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  1. Meghan says:

    My son is 6 months old, and I’ve always struggled with a late bedtime. It seems no matter what I do, I can’t get him to bed for the night until 8-9pm.

    We tried sleep training as I was nursing him to sleep and I wanted to work on getting him to self soothe. There was a lot of crying and we ended up coming to a compromise which is working now to get 7-10 hour stretches of sleep at night, but he just won’t go down before 8! The odd time that I can get him to sleep around 7, it’s just a nap. He will wake up 30-45 mins later and either cry or roll around talking to himself for up to an hour before either I go in and feed him again and start over or he eventually falls asleep for the night.

    He wakes between 7-8am, first nap is usually around 1.5 hours in his crib, second nap is all over the place. Sometimes he refuses it all together, other times it’s a nice 1-1.5 hours. Then the third nap is also all over the place. If he refused his lunch nap, he sometimes has a long third nap. Or sometimes he has a little cat nap. Sometimes I hold him because I get desperate to make him sleep!!

    Do I just go with the later bedtime? He is a very happy, mellow baby.

    Any suggestions you have for an earlier bedtime would be appreciated!

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says:

      Hi @Meghan –
      Thank you for writing to us! It sounds like you have been working hard at getting your little guy on a good schedule! If the 8pm bedtime works well for him, and for you, then there is no need to change it! Some babies are night owl and some not, and an 8pm bedtime works for many! Here is a link to our free “schedule maker” which is a really quick and easy resource for you, where you can make schedule for him with an 8pm bedtime:
      https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-toddler-schedule-maker/
      Good luck and please contact us if you need anything at any time!

  2. Simone says:

    I have a question…. My nearly 5 month old wakes up a couple of times during the night because she wants the dummy back and not sure how to change this or is it just about taking dummy away?

    Another question I have is that my little girl still is wrapped in an angel wrap and gets upset and frustrated of her hands and arms become free… Not sure how to slowly transition her out into a sleeping bag in preparation for when she starts rolling and can no longer be swaddled?!?
    Thanks 🙂

  3. Erik says:

    Hi,

    26 month old son. Around 24 months transitioned from crib to a different bedroom and queen bed because 1. he was going to jump out of crib and 2. sister will be born in April and his old room will be her new room. He has always gone to bed around 830-9 in the crib fell asleep within 2 minutes, but always cried himself to sleep. He wakes up around 7am ish and this pattern has been the same since the transition. Also transitioned from 2 naps a day 10amish and 3pmish to 1 nap a day around 3pmish. Afternoon nap varies from sleeping in car or stroller to sleeping in his bed. All depends on if he has a classes (swimming, gymboree) or no clases and he is home for the day. We have a nanny so during the week she is in charge of his daytime regiment and is very good to get him to sleep. Since transition of putting him in new room and queen bed at night mom typically reads him books in bed and then stays in bed with him until he falls asleep. He has never woken up night and cried in the night. He sleeps through the night.

    We went on vacation this week and he slept on a mattress in the condo in the family room and we were in the bedroom. Every night on vacation 2 to 3 times a night he woke up crying mommy/daddy. Sometimes mom would stay with him until he fall back asleep and come back to our bed and sometimes she would fall asleep in his bed. He would sometimes wake up and yell mommy even if she was in his bed with him. Forgot to mention he would get our of his bed and come to our room to get us. For the vacation we brought his pillow cases he had been sleeping in, his favorite stuffed animals, shinning stars on ceiling and favorite books.

    First night back home he wakes up crying mommy around 130am and gets out of bed. FYI, when we transitioned him 2 months ago we closed his door so he could not get out of his room and we still do that. Mom after about a minute went in and got into his bed and waited for him to go back to sleep.

    She does not want to have to continue to get up 2 to 3 times a night and get him to sleep by staying in his bedroom and we would like him to sleep through the night.

    • Emily DeJeu says:

      @ Erik – honestly, after reading through the details, it sounds to me like what is happening here is going to be short-lived. Seems like your toddler’s night-waking and wandering out of his room was a result of your travels, and that he’s having a hard time adjusting back to “normal” sleep at home. The best thing you can do is to stay as consistent as possible – keep returning your son to his room and reminding him that sleep is time for staying in bed. Since we know he can already sleep through the night in his room (since he was doing it for awhile before your trip), then he will eventually get back to his regular sleeping habits.

