3 Other Consultants Failed Jennifer. We Didn’t.

(written by Jennifer Smith)
 
WashingtonIMAGE1Oh, how I remember the day I signed up for the personalized sleep plan on The Baby Sleep Site. Tears rolled down my face as I hit the payment button. I had just read the testimonials of other parents and knew, without a doubt, that I would never, ever be in their company. After Maddy’s severe colic finally abated, we had a window of about three weeks where she slept just like all the books said she would.

And then, it stopped. She would only sleep if she was on me in the baby bjorn and I was moving, or in my arms and I was bouncing on the exercise ball. I remember bouncing as my husband left for work early in the morning; when he returned late in the evening, I was still there, still bouncing. Thank heavens for my iPad, my Netflix subscription, and “30 Rock.”

The worst, though, was when neither bouncing, nor the baby bjorn, nor vigorous gliding would work. Hour upon hour of screams and cries. We re-read every book and tried every method. When that didn’t work, we contacted sleep consultants. Two fired us because their methods should have worked but didn’t. The third just stopped responding. I spent long days checking and consoling Maddy through naps she never took. At night, it would take at least 90 minutes and sometimes more than three hours of absolute misery for her to find the sleep we so desperately wanted her to get. I tried to remember my mom’s advice: “if mom isn’t relaxed, baby cannot be relaxed.” But nothing seemed to work. Until we found co-sleeping. Relieved, we gave ourselves over to it. It wasn’t restful, it was completely disruptive to our household, but at least Maddy was sleeping and we were getting more sleep than we were used to.

And then that, too, stopped working, and we were back to square one.

When I confessed to my husband that I had engaged yet another sleep consultant, I sobbed. “It’s just more good money after bad, but I can’t live like this any longer. I have to have something, even if it’s just false hope.” If that sentence reads dramatic, you’re getting sleep. Sleep deprivation, as my friend told me, is the thief of perspective. It is also the thief of joy. We loved Maddy desperately, and we desperately needed her to sleep so we could get the rest we needed.

When the personalized sleep plan arrived, I devoured it and felt a huge rush of relief. I showed it to my husband, who also took heart. It was helpful, understanding, and clear. Context was provided for all the suggestions and there was enough wiggle room for us to tailor it to our specific parenting styles and abilities.

WashingtonIMAGE3As we proceeded, guess what? It didn’t work. And so I dropped it. Having been dismissed before, I just didn’t have the heart to be turned away again. But I came back because I had to—I just had to try again. That’s when we found out that “generous” doesn’t begin to describe The Baby Sleep Site’s email support. I explained what happened to our consultant, Liz, and she picked it right up, asked questions, conferred with me, and together we tweaked the plan. In the ensuing weeks, I emailed over large issues and very small questions. I mean, I wanted ALL MY BASES COVERED so I asked every single question I could come up with—sometimes more than once. Liz responded in a timely way and always addressed both the questions asked and those that were implied—the questions I was too sleep-deprived to form. The kindness and care Liz showered on us surprised me. With other sleep consultants, they were certain and directive. “Do this, and Maddy will sleep.” But the suggestions didn’t always work. And sometimes, we proved fallible (as people—sleep-deprived or otherwise—are prone to be). Liz walked me through every little detail, cheered us on for every success, and reassured me with every misstep.

With the counsel of Liz and The Baby Sleep Site, Maddy went from co-sleeping to sleeping through the night in her own crib with the least amount of tears of any sleep training program. What seemed to me an insurmountable mountain was summited one step at a time. I really felt roped to Liz and knew that she had my back if I slipped or was unsure. The directions from her were so helpful and clear that every night, I knew going in exactly what to do. When Maddy had trouble clearing a new hurdle, and I started to feel helpless, I just reminded myself, “your only job right now is to do x.” Knowing that Liz was keeping an eye on the big picture allowed me to just do the next thing. I didn’t have to worry about how on earth Maddy was EVER going to sleep in her crib ALL NIGHT. I just had to do x. I just had to do y. And then, as the successes started piling up, I became more confident. And as I became more confident, so did Maddy.

It’s hard to put into words just how much our lives have changed. I become quite emotional when I think about it. My husband and I can now talk without Maddy present—a huge gift. He and I can sleep in the same bed all night long. By ourselves. Instead of trying to figure out how to make it through another day, I am rested and happy when I hear Maddy stirring in the morning. We can think about expanding our family. I can read a book, or a magazine, or watch a show.

A few weeks after successfully sleep training Maddy, she became ill with a bad cold. She was terribly congested and could only find rest if I held her upright in my arms. Once she was well again, who was happy to get back to their respective sleep spaces? EVERYONE.

I thought our case was hopeless, I really did. With the help of The Baby Sleep Site, I am another proud member of the satisfied client list. And I am as well-rested as any mother of a strong-willed and independent 18 month-old can be.

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WOW – just wow. Jennifer’s story is proof that our sleep consultants really can help just about any baby sleep – even a baby who has baffled three other sleep consultants! And they will do it in a supportive, non-judgmental way that leaves you feel encouraged and empowered instead of defeated and abandoned. And as Jennifer’s story shows, it’s not an overstatement to call a consultation with The Baby Sleep Site® life-changing. In Jennifer’s case, it absolutely changed her life, and saved her from spiraling even further into exhaustion and despair. A consultation with a Baby Sleep Site consultant really is an investment – in your baby’s (and your) health, in your sanity, in your relationship with your partner, in your overall quality of life…this is more than just a purchase. It’s an investment in your family. And we hope it’s an investment you’ll consider making today!

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Sleep Regression, or Something Else?

 
Sleep Regression or Something Else

Is it a sleep regression…or is it something else? That’s a question that many parents would like the answer to. After all, until you uncover the root of your baby or toddler sleep problems, you can’t know how to respond to them, and how best to solve them.

Today, we bring you a brand-new quiz, designed to help you uncover whether your baby or toddler’s recent sleep problems are the result of a sleep regression, or something else entirely. Take the easy, 7-question quiz, and you’ll get additional insights into whether or not the sleep problems you’re facing are due to a sleep regression or not.

After you see the results of your quiz, please come back to this page and scroll all the way down for resources. If your problem is a sleep regression, we have many sleep regression articles available. If it’s something else, there are links below designed to help you get at the root of your baby or toddler’s sleep challenges.

Sleep Regression, or Something Else? A Baby Sleep Site® Quiz


Sleep Regression, or Something Else?


Please answer each question below by indicating whether the statement is more true or less true, using the radio buttons. When you have completed each question, click the ‘Get Score’ button (note that you DO NOT have to enter your name or e-mail address). Next, enter the captcha code that is shown, and then your results will show on a new page.

