Ready to Begin Your Sleep Journey?   Yes! Show Me How
Ready to Begin Your Sleep Journey?   Yes! Show Me How
Ready to Begin Your Sleep Journey?   Yes! Show Me How

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  1. Karen says

    Hi, I’m 8th month pregnant and I’m trying to prepare my home and myself for a baby. I’m sure that I want to sleep train him, but I’m not sure what method to choose. Cry-it-out sounds like painfull but quick solution, but I havn’t found a straight answer if it’s ok to do it with a newborn. Have you heard about the fourth trimester theory, I read about it and it’s a first steep and preparation for an actual training. I don’t know is it worth of trying and should I bother… but I like the HWL method which is based on this theory soooo…. maybe you can help me and advice what to do?

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says

      Hi @Karen –
      Thank you for writing to us and congratulations on your upcoming arrival! When helping your newborn sleep better, we recommend using much gentler methods, since most infants won’t have the skills needed to self soothe quite yet. If you haven’t yet, you can sign up to receive our free guide written just for families with young infants, “15 Baby Sleep Facts New Parents Need to Know” here:
      This should be really helpful for planning for your new baby and starting off on the right foot!!
      You may also want to take a look at this article on our blog, 7 Gentle, Natural Ways To Help Your Newborn Baby Sleep Better:
      We also offer a few more in-depth solutions for parents who would like to know more! If you would ever like more help just let us know! We’re here to help! Thanks and congrats again Karen!

  2. Cecilia says

    How would you know if cry it out method is not for your baby? I tried it, day 1, she cried for 30mins and fell asleep on her own. Day 2, cried for an hr and fell asleep. Day 3 cried for 1.5 hrs and fell asleep. There are still night waking like around 3am, so everytime it happens I just feed her and shes back to sleep. Im just wondering if cio method is a success or failure for me, bec why is her sleep takes longer as the day passes. Im on day 4 tonight so fingers crossed. I dont know if there is something wrong in what i do.

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says

      Hi @Cecilia – Thank you for writing to us! I hope that the last couple of few nights have gone smoothly and your daughter is falling asleep faster! This article should be a very big help and answer your questions:
      Please feel free to contact us if you’d like one on one help to get you all sleeping better!

  3. Kristina says

    Hi. I’ve been nap training my 5-month old for almost 5 weeks. He’s been taking short naps (15 to 35 minutes) and I’ve tried so many methods to help him nap longer, but with no success. The last week, I’ve been consistent with letting him cry it out when he wakes up. I put him down for naps completely awake and he falls asleep within 5 minutes. He wakes up at 7am and gets put down for a nap around 9am. He then wakes up in about 30 minutes but I leave him in his crib for another hour plus (let’s say 11am). I then put him down for his next nap 2 hours after that “nap” should have ended, which would be around 1pm (even though he’s been awake since 9:30). Once he wakes up, he cries until I get him and sometimes falls asleep for a very short time (like 5 to 10 minutes). Wondering if this method will work for lengthening his naps? And if so, how long does it usually take to see improvements? It’s almost been a week and I’ve noticed no changes with his napping. I feel bad that he’s crying so much, but I don’t know what else to do. Thanks!

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says

      Hi @Kristina –
      Thank you so much for writing, and sorry to hear that naps are not going well yet. Hang in there and don’t give up!:) Short naps are common at this age, so you might just need a bit more time!
      Here is a link to our recommended schedule for a 5 month old. As you can see all but the morning nap are usually short at this age!:
      You might find this helpful to see where you might be able to adjust your current schedule to help ensure naps and bedtime are at good times for him.
      I hope that this helps, but if you find that you’d like more help at any time, please consider our VIP Member’s Area.
      Our VIP Members Area subscription gives you access to all of our ebooks as well as all teleseminar recordings, case studies, and do-it-yourself tutorials, including a workbook to create your own sleep plan! My favorite feature is the access to a “members only” weekly live “chat” where an expert sleep consultant will answer your specific questions, live via chat room.
      You can read more about the Member’s Area here:
      Good luck Kristina and please contact us if you need any assistance at any time!

