How (and When) To Transition Your Toddler From a Crib to a Bed
Here’s a common toddler-related question we hear often:
“When should I transition my toddler from his crib to a ‘big kid’ bed? And how exactly am I supposed to do it?!”
Is that a question that’s been on your mind lately? If so, never fear — it’s the question we’re answering in today’s article!
When To Transition Your Toddler From Crib to Bed
First, let’s tackle the “when” of making the crib-to-bed transition. There’s no right or wrong answer to this one — ages for making this transition vary from family to family. However, it’s interesting to note that the average age for transitioning your toddler from crib to bed is between 3 and 4 years old.
Typically, we here at The Baby Sleep Site® recommend that you don’t rush into making this transition. Why? Because once you remove those crib bars, you remove your little one’s bedtime boundaries. And, that can cause problems. Your little one may take advantage of her newfound freedom, and play the “jack-in-the-box” game with you, popping out of bed every time you turn your back. That can be exhausting!
So don’t rush into making this switch; if your little one is doing fine in her crib, then leave her there. If you can wait to make the transition until your toddler is older than 2, then it’ll probably be easier on everyone. (Emphasis on the probably — we’re not making any promises!)
However, if the crib just isn’t working anymore, it may be time to make the switch. For instance, if your toddler is routinely climbing out of her crib, and you feel that her monkey-like antics are starting to become dangerous, consider switching her to a big bed (particularly if she’s past 2 years old).
Or maybe your toddler is just plain too big for his crib. If that’s the case, then it may be time to switch to a big kid bed (again, particularly if he’s past 2 years old.)
Of course, your desire to make the transition may have more to do with you — if you’re expecting a new baby, you may need to transition your toddler out of the crib so that you have it free for the new baby. Again, if your toddler is past 2 years old, then make the switch; if not, then consider getting 2 cribs. We did that in my house for a bit — my oldest son was 19 months old when my second son was born. e used 2 cribs for 6 or 7 months until my oldest was ready for a bed.
Nicole’s Note:
“The biggest issue here is that even IF your toddler understands he is supposed to stay in bed, he may lack the impulse control to actually do it. We all know adults who lack impulse control, too, but that’s for another day. 🙂 Both our boys transitioned around two years old, but it certainly helped to have solidified our sleep habits, first. I do talk to some families where the loss of boundaries can majorly affect a toddler’s feeling of security, so make sure she’s ready before making the switch.”
What Kind of Bed Should You Transition Your Toddler To?
If your toddler is small, consider transitioning him to a toddler bed. This is a smaller-sized bed that uses a crib mattress instead of a twin-sized mattress. A toddler can feel cozier in a toddler bed than she would in a twin bed, and that may make the transition easier for some toddlers.
Of course, if your toddler is outgrowing the crib, then switching to a toddler bed won’t work (since it’s essentially the same size as the crib.) In this case, you’ll want to transition your toddler to a twin-sized (or larger) bed.
Nicole’s Note:
“Both our boys transitioned to toddler beds, which may or may not have helped, but that only lasted about 6 months, so if money is tight or you think your toddler will transition well, skip the toddler bed. We went from toddler bed to full-size bed, so we wouldn’t need to buy yet another bed once they got bigger (and frankly, it’s more comfortable for us to cuddle at bedtime, too!).”
>How To Transition Your Toddler From Crib to Bed
There’s no script to follow when you’re helping your toddler switch from a crib to a bed. There are, however, some tips to keep in mind:
- Before you do anything else, safety-proof! Once you remove those crib bars, your toddler is going to have unhindered access to his room. So take some time to carefully toddler-proof that room! If you’re transitioning to a big bed, you’ll also want to invest in some safety bed rails, to prevent any falls.
- Talk to your toddler about the switch ahead of time. Few toddlers will react well to entering their room and suddenly seeing their old bed replaced with a new one. Remember — toddlers like routine and predictability! So let your toddler know what’s coming. Talk about it, and maybe read a book about it (like this one) together.
- Make the big bed welcoming. Pile on your toddler’s favorite toys or stuffed animals. Layer on any favorite blankets or bedding. Consider taking your toddler shopping for new “big kid” sheets, and let her pick them out.
- Consider leaving the crib in the room for a bit. This may or may not work. For some kids, having the crib there proves to be a huge distraction, and only makes the switch harder. For others, though, it makes the switch easier. Toddlers love choices, after all, so if (for a few weeks) you give your toddler the choice to sleep in the crib or the big bed, it can help your toddler feel more in control of the transition.
- Prepare yourself for the “jack-in-the-box.” Your toddler WILL try to get out of his new bed. And that’s understandable — the sudden freedom is bound to go right to his head! So be prepared for it. When your toddler (inevitably) wanders out of bed, quickly put him right back into it. It’s a good idea to make it an emotionless interaction — too much positive or negative reaction on your part will likely serve to make the jack-in-the-box behavior worse. But if your toddler can’t get a rise out of you, he’s likely to quit the behavior faster.
