9 Month Old Baby Schedule

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9 Month Old Baby Schedule


This article outlines the average 9 month old baby schedule, including feedings, solids, naps and night sleep.

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9 month old’s sleep

At this age, if you are not lucky enough to have a baby who sleeps through the night, most 9 month olds can sleep all night without a feeding and take two naps. However, some babies, in my experience, do better with one feeding after 4 or 5 a.m. and sleep longer than not feed and get an early wake-time. I would need to know your specific situation to make a recommendation, but just recognize that all babies are different, but by this age I would not expect more than 1 feeding, typically, if any at all. Your 9 month old should be taking 2 naps per day for a total of about 2-3 hours per day plus 11-12 hours at night. If you’re having trouble with naps, you might be interested in helping your baby nap.

All babies vary, but here are some rough schedules you can use to make your own for your unique baby.

I should warn you that I am in the camp that breast milk or formula should be the primary nutrition for the first year and solids come secondary. Below are the amounts we recommend. For more information on starting your baby on solid food, visit our sister site, Your Baby’s Start To Solid Foods. It includes recommendations about how and when to start solids, as well as helpful information on food allergies, recommended products, baby-friendly recipes, and more.

Amounts per day:

• At least 3-4 nursing sessions per day or 26-32 ounces formula or combination of both
• 2 servings (1 serving = 1-2 Tablespoons dry) baby cereal
• 1-2 servings grain (1 serving = 1/2 slice bread, 2 crackers, 1/2 cup Cheerios, or 1/2 cup whole grain pasta)
• 2 servings (1 serving = 2-4 Tablespoons) fruit
• 2 servings (1 serving = 2-4 Tablespoons) vegetable
• 2-3 servings (1 serving = 1-2 Tablespoons) protein
• 1 serving Dairy (1 serving = 1/2 cup yogurt, 1/3 cup cottage cheese or 1 oz grated cheese)

The first schedule is what I call a “staggered” approach. My first son did better nursing fully and then having solids a bit in between nursing sessions. He was a little hungry but not famished. He just didn’t do well with stopping nursing mid-way to eat solids.


Sample 9 month old schedules

7:00 – Wake and Breast milk or Formula
9:00 – Breakfast
10:00 – Morning Nap (at least 1 hour)
11:00 – Breast milk or Formula
1:00 – Lunch
2:00 – Early Afternoon Nap (at least 1 hour)
3:00 – Breast milk or Formula plus snack
5:00 – Dinner
6:15 – Begin bedtime routine
7:00 – Breastmilk or Formula and Bedtime (goal to be asleep at this time)

If your baby doesn’t mind a more “consolidated” approach to eating, like my second son, here is another type of schedule:

Schedule 2

7:00 – Wake, 1/2 Breast milk / Formula feeding, breakfast and other 1/2 BM / Formula
10:00 – Morning Nap (at least 1 hour)
11:00 – 1/2 BM/Formula, Lunch, and other 1/2 BM/Formula
2:00 – Afternoon Nap (at least 1 hour)
3:00 – BM or Formula Feeding plus snack
5:00 – Dinner and 1/2 BM / Formula feeding
6:15 – Begin bedtime routine
7:00 – Small BM/Formula feeding and Bedtime (goal to be asleep at this time)

Note: When giving any feedings during your bedtime routine, be careful not to create sleep associations.

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What is your 9-month old’s schedule?

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  1. kimberley says:

    Hi, I have a 9 month old baby boy that wakes up 4-5 times during the night. I use schedule one’s day routine which is provided on this website, all that helps but i just don’t know what i can do to help my son sleep threw the whole night.

    If anyone has any ideas please tell me!

    I’m now pregnant with my 2nd baby, and my body can’t afford to wake up 5 times a night and up all day!

  2. Missy says:

    Hi,
    My 9mo old baby girl started sleeping through the night around 6 weeks old.. we were pretty lucky. We started out great! She was always placed in her own crib, in her own room, with a very dim light night (easier for us for night-time feedings and changings early on). During certain milestones we had a few bumps as far as sleeping through the night, feeding schedules varying, formula amounts per day varying, etc.

