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Do you want more sleep?   Yes! I need more sleep.

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  1. Nicole says:

    Thanks for this blog post Nicole! I completely agree with you. I am a night owl, and have a tendency to stay up late for a little “me time” and to finish up everything that needs to be done around the house after putting my daughter to bed. But I’ve had times the next morning when I just leave her in our highly baby-proofed living room and take a little nap on the couch (in the living room) because I can’t stay awake. Definitely not something I’m proud of, and I’m not taking advantage of our morning together when I’m not working. Dee apparently missed the point of this blog entry, but I promise I did not! I’m going to start to try and leave some laundry or dishes until the next day and turn the tv off early so that my daughter gets the best of me on my days home with her!

  2. Maysa says:

    I too am not a great mom when I’m tired. Cranky isn’t the word for it…I’m short with my eldest son (3.5 years) and just don’t have the energy to play or even disciplin properly. My eldest is also very “spirited” Which when I’m tired is not a good thing for him because he will end up spenilding alo mor time in “time out” because like you Nicole, I just don’t have the energy to deal with it in a better manner. I understand the lady who said the title sounded negative as I too suffered from post partum depression after my first son was born, however it was just a title and your blog had no negative meanings behind it and like you said once someone gets to know you they’ll see different.

    It’s too bad you have to raise your prices as no one enjoys icreases however you are still very affordable and the price we pay fir sleep deprivation if far worse than a few extra dollars 🙂 and besides you have a guarantee…so we have nothing to lose…except the sleepless nights!!!

  3. Allyson says:

    I completely agree with this article. When I’m too tired, I feel like the entire world is against me.

    I doubt Dee is reading the follow up posts, but I’ve been reading Nicole’s blogs for 14 months (since I realized my son wasn’t a natural sleeper like my friends’ babies). I also purchased her products about 4 months ago (her e-book Naps and Schedules and then later, the member’s only portion of the website. Nicole definitely doesn’t focus on negative, guilt-trip tactics.

  4. Lisa says:

    I completely agree – I admit that I have led a pretty blessed life and really haven’t had any terrible things happen to me yet, but those first couple of months getting up with my daughter every 2 or 3 hours were without a doubt the hardest thing that I have ever had to do, and you just have no idea how hard it really is until you’re doing it night after night. We got serious about her sleep habits right around 3-4 months and, with some work, she has slept at least 11 hours each night on average for the past year and a half. If some people could do it for 6 months or a year or more, more power to them, but I certainly couldn’t. I work with someone who has a 7 year old daughter that has to have a parent in bed with her each and every night in order to fall asleep. 6 months or a year may be okay, but in my mind, 7 years is not.

  5. Nicole says:

    @Christa I hope you got more sleep last night. 🙁 I know all too well how hard those days are where you can barely function. Hang in there!

    @Dawn I know all too well how difficult nights are when BOTH kids wake up. Downright brutal! I hope you find a solution very soon to get one or both sleeping all night. Hang in there!

    @Dara You are so right! I’m so glad you were able to fight through being tired to have such a wonderful day! 🙂

    @Dee I’m sorry you felt the article was negative or to promote parents to feel guilty. That was definitely not my intention. I only wrote what I felt this past weekend. In my case, it’s not that the kids have me up all night (anymore), but being tired did make me feel like a worse mom over the weekend. I get so used to talking with people that I sometimes forget that an article like this might be your first encounter with me and for that, I’m sorry (one of) your first was negative.

    This, by far, was not intended to be so much as a sales pitch as a means to inspire people to change. I get plenty of e-mail saying my free materials were enough to encourage, support, and motivate change. So, it wasn’t meant to say “Buy something or you are a bad parent.” Not at all. Once you get to know me, I think it’s obvious I’m not in this for the money. This site is certainly not going to let me retire at 40 to Fiji. After expenses, it makes a very average income. I used to do this for free, but it kept me insanely busy and even now, I work 7 days a week and very late nights almost every night (I make a point to take Saturday night off). I am only one person, though, and can only do so much. I am very passionate about helping people with their sleep problems and that is truly my #1 focus on this site. I’m sorry it came across otherwise. Good luck to you and thank you for taking the time to write!