My child falls into one of the following age ranges: 3-5 months, 8-10 months, 11-12 months, 17-19 months, 22-25 months. (Mark ’1′ if your child falls outside these ranges, and ’5′ if your child falls within one of these age ranges.)
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
My child is currently learning a new skill (a new skill = sitting up, crawling/creeping, puling up to standing, walking, etc.)
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
My child usually sleeps well at night, but recently, he/she is waking more frequently than normal.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
My child usually naps well, but recently, he/she has begun having shorter-than-normal naps, and sometimes missing naps.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
My child has been extra-clingy lately.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
My child has been crying and fussing more than usual lately.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
My child is normally able to fall asleep independently, without my help (independently means you lay him/her down for sleep awake, and then your child is able fall asleep).
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
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Sleep Regression? Resources That Can Help

If your quiz indicated that you are most likely facing a sleep regression, take a look at the following resources:

Not A Sleep Regression? It May Be One Of These Problems

If the results of your quiz indicated that your baby or toddler is probably not or most likely not going through a sleep regression, you may be wondering what IS going on with your little one’s sleep. Take a look at the following resources for help:

Sleep Regression Help That Works – Guaranteed!

 
bss_ebook_3stepsystem_leftFor those persistent nighttime struggles, check out The 3 Step System to Help Your Baby Sleep. Using the same unique approach and practical tools for success, this e-book helps you and your baby sleep through the night.
 
 
 
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bss_ebook_masteringnaps_leftIf you’re looking for ways to get your baby or toddler into a healthy sleeping routine during the day, I encourage you to explore Mastering Naps and Schedules, a comprehensive guide to napping routines, nap transitions, and all the other important “how-tos” of good baby sleep. With over 45 sample sleep schedules and planning worksheets, Mastering Naps and Schedules is a hands-on tool ideal for any parenting style.

 

bss_email_featprod_memberspic-CROPPEDOr, join our Members Area packed with exclusive content and resources: e-Books, assessments, detailed case studies, expert advice, peer support, and more. It actually costs less to join than buying products separately! As a member, you’ll also enjoy a weekly chat with an expert sleep consultant. And the best part – members receive 20% off all sleep consultation services!

 
Baby_On_Computer_RESIZEDIf you are looking for a more customized solution for your unique situation, and want plenty support along the way, please consider one-on-one baby and toddler sleep consultations. Your consultation package will provide you with the chance to interact one-on-one with a trained sleep consultant, who will create a Personalized Sleep Plan™ for your family and then work to help you implement it at home.
 

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QUICK TIP: Dream Feed Dos and Don’ts

 
Dream Feed Tips

In some cases, a dream feed can be a great way to “top off” your baby at night, before you go to bed, and guarantee yourself an extra-long stretch of sleep during the night. But in other cases, a dream feed is simply a sleep crutch that doesn’t actually improve sleep (and certainly doesn’t promote sleeping through the night) and tends to cause more problems than it solves.

But how can you know whether or not a dream feed is a good idea for your baby? We have dream feed dos and don’ts for you in today’s article – read on for details!

Dream Feed DOs

A dream feed can be a true blessing and a great tool when used in the following scenarios:

  • A dream feed an work well for babies who are younger than 6 months.
  • A dream feed is especially great for newborns (provided you don’t wake your newborn up too much during the feed!)
  • A dream feed can be good for breastfeeding moms who have supply problems and need to nurse more frequently, or for breastfeeding moms who also work outside the home.
  • A dream feed works well for babies who are able to wake up enough to feed, but not so much that they’re fully awake.

Dream Feed DON’TS

A dream feed isn’t a silver bullet solution to sleep problems, however. A dream feed usually won’t work well in the following situations:

  • A dream feed doesn’t usually work well for babies who are older than 9 months (because by this age, most babies don’t need any night feedings and are ready for night weaning).
  • A dream feed won’t work well for babies who are extra-alert and perceptive; you run the risk of waking them too much when you wake them for the dream feed.
  • A dream feed will do nothing to fix a persistent sleep association. If your baby consistently wakes shortly after the dream feed, it’s likely you have a sleep problem on your hands that involves more than simple hunger.

Will A Dream Feed Help Your Baby Sleep?

So, will a dream feed help your baby? That depends on a lot of unique factors, as I mentioned earlier, but here’s the main thing to remember: if your baby is breastfeeding, is not super-alert and responds well to being slightly roused at night, and is under 6 months old, then a dream feed may be worth trying, as a tool to improve sleep. But if your baby is over 6 months old, and if your baby usually wakes shortly after the dream feed, then it may be time to identify your baby’s sleep associations, and to start working on sleep training.

Baby Sleep Help From The Baby Sleep Site®

 
bss_ebook_3stepsystem_leftFor those persistent nighttime struggles, check out The 3 Step System to Help Your Baby Sleep. Using the same unique approach and practical tools for success, this e-book helps you and your baby sleep through the night.
 
 
 
bss_ebook_masteringnaps_leftIf you’re looking for ways to get your baby or toddler into a healthy sleeping routine during the day, I encourage you to explore Mastering Naps and Schedules, a comprehensive guide to napping routines, nap transitions, and all the other important “how-tos” of good baby sleep. With over 45 sample sleep schedules and planning worksheets, Mastering Naps and Schedules is a hands-on tool ideal for any parenting style.

 

bss_email_featprod_memberspic-CROPPEDOr, join our Members Area packed with exclusive content and resources: e-Books, assessments, detailed case studies, expert advice, peer support, and more. It actually costs less to join than buying products separately! As a member, you’ll also enjoy a weekly chat with an expert sleep consultant. And the best part – members receive 20% off all sleep consultation services!

 
Baby_On_Computer_RESIZEDIf you are looking for a more customized solution for your unique situation, and want plenty support along the way, please consider one-on-one baby and toddler sleep consultations. Your consultation package will provide you with the chance to interact one-on-one with a trained sleep consultant, who will create a Personalized Sleep Plan™ for your family and then work to help you implement it at home.
 

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Newborn Sleep and Feeding Schedule

 
Newborn Sleep Feeding Schedule

This article outlines newborn sleep patterns and habits, as well as sample newborn sleep and feeding schedules.

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Newborn Sleep

A baby is considered a newborn from birth until about 3 months of age. During the first 3 months of life, your newborn’s sleep patterns will look nothing like yours – your baby will sleep in short bursts (anywhere from 30 or 45 minutes – 3 or possibly 4 hours), and then eat between sleeps. In this way, newborn’s don’t follow a typical day/night sleep schedule. Their circadian rhythms need time to adjust – in fact, some newborns come out of the womb having their days and nights completely mixed up! This is called day/night confusion, and babies who struggle with it tend to sleep a lot during the day and then wake up frequently at night.

Many parents discover that their newborns are extra sleepy in the first week or two after birth – you may find that you have to wake your newborn to feed, or that your newborn often drifts off during a feeding, before eating her fill. But your newborn will definitely “wake up” within three weeks after birth – at that point, you will start to deal with more wakefulness (in fact, you may start to miss the early weeks of having a super-sleepy newborn!!).

Newborn Feeding

Newborns feed very, very frequently, but this isn’t a problem to be solved – it’s perfectly natural! Your newborn’s tummy is quite small, so it’s understandable that he needs to eat often.

Formula-fed newborns may need to eat slightly less often than breast-fed newborns, because it takes a newborn’s tummy longer to digest and break down formal, resulting in baby feeling fuller for longer periods of time. Breast milk, on the other hand, is digested fairly quickly.