    However, in the last few weeks, she has become increasingly more fussy when you lay her down for bedtime. To begin with, naps weren’t a big deal (once I figured out I needed to darken her room during the day with a blanket over the window – she started sleeping 1-2 hrs each nap). She would lay down for naps without much fuss and fall asleep fairly quickly, and bedtime was always tricky.

    The mobile, projector, music bear, etc. began to be less inticing. Now those sounds or the view from the crib (I assume) seems to be increasingly more traumatizing for her! As soon as you turn on the music she starts screaming – as if she is afraid of going to sleep? So we have stopped using those and just sit with her and quietly reassure her or hum or sing from the rocking chair next to the crib. But she still fusses and cries and reaches for me for a while.

    I want to prevent bedtime from being traumatizing for her! Any suggestions??

    Her daily schedule normally:
    Wake – 8:00/8:30
    Breakfast – 9:00 (5-6oz formula)
    Nap 9:30/10:00 (1-2 hrs)
    Lunch – 12:30/1:00 (combined 4-6oz formula, fruit/cereal/snacks)
    Nap – 2:30/3:00 (.50hr-1.50hrs)
    Dinner – 5:30/6:00 (5-6oz formula)
    Nap – 6:30/7:00 (wake her @ 9pm, so appx 2-2.50hrs)
    “Late Night Snack” – 9:30/10:00 (4-5oz formula)
    Bedtime – 10:30/11:00

    We have pretty much always kept this same schedule since she started sleeping through the night. We found if we let her sleep since 6-7pm she will wake again between 11:30pm & 2am and want to be up and play and eat. So we started waking her no later than 9pm to feed her, bath her, and do the bedtime ritual and she would sleep better through the night. Plus, we both work full time, and don’t get home until around 5:30-6pm every night, so an earlier bedtime is nearly impossible (to be able to cook dinner, eat, tend to the baby, and get her ready for bed so early). We found that we were able to get all of our evening stuff done while she had her evening nap. But I’m wondering now if this is contributing to her fighting sleep that late at night?

    We’ve also considered the separation anxiety with me and had her father put her to bed instead. Maybe if she doesn’t see me next to her crib she is more inclined to sleep rather than cry for me to pick her up?

    The last few nights, she has woke up and not wanted to go back to sleep unless I get her and rock her. But as soon as I lay her back down she stirs, wakes, and starts crying again. It usually takes just under an hour to get her back to sleep. This is tiring!! This maybe contributed to teething?

    Sorry for the “novel” post, but I wanted to try to give you as much info as possible… we are desperate to figure this out!

    Should we try a later afternoon nap and earlier bedtime, and eliminate the evening nap and late-night snack?

    Any suggestions to making the crib more comforting and less traumatizing?

    Thank you so much for your time and advice!
    Missy

  3. Jacqueline S says:

    Hi,
    I have a 9 month old son who goes to sleep by himself however he will wake up few times in the night. Every time, I will nurse him to sleep which made him unable to fall back to sleep by himself. (I know it’s totally my fault) I am planning to wean his night feed cold turkey since he is eating good during day time. I hate to listen to his crying at night, please advise/suggest to me some ways to go through the night weaning process.
    Thank you very much.

  4. Katie says:

    Hello,

    I am getting desparate about my son’s napping (or lack of). He’s almost 9 months and has always been a great night sleeper but never a great napper. He sleeps about 12 hours per night, sometimes 13 if he hasn’t napped much the day before. I did have him on a great schedule at about 7.5 months. He napped for an hour to and hour and a half around 9:15 and 1:15 after waking about 7 or 7:30. He now almost refuses his afternoon nap or it is very short..less than 30 minutes. His morning nap is a battle now as well, but when he does fall asleep, sometimes it’s a marathon nap of 1.5-2 hours. Am I letting him take too long of a nap in the morning? He gets very cranky by bedtime if he doesn’t nap in the afternoon, and I know he is tired. After our nap routine when I put him in his crib, he just wants to stand up and play, even if he is yawning and rubbing his eyes. Bedtime is at about 7 pm. Please help with suggestions! Thank you