  4. Justina says


    My son is 4 months + 1 week and we’ve been trying the true Cry It Out method for exactly a week now and it has not been consistent whatsoever. Our doctor recommended it and lots of other moms I’ve spoken to have said their child took 3 nights and with each night the crying was less and less and by the fourth night they were done. For us it went like this:
    1st night: 1hr 35min,
    2nd night: 20min
    3rd night: 1hr
    4th night: 1hr 20min
    5th night: 20 min
    6th night: 45hr
    7th night: 1hr 20 min

    Also he wakes up around 4am evrey night and cries for at least an hour then too. I do a dream feed at 12am.

    During the day he naps on me.

    I can’t take much more of his crying, please help.

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says

      Hi @Justina –
      Thank you for writing to us! I am sorry that sleep training and cry it out with your 4 month old has not been going smoothly! You’re not alone! If the road to better sleep were always a smooth and easy one, The Baby Sleep Site wouldn’t even be here, so we get it! Every baby is different, and will adjust/react to changes differently! We know how tough this can be, and for the best help, I’d recommend that you work closely with one of our sleep consultants who can help you through this and any other issues you might face! YOu can connect with a sleep consultant via chat room or written comments in our VIP Members Area – The VIP Members Area is affordable, and available in sizes to fit every budget. Members also receive 20% off of all personalized sleep consultation services, should you find that you would like more personalized assistance.
      You can read more about our VIP Members Area here:
      Hang in there Justina!!

  5. Emily says

    We’ve been trying the Ferber/Cry It Out method for almost three weeks now, and though we’ve seen small signs of progress, our son still screams and screams before naps and bedtime. Sometimes taking up to 40 mins to get to sleep. We have established a bedtime routine, and are consistent in our method. I don’t know what we’re doing wrong. We are very early risers for work so bedtime is around 5:30PM. I’ve also noticed that my son’s demeanor and mood have changed. He is not as cheerful as he used to be and he’s more emotional. I hate to think that we’re turning him into a sad baby.

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says

      Hi @Emily – Thanks for writing, and I’m so sorry that you and your family have been struggling with sleep training for the last few weeks! This is so tough, especially when you are now worried about his demeanor and mood changes in the day. : (
      Now might be a good time to take a little break, and re-group! Take a good look at his schedule, to try and ensure that he is going to sleep at good times for him, and consider talking or emailing one of our consultants for one on one help and troubleshooting, and support all the way through! Please contact us if you’d like more help! Hang in there Emily!

  6. Brittany says

    My 17.5 month old typically sleeps in his crib in his own room. In February, he had the flu, and he would wake up multiple times all night long. We ended up putting him in the bed with us. He became used to it, and once he was better, he wouldn’t sleep in his crib. Finally, we “retrained” him to sleep in his bed. He is currently sick again and wakes up continuously. Should i let him cry all night with occasional reassurance or just put him in my bed?

    • Danielle says

      Hi Brittany,
      Thank you for visiting The Baby Sleep Site! I’m sorry to hear your son has been sick. In general, we recommend doing as little “extra” as you can when your child is sick. So help him, definitely, but don’t do more than you actually need to do. Maybe instead of bringing him into your bed, you can camp out in his room for a couple of days, or find another solution to avoid bringing him into your bed.

      We do have an article all about illness and sleep coaching, which may be helpful here:

      Good luck with everything! I hope he is feeling better very soon!

  7. Jennifer A. says

    So, my 20 month old will now go to sleep without a fuss on his own. However starting at 11pm, he still wakes up crying. And then he’s up every two hours going til 7 am. I used to nurse him to bed. I am beginning to wean him and now nurse him a half hour before bed and that was pretty smooth transition. But, he still wakes every two hours after 11pm and gets into such a tizzy, that he vomits. How can we get these 11pm-4am wake ups to end?