  6. Dee Butterworth says:

    Perhaps the title ‘How Being Tired Makes You a Worse Parent’ needs are rethink. Many parents who are tired are often suffering from Post Natal Depression. To use such a negative title conjures feelings of guilt and anxiety, as it did with me. Perhaps the title ‘How Not Being Tired Makes You a Better Parent’ would be a more positive approach. I do not fall for promotions or advertising that use these negative or guilt-laden techniques, and as such I have been turned off from purchasing your products.

  7. Dara says:

    Yes the stingy eyes is usually a dead giveaway to me being tired and not getting enough sleep due to the fact I am still up in the night 2-3 times feeding my 15month year old. And my 3 year is still sometimes getting into bed with me.
    The other day I just felt like a was a bit of walking zombie and I was at every beckon call from my 3 year old.
    From the time she wanted weetbix, to the moment she said she wanted cold milk with it, not hot, then she wanted a Hot Chocolate, and then 1/2 hour later “What are we doing today Mummy?”
    Well, I really don’t know my darling my response was. Mummy needs to have a shower first and then I will think about it!!

    The joy of waking up in the morning tired and maybe a little bit grumpy (I certainly didn’t show it, and protray it towards my children) I just thought back, how nice it was to have her little cheek pressed up on mine, and the warm air of her breath as she slept so soundly close to me. And then my 15month old waking,and chatting away so beautifully in her cot (yes, she is still in our room)

    The laughter and giggles throughout the day while they played so happily together brought happiness to my heart.
    And I completly forgot about how I was woken so many times in the night or called out for.
    Aah, being a Mother is one of the best things at the moment and I say cherish it and hold on to those precious times, because they probably won’t be doing it when they are young adults.
    🙂

  8. Stephanie says:

    When I am over-tired, I am more likely to pick fights with my husband, and I think this definitely makes me less of a good parent. I don’t want our daughter to grow up feeling insecure because she often sees/hears her parents arguing. When I am tired, I often lose perspective on the things that are really important, and will go off on my husband about the mess he made in the kitchen, the garbage that needs to go out, whatever. When I’m not as tired, I either pick up the slack and try to work more as a team with him or realize, hey, there might be dishes in the sink, but what a fun afternoon we had as a family! As a child of divorce, it’s really important to me that my daughter and any future children take it for granted that they come from a loving home and never question whether her parents love each other. So, all in all, I think good sleep helps me keep a straight head and communicate better with my husband, which definitely helps me be a better example and better mom.

  9. Dawn says:

    today is one of my days too of being very tired to do anything. I have managed to do the dishes, 1 load of laundry, and play farmtown a little bit with my 2 little ones. But my eyes are so heavy. My 2 year old and 11 month old don’t sleep through the night or take naps during the day. We are all exhausted. My 2 year old fights every day and night to go to sleep. He screams at the top of his lungs and kicks and runs out of his room for over 2 hours until one of us finally stays in there with him. (usually sleeping with him on the floor)ouch my aching back…. Anyway, when I got up from the floor at 1 and was able to get out of the room without my 2 year noticing, my 11 month old woke up. so I was up with him(he has a cold and is having a hard time breathing) So I sat up with him on the couch and fell asleep there. In the meantime, my husband was trying to get sleep, but he has a hard time as well. We just miss each other too and we are all tired. If I am with one, he gets up with the other one. Most nights are really tough.

  10. Christa says:

    Oh my gosh, today is a day where I am literally exhausted. My near 4 month old is starting to wake every 1-2 hours during the nighttime again. I was pleasantly enjoying the 8-9 hour stretches of sleep I was previously getting, and now we are back to this. I feel like I am training a newborn all over again!

    Anyways, my lack of sleep today has left me lying on the couch watching my baby as she swings or sits in her bouncy seat. I am counting the hours until my husband gets home from work.

    Today, I simply cannot function 🙁

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