  5. Amanda says:

    Hello,
    My daughter is going to be 9 months old at the end of this month. When she was about 2 to 3 months old she slept throughout the entire night. But that peace did not last long. Since then she has been waking up atleast 3 times during the night, each time she wont go back to sleep without a bottle. She takes 2 naps during the day, at 11 for about 2 hours and sometime between 4 to 6 for 1 hour. I’ve tried many different advice like feeding her cereal before bedtime or giving her a bath but these things only sometimes help by reducing her to wake up only twice or if I’m lucky, once. She is also very attached to me. It is very difficult for her to sleep alone. If you have any more advice that I could try to get her on a good schedule please let me know.
    Thanks,
    Amanda

  6. Debbie says:

    Hi,
    My daughter will be 9 mo next week. She has never slept well (colic and her first teeth came out at 3 mo). She had started to sleep better (for 4 hour stretches) when one night, she woke up at 2am with a fever and vomiting. I stayed up with her to get her fever down and get her settled. Ever since then, she has been waking up every 1-2 hours! I believe her 7th and 8th teeth are coming out, and I definitely think she has separation anxiety as she often cries when I leave the room (even if Daddy is with her).
    She only naps for 45 minutes at a time, 3 times a day. If she doesn’t nap, she whines and is generally grizzly. She is breastfeeding and eating cereals and purees (no solids yet, but planning to introduce them soon). Her current schedule is very similar to the first one you present (including wake up times and bedtimes), but nap times are different – she is generally awake for 2 -3 hours at a time. Naps were never an issue although lately, she seems to be ‘fighting’ them, but as I said, if she doesn’t nap, she whines and rubs her eyes and pulls her ears.
    Any suggestions?

  7. amy says:

    my daughter is 8 months old. she sleeps from 5:30 pm till 6:30 in the morning. she usually goes back for a nap at 8:30 in the morning, but is not wanting to lately( she stays awake the whole time). is she too young to go to a 1 nap a day schedule? ( since she is getting 13 hours at night?) she is always happy. it does not seem to phase her if she does not get a nap. she has been napping for the past week from 11:30 till 2:30- then going back to sleep for the night at 5:30. I did babywise with all 4 of my kids, and they all went to bed for the night around 6:00 from 6 months on-( my 4 year old still goes to bed at 6!) so, she would be getting 16 hours of sleep a day. but I am worried she is too young for 1 nap a day.. I cannot remember what we did with my other kids! thanks so much.

  8. Hilary says:

    I have a 9 1/2 month old daughter who has always been a pretty terrible sleeper. She did finally get to the point where she would only wake up once in the night to eat, but lately she has been waking up frequently in the night. The other night she woke up at 12 and cried for an hour and a half before I finally gave in an fed her. She takes 2 good naps during the day, but I Just don’t know what to do about her night wakings. She is getting close to being able to walk. I don’t know if that has anything to do with it. Any advice would be great!

  9. Nicole says:

    My daughter has always been a great night time sleeper. At 6 weeks she was “sleeping through the night” and night time feedings stopped when she was 3 1/2 months old. Since she was about 6 months old she started taking 2 naps a day and sleeping 11–12 hours at night. Now she is 9 months old and she has began fighting her afternoon nap and her night time sleep has started extending to 12–13 hours (6:30 pm to 7–7:30 am). When she starts to get close to the 13th hour of night time sleep I go in and wake her up for the day, feeling that if I don’t, she’ll never nap during the day. She goes down very easily for her morning nap usually between 9 & 9:30 am and she used to go down for her afternoon nap anywhere between 1 & 2 pm. Now the problem is, I’ll put her in her crib when I think she’s tiered for her afternoon nap and she wont sleep. After an hour, I take her out and call that nap time over. If she isn’t crying, should I just leave her there hoping that eventually she’ll fall asleep? Should I be waking her up earlier in the morning? I thought she was too young to transition to one nap, is that true? I’m willing to try a variety of options, any suggestions would be greatly appreciated!