As for how much breastmilk or formula your baby needs – when it comes to formula, you can use a fairly simple formula to help you determine approximately how much formula your baby needs. Take your baby’s weight and multiply it by 2.5. So, following this approach, an 8 pound baby would need about 20 ounces of formula in a 24-hour period. As for breastmilk – as a general rule, most newborns need between 20 and 30 ounces of breastmilk (and between 25-35 ounces once they’re past the newborn stage). In general, if you are exclusively nursing, it’s best to nurse on demand in the first few weeks after birth – this will ensure that your milk supply becomes well-established. In the first 12 weeks, your newborn may have one 4-5 hour stretch of sleep during the day or night, but your baby really shouldn’t have more than one (or possibly two, in some cases) – in order to maintain your supply, you’ll need to nurse every 2-3 hours, on average. Once your baby is past 3 months of age, and is in the infant stage, that will slowly stretch into 5-6 hours, and then 7-8, and eventually right up to 10 or 11 hours once your baby is 9 or 10 months old.

Newborn Growth Spurts

Believe it or not, A LOT is going on with your newborn baby. So much growth and development is happening in that little body! Your newborn will very likely go through growth spurts at the following times:

  • 7-10 days of age
  • 2-3 weeks of age
  • 4-6 weeks of age
  • 3 months of age

During these growth spurts, it will feel like your newborn is feeding almost constantly (and like when she’s not feeding, she’s sleeping). This is 100% normal – feed your newborn as often as she needs it, as the extra nourishment is important during the growth spurt.

Newborn Feeding and Sleep Schedule

Your unique newborn’s wake times and total sleep needs may vary from what is recommended below. These schedules are based on averages, but your baby may need more or less sleep (or shorter/longer wake times) than what is shown below. Remember, watch your baby’s sleepy cues closely (rubbing eyes, yawning, staring off into space, etc.), and let those guide the sleep schedule. Remember, too, that if your baby is already fussing, he’s already overtired – strive to get him down for his nap earlier next time, before the fussing starts.

 

2-8 Week Old Newborn, Breast Feeding

(This schedule is best for babies who consume average amounts of breast milk, and for moms who have average breast milk production and storage amounts. Babies who eat smaller amounts, babies with reflux, and moms who produce and store smaller amounts of breastmilk would need a different schedule, as would babies who eat larger amounts per feeding, and moms who produce/store greater amounts of breast milk. Schedules for those scenarios, as well as schedules for older breast-fed newborns, are available in our newborn book, Essential Keys To Your Newborn’s Sleep).

9:00 AM – Wake and Feed*
10:00 AM – Nap (30-60 minutes)
11:00 AM – Wake and Feed
12:30 PM – Nap (30-60 minutes)
1:30 PM – Wake and Feed
3:30 PM – Nap (30 – 60 minutes)
4:30 PM – Wake and Feed
6:00 PM – Nap (30 – 60 minutes)
6:30 PM – Wake and Feed
7:30 PM – Catnap (20 – 30 minutes)
8:00 PM – Wake and Feed
9:30 PM – Catnap (20 – 30 minutes)
10:00 PM – Wake and Feed
11:30 PM – Feed and Bedtime*
3:30 AM – Feed and Right back to sleep
6:30 AM – Feed and Right back to sleep

* – we recommend you make these fixed points in your baby’s schedule. You can read more about this in our article on fixed points in a baby schedule.

2-8 Week Old Newborn, Formula Feeding

(You will see that this schedule outlines longer naps and fewer feedings than the breastfeeding schedule above; this is simply because formula is more difficult for baby to digest, so baby tends to feel fuller longer, and therefore needs slightly fewer feedings. For formula-feeding schedules for older newborns, see our newborn book, Essential Keys To Your Newborn’s Sleep)

9:00 AM – Wake and Feed*
10:00 AM – Nap (60 – 90 minutes)
11:30 AM – Wake
12:30 PM – Feed and Nap (30 – 60 minutes)
1:30 PM – Wake
3:00 PM – Feed and Nap (60 – 90 minutes)
4:30 PM – Wake and Feed
6:00 PM – Nap (30 – 60 minutes)
6:00 PM – Wake
7:30 PM – Feed and Nap (30 – 60 minutes)
8:30 PM – Wake
9:30 PM – Nap (30 – 60 minutes)
10:00 PM – Wake and Feed
11:30 PM – Feed and Bedtime*
4:30 AM – Feed and Right back to sleep
7:30 AM – Feed and Right back to sleep

* – we recommend you make these fixed points in your baby’s schedule. You can read more about this in our article on fixed points in a baby schedule.

Essential Keys to Newborn SleepThe schedules above come from our newborn sleep e-Book, Essential Keys To Your Newborn’s Sleep. At over 90 pages long (and containing a variety of sample schedules for breastfed and formula-fed babies from birth – 16 weeks), this e-Book truly is a one-stop resource designed to help your newborn establish healthy sleep habits, right from birth. Whether you’re a brand new parent or an experienced parents who needs to brush up newborn sleep basics, Essential Keys To Your Newborn’s Sleep is a comprehensive and budget-friendly resource that will provide the information you need to work towards excellent sleep for your whole family, from day one.

Additional Newborn Sleep Articles

Want more newborn sleep tips? Check out our other newborn sleep articles:

Newborn Sleep Resources, and Personalized Newborn Sleep Help

bss_ebook_masteringnaps_leftIf you’re looking for ways to get your baby or toddler into a healthy sleeping routine during the day, I encourage you to explore Mastering Naps and Schedules, a comprehensive guide to napping routines, nap transitions, and all the other important “how-tos” of good baby sleep. With over 45 sample sleep schedules and planning worksheets, Mastering Naps and Schedules is a hands-on tool ideal for any parenting style.

 
bss_ebook_3stepsystem_leftFor those persistent nighttime struggles, check out The 3 Step System to Help Your Baby Sleep. Using the same unique approach and practical tools for success, this e-book helps you and your baby sleep through the night.
 
 

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Baby_On_Computer_RESIZEDIf you are looking for a more customized solution for your unique situation, and want plenty support along the way, please consider one-on-one baby and toddler sleep consultations. Your consultation package will provide you with the chance to interact one-on-one with a trained sleep consultant, who will create a Personalized Sleep Plan™ for your family and then work to help you implement it at home.
 

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Sleep Regression, or Growth Spurt? Or Both?

Sleep Regression or Growth Spurt

Parents, does it every feel like the first year of your baby’s life is just one long sleep challenge? Between sleep regressions, teething, illness, growth spurts, and nap transitions, it can feel like your baby will NEVER sleep soundly, because just when you find your sleep “groove”, another change or transition rears its ugly head.

This is especially true of sleep regressions. There are three sleep regressions that we commonly see happen during the first year of a child’s life, and since each one can last for 6 weeks (or perhaps more, in extreme cases!), it can feel like you are moving from one regression straight into another

However, we also commonly hear parents refer to baby growth spurts as sleep regressions. Indeed, some sleep consultants and experts call baby growth spurts sleep regressions, and vice versa.

