Sleep Like A Baby? Let’s Hope Not!

SleepLikeABaby

“Sleep like a baby”…..have you heard that expression before? If so, then you know most people use it to mean someone is sleeping peacefully and deeply. But if you have a baby at home, then odds are you know what all of us on The Baby Sleep Site® know: generally speaking, babies DO NOT “sleep like babies”!

Sleep Like A Baby? Here’s How Babies Really Sleep At Night

As many of you know, while babies may sleep deeply and peacefully for an hour or two, all that sleep is broken up by plenty of nighttime waking! And while sometimes, that nighttime waking is age-appropriate and necessary, we’ve all dealt with night waking that’s excessive and maddening, simply because it seems to have no cause at all. Here’s a look at how most babies really sleep at night (and why they wake):

Babies Wake At Night To Feed

Here’s a look at how often, on average, babies wake to feed:

  • Newborns to 3 months old: Feedings every 2-3 hours, on demand
  • 3-4 Months: 2-3 feedings per night or every 3-6 hours, on demand
  • 5-6 Months: 1-2 feedings
  • 7-9 Months: 1, maybe 2, feedings
  • 10-12 Months: Sometimes 1 feeding
  • 12+ Months: Generally no feedings

For a more in-depth look at night feeding averages (and to access a cool printable resource!), take a look at our night feedings by age chart.

Babies Wake At Night Due To Sleep Regressions

Oh, sleep regressions – they can break even the strongest of parents! A sleep regression describes a period of time (anywhere from 1 – 4 weeks) when a baby or toddler who has been sleeping well suddenly starts waking at night, and/or skipping naps (or waking early from naps) for no apparent reason. Parents often describe being caught totally off guard: you think your have conquered all your little one’s sleep challenges, when suddenly, out of nowhere, you’re back to constant night wakings and nonexistent naps.

These sleep regressions are usually linked to your baby’s development – when your baby has a burst of mobility, or suddenly begins speaking, you can generally expect sleep to take a nosedive for a short time.

For a deeper look at when sleep regressions happen, how they disrupt sleep, and what you can do to cope, check out our Sleep Regression Resources page.

Babies Wake At Night Due To Sleep Associations

If you can pin night waking on hunger, or on a sleep regression, it could be due to a variety of other reasons (check out our list of 15 reasons your baby wakes at night for details). But most often, in our experience, “mysterious” nighttime waking is often due to sleep associations. Simply put, a sleep association is anything your child associations with sleep. For many babies and toddlers, this includes being rocked, or held, or fed to sleep. Sleep associations like these can lead to frequent nighttime waking, since, when your child wakes at night between sleep associations, she needs your help to fall back to sleep.

Babies Technically Sleep Through The Night Much Earlier Than You’d Think

You may be reading all this and thinking, “Boy…I can’t wait until my baby finally starts sleeping through the night!” But here’s the bad news – sleeping through the night does not mean 12 straight hours of sleep; it actually means 5 straight hours of sleep with no feedings. Sorry! Learning that fact is a bummer, we know. The good news, though, is that you don’t have to settle for 5 hours of sleep a night for the rest of your life – you can work you way up to a baby or toddler who sleeps 10-12 hours each night, without interruption. It just won’t happen in the early months of your baby’s life.

Sleep Like A Baby? It IS Possible….With The Right Tools!

The expression “sleep like a baby” is largely a misnomer, it’s true – but you can get to the point where your baby really is sleeping like a baby. Sure, it won’t happen immediately after birth, and for many of us have to put in some sleep training in order to get to that point, but it is possible…especially if you have the right help! One of the easiest and fastest was to get to “sleeping like a baby” is to try a personalized consultation from The Baby Sleep Site®? Your consultation will allow you to work one-on-one with an expert sleep consultant. Your consultant will craft a Personalized Sleep Plan™ just for your family, walk you through each step of implementing the plan at home, and then will support you throughout the process.
 
Browse our list of consultation package options here.
 

Once you make your choice and purchase, you will immediately receive an e-mail with your Helpdesk login information. You’ll be able to login and start your Family Sleep History form right away – it’s that simple!