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says

      Hi @Jennifer – Thank you for writing, and I am sorry that your little guy is struggling with night wakings! it is actually quite common that a baby or toddler learn to fall asleep initially at bedtime on their own, but then need more help for those night wakings. You may want to continue those same techniques you used to transition him to falling sleep on his own at bed (without feeding to sleep), and begin to teach him that he can do this in the night too!
      I hope that things go smoothly! Please contact us if you need more assistance!

  8. Briana says

    I have a 6 month old and I began sleep training a week ago. Before he I started he was cluster feeding at night from two in the morning till six in the morning. That’s when I decided to start the CIO method. The first three nights of sleep training he woke up twice for feedings. (Which was amazing!)

    Although Every time I put him to bed he would cry for up to an hour sometimes more. Everything I’ve read said the baby should start crying less and less every time you put them to bed (awakesbd drousy but not alseep) He is better with his naps and is actually finally starting to self sooth and fall asleep on his own under 40 min some times only takes less than 20.

    The problem is now that he is starting to wake up more frequently. How do I stop him from waking up so often again? Do I only feed him twice still? And do I not go in the room when he wakes up to feed him and if so do I not pick him up st all either. He is very persistent at staying awake if I don’t pick him up to feed him? I just don’t want him to start waking up even more often again

    • Neosha says

      @Briana – Thank you for reading our blog and for sharing with us! Sleep training can be a bit more of a marathon than a sprint and each baby responds differently from the other. This is one reason we generally don’t lump all babies in together when discussing how they’ll respond to sleep training as there’s so much more that determines this besides the method you’re using. We do know that sleep coaching using CIO with persistent babies can be quite challenging. Please consider connecting with one of our sleep consultants who are better trained to help with the specific questions you have – she’ll be able to help identify any issues/problems and get you all on track to better sleep. You may even want to consider one of our 15-min free evaluations to get a better idea. You can read more about our team here: Hope this helps, Briana – hang in there!

  9. Alia says

    I know this is a bit of an older post but hopefully you get this question.

    My boy is 12 months. We did CIO at 4 months and he has slept like a champion for the past 8 months. I’ve almost been smug. He would chat to himself and then sleep. No issues. He would sleep from 7pm to 6am.

    At 11 months he now won’t settle. Cries for over an hour. Then I give in and pay him to sleep. Then wakes 2-3 times a night. He has started to refuse food, tonight he refused dinner and bottle, is worse after daycare as we get home late so he is tired already.

    Then to top it off, recently my husband started a fly in / fly out job where he goes away for a week, back for a week so on.

    This new unsettled behaviour has almost fallen in line with his dads new departure. Then he seems to be much more settled when dad is home so I’m thinking it has something to do with it.

    It makes me anxious to think I’ll have to deal with this every time I am single mothering for the week. And in my midnight hours of weakness I start questioning whether I should quit work or if my husband should come home, which I don’t want.

    I am hoping you could offer your perspective on whether retrying CIO will be too rough amongst these changes…

    He has cried for an hour and half and if I go in he just gets worse. 🙁

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says

      Hi @Alia – Thanks for writing! We DID get your comment! : ) I am sorry that your son has started to struggle with sleep recently! You are not alone in having a good sleeper that has regressed, and hang in there! have you already worked on getting him on the right schedule to combat that overtiredness? Hopefully some schedule tweaks will help, and hopefully a little more time to adjust to Dad being away for the week will help things settle too. Twelve months can be a tough time with sleep, where these sweet little ones start fighting sleep too. If you are concerned about trying Cry It Out again, then you would likely do better to work on sleep more gently. This will help you be able to follow through! It might be best to have an expert sleep consultant take a look at everything sleep, and help you come up with a Plan to get things back on track. If you’re interested in more help, please check out our consultation packages here:
      Hang in there Alia, and let us know if you need any assistance at any time!