So what’s this about? Is a sleep regression the same as a growth spurt? Are the two related? Or are they completely different?

Let’s take a look!

Sleep Regression: A Look at Common Baby Sleep Regressions, and Why They Happen

As I mentioned before, we commonly see three distinct regressions during the first year of a baby’s life.

4 Month Sleep Regression

This sleep regression is tough on parents – it can sometimes feel like you’re straight back to having a newborn again, especially if your baby was sleeping through the night and napping well before the regression started! The 4 month regression happens because your baby’s brain and sleep patterns are maturing and changing. Before 4 months, your baby’s sleep patterns are very different from yours; during the 4 month regression, your baby’s sleep patterns are maturing and becoming much more like yours. As a result, you may find that your baby wakes more frequently at night and too early at nap time; this is usually a result of waking between sleep cycles. You can read our original 4 months sleep regression article, or you can read a newer, updated 4 month sleep regression article as well.

8 Month (or 9 Month, or 10 Month) Sleep Regression

If you manage to get your 4 month old sleeping well after the 4 month sleep regression, you’re not out of the woods yet – you still have the 8/9/10 month sleep regression to contend with! The cause of this regression is pretty easy to spot, for most parents – at this age, your baby is going through major developmental milestones! From 8-10 months, most babies are becoming expert crawlers, they’re pulling up on furniture and beginning to cruise around, and they may even be starting to walk. What’s more, your baby is learning a lot of hand-eye coordination at this time – by 8 months, most babies are becoming able to spot a toy they want, creep/crawl over to it, pick it up with their pincer grip, and then inspect it closely (and perhaps try to eat it!). Truly, this window of time is an explosion of physical development for most babies. No wonder, then, that sleep is disrupted – their brains and bodies are learning so many new physical skills!

12 Month Sleep Regression

This sleep regression is less-common; not every child will go through this one. That may be because it has more to do with naps, and therefore doesn’t have the same overall impact on sleep. Specifically, this regression is characterized by a 12-month old suddenly refusing to take two naps, and refusing to sleep during the first morning nap. Lots of parents assume this means it’s time to transition from two naps to one, but we discourage this. Most babies aren’t actually ready for just one nap per day until between 15 months and 18 months. So really, this regression has a lot to do with your baby consolidating sleep differently – by 12 months, your baby is likely sleeping very long stretches at night, and getting just 2-3 hours of sleep in naps. This change in sleep consolidation can cause a brief “nap strike” right around 12 months of age. You can read more about the 12 month sleep regression here.

Baby Growth Spurts: When They Happen

If you feel like 3 sleep regressions in the first year of life is a lot, just wait until you see how many growth spurts you can expect in the first year:

  • 7-10 days
  • 2 weeks
  • 4 weeks
  • 8 weeks
  • 12 weeks
  • 4 months
  • 6 months
  • 8.5 months
  • 10.5 months
  • 12.5 months

Of course, your baby won’t experience growth spurts at exactly those times (babies aren’t nearly so predictable!) but you can use these as rough estimates. Baby growth spurts are short intervals (usually about a week) during which time your baby will have an increased appetite, and will often wake more at night to feed. And baby growth spurts affect sleep, too. During these baby growth spurts, your baby may also seem extra-sleepy, so even though sleep may be interrupted by extra feedings, you may find that your baby’s overall sleep amounts per day are greater during the growth spurt than they usually are.

Sleep Regression vs. Growth Spurt

So, is a sleep regression the same as a growth spurt? The short answer is no. For one thing, a baby will go through far more baby growth spurts during the first year than she will sleep regressions. Additionally, based on the information above, you can see that sleep regressions have much more to do with mental and physical development, and less to do with simple growth and weight gain. What’s more, the sleeplessness that comes with growth spurts has a cause – baby growth spurts cause babies to wake more often at night, and early from naps, because baby is hungry and needs to eat. But that’s not true of sleep regressions; during a sleep regression, your baby will wake more at night and have interrupted naps, but you may not be able to find a cause at all (indeed, because often there is no cause that you can see – it’s due to mental and physical development). Finally, growth spurts are usually short-lived (about a week) whereas a sleep regression can last up to 6 weeks (typically 2-4 weeks).

That said, if you compare the timing of each sleep regression against the list of baby growth spurts, you’ll notice significant overlap. Many of the baby growth spurts on the list coincide with the sleep regression stages. So, while sleep regressions and baby growth spurts are not the same thing – you can’t use the terms interchangeably – it’s likely that a sleep regression impacts a growth spurt, and that baby growth spurts impact sleep regressions.

Sleep Regression and Growth Spurt Help That Works

Most parents find that they can survive baby growth spurts by simply offering more feeds and waiting them out. A sleep regression is tougher, though – it lasts a lot longer, and it’s not nearly as easy to comfort your baby during a sleep regression. We often find that sleep regressions drive parents to seek help from our team of consultants.

But be sure, as you consider baby growth spurts and sleep regressions, that you don’t chalk ALL of your baby’s sleep problems up to a sleep regression, or a growth spurt. The fact is, if your baby has never learned to sleep independently, and has sleep associations that involve you (like you rocking or feeding to sleep, or you replacing the pacifier), then your baby’s frequent night wakings and short naps may be a sign that it’s time to sleep train.

If sleep training is what you need, we can certainly help with that. We have a team of caring, compassionate expert consultants standing by, waiting to create a Personalized Sleep Plan™ for your family.
 
Browse our list of consultation package options here.
 

Once you make your choice and purchase, you will immediately receive an e-mail with your Helpdesk login information. You’ll be able to login and start your Family Sleep History form right away – it’s that simple!

Want more information about how personalized help works? Check out our FAQ page here, and get answers. You can also take a tour of the Helpdesk.

Your turn – in your experience, how are baby growth spurts and sleep regressions related? Share your story with us!

 
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bss_ebook_masteringnaps_leftIf you’re looking for ways to get your baby or toddler into a healthy sleeping routine during the day, I encourage you to explore Mastering Naps and Schedules, a comprehensive guide to napping routines, nap transitions, and all the other important “how-tos” of good baby sleep. With over 45 sample sleep schedules and planning worksheets, Mastering Naps and Schedules is a hands-on tool ideal for any parenting style.

 

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Baby_On_Computer_RESIZEDIf you are looking for a more customized solution for your unique situation, and want plenty support along the way, please consider one-on-one baby and toddler sleep consultations. Your consultation package will provide you with the chance to interact one-on-one with a trained sleep consultant, who will create a Personalized Sleep Plan™ for your family and then work to help you implement it at home.
 

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Night Weaning Quiz: Is Your Baby Ready For Night Weaning?

Night Weaning: Is Your Baby Ready For Night Weaning?
 
Night weaning. It’s a popular topic around The Baby Sleep Site®! Countless parents have contacted us over the years and asked, “Is my baby ready for night weaning?”

The answer, of course, varies from baby to baby. So much depends on age, but we can’t offer a simple ‘if your baby is this age, then yes, it’s time for night weaning’. Because we have to account for health factors, too – some babies simply need night feedings longer than others, especially if they have medical problems. And parent preference plays a huge part in this as well – some moms want to hang on to night feedings even after they’re no longer “necessary”, simply because they love that special time with their child!

