CIO, or cry it out, is a controversial subject and one that has been dividing parents for at least 2 decades. But in the opinion of our expert sleep consultants, the larger problem with CIO is that some parents assume ALL sleep training is CIO; they assume that sleep training is just letting your baby cry until he/she stops waking up at night and stops waking early from naps. Cry It Out Is Not Sleep Training You can imagine how frustrating it is for our team to combat this misconception.
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When you are working on sleep, you generally want better nighttime sleep AND better naps. But can one method achieve both? Can the kind of sleep training method you choose work for nights but not for naps, or vice versa? Do you need to follow a separate set of sleep "rules" for naps than you follow for nights? The answer is often yes - and that especially applies to those of you who may be using a cry it out sleep training approach. Keep reading for details! Sleep Training: Naps vs.
Crying during sleep training is a touchy subject, but it's one that's worth addressing. Why? Because most parents aren't aware that crying during sleep training is a spectrum. Many families who are new to The Baby Sleep Site® mistakenly assume that sleep training is nothing BUT crying....heartbreaking, seemingly endless crying. However, while a very small percentage of parents are okay with nonstop crying, the vast majority aren't. Most of the parents with whom we work accept
We've said a lot over the years about cry it out sleep training methods: we've defined cry it out and shared ages to try it (if you feel so led), differences between controlled crying and cry it out, how to determine if you should try cry it out, and whether or not cry it out will change your baby's personality. But nevertheless, this is a topic that we get lots of questions about in our Helpdesk. Specifically, lots of parents ask us when they should/shouldn't try cry it out, and how cry it
By far, one of the most controversial topics related to baby sleep training is something called 'Cry It Out'. Specifically, should parents do it? Is it cruel and unusual punishment, or is it a fast and effective way to teach a baby to sleep through the night? The answer, of course, depends on who you ask. Let me be clear right up front that we are not here today to debate the morality of cry-it-out as a sleep training method. Nicole built The Baby Sleep Site® on the foundation that
When parents contact the Baby Sleep Site for the first time, they often say the same thing: "Are you going to tell me I have to let my baby cry? Because I can't handle that!" No parent enjoys the sound of their baby wailing in distress. That's why the cry-it-out methods advocated by Ferber, Weissbluth, and Ezzo are so controversial. Some parents feel like cry-it-out is a form of cruel and unusual punishment, but others are quick to point out that cry-it-out methods are fast and
When Psychology Today released an article about the "Dangers of Crying It Out" I felt it necessary to discuss this important topic. When I think back through my life, if I focus just on the negative things in my life, it can feel depressing. I think back to how my parents were divorced when I was eight or when my mom left after a nervous breakdown, and I went to live with my Dad when I was 12. I think back to being called names because of my racial background or to my (mostly verbally)
A client e-mailed me not too long ago concerned about what a co-worker told her about her baby. Her co-worker told her that if she didn't sleep train and let her baby cry it out, her baby would grow up to be spoiled. She alluded to the fact that by the time he was 7 or 8 years old, he'd be "running the show." This particular client has experience with two very different cultures, one being in the West and one in the East. In the West (where she lives now) she feels tremendous pressure to let
When parents update me on their sleep training progress, sometimes it is a little frustrating for them if their baby has a good night one night, then a bad night and some back and forth. I thought it would be a good idea to talk about that in today's post and why it happens. If nothing else, I know it helps to have realistic expectations while sleep training. One of the biggest lessons I learned when I was struggling with my own son's sleep problems is that when the books implied all of our