Want more information about how personalized help works? Check out our FAQ page here, and get answers. You can also take a tour of the Helpdesk.

Does your baby sleep like a baby, or are you working towards “sleep like a baby” status? Share your stories and questions with us!

 
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Essential Keys to Newborn Sleep Essential Keys to Your Newborn’s Sleep is THE newborn sleep book that will help you to not only improve your newborn’s sleep using gentle, sleep-inducing routines – it will also answer your feeding and newborn care questions. You can even buy a bundle package that includes the e-book AND a Personalized Sleep Plan™ PLUS a follow-up email to use for further support!
 
bss_ebook_3stepsystem_leftFor those persistent nighttime struggles, check out The 3 Step System to Help Your Baby Sleep. Using the same unique approach and practical tools for success, this e-book helps you and your baby sleep through the night.
 
 
bss_ebook_masteringnaps_leftIf you’re looking for ways to get your baby or toddler into a healthy sleeping routine during the day, I encourage you to explore Mastering Naps and Schedules, a comprehensive guide to napping routines, nap transitions, and all the other important “how-tos” of good baby sleep. With over 45 sample sleep schedules and planning worksheets, Mastering Naps and Schedules is a hands-on tool ideal for any parenting style.
 
bss_ebook_5steptoddler_smalFor those persistent toddler sleep struggles, check out The 5 Step System to Help Your Toddler Sleep. Using the same unique approach and practical tools for success, this e-book helps you and your toddler sleep through the night and enjoy a better daytime schedule.
 

How To Relax Your Baby At Bedtime

Relax Baby At Bedtime

a guest post from Mimi Sommers, author of Relax a Bye Baby: A bedtime guide to help your little one relax and sleep tight.

I know some parents out there have no problem getting their little ones down for the night, but there are a number of you who probably struggle with bedtime like I did on a nightly basis.

While the struggles of putting a child to bed is an old story, bedtime using mindfulness techniques for kids has started a new story. Enough scientific evidence to validate the physical and mental benefits of relaxation has spurred my desire to offer another bedtime resource and bridge the meditation/mindfulness gap with the mainstream.

Children need this repetitive tool for their emotional toolbox and parents, grandparents and caregivers need to reinforce it in their own lives. It’s a “win-win” model.

How To Make Relaxation Techniques A Part Of Your Child’s Bedtime Routine

The most important approach to any relaxation technique is to find a quiet and comfortable place. For children, the best time in the bedtime routine is after the bath, tooth-brushing and reading time, when snuggled in bed. Some really don’t want to go to bed and will do anything to stay up which means you have their undivided attention when you pick up Relax a bye Baby to read.

I recommend taking a few big deep breaths with your child in order to let go of the day’s events. The good and the bad stuff is part of the past. This is your special time to unwind from the day and calm the mind.

Begin body relaxation at the feet and travel up to the head. Wiggle the toes and feet together and thank them for all their wonderful uses and let them settle down. Do the same for the legs, arms, hands and fingers.
Most children usually get the wiggles and excited before bed, so this is the perfect time for them to actually get their wiggles out.

Stretching is also a great way to release tension. Try stretching out the legs, back and arms in the process. Deep breathing in through the nose and out through the mouth is important to get oxygen back into our system and calm our nerves, so I like to add this by verbalizing and exaggerating some deep breaths intermittently into the relaxation. Use words like:
“Take a big breath in through your nose and exhale with a sigh-like a lion’s roar”. If you feel your little one isn’t relaxed yet, you can repeat this step. Get creative!

At this point the breath is nice and slow and a perfect time to look forward to tomorrow, while honoring today. In time, this will train children to let go of the bad things that they sometimes dwell on and look forward to what tomorrow brings.

Reading Relax a bye Baby nightly will reinforce this body relaxation technique in a fun and interactive approach and train everyone in the family about how to relax and wind down at bedtime.

Enter To Win One of 5 Copies of Relax A Bye Baby!

Relax a Bye baby is a great tool to help your little one learn relaxation techniques from a very early age – and those relaxation techniques make great tools to add to your sleep coaching toolbox!