The night weaning question has come up often enough recently, however, that we thought it was time we brought you this great tool to help you get a better sense of whether or not you and your baby are ready to night wean. Take this simple, 5-question quiz, and learn whether or not night weaning is something you can consider right now.

Night Weaning Articles

The night weaning quiz, below, will provide great insights, but if you want to do some extra reading on night weaning, take a look at these resources:

Night Weaning Quiz: Is Your Baby Ready For Night Weaning?

The quiz below is very easy to take – only 5 questions, and you simply need to mark a number from 1-5 for each question. Once you have answered each question, click the ‘Get Score’ button at the bottom (note that you do NOT have to enter your name or e-mail address in order to see your results). A new page will appear; enter the numerical code that’s displayed, and your quiz results will show on a new page.


Is My Child Ready to Night-Wean?


Answer each question below by selecting a number between 1 and 5.

My child wakes just 1 or 2 times a night for a feeding
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
My child always goes right back to sleep after a feeding
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
My child does NOT need a feeding to fall asleep
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
My child is NOT yet eating 3 solid meals per day
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
My child is 9 months or YOUNGER
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
Your Name:
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Night Weaning Resources From The Baby Sleep Site®

Night weaning isn’t always easy, even if you know your baby is ready and have read all the right baby sleep book. You may need night weaning help – and we offer just that! Our team of caring and compassionate consultants is ready to provide the personalized help you and your family need. Your consultant will provide you with your very own Personalized Sleep Plan™ which contains specific night weaning plans and schedules.
 
Browse our list of consultation package options here.
 

Once you make your choice and purchase, you will immediately receive an e-mail with your Helpdesk login information. You’ll be able to login and start your Family Sleep History form right away – it’s that simple!

Want more information about how personalized help works? Check out our FAQ page here, and get answers. You can also take a tour of the Helpdesk.

Have night weaning questions? Ask – we’ll answer! Already a night weaning champion? Share your tips with us!

 
bss_ebook_3stepsystem_leftFor those persistent nighttime struggles, check out The 3 Step System to Help Your Baby Sleep. Using the same unique approach and practical tools for success, this e-book helps you and your baby sleep through the night.
 
 
 
bss_ebook_masteringnaps_leftIf you’re looking for ways to get your baby or toddler into a healthy sleeping routine during the day, I encourage you to explore Mastering Naps and Schedules, a comprehensive guide to napping routines, nap transitions, and all the other important “how-tos” of good baby sleep. With over 45 sample sleep schedules and planning worksheets, Mastering Naps and Schedules is a hands-on tool ideal for any parenting style.

 

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Newborns Sleeping Through The Night? What About Breastfeeding?

 
Newborn Sleep Through The Night

Did you catch all the controversy a few weeks ago over the latest baby sleep book? The book in question is called The Newborn Sleep Book: A Simple, Proven Method For Training Your New Baby To Sleep Through The Night. The two authors who wrote it allege that by using their method (called “the Jassey Way”), you can start training your newborn baby to give up night feedings and sleep 8 hours or more each night, starting from about a week after birth. They boast an impressive 90% success rate among families who use their techniques.

That means 90% of families had newborn babies who were sleeping 8+ hours at night, and not waking to feed during nighttime hours.

To some people, that might sound awesome; to me, it sounds pretty scary.

Why The Jasseys’ Method Is Not Breastfeeding Friendly (Not Even A Little Bit)

The implications of this sleep training method are pretty unsettling – parents are supposed to start weaning their newborns from night feedings as early as three weeks after birth, and “distracting” their hungry newborns as a way to phase out middle-of-the-night feeds. Parents are also supposed to try and stretch all daytime feeds to four hours apart; the Jasseys allege that this “resets” a baby’s hunger receptors.

Riiiiiiight.

But aside from the awful mental picture of a parent “distracting” a very hungry newborn baby (makes me angry just thinking about it!), I was immediately struck by how anti-breastfeeding this is. Yes, we all want babies who sleep well, but not at the expense of breastfeeding and bonding. As many of us moms know, in order to breastfeed successfully, it is absolutely critical that you breastfeed often – like every 1-3 hours often! And feeding your baby on demand is crucial in the early days after birth. So how do those well-established breastfeeding best practices line up with the Jasseys’ method?

Here’s what I found, after reading the book: the Jasseys do instruct moms to nurse often in the first few weeks (3-4) after birth, in order to get their milk supply well-established. They go on to explain that after the first few weeks, you can begin spreading out and then dropping night feedings, and stretching daytime feedings to 4 hour intervals.

Sounds great, right? Except that it certainly won’t work this way for every family. Here’s the truth – according to Miriam (who is one of our sleep consultants and, remember, also a registered nurse and an IBCLC- certified lactation consultant), going 4 hours between feedings all day long, and then working towards reduced night feedings when baby is just 4 weeks old, will absolutely decrease breast milk supply for the majority of moms and babies, even if breastfeeding is well-established.

Here’s some math, to help illustrate:

Most breastfed newborns need 20-30 oz of breast milk per day (25-35 oz for 4+ months). If your baby is supposed to eat every 4 hours, day and night, that leaves room for six feedings in a 24-hour period. Except, according to The Jassey Way, you are also striving for 8+ hours at night without feeding, so that means fewer than six feedings. In order to consume 25 oz in, say, five feedings, that means a newborn would need to eat 5 oz of breast milk at each feeding, and that mom would need to be able to produce and store this much or more in her breasts between feedings.

But this “perfect” scenario is far from standard. Truth is, breast milk production and storage capacity varies GREATLY from mom to mom. Plenty of moms produce less than 5 total ounces within the space of a few hours – some moms produce more like 1-3 ounces between feedings. Moms with lower milk storage capacities simply have to nurse more frequently, in order to keep supply up, and in order to ensure that their babies are getting enough breast milk each day.

What’s more, while 4-5 ounces per feeding may be an average number, there are babies who consume more like 2 or 3 ounces per feeding, because that’s what their appetites (and tummy size) can handle. Babies with reflux, for example, have to eat small, frequent meals. There is simply no way to force a baby who’s a light eater, or who has reflux, to take in more breast milk at each feeding (my own son never took more than 4 oz, even when he was 9+ months old!).

Now, put those two together – a mom who produces less than 5 ounces, and a baby who consumes less than 5 ounces – and add in the forced 4-hour feeding intervals and early night weaning , and what do you get?

Most likely, you get a mom whose milk supply slowly begins to fail. What’s worse, she probably won’t have a sleeping baby to show for it, either!

While newborns can have ONE 4 or 5-hour stretch in a 24-hour period between feedings, that’s about all that most newborns and their moms can handle – ONE. Multiple long stretches, combined with dropped night feedings, will damage breast milk supply in the first few months after birth, for most moms.

What About Formula-Fed Babies? Will The Jassey Way Work For Babies Who Are Exclusively Formula-Fed?

