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  1. Dulce says:

    How can I get my almost 7 months daughter to self settle and no wake up at night?

    • Danielle says:

      Hi Dulce,
      Thank you for writing and using The Baby Sleep Site as a resource! There are several methods you can use to help teach your daughter to sleep independently. I’d really recommend our article on 5 Steps to Help Your Baby Fall Asleep Alone: https://www.babysleepsite.com/sleep-training/baby-fall-asleep-alone-5-steps/
      It goes over the general steps you should think about, and has links to a lot of other good articles with resources. You may also like our sample schedule for 7 month-olds, to give you a better idea about what sleep looks like for this age on average: https://www.babysleepsite.com/schedules/7-month-old-baby-schedule/
      I hope this helps, but please let us know if you have any other questions!

  2. Phil says:

    At about 10 months after having been consistently woken 4 -6 times a night we tried the controlled crying approach, a friend had told me about it.
    One of the issues was how to stop my wife from giving in and soothing the baby before the time limit… First night was 4 hours of crying, 2nd night two and a half. Third night, straight to sleep and through til 7am. After having had so many months of interrupted sleep it felt like a miracle that our baby had slept through. Might not work for everyone, but worked for us.

  3. Ana says:

    It is also one of the common problem parents have. I do not have a kid yet but I did became a nanny for my nieces and nephews. And every time they cry I freak out and don’t know what to do. my mom said let them cry it out so their lungs and breathing are exercised. And so I let them cry it out.. but when I feel that they are really crying for help, then I control it. I agree with the temparament and patience thingy. it comes hand in hand. and case to case basis i guess. thanks for the tips. definitely a good source for parenting! I am excited to have my baby soon! 🙂

  4. Meg says:

    One thing I like about this site is that it does put a family’s needs first. I have read many books on sleep, and many act as if one way is the only way. I am definitely not a fan of cry it out, but think controlled crying can work. With my first 2 children ( now 6 and 4 and GREAT sleepers!!), I definitely started putting them down awake at an early age. However, if they woke at night, I often nursed them. Interestingly, often they did not fall completely back asleep, but were soothed and put themselves back to sleep. Once I weaned them at 12 months, they slept through the night. I now have 11 month old twins, nursed for 6 months, but knew i would rely on that strategy at night and was getting too tired with 2! We have done some controlled crying with them, and it has not always worked as quickly as I would like. I still find it hard to listen to them cry. However, it has helped. The need for sleep for parents is important….I simply could not go on being so sleep deprived and was not a good parent during the day. Typically, if they wake now, I will do some brief soothing, then put them back down ( usually still awake). Sometimes, this does include a bottle(limited to only once during the night), which I know we will have to break. However, my others seemed to do okay once I stopped nursing and I hope the same will be true once we get rid of the bottles! The fact is, no matter what method you choose, kids will get sick, go through teething, etc and there is always some backslide. I think everyone needs to do what makes them feel most comfortable, and not judge others for what they feel is necessary for their children. Happy sleeping!

    • Nicole says:

      @Meg I’m so glad you appreciate my no-judgment approach and not pushing just one way on everyone. It sounds like you have a great routine. Thank you so much for taking the time to comment!

      @Heather Thank you for sharing your story. You are so right that starting too early can be too difficult. Waiting just a bit can make a big difference and for some that only means 2 weeks, depending on the baby.

      @Karen Thank you for sharing what works for you with other parents. I’m so glad the site and tips have helped you at nap time, too!

  5. Heather McCully says:

    Controlled crying was what worked for us; but timing is the key. If you baby is not old enough or just not ready it won’t work as well – my son is now 8 months and it is working great, tried earlier and he was too incosolable. Controlled crying was the only thing that helped me reverse our nursing to sleep habit; now he goes to bed awake and we nurse when het gets up – we apply the same strategies for naps and he is now having quality naps about 1.5 hours long, before he could not get past 30-45 min. The good thing about controlled crying for the parents is it gives you a goal to works towards, staying out for 5 min, 10, 15 – we end up dealing with our own separation anxiety and training ourselves at the same time – but it helps to know that you can go back in if you need to at the time limit set; if you can make it until then. The other great thing about these methods is that you see results almost immediately, within 3 days – 1 week (for real!). Our son has slept through since starting controlled crying and has napped better – we are so proud of him and us! My advice to parents is just don’t rule it out as an option – you may just find yourself desperate enough to try and be surprised, like we were. Good luck!

  6. Karen Schoeman says:

    My little boy has slept through since 7 weeks with the exception of a new tooth popping through. My clinic sister gave me advise that really worked I breastfed my baby every 2-3 hours in the day – very tiring, but at night he didn’t need to feed as much cause he had his fill in the day. After breasfeeding for 12months I now bottle feed and never lay him down with a bottle so that if he wakes up in the middle of the night he doesn’t need a bottle and he can sooth himself to sleep. I alwasy thought I would be a cry it out mom, but once that he arrived I realised I couldn’t bear to sit and listen to my child cry for me. I do however give him a few minutes before racing to his room to soothe him and 9 times out of 10 he just moans a bit and goes back to sleep. I can usually tell when he is getting destressed and then I give him his passifier and try rubbing his back or strocking his face, if that doesn’t calm him then I know he needs me and I definitely rock him off to sleep. I wholeheartedly agree with the article that each family has to find what works for them because my friend got the same advise from the same clinic and it has not worked for her. Thank you for all the advise and useful tips becuase I have used many of them for nap time which was our problem.

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