think there is any way you can get a 2pm nap if he’s sleeping 2 1/2 hours at 10am. Some babies are more consistent than others, but with that long of a nap a 10 month old won’t be tired at 2pm.
August 14th, 2009
@Kristy Day and night sleep are handled by two different parts of the brain, so it’s common people will struggle with nights and not naps or the other way around. He most certainly has a sleep association with eating to fall asleep. Have you read my article about that? Here’s the link: http://www.babysleepsite.com/sleep-training/sleep-association/
September 8th, 2009
Hi,
Need your help… please
I have a 10 month old baby who just won’t sleep through the night.
He has no problems going to sleep during the day, I can easily put him in his cot he may have a little whine but will easily fall asleep. Come to bedtime its a different story he is crying once he finally falls asleep he will wake at 11:30pm and it is very difficult to settle him, he keeps throwing himself around his cot trying to get comfortable. As I work I then put him in bed with us and he again won’t settle he throws himself around the bed and can’t seem to relax..he continues to wake during the night and at tomes cry.. . help.
His daily routine:
7- 7:30am Formula (200mls) and Breakfast (this would be cereal with his formula)
9.00am Nap for about an hour
10.00am snack
12.00pm Lunch + 100 mls formula
1:30 – 2.00pm Afternoon nap ( about an hour)
3:30 -4.00 Snack + 100 mls formula
6.00 – 6.30pm Dinner (includes 200 mls formula)
8.30pm – 9.00pm Bedtime ( this is when the trouble begins)
Any suggestions. He does sleep with a pacifier and light music.
September 18th, 2009
@Helen Bedtime is probably too late at 10 months when his nap is earlier in the day. You probably want to bump that to 7 or 7:30 p.m. That might make it easier for him to stay settled. The other thing is probably to phase out the pacifier if he is too dependent on it. You might also want to read about sleep associations: http://www.babysleepsite.com/sleep-training/sleep-association/
September 25th, 2009
Hello I have an almost 10 month old he use to sleep just fine but around 7 or 8 month his sleeping habit has changed for worse. During the day he varies he might take 2 naps time frames change all the time. But the worst is at night, its like he gets a burst of energy and getting him setted down is almost imposible.We do the feeding,then bath and still. Once he goes to sleep after hours of trying, after a couple of hours of sleep he wakes up crying but not totaly wakes, and then I have to go in if not he keeps crying and starts completly waking up. He does this depending the night average 3 to 8 times a night. We dont know what to do anymore we are so tired.He would sleep better when he was younger.
September 25th, 2009
@Paola I’d need a bit more detail on your schedule and routines. It is normal for a sleep regression but not usually for 2 months. I will venture to guess he is not putting himself to sleep and you have to “help” him. The goal is to help him learn to fall asleep on his own, so he doesn’t “need” to call for you at night. Master that and he will probably go back to sleeping well. Good luck!
September 30th, 2009
Hi! My 10 month old used to sleep about 7 hours but when he started teething he went to waking anywhere from 2-6 times a night. I stopped giving him his night feeds about 3 months ago but he still continues to wake 2-3 times during the night. He has a pacifier so i can resettle him with this but it can take a loooong for him to go back to sleep. Often i bring him into my bed because i am so tired and this settles him straight away. He is in the same room as us and i wonder if this is contributing to his waking? Due to room shortages i cannot move him into his own room for another couple of months (about a month after he turns one). He has 2 naps during the day totalling about 2-3 hours. I cant figure out why he wont sleep the whole night, is this normal? When can i expect it to change? I have tried everything – leaving him to cry, picking him up and giving him a cuddle, changing his naps etc but nothing seems to work. Also his bedtime is 7pm and he usually gets up for the day at 7am.
October 15th, 2009
@Shivann It might help to stop replacing the pacifier for him. He’s getting to the age he can replace it himself. Fussing a bit between sleep cycles is normal, so it is possible being in the same room is causing you to hear every little sound and he hears all your sounds, too. I’d need to know in more detail exactly what you’ve tried and what’s going on, but it sounds more about allowing him to learn to re-settle himself during normal nighttime arousals. Good luck!