But what about families who choose to formula-feed? It’s possible that many formula-fed babies may do well with the Jasseys’ approach. Formula-fed babies typically can go longer between feeds, even from a very young age, than can breastfed babies. What’s more, formula-fed babies tend to drop their night feedings faster than breastfed babies – in my experience, many 6-month old babies who are exclusively formula-fed can to go 8 hours or more without feeding. This is simply due to the fact that formula is harder for baby’s tummy to digest, and so it tends to stay in baby’s system longer, making baby feel fuller for longer periods of time. (Side note: this does NOT mean that feeding your baby formula will solve his sleep problems. To solve persistent sleep problems, you need to look at all the reasons a baby may wake, not just hunger).

But What About the Jasseys’ 90% Success Rate?

So, how do we reconcile the fact that the Jassey Way is not breastfeeding friendly at all with the fact that the doctors boast a 90% success rate?

First – I am convinced that many of the Jasseys’ patients, who tried and stuck to this sleep coaching method, did not exclusively breastfeed (or, at least, they didn’t exclusively breastfeed for long). I very much doubt that parents who were committed to exclusively breastfeeding lasted very long with this approach. Alternatively, I’ve had a lot of clients tell me straight-up that they simply ignored their doctor’s advice when it came to sleep training.

Second – I’m also convinced that this method no doubt DOES work, in the sense that it teaches newborns how to sleep through the night from a very early age. However, I don’t see that as a victory. It’s true that you can teach a baby to change their natural eating habits, and to sleep for long stretches at a very early age, but just because you CAN doesn’t mean you SHOULD. The truth is, human beings are incredibly adaptable; you can teach them to do all kinds of things, and humans can adapt and survive in a variety of conditions and situations. So it’s certainly true that newborns can adapt to this method of eating and sleeping. But surviving is not the same as thriving. What’s more, your primary goal during the newborn stage should NOT be 8 consecutive hours of night sleep, and long stretches between daytime feeding – it should be to care for your newborn in the best and safest way possible. Teaching a baby to sleep through the night has its place, but that just isn’t a realistic goal for a newborn. (And if you know me, you know that I am all about small, realistic goals for improving baby sleep!)

The Jasseys’ Approach DOES NOT Represent Sleep Training In General

I want to end with this: remember that the new Jassey sleep coaching book in no way represents sleep training in general. I’ve seen countless negative responses to the Jasseys’ book, but so many of those responses dismiss and criticize sleep training as a whole, as if what the Jasseys propose in the book IS sleep training.

This is simply not true. What’s true is that sleep training is a spectrum – on the one side, you have harsher methods, like cry-it-out, Babywise, and what the Jasseys outline in their new book. On the other hand, you have very gentle methods, like the Pick-Up-Put-Down method, or the Fading method. And, of course, there’s lots and lots in between. If you view sleep more like a journey, with the start being on fully dependent on you and the destination being fully independent, that journey can be weeks, months, or years long. YOU set the pace based on your present goals! We work with families who want to continue co-sleeping as well as families who want their toddler in a big boy bed. The range is vast and “success” is personal.

What I hope you’ll take away from this article is that while the Jassey approach should, in my opinion, be avoided (ESPECIALLY if you want to exclusively breastfeed – RUN from this method, in that case!!), sleep training itself is not bad. In fact, it’s a lifesaver for many families (our parent stories prove that!). But it has to be done carefully and safely, at the right time, with appropriate and healthy goals that are respectful of baby’s development, and using methods that align with your parenting philosophy. After reading the Jasseys’ new book, I don’t believe it fits that description. My team’s approach to sleep training, however, does.

Your turn – have you heard much about this new baby sleep book? What are your thoughts? We want to hear your opinions on this!

 
bss_ebook_3stepsystem_leftFor those persistent nighttime struggles, check out The 3 Step System to Help Your Baby Sleep. Using the same unique approach and practical tools for success, this e-book helps you and your baby sleep through the night.
 
 
 
bss_ebook_masteringnaps_leftIf you’re looking for ways to get your baby or toddler into a healthy sleeping routine during the day, I encourage you to explore Mastering Naps and Schedules, a comprehensive guide to napping routines, nap transitions, and all the other important “how-tos” of good baby sleep. With over 45 sample sleep schedules and planning worksheets, Mastering Naps and Schedules is a hands-on tool ideal for any parenting style.

 

bss_email_featprod_memberspic-CROPPEDOr, join our Members Area packed with exclusive content and resources: e-Books, assessments, detailed case studies, expert advice, peer support, and more. It actually costs less to join than buying products separately! As a member, you’ll also enjoy a weekly chat with an expert sleep consultant. And the best part – members receive 20% off all sleep consultation services!

 
Baby_On_Computer_RESIZEDIf you are looking for a more customized solution for your unique situation, and want plenty support along the way, please consider one-on-one baby and toddler sleep consultations. Your consultation package will provide you with the chance to interact one-on-one with a trained sleep consultant, who will create a Personalized Sleep Plan™ for your family and then work to help you implement it at home.
 

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6 Week Sleep Regression, or Growth Spurt?

6 week growth spurt sleep regression

“My baby was sleeping so well…what happened??”

Sound familiar? We hear this all. the. time. Our answers vary, depending on the unique baby in question – in our experience, the answer can be anything from teething to illness to temperament to birth of a new sibling to nap transition. But often, our answer is – sleep regression.

Generally, we offer up a diagnosis of sleep regression for babies and toddlers who are the following ages:

But recently, we’ve been hearing more and more from parents about their 6 week old babies going through what seems like a sleep regression – baby was sleeping pretty well (for a newborn, anyway), but around 6 weeks, mom and dad are up every hour, baby is feeding constantly…what gives? Is this a 6 week sleep regression, or is to something else?

Sleep Regression Signs and Symptoms

First, let’s start with the definition of ‘sleep regression’. Remember, a sleep regression generally describes a phase or season in which a baby who normally sleeps well suddenly starts waking more often at night, and refusing naps (or taking very short naps) – for no apparent reason at all.

Common signs of a sleep regression include:

  • Increased fussiness and crying (aka major crankiness!)
  • Increased night waking and/or shortened or missed naps
  • Changes in appetite
  • Extra clinginess and a need for more cuddle time

6 Week Sleep Regression, or 6 Week Growth Spurt?

If your 6 week old baby is currently struggling to sleep well, you may be looking at that list and nodding your head – it may be that your baby has all those symptoms!

But here’s the thing to remember – most babies also go through a pretty pronounced growth spurt at 6 weeks, too. And that growth spurt will likely have your baby waking more often, and seeming to be fussier than usual, simply because your baby will be hungrier than usual, and will need more feedings.

So which is it? Sleep regression, or growth spurt? Both, actually – it’s a double whammy! In addition to a short, 2-3 day (or perhaps 1 week) growth spurt at 6 weeks, most babies also experience something that Weissbluth calls “the peak of fussiness”. By 6 weeks of age, most babies are growing out of their drowsy newborn state, and are starting to perk up and notice the world. And that world is quite overwhelming for them – so many sights and sounds and smells! What’s more, all that observing can really wear a baby out, causing overtiredness and increased fussiness.

