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  1. Emily DeJeu says

    @ Candi May — No worries; that happens sometimes! Sleep deprivation makes event the most organized mom a little scatterbrained, right? If you e-mail me ([email protected]), I can e-mail you a new copy. 🙂

  2. Candi May says

    Thanks for the tips. I did download the free nap guide and briefly looked over it because I was busy at the moment. Now, I can’t find it. 🙁

  3. Emily DeJeu says

    @ Candi May — Glad you found our site! Sounds like your’e doing a great job as babysitter 🙂 Regarding your questions:

    1. I’d say that if the morning nap hasn’t been a good one, you could try starting the afternoon nap earlier, to see if she sleeps longer in order to compensate. Worth a try. 🙂

    2. I’d say it’s probably wise to go in and get her when she’s really shrieking. Unless you and the parents are going to go with a CIO method of sleep training, and unless everyone is going to be consistent, it’s probably best if you comfort her when she’s really upset.

    3. You can try to make the napping room “sleepier” (darker, quieter, etc.) as a way to extend her naps. You could also check out our free guide (https://www.babysleepsite.com/free-baby-nap-guide/) for tips on encouraging better, longer naps.

    Thanks for commenting, Candi! Hope some of these tips work for you.

  4. Candi May says

    I just started babysitting a 9 month-old little girl. I’ve had her 4 weeks now. She started out with NO schedule – feeding or sleeping. Daddy is a teacher and was off all summer. They got up when they wanted, ate when they wanted, napped when/if they wanted. No biggie.

    But then time for school to start and Daddy to go back to work. I have to have a schedule, because I have many other things to keep track of – making sure the preschooler is ready to go at noon, having a big sit-down family meal for my hubby, because he works second, doing homework with the 2nd grader and preschooler when they get home, and so on. So…

    I started off observing when she ‘wanted’ to eat/sleep and have developed somewhat of a schedule from that. It is remarkably similar to what I have found yours to be for her age (naps at 9:30 and 2:30). She pretty much sets her own bedtime and doesn’t always sleep through the night for Mom and Dad. She has a TEMPER! She never cries. She goes from bottom-lip-quiver to full blown scream in an instant! So, Mom will give her a bottle, walk her, rock her, whatever to settle her at night.

    I have a pre-nap routine. Change diaper, rock while I sing and massage her, then lay her in her pack-n-play awake. She screams, but is usually asleep in 5 minutes or less. Most days, she sleeps from 1 1/2 – 2 hours each nap. But if she was up a lot the night before, her morning nap is right at 30 min. then she’s Little Miss Fuss-Budget until the next nap.

    Question #1: I have been sticking to the afternoon nap time regardless of how short/long her morning nap is. Good idea? Question #2: Is there any way to put a very upset baby BACK to sleep when you know they did not get their “nap out”? I’ve tried to go back in and tell her “No, no. Go to sleep”, pat her back, and let her know that I did hear her but she’s not getting up just yet. She sits up, turns purple, screams for 20 minutes and ends up with a dirty diaper. Well, of course, I can’t leave THAT on, so nap time is over.

    I’ve just decided that if she wakes up, I’ll get her up. But she has to stay up until it is 2:30 so as not to get off schedule. Question #3: Since she is only getting about 10 hours at night, is there anything I should do in regards to naps to compensate for that? Don’t think the “wake to sleep” would work. If she catches sight of me, she’s furious if I don’t pick her up.

  5. Laurie says

    I’m in the opposite camp too. We occasionally have the nap issue, but overall he does good for naps. He’ll go down at night ok, but can’t keep himself asleep. Up every few hours of late. Right now with travel everything is hard, routine or not.

    I wish I could help him stay asleep, but soothing only makes it worse and CIO doesn’t work for hubby.

  6. Elizabeth says

    I too have the opposite problem. My 17 month old goes to sleep super quickly for naps (I just rock a few minutes to calm her and lay her down). We’ve had the same nighttime routine since she was very small, but she goes through phases where she takes a very long time to go to sleep at night. Once asleep, she sleeps through the night, but I am confused about it taking so long to fall asleep at night!! It’s not all the time…it might last a couple weeks at a time and then she does well for a while…then starts struggling again?!?!?!

  7. Emily DeJeu says

    @ Paula — I’d say it’s definitely okay to have different strategies for daytime and nighttime sleep! Sounds like your little one needs that. Good for you for adjusting your strategies to meet his needs!

    @ Magda — This could definitely be the 18 month regression setting in early. I’d encourage you to check out this article: https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-sleep-needs/baby-how-much-sleep/ It outlines how much sleep your toddler needs. According to that, she’s getting enough. Give it a read for more details.

  8. Magda says

    My 17 month old has always struggled with naps. Her recent routine was 11 hrs of night sleep plus 1-1.5 hrs nap. I worried because all others in our play group sleep more – naps are 2-3 hrs. The last 2 weeks she’s cut back nighttime sleep to 10 hrs with no nap improvement. Is this enough sleep for her age? I hope it’s her version of 18 month sleep regression! She now wakes at 5.30! We have sleep trained in some for from 4 months of age and she has know how to self settle since then but still seems sleep less than others.

  9. Paula says

    It is true day/night sleep are so different! after a lot of weeks I could make my now almost 8 month old sleep relatively well during the night, most of the time he wakes up only one time for night feed (now sometimes more but maybe is the 8 month sleep regression). But could never do the same with naps. At night I coud cut him off the pacifier, but couldn’t do it in nap time because he is tired but doesn’t seem to get relaxed during the day, when he fells asleep I take it and he can sleep for 2 cycles but if I don’t he only sleeps one cycle. So can I have to different sleep strategies for night and day? I have seen that the settling strategies I use (and work) during the night are not that effective during the day because at daytime he can see me! so for lenghtening naps are not as easy at make him go back to sleep at night….but I do what @Julaine said, leave him in his cot until the hour…