October 26th, 2009
My 10 month old wont sleep without bouncing. He has always been a motion baby so we got him the Amby motion bed. He slept all the night from 2-5 months till we went on vacation and we didnt have it. The only way to get him to sleep was to nurse and then he discovered I can eat and sleep! Its been like that ever since. We co-sleep now cause he was almost rolling out of the Amby bed and I think its hard for him to not nurse at night since Im right there! We put him in swing or bounce to sleep now. but have now let him start crying some bouncing, laying back down-screaming, bouncing, laying-screaming, bouncing till he is done for the night. This takes a hour! My back cant handle it anymore. Our nap schedule is always random and is mostly when he is tired. And based on when he gets up or how well he sleeps for the night. He usually goes to sleep at 8:30 or 9. and is up at 1, 3 and 5 am. Then up for the day at 6:17 am. But takes one big 2 to 3 hour nap during the afternoon. He wont really eat solids and really only likes yogurt. I heard baby’s sleep better after a good dinner threw the night. Its hard for me to not nurse him and bounce him around at 1, 3 and 5 am when his face is right next to my boobs. Im at the end of my wits and wont just let him cry it out. but we have started to let him fuss alittle to get him to sleep. I really, really dont know what to do at this point anymore. Can babies really fall asleep when you lay them down? I feal like I may never see that light at the end of the tunnel.
November 4th, 2009
my daughter is going to be 10mnths in 3 days and her sleeping paterns are diff every day.
6-7am she has formula 4oz
but then she dosnt wake up until about 10am
10-11am breakfast,
there are times when she will nap and times when she wont if she does nap it would be around 12-2pm with bottle, 6-8oz
she wont have a bottle when she gets up. she will want juice or water.
then 3-4 she eats lunch. after lunch she just plays around walks and runs on the walker.
there are times when she will nap and there are times when she wont she usualy wants a bottle around 6-7pm again 6-8oz. then her bedtime is also ify, sometimes she goes to sleep at 9pm but if she does she wakes up around 10:30 or 11pm and wants another bottle to go back to sleep 6-8oz. she’ll sleep until 7am for another bottle 40z.
i dont know what to do or if this is even okay, ive spoken to her teacher/nutritionist and she says that shes good, her dct says she healthy and developing great. I know shes good i would just love for her to be on a sched and she eats the right amount of food and formula every day. but i just dont know what or how to do it!!
i would really love some advise!!
November 5th, 2009
Hi!I have a 10month old and he’s sleeping paterns are diff every day. he mostly goes to sleep around 11pm sleeps till 1am and drinks breast almost right through the nite he drinks 2and a half bottles of formula during the day but i only make it till100ml cos most of the time we must make fresh bottle then it will be standing for 4hours he will rather drink breast then formula (And iam working so its hard ) he gets up 6am in the morning
November 13th, 2009
@Dawn You are not alone. I can imagine it would be hard for me to sleep when I smelled yummy food cooking all night too.
Are you trying to continue co-sleeping or transition him to his own room/crib? He might sleep better when he can’t smell you or your milk all night. It is definitely possible to help him learn to fall asleep when you lay him down, but it can take some work on your part. Always remember there is a lot between sleep deprivation and cry-it-out. The first step is to stop the movement to sleep. Good luck!
November 14th, 2009
@Margarita Inconsistency is normal for some babies. If you want her to be on a more “regular” schedule, usually you start by controlling the wake-up time. Start waking her earlier in the morning, so she can start to nap earlier, eat earlier and go to bed earlier. Then, you can start giving her naps at regular times. Good luck!
November 22nd, 2009
@Shoukie That sounds really rough. Mostly I’m concerned that your son should be sleeping 11-12 hours at night, so going to bed at 11 p.m. is really really late. You might start with reading my free guide or the article about sleep associations here: http://www.babysleepsite.com/sleep-training/sleep-association
December 4th, 2009
My daughter turns 10 months next week. She is just now learning how to go from laying to a sitting position and sitting to pull herself up to standing. It has been a reall rough few days getting her to lay down for naps and bedtime. She will not stay laying down. Yesterday she was in her crib whining and crying (but obviously really tired!) for over an hour and I finally just got her up because I didnt know how else to get her to sleep.
She usually sleeps 7pm-8am and naps from 10-11:30am and 2:30-3pm. Yesterday she only slept from 1:15-2… the entire day she only had 45 mins of sleep. She slept well lastnight and woke up at 9:15, obviously because she was catching up on sleep from yesterday.
What do you suggest for an active baby who won’t settle? how long do I try to get her to fall asleep before I go in and get her up again?
Thanks in Advance!!
December 4th, 2009
my problem with my 10 mth old daughter is that she will only take a 30 min. nap twice a day…. it used to be twenty min. and has recently jumped to 30. at night she goes to sleep at 7 and usually wakes up four hours later, i soothe her, she goes back to sleep for another 40 min. and the pattern begins yet again until i give up and put her in bed with me. i have also noticed that during naps if she is in bed with me she can sleep up to an hour and a half. what can i do to get her to sleep longer in her crib. thanks!
December 8th, 2009
Hi, i have a problem with 10 month old baby he will go to sleep on his own with a story and sleeps in a grobay, the story is read to him when he is is his crib. he will fall to sleep within a few minutes, however after about an hour he wakes and cries, i have tried reassuring him and then leaving him to cry then going back, but he just continues crying sometimes he will go back to sleep, only to start again in half an hour. Me and my husband both work full days so have to get up in a morning, so we have taken to having our son in bed with us to get some sleep, he sleeps fine like this. he naps in the day fo about an hour to half an hour once a day then will not go for another nap. he used to sleep perectly but this has been happening for the past 6 weeks please help!!