If your 6 week old is struggling with sleep, it’s most likely due to this one-two punch: it’s the 6 week growth spurt AND that 6 week “peak of fussiness.” (Of course, you’ll want to rule out illness or another source of discomfort first, if your baby is extra-fussy around 6 weeks). Take comfort in the fact that this phase won’t last long – the growth spurt will last just a few days, and even the “peak of fussiness” will last about a week or so – not nearly as long as a regular sleep regression. Once this phase passes, you should see your baby’s sleep improve again (that is, until the 4 month sleep regression hits!).

Nicole’s Note
“I remember when my first son was about 6 weeks old, I was losing it with his fussiness! I was juuuust about to cut dairy from my diet, just in case it was that, when I let Weissbluth’s words ring in my head that fussiness peaks at 6 weeks. For us, it was SO true! It slowly started to get better at 7 weeks and beyond. I’m so glad I didn’t cut out dairy unnecessarily, since I didn’t think life would be as good without cheese. However, ironically, when I turned 38, I became lactose intolerant anyway! Strange, but true. So, I am dairy free now, but now it’s to avoid really bad stomach pain, which is actually far worse than my son’s fussiness was. :) Yep, no more pizza for me. :(”

6 Week Old Baby Sleep Tips

When it comes to soothing your baby during the 6 week baby growth spurt, you’ll want to stick with gentle techniques – your 6 week old baby is still a newborn, after all! Check out the resources below for tips and techniques you can use to help your 6 week old baby sleep better during the growth spurt:

6 Week Old Baby Sleep Resources and Personalized Help

Essential Keys to Newborn SleepNeed help encouraging your newborn to sleep better, and to sleep longer stretches at night and during the day? We have a great resource designed to do just that. Check out Essential Keys to Your Newborn’s Sleep, the latest e-Book from The Baby Sleep Site®. Available in PDF format as well as a variety of e-reader formats, Essential Keys to Your Newborn’s Sleep is the tired parents’ #1 newborn resource. Developed by Nicole and Miriam (a lactation consultant, nurse, and Baby Sleep Site® sleep consultant), Essential Keys lays out everything you need to know about helping your baby to sleep better right from the start. It also includes information on feeding (both breast and bottle), baby communication, bonding with baby, daily routines, sample sleep schedules, and more. Download your copy today!
 
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Interested in personalized, one-on-one help for your newborn? Why not consider one of our personalized sleep consulting packages? Our consultations allow you to work directly with one of our expert sleep consultants, and to get a Personalized Sleep Plan™ that will work for your family.

First, browse our extensive list of package options and select the one that looks best for your situation.
 
Browse our list of consultation package options here.
 

Once you make your choice and purchase, you will immediately receive an e-mail with your Helpdesk login information. You’ll be able to login and start your Family Sleep History form right away – it’s that simple!

Tell us about your 6 week old baby’s sleep! Did you (or are you) experiencing what feels like a sleep regression?

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Baby Night Feedings By Age – An Easy Reference Chart from The Baby Sleep Site®

 
Baby Night Feedings By Age Printable Chart

“How many times should be my baby be eating at night?”
“Is it time for me to night-wean, or are his night feedings still necessary?”
“I feel like my baby is up all night eating – is this normal?!”

These are questions we hear just about every day around here – and we thought it was high time we gave you a new resource to help you answer questions like these! But this isn’t just any regular blog article – no, today, we’re bringing you another awesome PRINTABLE chart!. A few months ago, we brought you a printable baby/toddler bedtime by age chart, and your response was overwhelming – that’s now one of the most popular articles on our site!

So, since it’s clear you love printable charts (and we don’t blame you!), how about another one? This time, we’re taking a look at night feedings by age. What’s standard at each age? How does “standard” vary based on whether you breast feed or bottle feed? Is your baby feeding too much for her age, or are her night feedings in line with what healthcare providers consider normal?

Read on and find out! And don’t forget to print off a few copies of this handy chart – keep some in your diaper bag, post another one on the fridge, hand them out to your girlfriends…you get the idea. ;) Scroll down to find out how you can download and print your own copies of this chart.

Baby Night Feedings By Age – PRINTABLE Chart

I’m no medical expert, but fortunately, I know someone who is ;) The content of today’s chart was created by our very own Miriam Chickering. Miriam is not only one of our Baby Sleep Site sleep consultants; she’s also a labor and delivery nurse with years of experience, as well as a board-certified lactation consultant. So to say she knows a thing or two about baby feeding would be an understatement! Let’s take a look at what Miriam advises are standard baby night feedings, broken down by age.

Baby Night Feedings By Age*

Age Breastfed Totals Per Night** Formula-Fed Totals Per Night** Notes
0-2 months 3-5 feedings per night 2-4 feedings per night Remember, newborns need to eat around the clock – newborns should not go more than 4 hours between feedings (preferably no more than 3 hours).
3-4 months 3-4 feedings per night 2-3 feedings per night Watch out for the 4 month sleep regression – if your baby is suddenly more wakeful, it may have less to do with a need for food and more to do with changing sleep patterns!
5-6 months 1-3 feedings per night 1-2 feedings per night As you can see by the numbers, most babies are starting to consolidate their night feedings at this time, as well as consolidating their sleep. By this age, most babies are sleeping less during the day and getting one nice, long stretch of sleep at night.
7-9 months 0-3 feedings per night 0-1 feeding(s) per night We find that most formula-fed babies are done feeding at night by this point, or are starting to night-wean. We usually recommend for ALL babies (both breast and bottle) an attempt at night-weaning here, if you feel comfortable with it.
10-12 months 0-2 feedings per night 0-1 feeding(s) per night Formula-fed babies are almost always done feeding by 12 months. If your breaastfed baby is still feeding at night by 10 or 11 months, this is perfectly fine – but try to consolidate it to one feeding, if possible.

*These night feedings are considered standard, but they also assume that baby is healthy, is gaining weight properly, has no food allergies or medical concerns, etc. What’s normal for your baby may look a bit different, based on unique factors. As always, if you have doubts about your baby’s feeding patterns, please speak with your healthcare provider, as they are the best resource for feeding concerns.

**”Night” in this chart refers to a 12-hour period of time.

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Does this chart give you some encouragement? I hope so – look at those wide ranges of what’s considered normal and standard!

Now, we don’t get into toddler territory with this chart, simply because the vast majority of toddlers do not need to feed at night in order to grow properly. While breast milk and formula are still great for toddlers to consume, they can generally get what they need during daylight hours.

Need Night-Feeding Help From An Expert? Look No Further!

It’s all well and good to know what’s standard when it comes to night feedings – but what if your baby is far from standard? Maybe your baby is up all night, and you know it’s not because she needs to eat. Or maybe your toddler is still waking to feed at night, even though you’re certain he could drop that 1 a.m. feeding. How can you help your baby or toddler sleep well while still ensuring that he’s getting enough nourishment at night? Our team of expert consultants can gel you do just that! Connect with a consultant, and she’ll craft a customized sleep coaching plan, as well as a personalized day and night feeding schedule, just for your baby.

 
Browse our list of consultation package options here.
 

