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Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.
Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.

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  1. Sravanthi says

    I am struggling to weanoff dummy for my 16 months old daughter. We manage to distract her during day time and don’t give her dummy. But she cries for it when she want to sleep. Please give me some tips to make LO sleep without a pacifier. I try to take it off when she fall asleep but sometimes she suddenly wakeup and cries for it.

    • Janelle Reid says

      @Sravanthi – Thank you for writing to us. I am sorry you’ve been struggling with weaning your daughter from the dummy. Taking something away from a toddler, especially something they’ve loved for their entire life, can be challenging! Here is a link with some tips to help your toddler sleep better, which you can hopefully use some to help during this transition. Just sign up for the free guide, confirm your email, and you’ll receive the guide in your inbox:
      Hang in there!

  2. Shannon says

    My 17 month old daughter has this I’m stuffed elephant lovey that she has attached herself too. To start at the beginning she did have a pacifier and around 3 months it started falling out 10 to 15 times a night and we would need to go backin to give it to her. This went on for a week and I decided after a week it was time to get rid of it. Once she was weaned (only 2 weeks it took) everything was great for a couple of months. Then she started to snuggle with a flat small blanket like lovey I had put in her crib when she was 6 months old. She then started to suck on the tab like hands and feet of the lovey. I realized this was just taking the place of the pacifier and I should have taken it away immediately, but I didn’t. Fast track 11 months and here we are she has this thing it is constantly gross stinky, but washed every day (pain in the butt to do) and I think it may be harboring so many germs and keeping her sick (runny nose cough). She only uses it at nap and bedtime. Help how do I get this thing to disappear without having a completely devastated toddler. ?

    • Janelle Reid says

      Hi @Shannon, thanks for writing! I am sorry you are struggling with your daughter using her lovey as a pacifier. Laundry is my least favorite chore I think, so I have an idea of your pain! It may be rough as it was when you removed the paci (or more of a struggle since she is older now), but hopefully either going cold-turkey or using the tips in the article will help and it will be over before you know it. If it proves challenging and the methods are not working, let us know! Our sleep consultants have a lot of experience and can suggest more specific ways for your daughter to help rid her of this sleep association. If you need more information contact us directly here:
      Thanks for using the Baby Sleep Site as a resource! Hang in there!

  3. Emily DeJeu says

    @ Jessica B — how nice for you! Always a happy thing when our babies and toddlers take it upon themselves to do some self-weaning. 😉

    @ Rachael — thanks for reaching out and sharing this advice! Little bits of wisdom from moms who are “in the trenches” (so to speak) are so, so valuable to our readers. Thanks for commenting!

  4. Rachael says

    @ KT – I would definitely try to go cold turkey. I weaned my LO at 4 month from the first night without the dummy/pacifier she slept better. My LO did only have it for a short period of time before we decided to take it.

    If your LO is waking quite often already what do you have to lose, a disrupted night!!!

    It only took a couple of days for my LO to forget all about the dummy/pacifier everytime I thought she wanted I would destract her and keep her busy this took her mind off it. Something else I learnt out of sight out of mind literally.

    Good luck and keep us posted on how its going 🙂

  5. Jessica B says

    Oddly enough our 8 month old appears to be self weaning from the pacifier. He is managing to stay asleep longer and survive position changes at night without crying out to have one of us pop it back in near as often. I’m hoping by 12 months that thing is gone.

  6. Emily DeJeu says

    @ KT — sounds to me like the pacifier probably is causing more problems than it’s solving. As for how to wean, you could always try cold turkey and see how she handles it. If it’s a disaster, you could re-introduce and then try a gentler, more gradual method.

    Let us know how it goes, KT! And thanks for commenting. 🙂

  7. KT says

    I am about to wean my 9 month old off of her pacifier this weekend. She is fully sleep trained but still a very poor sleeper (I am convinced it is nothing we can completely correct no matter how hard we try, how much we tweak her schedule, or how consistent we are). Every little thing throws her off, and I think the pacifier is causing more problems than it is worth. I sprinkle them around the crib but since my 9 month old has not really mastered mobility she inevitably ends up away from a pacifier at some point in the night, at which point she cries until I come in to do a check and give her one. She can reinsert it herself but only when one is nearby. So it’s time for it to go and hopefully that will help her sleep through the night (which she can do) at least more often than she has lately. She actually doesn’t seem to really like her pacifier very much – she will push it away if it is offered at any time other than bedtime and naptime and even refuses to let anyone else insert it in the middle of the night.

    My only question is whether to go cold turkey since she is still under a year or try the pin prick/snipping trick.

  8. Emily DeJeu says

    @ Lindsey — Thanks for sharing this tip! I think this is a “Happiest Baby On the Block” strategy, right? I think I remember reading about it in that book when I was trying (in vain, it turns out) to get my oldest to take a pacifier. Glad that technique worked well for you!

    Sounds like pacifier use is working well in your house; if that’s the case, then you shouldn’t feel any pressure to try and wean your little guy off it anytime soon. As Nicole often says, “It’s not a problem until it’s a problem!”

    Thanks for commenting, Lindsey! 🙂

  9. Lindsey says

    Sucking really helps to calm crying babies and I would rather be able to take away the thing they suck on rather than fight them on sucking their fingers, which can’t be taken away. I found a trick for getting my little one to take a pacifier when he was originally spitting it out all of the time: once he began sucking on it, I would pull it gently (like snagging a fish on a fishing line) multiple times. He immedately sucked harder each time (the person who suggested this technique said that babies have a natural desire to prevent someone from taking something already in their mouth…it’s mine so give it back). I just spent some time, when he would take it, tugging on it gently…like ten times until he seemed to have it. I only allow him to have it for sleeping and in the car if I can’t get to him. Since he can get it himself, I just leave it in the crib for him to find and put him down without it.

  10. Emily DeJeu says

    @ Rachael — Yay for you, and for your sweet daughter!! So glad you brought us good news today 🙂 I’ll bet you’re feeling glad you decided to make the move towards weaning her off the pacifier.

    Thanks for the update, Rachael! Hope your progress continues to go smoothly.