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  1. Lynn Maindonald says:

    My 7 month old is a champion napper but not so great at sleeping at night. He has 2 wakes and for one of those wakes frequently stays awake for 1.75 hrs. On average he gets 9.5 hrs sleep at night, waking any time from 5am – 7:30 am (depending on bedtime the previous night and how long he’s stayed awake during his wake ups). Whilst his naps have changed over the last couple of months, night has always been the same.

    He was a very tired newborn, always sleeping lots during the day and having very small wake times. In fact he was 6 months old before he went from 4 naps to 3, and that was because I forced him to rather than because he began fighting the final nap.

    Anyway, when he was on 4 naps a day he had 3.5 hrs of naps a day (3 x 1hr and 1 half hr nap) and I had to wake him from all his naps. When he first went down to 3 naps he was having 4hrs of naps a day (1hr, 2hrs, 1hr) and again I had to wake him from all his naps. The reason I let him have so much is that his wake times were only 2 hrs and any more he got overtired and grumpy.

    I’ve been working on stretching his wake times and managed now to reduce his final nap to half an hr, so he’s back to having 3.5hrs of naps. He would still go to sleep after 2 hrs if I let him but he can now go 2.25 hrs between naps and still nap properly without waking from overtiredness (though bedtime is only 2 hrs after the third nap and he often cries during the bedtime routine because he’s tired).

    I know I need to continue stretching his wake times to allow me to reduce his nap times during the day. My question is which of his naps should I focus on reducing? I’ve read different things about whether the first nap or the lunchtime nap is most important and I’ve tried reducing both before and whichever one I reduce he gets grumpy in the period after it and the wake time to his next nap reduces.

    Thanks!

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says:

      Hi @Lynn – Thanks for writing and sorry that you’re struggling with those night wakings! I think you are on the right track in reducing the last nap of the day, as this can often be a short nap just to make it to bedtime! You might want to play around with which nap can be reduced a little, and be sure that the naps and bedtimes are at good times for him! Our free sample schedules can help! Here is a link:
      https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-sleep-feeding-schedules/
      If things don’t smooth out, please contact us for more info on our products and services that can further help you! Hang in there Lynn!

  2. Vnini says:

    Hi, my baby is 11months old. She has always been a great sleeper and was sleeping 12hrs at night without waking well before 3 months. I’m worried as she is now getting much bigger but still sleeping a lot in the day. She can sleep 12-13hrs at night and then still take two 2hr naps during the day. Or 3 naps amounting to 4-5hrs. I have tried keeping her up longer between naps to reduce them but she gets really grumpy cries and falls over all the time when she is tired. She eats well and has hit all milestones for her age. When she is awake she is very active, walking everywhere, playing and a very happy baby. When I see signs that she is tired I just bring ber up to her bed and put her down, she does not whine she will just go to sleep on her own. So I think she is happy to go to sleep. Should I just let her sleep as much as she does? Or should I wake her or try to reduce her sleep? If so, how can I go about doing this?

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says:

      Hi @Vnini – Thanks for writing, and congrats on having a baby that is a great sleeper! Yay! Sleep needs can vary widely, so if your worried that she may be napping too much or sleeping too much, it may just be her normal! If she is growing and developing well, and has plenty of playtime when awake, this is likely her typical sleep pattern! If you’re concerned, you can always ask her pediatrician to weigh in too. Thanks again for writing!

  3. JAMIE MORRIS says:

    Hello. My baby is 13 months old. Almost 14 actually. He is sleeping 2 naps one hour each because i cut him. He is sleeping 11 hrs at night. But I would like to know how long should I continue to waking him up? If I dont cut the nap he will be sleeping at night at 10 pm lol. Now he goes 8 30 pm and wakes up at 7 30 am. Before his 1 year birthday he was sleeping from 7 pm to 5 am. Napping twice for 2 hrs.

    • Neosha says:

      @Jamie – Thank you for reading and for sharing with us. Knowing when to wake your toddler can be a bit confusing especially if you’re finding yourself having to wake him on a regular basis. You could review his schedule to make sure his sleep and wake times are the best for him to be sleeping. If so, and he’s sleeping well, there’s no real reason to change his schedule or how he sleeps until it presents itself as a problem. If you find you need further support in developing his sleep schedule, please consider our e-Book Mastering Naps and Schedules and/or reaching out to one of our lovely sleep consultants who would welcome the opportunity to serve your family. You can read more about them here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/about Hang in there, Jamie!

  4. Brigitte says:

    I’ve been waking my 11 months old from every single nap (1.5h in morning and 1h in afternoon) for the last 2 weeks in order to make him sleep longer at night / not have him awake for 1 to 1.5 hours in the middle of the night. The night sleep is from 8 pm to 6 am now, which is a bit better than before, and he wakes up 3 times at night (he wakes every hour but only needs assistance 3 times). I feel bad waking him from naps because he is tired every day. How long do I have to wake him from naps to get him sleep a little bit more at night? Or are there babies who just naturally only need 9h at night but 4h during the day?

    • Janelle Reid says:

      Hi @Brigitte, thanks for writing to us. I’m sorry to hear you’ve been struggling with few hours of night time sleep. Have you tried (just to see) what would happen if you let him wake up naturally from his naps? He may sometimes need a longer, more restorative naps which MIGHT (note: MIGHT) help his night time sleep improve. Crazily enough, if a child is not getting enough sleep during the day it can often make night time sleep less restorative too. Here is a link to a sample schedule for an 11 month old’s schedule that may help as well: https://www.babysleepsite.com/schedules/11-month-old-schedule/
      If you need more help with figuring this out, I’m confident our sleep consultants can look into this further and give you more specific advise on your situation. Here is a link to read more about working with one of our consultants: https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-toddler-sleep-consulting-services/
      I hope this helps give you a good starting point and things begin to improve soon!