      Hope this helps! Best of luck to your family. 🙂

  4. Kristi says:

    I forgot to hit notify me.

  5. Kristi says:

    I’m struggling with my almost 7 month old sleeping through the night. Wakes up twice and wants a bottle and to rock. Nap time is fine. He goes down by himself awake and will take 2, 2 hour naps. So it’s just bedtime. I don’t think I can be fully committed to crying it out. But I’m skeptical on this u must admit…..but in need of help.

    • Emily DeJeu says:

      @ Kristi – well, keep in mind that night feedings aren’t abnormal for a 7 month old – if your baby still seems hungry when he wakes, and takes a good amount from the bottles you offer, I wouldn’t work towards full night-weaning and sleeping through the night with no feeds just yet. Thoughts? Do you think your little one is hungry when he wakes, or is it just out of habit?

  6. Karissa says:

    I just wanted to say thank you for this article. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

    • Emily DeJeu says:

      @ Karissa – You’re welcome! You’re welcome, you’re welcome, you’re welcome. 😉 Our pleasure. Thank YOU for commenting!

  7. Emily says:

    I’ m the exhausted momma of a 9 month old & I’ve been wanting to work on his sleep & maybe even obsessed over it at times, but have only made minor adjustments that only gave temporary results because something always comes up – sickness, a trip, a developmental leap, nap transition, etc. It is so easy to slip back into nursing to sleep, holding for naps, etc because those things “work” at the moment but long term continue to fail us when it comes to real rest! I told my husband all I want for Christmas is to sleep through the night! It’s good to hear “good job”, because exhaustion makes you question yourself! Any tips for getting my baby to sleep through the night & to get my husband on board to take advantage of your services?

    • Emily DeJeu says:

      @ Emily – Ha! I get you – sometimes, it’s just as hard to get your spouse on board as it is to actually sleep train. I would say that a sleep consultation could DEFINITELY help you…what you are describing is so common, and is something we see all the time. I’d also advise that you could start with a smaller package, given that your baby is on the young side – the Deluxe package, for example, would no doubt be perfect 🙂 You can see all the packages here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-toddler-sleep-consulting-services/

      And as for your husband – you can tell him that having a rested, happy wife is worth its weight in gold! 😉

      Thanks for commenting, Emily – happy holidays to you!

  8. Emily says:

    Hi! I have a four and half month old son who just got diagnosed with milk protein allergies and cdiff. He’s been uncomfortable and in pain for so long, that we have been in survival mode for over a month. No consistency to his night sleep and only a rough a schedule during the day, but generally still taking four naps. It seems he’s a month or so behind where he should be and Im not sure how to catch up. He still wakes up to eat at least twice at night and can take a long time with each feeding. Any suggestions on his to move him forward or do I just sit tight?

    • Emily DeJeu says:

      @ Emily – I’m assuming you have special formula or dietary regimens in place for him now? The most important thing would be to ensure first that his allergy is being addressed. Once you know that is set, then you can definitely work on sleep…but if you think that he’s about a month behind, then it certainly couldn’t hurt to give him a few weeks to adjust, and to let his new dietary changes take effect. From there, you could begin to work on building healthy sleep habits, and to sleep train.

      Hope this helps, Emily! Don’t hesitate to contact us again if you have more questions. 🙂

  9. Heather says:

    I have twins girls 6 months old. I do the same consistent times during the day for naps, but I am not getting a consistent sleep for the naps everyday. Night time feels like it might be getting out of control. As soon as I can get one back to sleep the other wakes. then out of no where my older twin has started screaming at the top of her lungs and just fighting sleep like crazy. I am staying calm and comforting her but I am just at a loss in how to get them to sleep through the night.

    • Emily DeJeu says:

      @ Heather – oh, this is tough 🙁 Twins and multiples are like a whole new level of hard when it comes to sleep challenges, aren’t they?? You might really benefit from reading this article, on sleep training twins and multiples:https://www.babysleepsite.com/schedules/twins-multiples-sleep-feeding-schedules/#.VJjDdLiNAMA Lots of great info in there on how to sync schedules and work on sleep with one without waking the other.

      Hope this helps, Heather! Best of luck to you and to your family. 🙂

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