December 14th, 2009
Is it normal for an almost 10 month old to still wake up for feedings 1-2 times a night? I was told he should be sleeping throught the night. He goes to bed anywhere from 9-10pm. He wakes at 1-3 am and then finally wakes up for the day at 7-9 am.
December 29th, 2009
@Mandy This is a common problem at this age when the developmental milestones start coming very rapidly for awhile. It sounds like you did great! I’m sure she’s past this phase, now, but in general I say to try for a nap for an hour and if she doesn’t sleep, get her up and try again an hour later. Be careful about letting her sleep in too much because that can become the new norm. There is only so much sleep to be had in 24 hours, so if she’s getting too much sleep at night, she might not want to take naps. Don’t get me wrong, I’d let her “catch up” for a few days, but much past that and you might have more problems. Good luck!
December 29th, 2009
@Marisol Your nighttime problems sound like your daughter has a sleep association and needs “help” to fall asleep. The key to better night sleep (and probably daytime too) is to help her learn to fall asleep on her own. Mostly it takes practice practice practice. None of us get better at something without having to do it. It’s also about changing expectations. If she expects to sleep next to you all night and day, she will start to feel she “needs” to in order to sleep well. If co-sleeping is not what you want, you want to encourage her to sleep more on her own. Hope this helps! Good luck!
December 29th, 2009
@Leanne 10 months is a common trouble age but since it’s been happening for 6 weeks, it sounds like you need to change your routines. I’d need to know more details about your son’s routines and schedule and what you’ve tried so far. You might want to consider a personalized consultation. I hope to hear from you!
December 29th, 2009
@Jennifer Feeding once a night at 10 months isn’t too outlandish, but feeding twice is probably more habit. I would try to delay the feedings until you are at least at a single feeding after 4 a.m., which is definitely reasonable for a 10-month old. Sometimes just breaking the habit of the first feeding will lead to sleeping all night, so it’s definitely worth a try! Here is my article on night-feedings and how I view “reasonable” feedings by age. http://www.babysleepsite.com/sleep-training/night-feedings-by-age-when-do-you-night-wean/ I don’t agree that all babies can sleep all night by any particular age or weight. Hope this helps and good luck!
January 2nd, 2010
We had the hardest time putting him down to sleep last night due to teething and just not wanting to go to sleep, he finally had to cry a little and get rocked. He went to bed finally at 11:00pm. He woke at 3:30 for a bottle and went back tilll 7:30 this morning. It is almost 10:00am and he is having a nap. He is really hard to put down at night now. But, I think he did good as far as your advice went (waiting till 4:00am). Now if we can only get him back to getting to sleep by no later than 9:00pm.
January 12th, 2010
Hi, my almost 10 month old girl wakes ever night at least every 1-3 hours. She will always fall back asleep right away with the breast. But we are not letting her have that anymore as we don’t want her dependant on it to fall asleep. She never did take a bottle so I am still BF, she sorta drinks from a cup but wont take it at night. She doesnt want a pacifier ethor. I don’t want to not feed her as she is small already, only 16 lbs. I don’t know if she is waking up because she is hungry. She only eats little bits when she has solid food during the day.
She usually wakes between 6-8 a.m and usually has her first nap an hour or 2 later, and she only sleeps for 30 min, unless I am right beside her the whole time. Otherwise she can sleep for up to an hour and a half with me there. Her next nap isn’t untill between 12-2 p.m and again only for 30 min unless I am there. I don’t sleep with her because I want her to get used to sleeping alone. I do once in a while when I am very tired and want a good nap myself!
I try to get her to so sleep during the day more and she wont, she just cries in her crib or squirms in my arms. She has never slept during the night for more then 3 hours. We are very tired and need any suggestions-thnx
What can I do to get her to sleep better during the night and for her naps?
January 27th, 2010
Hello
I don’t know if “nice” is the word to use, but it’s “nice” to read comments from other hair-pulling moms to know I am not alone!
Sleep seems to be the biggest struggle for most moms I know. It’s like “you’re dead tired, why won’t you just roll over, close your eyes and go to sleep!!”. I find that my boy is fine to have a nap during the day, often out for 1-2 hours two times a day, but he seems to know when he’s going down for bed time and makes a big fuss, often crying out just because he doesn’t want to go to sleep. I find that leaving him for 10 minutes often helps and he does go to sleep on his own. Me going in there and picking him up gets him what he wants (a hug) but then the crying starts all over again when I put him down and so two times the amount of fussing isn’t really helping! So it’s a case of definitely toughening up and trying to let him get to sleep himself.
