Ready to Begin Your Sleep Journey?   Yes! Show Me How
Ready to Begin Your Sleep Journey?   Yes! Show Me How

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  1. Elisa Cheng says

    I recently sleep trained my baby at 3.5 months old (hurray)! He can put himself to sleep for naps and for the night. However he still takes super short naps, anywhere from 10-55 mins. We followed the Ferber method but it doesn’t provide any tips on extending naps. It just says to get the baby up if it wakes. I usually wait 5 mins before going to him to restart the feed play sleep routine. However baby is still tired especially if he naped for only 15-20 min. I don’t understand why he won’t sleep longer if he knows how to self soothe. Because he catnap so much, we end up having 4-5 naps to get to bedtime.

    He has a nap time routine for every nap and sleeps in his crib with blackout curtains. He is 16 weeks tomorrow.

    What should I do if he wakes from a short nap and how can I extend them? Should I let him cry longer until he falls back asleep? If so, how long should I let him cry for? Should I have a time cap?

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says

      Hi @Elisa! Thank you for writing! 🙂 Short naps are actually very common at this age! While 15 minutes is extreme, 30-60 minutes is quite common. Naps often lengthen naturally at around 6 months, so if they remain short after that age, you may want to consider working on more aggressively lengthening them. For those super short 15-20 min naps, it sounds like you are doing what you can to encourage those to lengthen. Leaving hims for 5+, or gently helping him back to sleep by giving very minimal patting/etc may help. At this young age, he may have a hard time self settling on his own 100%, so try and be patient with him as he works on self-soothing and getting back to sleep on his own.
      Here is a link to our recommend schedule for a 4 month old. You might find this helpful to see where you might be able to adjust your current schedule to help ensure naps and bedtime are at good times for him. Finding the right sleep schedule can help with naps too!:
      Good luck and thanks again for visiting!

  2. Debbye says

    Hi Terri,
    I am sorry things are so tough! And I hope things have improved since you wrote! It is often an overall process to transition a baby or toddler to sleeping in their own bed, and it sounds like things got very rough and i think taking a break is a good idea for yo all to re-group. 🙂 At this point, your baby sees your bed as “his” bed and he doesn’t think of the crib as his bed. I would start with spending some non sleep time in his crib, maybe reading or singing songs so that he starts to see the bed as his bed. You can also try sleep on his sheet for a night or two and then putting it on his bed so that his crib smells like you.
    You can start out by putting him to sleep in his own bed only for naps. Once he seems to have adjusted to that, then work on putting him to sleep at bedtime in his own bed and then decide which wakings you may bring him into bed with you but to slowly start weaning him from coming to bed with you when he wakes. There are some additional tips here that you might also find helpful:
    If things do not improve, please consider a sleep consultation package. You can read about our services here:

  3. Terri says

    I have such a tough situation, the baby is now 22 months and has NEVER slept without being on me at nap time and next to me at night. I have stopped night nursing, but nurse to sleep both for names and at bedtime. I have tried (most recently for 6 nights) to put him in his crib, but the screams were so awful, I simply couldn’t bear it (after waiting for an hour), He is my second, we easily night coached our oldest and this beautiful baby is really different, definitely spirited. We did the whole night time routine – dinner, bath, reading, a bit of nursing until he was sleepy – then BAM!, a scream fest the second he even looked at the crib, and no matter how long we stood next to it to pat and soothe him (then just be a calm presence, it didn’t work. Any help would be appreciated. I am at my wit’s end.