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  1. Tracey says:

    We were having trouble with our newborn. She wouldn’t eat well or sleep well and I was reading several books. A friend suggested baby wise to me. And we had success…but in the book… they remind you to access the situation and be flexible if you need to be…make adjustments and that’s what we’ve done. My daughter is 4 months and doesn’t sleep through the night yet… but once we started a schedule, she went from waking 4-5times down to 1 and we felt this was a great schedule for her. She needed that nighttime feeding still. The schedule and routine helped with sleep until the 4 month sleep regression hit and now we are sleep training …but again, I’ve taken the book as tips and not as the rule. We tailored it to what I think as her mother. And if it isn’t working, I’ll adjust. I’m not going to let my daughter purple cry but I will let her fuss for a few before comforting her. And that seems to be working for us so far. We just started this week and I can see her making improvements and learning how to self soothe. She slept through the night last night. Every baby is different and we need to support each other. They don’t come with an instruction manual ??

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says:

      Hi @Tracey –
      Thanks for sharing your heartfelt message with us! We agree completely that us parents need to support each other and that every baby is different! Thanks for sharing your approach and what’s working for you! We hope that things continue to go well!

  2. Luke says:

    My wife and I were recommended the Babywise book by some friends of ours. Their baby has been so happy, healthy, and well-behaved that we really wanted to know what they were doing. They also talked about how early their baby began sleeping through the night and, honestly, the thought of not sleeping was one of the scariest parts of parenting for us. Anyway, we read the book and applied the methods and had fantastic success. Actually this article talks about not starting too early (and we really didn’t start stuff till about 2 weeks in) but we did start to ease the scheduling in at that point – and by 2 months we were having to wake our baby up from 8+ hour sleep stretches. I know this article seems to imply that sleeping through the night by two months is not a realistic expectation but I have not seen several people start Babywise and have those same results. Now our baby is the one people say is always well-behaved and healthy. I am a big fan of Babywise. It has really helped my wife and I maintain sanity and our own relationship while also caring for and loving our baby.

    • Luke says:

      Correction *but I have now seen several people start Babywise and have those same results.

      • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says:

        Hi @Luke –
        Thank you for sharing your experience with Babywise! We’re happy to hear that things went so well and that your baby is such an excellent sleeper! Thanks again for taking the time to write!

  3. Cindi says:

    Hi there. My baby is 13 weeks old and I started her on Babywise a month ago. Prior to she was sleeping 5-6hrs her first block at night. Since putting her on a Babywise routine of 2.5-3 hrs she’s only sleeping 2-3.5 hrs now!! I feel lost! I don’t know what I’m doing wrong.

    • Janelle Reid says:

      Hi @Cindi, thanks for writing to us. I’m sorry to hear your longer stretches have suddenly vanished, I know how discouraging that can feel. Hang in there, because it’s likely there’s not anything you are doing wrong, as there are a lot of changes that go on for a baby’s sleep around 3-4 months of age. Here is a link to an article that may help you determine what’s going on with her sleep: https://www.babysleepsite.com/how-we-sleep/4-month-old-sleep-regression/
      If you find you need more help getting her back on track, let us know and we’d be happy to! We have an ebook all about newborn sleep that will go through the first year and will help give you different approaches to helping her sleep as many babies need different methods based on their temperaments. Here is a link to information about that: https://www.babysleepsite.com/essential-keys-to-your-newborns-sleep/
      I hope this helps!

  4. Priscilla says:

    I read babywise and was really determined to try to use it for our firstborn – but after trying it for a while some parts of it worked for my daughter and others didn’t, and I’m now in a really good place about using our instinct and reading our daughter to figure that out and balance deciding what works for her and what doesn’t, especially from babywise.

    However, I don’t think it’s fair to paint the method as promoting the “cry it out” method – the book doesn’t really encourage that at all. Nor does it really enforce strict “schedules” (it actually suggests that might not be helpful) but more routines or “rhythms”

    Just hoping folks have a fair portrayal of it before picking it up and considering whether to try it.

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says:

      Hi @Priscilla – Thank you for sharing what worked for you! Being informed by reading and researching, while listening to your instinct and reading your daughter’s needs is a perfect combo! We appreciate your feedback on our article too, and definitely appreciate your perspective. Just about everyone can define “cry it out” in a variety of ways. In this article, “cry it out” means to put your baby down awake and not go back to them for an extended period of the time (if at all). We support helping babies learn to self-soothe as well, but do define leaving the baby to cry for 15 minutes without even a short check to be a form of “cry it out” as discussed in the Babywise book. There are many variations of course, but likely this is simply a difference of opinion in definition. We also find that in our work with thousands of families, that not all babies can follow the rhythms, or schedule guidelines at the specific ages too. We are so happy to hear that you found what worked for your family, and our only desire is to present this information in an unbiased way so that families can do what you did, and use resources such as this book, but also follow their own unique path to better sleep. Thanks again for commenting and sharing!

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