For decades bleary-eyed parents had just two options for handling their child’s sleep problems: “cry-it-out" or make the best of the situation whilst waiting to see if their baby would become a better sleeper with time (i.e. "Wait-It-Out"). In recent years, and with the introduction of gentler strategies, baby sleep and how to save it has become much less “all or nothing!” Yet, many parents are still under the impression that teaching their baby to sleep well has to involve hours of crying,
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CIO, or cry it out, is a controversial subject and one that has been dividing parents for at least 2 decades. But in the opinion of our expert sleep consultants, the larger problem with CIO is that some parents assume ALL sleep training is CIO; they assume that sleep training is just letting your baby cry until he/she stops waking up at night and stops waking early from naps. Cry It Out Is Not Sleep Training You can imagine how frustrating it is for our team to combat this misconception.
When you are working on sleep, you generally want better nighttime sleep AND better naps. But can one method achieve both? Can the kind of sleep training method you choose work for nights but not for naps, or vice versa? Do you need to follow a separate set of sleep "rules" for naps than you follow for nights? The answer is often yes - and that especially applies to those of you who may be using a cry it out sleep training approach. Keep reading for details! Sleep Training: Naps vs.
Crying during sleep training is a touchy subject, but it's one that's worth addressing. Why? Because most parents aren't aware that crying during sleep training is a spectrum. Many families who are new to The Baby Sleep Site® mistakenly assume that sleep training is nothing BUT crying....heartbreaking, seemingly endless crying. However, while a very small percentage of parents are okay with nonstop crying, the vast majority aren't. Most of the parents with whom we work accept
We've said a lot over the years about cry it out sleep training methods: we've defined cry it out and shared ages to try it (if you feel so led), differences between controlled crying and cry it out, how to determine if you should try cry it out, and whether or not cry it out will change your baby's personality. But nevertheless, this is a topic that we get lots of questions about in our Helpdesk. Specifically, lots of parents ask us when they should/shouldn't try cry it out, and how cry it
By far, one of the most controversial topics related to baby sleep training is something called 'Cry It Out'. Specifically, should parents do it? Is it cruel and unusual punishment, or is it a fast and effective way to teach a baby to sleep through the night? The answer, of course, depends on who you ask. Let me be clear right up front that we are not here today to debate the morality of cry-it-out as a sleep training method. Nicole built The Baby Sleep Site® on the foundation that
Based on lots and lots of experience in working with parents over the years, we here at The Baby Sleep Site™ have found something to be true: when used with consistency, the right sleep training method can work wonders for a baby's nighttime sleep problems, or a toddler's persistent sleep issues. The two key words in that statement? 'Consistency' and 'Right'. Finding the Right Sleep Training Method It's important that you find a sleep training method that works for both you and your baby.
So let's just get it out in the open right away: we're talking about the book On Becoming Babywise today. And if you've been a Baby Sleep Site® reader for any length of time, you know that's bound to create some controversy. We've written about Babywise before, and about the cry-it-out method in general. And we know all too well that this is an emotionally charged topic for many of our readers. Some of the parents in our Baby Sleep Site® community are proponents of cry-it-out methods like
Recently, I had a client tell me that another sleep consultant was leading her towards cry it out by telling her something like "If you are in the room, that is like holding an aspirin in front of someone with a headache." and how cruel that is. This was an interesting statement that made me pause to consider whether this other consultant was right. Let's discuss! Let's go back to you teaching your child how to ride a bike without training wheels (and why crying is sometimes part of sleep