UnknownAnd now, for a limited time, you can enter to win one of 5 copies of Mimi’s book, Relax a Bye Baby: A bedtime guide to help your little one relax and sleep tight. Even better, Mimi will personalize your book copy with a message of your choice! These could make great gifts for a pregnant friend or family member, a sweet present for a niece, nephew, or grandchild, or a great tool to use with your own bedtime-resisting child!

This giveaway will run from July 20th – July 27th. The giveaway is open to U.S. entrants only.
 

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RelaxAByeBaby_Author ImageMimi Sommers is a registered dental hygienist who graduated from the University of Southern California and currently works part-time in Los Altos, CA. Mimi lives in Palo Alto, CA with her husband, young son and 2 dogs.

The 8-10 Month Sleep Regression Survival Guide

8-10 Month Sleep Regression

The 8-10 month sleep regression is a tough one, parents. I’m just going to come right out and say it.

You’re already feeling weary and worn out from the 4 month sleep regression, which is a doozy itself (and which creates permanent changes in your baby’s sleeping habits), you’ve endured the 6 month growth spurt, and you may even have embarked on sleep training, since the period between the 4 month regression and the 8-10 month regression is a great sleep training window.

And then – after all that sleep deprivation you’ve been through, and after all that work you’ve done, what happens? ANOTHER SLEEP REGRESSION.

But don’t worry – don’t fret! As always, your Baby Sleep Site® team has survival tips. In this article, we’ll lay out causes of the 8-10 month sleep regression, as well as what NOT to do, and ways you can cope without creating new bad sleep habits.

The 8-10 Month Sleep Regression: Why It Happens

Now, I know that when you’re in the thick of the 8-10 month sleep regression, the last thing you’re thinking about is the “why” behind you and your baby’s sleep deprivation. But knowledge is power, as they say, so let’s take a look at why your child’s sleep tends to fall apart between 8-10 months. There are really 3 factors at play here:

  • Your baby is conquering some new physical milestones such as scooting, pulling up, etc. We hear from many parents who tell us that suddenly, right around 8-10 months, their babies are standing and jumping and crawling around in the crib, instead of sleeping.
  • Your baby is going through a period of mental development. There’s a mental leap that occurs right around the time your baby is 9 months old – this is Wonder Weeks leap #6 (see our Wonder Weeks and Sleep chart for details!). 8-9 months is also when babies begin to really grasp the concept of object permanence and that leads to a sudden onset of separation anxiety. Many parents tell us that at the 8-9 month mark, their babies are suddenly and inexplicably clingy.
  • Your baby may be going through a nap transition, and transitioning from 3 naps to 2. Oy – nap transitions are the worst! But the transition from 3 to 2 can be really tough; that’s generally the time when parents first start asking their consultant a TON of nap questions.

The 8-10 Month Sleep Regression: 5 Ways To Cope and Not Lose Your Mind

  • Stick to your usual sleep routines as best you can. You don’t want to create new frustrating sleep habits while you’re coping with a short-term phase.
  • Have several nap schedules you can choose from each day, depending on how the day goes. You may have to alternate between 2- and 3-nap days.
  • Consider offering an earlier bedtime on 2 nap days.
  • Give your baby tons of time during the day to “practice” her new skills. In other words, don’t coop her up in an exersaucer or pack-n-play.
  • Make your baby’s sleeping area as un-stimulating as possible!

For more details on handling the 8-10 month sleep regression, check out our special members-only resources in our Member’s Area:

8-10 Month Sleep Regression Help That Works – Guaranteed!

Coping with the 8-10 month sleep regression can be incredibly tough…fortunately, we can help. Our consultants at The Baby Sleep Site® specialize in creating Personalized Sleep Plans™ that are customized to your own parenting philosophy, and that will NEVER make you feel guilty or pressured. Even better, once you have your Personalized Sleep Plan™, your consultant will walk you through each step of implementing it at home.

Browse our list of consultation package options here.

Once you make your choice and purchase, you will immediately receive an e-mail with your Helpdesk login information. You’ll be able to login and start your Family Sleep History form right away – it’s that simple!