  10. Debbye says:

    @ Hilary- Around this age there are so many developmental milestones, and many babies have a hard time sleeping when there is so much going on! Have you read this article?
    http://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-sleep-patterns/8-9-10-month-old-baby-sleep-regression/
    Stay consistent, and you do have options in between letting her cry and giving in and feeding her. The good news is…She was sleeping well (waking once to eat) and the bad news is, she sounds like she needs your help to learn to get back to sleeping that way. Here is another link to an article outlining different sleep training options:
    http://www.babysleepsite.com/sleep-training/sleep-training-from-no-cry-to-cry-series-part-1/

    @ Nicole- Sometimes naps are hard. Even for those “good sleepers.” 9 months is typically much too young to transition to one nap. This usually happens at 15-18 months. How long her morning nap is? You could try waking her earlier from her morning nap (open curtains and let in some light) if she is napping longer than 1-2 hours.

  11. Ashley says:

    My son sleeps 11 hours at night and I’m having a hard time to figure out what to do with the missing hour of sleep. He doesn’t want his third nap anymore either.
    7:00 Wake, nurse, breakfast
    9:00 Nap – 1 1/2 hours (my goal is to get him to nap at 9:30)
    11:00 Nurse and lunch
    1:30 Nap (also trying to push back to 2)
    3:00 Nurse
    And then I’m trying to figure out bedtime. If he goes to bed at 7 he wakes up at 6, and I prefer 7. He’s so tired by 8 and then doesn’t sleep well.

  12. Rebecca says:

    Hi

    my baby is nearly 9 months old, she has slept through the night (7pm-6am) from 3months in her own cot. She has always been a short napper – normally 2 – 3 half hours through the day, occasionally has the odd hour one, She always seems fine on this. If she stirred in the night she would always settle herself – until now!

    She has recently cut 3 teeth and is just starting to crawl/stand.

    Now I put her to bed still awake and she falls asleep, sleeps for 30mins-1 hour and has a scream. She usually settles herself but occasionally I have to go in and soothe her.

    She is now waking up through the night, it was 5am but over the last week or so has now gone back even further to 2.30am and she is nigh on impossible to settle…. unless I put her into my bed with us and she goes straight back to sleep often until 9am!

    my oh and I are starting to argue, he sees it as the easy option but I am worried about getting her into bad habits.

    If it’s just because of the crawling/teething stage, will it matter if she sleeps ib with us?

  13. Debbye says:

    @ Ashley- In most cases, babies adjust to losing a nap by absorbing the time throughout their entire day and night of sleep. He looks to be on a good schedule, and is sleeping a good amount of time for his age too. You are doing the right thing by getting him to bed at 7, before he gets overtired too…Sometimes it takes some time to adjust, and things will smooth out in a few weeks. And…You may have a “lark” on your hands. Have you read this article? http://www.babysleepsite.com/schedules/owls-and-larks/
    Good luck!

    @Rebecca- This age can be a tough one when it comes to sleep. There is so much going on!!
    Here is an article that you may find helpful:
    http://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-sleep-patterns/8-9-10-month-old-baby-sleep-regression/
    If co-sleeping is working for all of you, then continue to do it! Many times it does cause a sleep association that can be hard to break later, but many families find that it works for them to bring their babe to bed in the wee hours of the morning. You just have to decide if it works for your family!
    Best wishes!