I read your list of servings per day and WOAH – that’s a lot of food! I am still breastfeeding and his schedule is usually like so:
7am – wake and breastfeed, bit of raisin toast
9am – nap
11am – 3 tablespoons baby muesli with milk
12pm – half banana
1pm – nap
3pm – late lunch with half a jar (about 90 grams) of baby food like beef and veggies (he doesn’t have teeth yet so “grown up” food is a bit hard! Dessert will be about 100g custard/fruit gel. Usually after 2 hours of being awake he will want breastmilk. I’ve been trying to get him onto cows milk (he’ll take about 30 ml but then still come looking for me!)
5pm – sometimes he’ll have a 1/2 hour nap, sometimes not
6pm – dinner with again about 90 grams baby food and 100g custard
7pm – breastmilk and bedtime shortly afterwards
In between, he’ll have crackers and things to snack on. I do try to offer more but he just shuts his mouth up and refuses to take any more!
So there is NO WAY that he is consuming as much as your servings suggest, but he is a good height/weight, happy and not crying out of hunger… it really sounds like a lot of food and I’m not sure if everyone else’s kid is like mine, but he won’t stay in the chair long enough to be fed that amount of stuff! It just sounds like they spend their awake time eating and not so much playing…unless I my boy is just more interested in playing than eating…? Does everyone else’s 10 month old eat that much…? So I’m not “worried’ that he’s malnourished or anything, but reading things like this certainly make me question where he’s at food wise!
January 28th, 2010
I’m glad to have found this site. I’ve been reading about helping babies sleep before my daughter was born, and can say we’ve been decently successful. However, my 10 month old seems to only get maybe 12 hours of sleep a day, and since what is lost is overnight (well, usually EARLY morning) I’m desperate for a way to help her sleep longer so I can feel rested, too! Our schedule is pretty regular:
6:00 – breastfeeding, get up out of bed
7:30 – cereal with a little fruit
9-10 – morning nap
10:30 – snack (1/2 banana or the like)
12:00 – lunch, solids (veggies)
2-3 – afternoon nap
5:00 – dinner of solids
6:30 – breastfeeding
7:00 – in bed asleep
I also let her nurse on demand, which might be another 1-2 times a day (though she really doesn’t seem to take much milk during them)
BUT, here is where the trouble begins. On a GOOD night, she starts waking up at 5 or 5:30. On a BAD night, she starts waking at 4am. It’s crying almost in her sleep and comes and goes maybe 5-10 minutes apart and then at 5:30 it picks up as she wakes herself up enough that I need to go get her. I’ve tried breastfeeding and back to bed, but after the feeding she’s usually more alert and we’re up. If I don’t go to her, I *might* get her to fall back asleep and be up at the 5:30, or maybe even 6am. On the worst nights, she’s sleeping and crying on and off from 4 am until 6, and I don’t sleep past 4 am at all.
She’s such a good sleeper otherwise, I can’t figure out what would help her sleep in the mornings. With this schedule she’s getting 11-12 hours where it seems 10 months old need more.
Any ideas? Should I try going to one nap? On a recent travel day, she didn’t get her 2 hour long naps and ended up sleeping until 6:30am…that was such a treat!
Thanks everyone for sharing your experiences — it always feels better knowing you’re not alone!
January 29th, 2010
@Britney I’d need to know how it’s going helping your daughter learn to fall asleep without the breast. Make sure you don’t replace one sleep association with another. I have lots of suggestions all across this site and in my books. The key is to make a plan that you can stick to to help her fall asleep on her own. Good luck!
February 1st, 2010
I guess I’m not alone…my ten month old (almost 11 months) has been sleeping through the night forever 7pm-6am usually. When the time changed he got messed up and started waking at 5am but we deal with that ok. He doesnt have an issue falling asleep alone, I just put him in his bed and he goes to sleep. He just started really walking and now has been waking up at least once during the night screaming…I mean screaming. The first time I thought it was a bad dream so I got up and rocked him…now its happening at least 4 or 5 times a week and I don’t want to start a bad pattern. If I give him a bottle and rock he will go back to sleep. We tried to let him “cry it out” but after thirty full minutes of screaming I couldnt take it anymore. (example: bed @ 7 woke up at 3:45…I let him cry until about 4:20 or so then gave him a bottle..he was asleep by 5am and didnt wake up until 7..) What can we do so I don’t start a bad nighttime habit? He’s always been so good. He naps an hour or so around 9 and then two hours around 2. I’ve thought about only one nap but if he is up by 5am or 6am I cant get rid of the am nap. Would it be better to just feed him when he wakes up and then put him back to sleep? He may sleep in later so we can try only an afternoon nap?