Want more information about how personalized help works? Check out our FAQ page here, and get answers. You can also take a tour of the Helpdesk.

How are you coping with the 8-10 month sleep regression? Have 8-10 month sleep regressions tips to offer? Share below – we want to hear from you!

 
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Essential Keys to Newborn Sleep Essential Keys to Your Newborn’s Sleep is THE newborn sleep book that will help you to not only improve your newborn’s sleep using gentle, sleep-inducing routines – it will also answer your feeding and newborn care questions. You can even buy a bundle package that includes the e-book AND a Personalized Sleep Plan™ PLUS a follow-up email to use for further support!
 
bss_ebook_3stepsystem_leftFor those persistent nighttime struggles, check out The 3 Step System to Help Your Baby Sleep. Using the same unique approach and practical tools for success, this e-book helps you and your baby sleep through the night.
 
 
bss_ebook_masteringnaps_leftIf you’re looking for ways to get your baby or toddler into a healthy sleeping routine during the day, I encourage you to explore Mastering Naps and Schedules, a comprehensive guide to napping routines, nap transitions, and all the other important “how-tos” of good baby sleep. With over 45 sample sleep schedules and planning worksheets, Mastering Naps and Schedules is a hands-on tool ideal for any parenting style.
 
bss_ebook_5steptoddler_smalFor those persistent toddler sleep struggles, check out The 5 Step System to Help Your Toddler Sleep. Using the same unique approach and practical tools for success, this e-book helps you and your toddler sleep through the night and enjoy a better daytime schedule.
 

Need help knowing where to start? Visit our Help Me Choose page for helping choosing the Baby Sleep Site® resources that are right for you.

Baby Nap Chart: Learn How Long Baby Should Nap, and How Many Naps Baby Needs

Baby Nap Chart

We get nap questions really frequently from our clients – particularly these two questions:

  • How many naps does my baby need?
  • How long should my baby’s naps be?

Well, we’re answering both in today’s article. We hope you’ll use this chart as an ongoing reference tool, since it covers nap totals and lengths from the newborn stage all the way through age 3. Print off a copy for yourself and use it as an easy reference tool – and consider printing off a few for your friends or family members who have struggling nappers at home!

Baby Nap Chart: Naps By Age

Age # of Naps Total Amount of Daytime Sleep Length of Each Nap Awake Time Between Naps Notes
0 – 11 Weeks 6-8 Naps 4-5 hours 10 or 15 minutes – 4 hours 30 mins – 1 hour Naps are all over the map at this age, so don’t fret about short and erratic naps in this newborn stage. Instead, focus on daily feeding and sleep routines and use those to shape your day.
3-4 Months 4-5 Naps 3-4 hours 30 minutes-2 hours about 1-2 hours Watch for the 4 month sleep regression right around this time; it will throw off even the best napper!
5-6 Months 3-4 Naps 2.5-3.5 hours 30/45 minutes-2 hours about 2 hours Short naps are normal in the first 5-6 months of your baby’s life, but starting around 6 months, your baby’s nap sleep should start to consolidate into more predictable, regular naps.
7-8 Months 2-3 Naps 2-3 hours 1-2 hours 2-3 hours Another sleep regression strikes at around 8 or 9 months, and a nap transition sometimes happens around this same time – from 3 naps to 2.
9-12 Months 2 Naps 2-3 hours 1-2 hours about 3-4 hours By this point, your baby should be napping pretty predictably. See our sample nap and feeding schedules for help building a more consistent nap schedule, if you’re still struggling with erratic naps.
13-17 Months 1-2 Naps 2-3 hours 1-3 hours 3-5hours Resist the impulse to transition to 1 nap when your baby turns 12 months old. Most babies don’t make the transition to 1 nap until closer to 15-18 months, so hang on to that second nap as best you can for this stage.
18 Months-3 Years 1 Nap 1-3 hours 1.5-2.5 hours 5-6 hours Watch your toddler’s awake time between the end of the afternoon nap and bedtime – as your toddler grows, he’ll need longer and longer afternoon wake time, which means you’ll need to time the nap carefully to be sure it doesn’t push bedtime too late. Additionally, some children will drop the afternoon nap entirely before age 3.