  14. Carlos Londono says:

    Hi, my nine month old sleeps all night, but he usually falls to sleep at 11 pm. We put him in the crib at 8 pm with lights out, but he does not stop moving and/or playing. Finally he falls to sleep and then wakes up at 6am and he is ready to play. My wife gives him his formula and then he takes a 10 to 15 minutes nap. Did I say that he is like a little monkey. OMG he wakes up with so much energy that our dog gets in the closet. At 10 am he takes like a 45 minutes to an hour nap, eats lunch and drinks his bottle.plays for about 4 hours straight ( is there a switch or something to turn him off)?
    Takes another nap but he fights the sleep , all he wants to do is play, you can tell he is tired and he wants to rest but at the same time he is fighting not to go to sleep. Over all
    He sleeps about 10 hours a day sometimes less. He likes attention but even when we live him alone we still hear him playing and moving. Don’t get me wrong I love the way he is, it seems like he is a super happy baby, I’m just worry he is not getting longer naps.

  15. nikki says:

    I have a 8 month old who has only been nursing up until 4 days ago, I give her a few bits of organic baby food normally no more than 5 bits, she nurses every 2 to 3 hrs even at nite but shes an awesome sleeper during the day she has about 3 naps no more than 2 hrs at a time. But my biggest problem is she has a hard time digesting food all my kids had this problem so im imited to what i can feed her and shes not on a sippy cup at all or bottle she refuses them so i nurse all the time what do I do I have tried everything I just want her to sleep more at nite.

  16. Debbye says:

    @ Carlos – It does sound like you’ve got a very busy baby boy! It does sound like he does need more sleep too… the average for his age (9 to 18 months): 11-12 hours at night, and 2-3 hours during the day in 1-2 naps. You may be able to help him unwind for his sleep with a very relaxing and consistent bed and nap time routine. Allow extra time and implement a routine that is mellow and maybe even a bit boring! Try to adjust the time between sleep so that he is not awake for more than about 3 hours before his next sleep, and consider sleep training and nap training with your help to relax him into his slumber.
    Good luck!

    @ Nikki – At this age, it would not be uncommon for your baby to still need to feed 1-2 times per night but you will want to work on not letting her fall completely back to sleep while feeding, so she is waking when hungry, not just because she has a sleep association with nursing. When she starts to slow with her feeding, then gently unlatch her and allow him to continue to fall asleep on her own. The key will be to be consistent and to use patting/shushing or even a bit of rocking to get her drowsy enough again to fall asleep on her own. Keep in mind the first few days or week will be the hardest as he will need time to adjust to learning this. Also, decide in advance which wakings you will feed her for. That is, maybe set it so that she only eats in the night if it’s been 4 or more hours since the last feeding. That way, you know you are feeding her out of possible hunger and not because she’s just not able to get through a light sleep cycle.
    Good luck!

  17. Rebecca says:

    Thank you. Had a brief break from the 3am screams and it was bliss, not for the last two days we’ve been back to it!

    I put her in with us but only when she wakes in the early hours – I still make sure she gets put down in her cot and goes there for naps, sleep is important and we can deal with the trying to wrestle her into her own bed at a later date :)

  18. Carlos londono says:

    Thank you!! It seems like is working out better. Now he wakes up with more energy lol.

    [IMG]http://i1035.photobucket.com/albums/a431/celpaola/0a4df919.jpg[/IMG]

  19. Debbye says:

    @ Rebecca – I am glad that you have found a solution that works for you! Just be sure that if it begins not to work, that you work to change it!
    Best wishes!

    @ Carlos – Great news! Thanks for sharing! I don’t know why, but I can’t view the picture…

  20. Shannon says:

    Hi there.
    I have a 9 month old son who is killing me with waking up through the night. He had slept through the night (8 hours and then a breast feed and back to sleep for 2-4 hours) from 10 weeks until about 6 and a half months. For almost the past three months he has been waking up 2-6 times throughout the night. He will go back to sleep right away if I breast feed him but I know that he doesn’t need to eat this much (he is above the 99th percentile in height and weight) and I just want a solid night’s sleep for us both!

    I have tried the Ferber method but two hours later neither one of us is any closer to sleeping and I hate hearing him cry.