  5. Eva says:

    I have a 2.5 month old who takes 2 hour naps (I wake him at the 2 hour mark) and has a wake time of 1 hour. I noticed that his wake time is starting to stretch. Should I continue to let him nap for 2 hours per nap and allow him to stretch his wake time?

    Currently i wake him at 730am. He is up for 45 min and then goes back down at 815. I wake him at 1015 and he goes down at 1115. I wake him at 115 and he goes down at 215. I wake him at 415 and he goes down at 515. Then I wake him at 645 and put him down for the night at 745pm. He wakes for a couple of feedings (first one between 1 and 2am) and I usually wake him up if he doesn’t wake before 5am for his second feeding in fear that he would wake for the morning if his feeding is at 6am.

    If his wake time stretches, should I start cutting his naps to 1.5 hours instead? Or should I allow him to maintain his 2 hour naps and start dropping his last nap? If he naps for 2 hours and his wake time stretches, it is hard to get a feeding in every 3 hours.

    Also, should I continue to wake him to nurse at 5am until his first motn feeding goes to 3/4am or should I let his natural pattern emerge?

    Thanks!
    Eva

    • Janelle Reid says:

      Hi @Eva, thanks for writing to us. It sounds like you’ve got quite a good little sleeper and schedule over there! It sounds completely normal to me that he would be trying to stretch his wake time a bit during the day. I’d still cap the wake time to no more than 2 hours and you may find there are certain times of the day he can stay up longer than others he still may need the 1 hour (such as the morning, I found my kids always were so ready for their morning nap and it felt like it was almost right after waking up). Here is a sample for a 3 month schedule that you can take a look at and it will tell you how much sleep your baby needs in a 24 hour period: https://www.babysleepsite.com/schedules/3-month-old-baby-sleep-and-feeding-schedule/
      I’m sure as you read it you’ll find some things really relate to you and your baby, and others don’t. For instance, it doesn’t sound like your son catnaps much at all, so if you want you can check out our sample schedules for a 5/6 month old and see what a schedule with a consolidated nap schedule looks like, just remember to go off the feeding/sleep needs of the 3 month schedule, not a 5/6 month schedule. Additionally if you find any changes happen that feel like he’s regressing, that may be the case and is also totally normal around the 3.5/4 month range. I hope this helps! If you have more questions, please let us know!

      • Eva says:

        Thanks for your response. My concern isn’t about capping wake time but rather capping his naps. I am already capping his naps at 2 hours. I’m unsure if I should be capping it now at 1.5 hours to allow him to have more wake time and to allow him to continue feeding every 3 hours? Or do I just let him nap as long as he wish and give him a longer wake time making it so his bed time is much later? Thanks!

      • Janelle Reid says:

        Hi @Eva, thanks for getting back to me! I’m part of our Client Relations Team, and not a sleep consultant, so I do want to be upfront about that. 😉 I personally would let the naps go and see what happened since he is such a great napper (I would wake him up if the last nap went too long and would mess up bed time). He may be trying to jump to just 3 naps a day which would probably be nice for you! I would advise making sure you cap the wake time at some point so he doesn’t become overtired, and usually that’s around 1.5/2 hours as we both (I think) mentioned in our previous comments. If you want more specific advise than what I can provide, I think you’d probably really enjoy joining our Members Area. It will give you access to exclusive articles as well as access to all of our ebooks and tele-seminars. We also have a weekly chat there where you can log in and chat live with a sleep consultant and they would for sure be able to answer these scheduling questions with more knowledge than I am able. Here is a link to read more about our Members Area subscription if you’re interested in using that as a deeper resource: https://www.babysleepsite.com/diy/
        Hope this helps!

  6. Amy says:

    My 13 month old sleeps approximately 11 hrs at night, waking to nurse once. She still takes two naps (one morning, one afternoon). Today each were almost 2 hours, totaling her at almost 4 hrs of napping today. She is teething, she is little (15th percentile for weight, 5th for height), and is not yet walking (cruising a lot, but not walking without holding on to a hand. Is this ok?

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says:

      Hi Amy –
      Thank you for writing! There is a wide range of sleep needs at this age, and if your baby happy and is growing and developing well, there is likely no need to change things right now! If you are at all concerned about her sleeping too much, or worried at all about her development in any way, do check in with your baby’s doctor, for your peace of mind! We wish you all the best, and thanks again for visiting!

  7. Bridget Niemi says:

    My 17 month old baby girl sleeps 15 hours per night and still gets a 2 hour nap around 2pm. This has been her schedule for several months and she seems to be hitting all her milestones, no obvious problems or issues, I just feel like that’s an awful lot of sleeping… My logic is that if she’s sleeping that long without waking, then apparently she must need it. Maybe I’m wrong? Just a little worried and could use input. Thank you.

    • Janelle Reid says:

      Hi @Bridget Niemi, thanks for writing to us. You have quite the sleeper! At 17 months some babies actually still are taking 2 naps, so it sounds like your daughter may be adding that first nap into her nighttime sleep, and then her actual nap is the “second nap”. Since you mentioned she is still hitting her milestones and I assume gaining weight properly that leads me to believe you’ve spoken to her doctor as well, and if there are no concerns I wouldn’t worry too much about it (again just make sure you have asked her doctor as well). I hope that helps!

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