- Don’t expect the transition to happen overnight. It’ll probably be 2-3 weeks before this transition is done, and the new bed feels normal for your toddler. And yes, there will be a handful of rough nights in there. Stick with it, though — be firm, and be consistent. And before you know it, your little one’s new bed will feel just like home.
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My son is 19 months old and we are still co-sleeping… and now we are struggling to do the transition…still wakes up couple of times to nurse…will he ever sleep in his own bed/crib…????? Help…!!!
@ Helene — your TENTH child?! Wow!! Thank you so, so much for chiming in with this excellent insight; clearly, you have a wealth of experience that the rest of us don’t. 🙂 I think you’re advice is solid, and obviously, it’s been developed through lots and LOTS of experience!
Thanks again for commenting, Helene!
I’m transitioning my tenth child from a crib to a toddler bed now. My advice is to wait for this move until your child is ready to drop the afternoon nap. When they are good and tired and primed for sleep at night, they tend to stay in the bed and sleep deeper. Dropping daytime naps on their own is a good sign they are ready for this big bedtime change!
@ Justina — thanks for weighing in and sharing this info! very helpful. I’d say as long as you carefully, carefully toddler-proof whatever room he’ll be sleeping in, it can work out just fine. And that’s neat, your idea of wanting to give him more freedom as a way to curb his tantrum-throwing!
Thanks for commenting, Justina. 🙂
My 12 month old is getting ready to transit. I want to give him the freedom to do it himself. Right now he has to throw a tantrum before I realize what he’s wanting. & if I’m feeding our daughter, he has to wait. If he has to wait then he starts throwing things. I’ve just been putting a small pallet in the floor for naps, and he goes down himself most of the time. I think giving him the same bedtime freedom will work out just fine.
@ Olivia — I’d say to try transitioning her to a crib first. 13 months is still pretty young to be in a big kid bed; we usually recommend holding off on transitioning from crib to bed until age 2, if possible.
Hope that helps! Thanks for commenting. 🙂
HELP!!!! I don’t know what to do, my daughter is 13 months old and sleeps mostly through the night(wakes up to nurse 2x) and sleeps in our bed right now. I would like to transition her to her own bed, but don’t know if I should put her in a crib or “big girl” bed? Having mixed feelings about both, but I can’t keep her in my bed forever, lol. Any advice moms?
@ Meagan — True. But still, good for you for thinking ahead! I’m a planner, too, so I totally understand that impulse. 😉
Thanks! We’re not quite ready yet, so we still have plenty of time to think about it.
@ Meagan — We’ve worked with some families who use Montessori beds, and I think that in general, we’ve found that they work for some families and not for others. Could be a trial-and-error thing on your part; you could start with that and see what happens. We’re planning to do an article on Montessori beds, although it’s scheduled for the fall. Now, given the comments we’ve had on this article, I’m wondering if maybe I should bump that up and write it sooner!
Of course, another option would be to buy (or borrow) a second crib. That worked well for us; my boys are only 19 months apart, so we had to have 2 cribs in the house for awhile.
Keep us posted on what you end up doing, Meagan! I know a lot of moms ask themselves the same questions that you’re asking yourself; so let us know what you end up deciding. 🙂 And thanks for commenting!
It makes me nervous, but that was my thought. He seems pretty content. The reason I’m wondering about the Montessori bed is that we ARE starting to think about a second, and if he’s still happy in a crib at three, I dont want to push him out at 2 1/2 to make room for a baby. I also wondered if having a baby in an “open” bed from the beginning would change the equation on power struggles and boundaries.
@ jennifer — thanks for sharing these tips about what worked for you! Very helpful 🙂
my son is 22 months today, we converted his crib when he was almost 21 months, as i was getting him from his nap one day he threw his leg up like he was going to climb, i decided i would convert it and try it, the first 2 nights he got right up a couple of times, but went to sleep rather easily, and woke a few ties but, he was also teething at the time, fro the 3rd night on he goes down just as easily as when it was a crib, but i agree that it is still his crib,just converted may have helped, because he is very used to his own bed, and it is still his bed, he even watched and “helped” me take the front rail off,
@ Angela — sounds like the “transition” was barely a transition at all for your little guy! How nice, when we parents catch a break like that. 🙂 It’s the little things.
Thanks for sharing your experience with us, Angela!
@ Marcia — “Sometimes the hardest part is getting past your own expectation.” YES. I love, love, love this observation. I’ve found this to be true as well. I have a tendency to sell my kids short (i.e. “he won’t be able to do that”), but often, they surprise me. And I’ve learned that if I communicate to my kids “You can do this, you’re capable of doing this”, they often rise to the occasion. Not always, of course, but often!
Thanks, too, for sharing your experience with the crib-and-bed-in-the-room strategy. Sounds like it was a major bust for you! Funny — that approach works wonders for some families, and it proves utterly disastrous for others. No way to know until you try, I suppose. 😉
Thanks for commenting, Marcia!