Once you make your choice and purchase, you will immediately receive an e-mail with your Helpdesk login information. You’ll be able to login and start your Family Sleep History form right away – it’s that simple!

Want more information about how personalized help works? Check out our FAQ page here, and get answers. You can also take a tour of the Helpdesk.

Your turn – what do your baby’s night feedings look like? Are you working on night-weaning? Ask your questions, share your stories and tips – we love hearing from you!

 
bss_ebook_3stepsystem_leftFor those persistent nighttime struggles, check out The 3 Step System to Help Your Baby Sleep. Using the same unique approach and practical tools for success, this e-book helps you and your baby sleep through the night.
 
 
 
bss_ebook_5steptoddler_smalFor those persistent toddler sleep struggles, check out The 5 Step System to Help Your Toddler Sleep. Using the same unique approach and practical tools for success, this e-book helps you and your toddler sleep through the night and enjoy a better daytime schedule.
 
 

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It’s A Labor Day Giveaway!

 
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Happy Labor Day a little early, Baby Sleep Site readers! If you’re one of our U.S. readers, then you’re no doubt gearing up for the coming holiday weekend – such a great chance to enjoy one last weekend of summer fun!

We’ve spent the past 5 years honoring this special holiday weekend with a giveaway (because who doesn’t love celebrating with free stuff?), and this year, we are returning to a favorite theme of ours – this year, we want to hear your very own “Labor Day” stories! Tell us your labor and birth story, and be entered to win one of the awesome prizes below (scroll down for complete details about how to enter.)

The Details

Entries for the giveaway will be accepted starting today through 8:59 PM EST on Monday, September 1. There are multiple ways to enter this giveaway, including leaving us a comment sharing your birth story – scroll down for complete details.

The Prizes

We have some really exciting prizes this year…take a look!

Grand Prize: $100 Amazon Gift Card

amazon-GCThe Grand Prize Winner for the Labor Day Giveaway will receive a $100 Amazon Gift Card, good to purchase anything on Amazon! Gotta love the gift of Amazon cash!!
 
 

Baby Shusher™ Collection or Baby Shusher™ Swaddle Set

Baby Shusher CollectionWe adore the Baby Shusher™ line of products – their original Baby Shusher™ is one of those miracle, must-have products for parents, and they’ve recently added a line of gorgeous, 100% cotton muslin swaddle blankets into the mix. The blankets are beautiful, soft, and breathable, while the Baby Shusher™ creates that perfect “shushing” noise your baby needs to sleep soundly. Winning the Baby Shusher™ collection is like winning the gift of sleep in a box! Baby Shusher SwaddlesThis set is perfect for moms of newborns, but the swaddle blankets and Baby Shusher™ work wonders for older babies, too. One winner will receive the full Baby Shusher™ collection, and one winner will receive a set of 3 Baby Shusher™ swaddles.

A Baby Sleep Site Basic Sleep Consultation

mom on computerSpeaking of the gift of sleep – we’re also giving away a Basic Sleep Consultation Package as part of this year’s Labor Day Giveaway! The Basic Consultation Package includes your very own Personalized Sleep Plan™, created for you by one of our expert sleep consultants, as well as a follow-up e-mail you can use to ask your consultant additional questions. Between the expert plan that’s tailor-made for your family and the caring, compassionate follow-up support, you are sure to find the sleep help you need with a Basic Sleep Consultation from The Baby Sleep Site® Believe us – you’ll be surprised how far you can get with your plan and one e-mail! One winner will receive a Basic Sleep Consultation Package from The Baby Sleep Site®. If you are an existing customer, your account will be credited the value of the Basic Sleep Consultation Package.

Zipadee-Zip Wearable Blanket

ZipadeeZip Wearable BlanketThe Zipadee-Zip is one of our favorite wearable blanket products – its innovative design makes it the perfect tool to wean babies away from full swaddling. And did I mention it’s available in a rainbow of colors and prints? So many cute patterns to choose from. This high-quality blanket is sure to last you years, which means you can pass it on from one baby to the next; talk about value! One winner will receive a Zipadee-Zip Wearable Blanket in the fabric of their choice. Don’t want to wait to see if you win? Order one now at http://sleepingbaby.com and use code LABORDAY (in all caps) to get $5 off your order.

Stephanie, created of the Zipadee-Zip wearable blanket, is one of our favorite people in the world, and when she heard that we were doing a birth-story themed Labor Day giveaway, she was eager to share her own birth story with all of you! Here it is:

Stephanie Parker, Creator of ZipadeeZipI was induced into labor with our daughter, Charlotte, who is now 3 years old because of how far past her due date she was, so when I became pregnant with our son, I was hoping that things would happen a bit more naturally. Our son, Maverick, was born on February 16th of this year and he came into this world in a way that only a baby named ‘Maverick’ could!
Maverick was always an active little guy and would often wake me up in the middle of the night while I was pregnant because of how loud his hiccups were! On the 16th, he woke me up once again, but this time it was with more than hiccups! I woke up to a hard kick followed by an audible ‘pop’… followed by my water flowing like Niagara falls! I was so excited that he came into the world in his own timing and I will never forget the excitement of rushing to the hospital knowing we were about to meet him. After having lost a baby to miscarriage only a year before Maverick was born and being told that I may not even be able to get pregnant again, the birth of our little guy brought more joy than I can even express in words!

Swanling Slumber Sleeper™, Slumber Swan, and Slumber Silkie

MySlumberSleeperThe Slumber Sleeper™ is an innovative approach to creating a cozy, loving and safe sleeping environment for your child. Created by Swanling Innovations, this innovative 3-in-1 sheet is the perfect safe sleep solution for your child – it’s a mattress protector, fitted sheet, and sleep blanket all in one! Paired with the wonderfully soft Slumber Swan and luxurious Slumber Silkie, both with the snap-in-place system, you and your child will enjoy a better (and safer) night’s sleep. One lucky winner will receive the Slumber Sleeper™, the Slumber Swan, AND the Slumber Silkie.

Bitta Kidda Wearable Lovie

BittaKiddaWearableLovieThe Bitta Kidda Wearable Lovie is ready to start a sleep revolution for your entire family! It’s a patented baby sleep garment with a built-in lovie attached. It’s a safe, effective alternative to traditional lovies and provides comfort to your baby through the night. The Wearable Lovie is always in reach as your baby goes in and out of sleep cycles. Plus, as your baby becomes increasingly active in the crib, The Wearable Lovie cannot be thrown on the floor where other comfort items always end up. It is the tool that helps your baby learn the art of self-soothing and independence in the crib. The perfect addition to every child’s sleep routine, the Wearable Lovie carries your baby through the crib years and transition to the big kid bed. One winner will receive a Bitta Kidda Wearable Lovie.

How To Enter

Ready to enter? Use the widget below to begin entering the giveaway. You can do all of the entry options or just one – it’s up to you! As we mentioned above, we’d love to hear your birth/labor story in comments.

Deadline to enter is Monday, September 1, 2014, 8:59 p.m. EST.(*Please note that all shipped prizes are available to US residents only with the exception of the Baby Shusher which can be shipped internationally.)

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