 
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Baby_On_Computer_RESIZEDIf you are looking for a more customized solution for your unique situation, and want plenty support along the way, please consider one-on-one baby and toddler sleep consultations. Your consultation package will provide you with the chance to interact one-on-one with a trained sleep consultant, who will create a Personalized Sleep Plan™ for your family and then work to help you implement it at home.
 
bss_email_featprod_memberspic-CROPPEDOur Members Area is packed with exclusive content and resources: e-Books, assessments, detailed case studies, expert advice, peer support, and more. It actually costs less to join than buying products separately! As a member, you’ll also enjoy a weekly chat with an expert sleep consultant. And the best part – members receive 20% off all sleep consultation services!
 
Essential Keys to Newborn Sleep Essential Keys to Your Newborn’s Sleep is THE newborn sleep book that will help you to not only improve your newborn’s sleep using gentle, sleep-inducing routines – it will also answer your feeding and newborn care questions. You can even buy a bundle package that includes the e-book AND a Personalized Sleep Plan™ PLUS a follow-up email to use for further support!
 
 
bss_ebook_masteringnaps_leftIf you’re looking for ways to get your baby or toddler into a healthy sleeping routine during the day, I encourage you to explore Mastering Naps and Schedules, a comprehensive guide to napping routines, nap transitions, and all the other important “how-tos” of good baby sleep. With over 45 sample sleep schedules and planning worksheets, Mastering Naps and Schedules is a hands-on tool ideal for any parenting style.
 

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Have questions about bedtime, or tips for other parents? Leave them below, and let’s get the conversations started!

5 Ways To Help Your Baby Sleep Well During Summer Travels

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Need Summertime Sleep Help For Your Baby or Toddler? The Baby Sleep Site® Is Here For You!

 
Baby_On_Computer_RESIZEDIf you are looking for a more customized solution for your unique situation, and want plenty support along the way, please consider one-on-one baby and toddler sleep consultations. Your consultation package will provide you with the chance to interact one-on-one with a trained sleep consultant, who will create a Personalized Sleep Plan™ for your family and then work to help you implement it at home.
 
 
 
bss_email_featprod_memberspic-CROPPEDOur Members Area is packed with exclusive content and resources: e-Books, assessments, detailed case studies, expert advice, peer support, and more. It actually costs less to join than buying products separately! As a member, you’ll also enjoy a weekly chat with an expert sleep consultant. And the best part – members receive 20% off all sleep consultation services!
 
 
 
Essential Keys to Newborn Sleep Essential Keys to Your Newborn’s Sleep is THE newborn sleep book that will help you to not only improve your newborn’s sleep using gentle, sleep-inducing routines – it will also answer your feeding and newborn care questions. You can even buy a bundle package that includes the e-book AND a Personalized Sleep Plan™ PLUS a follow-up email to use for further support!
 
 
 
bss_ebook_3stepsystem_leftFor those persistent nighttime struggles, check out The 3 Step System to Help Your Baby Sleep. Using the same unique approach and practical tools for success, this e-book helps you and your baby sleep through the night.
 
 
 
 
bss_ebook_masteringnaps_leftIf you’re looking for ways to get your baby or toddler into a healthy sleeping routine during the day, I encourage you to explore Mastering Naps and Schedules, a comprehensive guide to napping routines, nap transitions, and all the other important “how-tos” of good baby sleep. With over 45 sample sleep schedules and planning worksheets, Mastering Naps and Schedules is a hands-on tool ideal for any parenting style.
 
 
 
bss_ebook_5steptoddler_smalFor those persistent toddler sleep struggles, check out The 5 Step System to Help Your Toddler Sleep. Using the same unique approach and practical tools for success, this e-book helps you and your toddler sleep through the night and enjoy a better daytime schedule.
 
 
 

Need help knowing where to start? Visit our Help Me Choose page for helping choosing the Baby Sleep Site® resources that are right for you.