    Here is his schedule. Please help!:

    7:00am Wake up and Breast feed
    9:00am breakfast (4 tbsp baby cereal, 2 tbsp fruit)
    10am nap (usually 1.5 hours)
    12pm lunch (2 tbsp baby cereal, 2 tbsp veggies, 2 tbsp fruit)
    2:30 breast feed
    3pm Nap (usually 1.5 to 2 hours)
    5:30 dinner (2 tbsp meat/veggie mix, 2 tbsp fruit, cheerios)
    8pm-8:30 breast feed and bed time

    We (I) rock him to sleep for all his naps and at bed time. He usually goes to sleep well but is up again within an hour wanting to be rocked to sleep.

    Please tell me what I am doing wrong!!!!

  21. Michelle says:

    My (almost) 9 month old baby girl’s schedule is as follows:

    7.45 Wake up
    8.30 Breakfast (nowhere near the amount listed here)
    10.00 Nap for 1.5 -2 hours
    12.30 Nurse & then lunch (again, less than amount listed)
    15.00 Nap for 1-1.5 hours
    17.00 Nurse
    18.00 Dinner
    20.30 Bed

    We have had a great, predictable schedule for about 2 months now but for the past 5 days/nights something has gone wrong. She has been waking up one hour after going to bed wanting to play and refusing to go back to sleep until 10 or 11pm. She still wakes at the same time in the morning regardless. She nurses once or twice per night (which is not a problem for us). She is consequently becoming more & more tired each day. Her nap schedule is all off too and she is either hard to get to sleep or she just crashes. I know she is definitely teething (she has one top & one bottom so far) and she is on the verge of walking. Could this be interfering with her sleep? I don’t know whether to change something or just wait it out…Any advice would be much appreciated.

  22. Lisa says:

    My 9 month old has regressed! She used to sleep 7-7 with one waking for a feed and had two naps both 1.5hours long. 2 weeks ago she self weaned off the midnight feed and now sleeps through 7 to 7. The problem now is, over the last week her two day naps are the length of one sleep cycle. 40 min. I am trying the techniques I learnt when I took her to sleep school when she was three months (would not sleep day or night since birth). Is there a 9 month regression or does her schedule need changing? She has even gone off the spoon. Unless it’s fruit, my daughter refuses to eat anything I spoon into her mouth. Even with a spoon in her hand. She has no problem eating pieces of bread, cheese or fruit that I Kay on the tray in front of her.

    6.30 wake
    7.00 breastmilk
    8.00 cereal/fruit/toast
    9.30 nap (40 min)
    Sleep training (not sure if I am too strict
    11.00 wake
    12.00 lunch
    1.30 nap (40 min)
    Sleep training (not sure if I am too strict
    3.00 wake & breastfeed
    5.00 dinner
    6.15 bath time
    7.00 breastmilk/bed

  23. Lisa says:

    I forgot to mention that my daughter goes to bed awake and falls asleep on her own without a fuss and no pacifier.

  24. Candice says:

    thank you for this website. I am eagerly awaiting to see your response.
    I have a 8-1/2 month old boy, he has slept through the night occassionally since he was 2 months, but primarily wakes at least once, sometimes up to 4 times a night. He is BF, but he eats solids without a problem. He sleeps for 2- 2-3 hour naps a day, and we put him in bed 9 or 9:30 every night (that is the time that flows well for our house with his siblings). We have tried the CIO with reassuring to no avail, every time he wakes up in the night he nurses vigorously- and (on the rare occasion) he will not go back down I have my hubby put him down (so he rocks him until he is almost asleep). When I put him down for naps he is awake 9 out of 10 times and he gets himself to sleep, he sucks his two fingers. I just don’t get why he is still getting up at night and why he seems so hungry. I have even begun saving a feeding for 7:45 at night so I know his belly is full. So this is a typical day:
    7/ 7:30 AM- awake BF
    8:30 AM- solids
    9:30 AM- nap
    11:30 AM- awake BF and solids
    2/ 2:30 PM- nap
    4:30/ 5:30 PM- awake BF
    7 PM dinner
    9/ 9:30 PM- BF, put in crib awake- falls asleep
    (between 9:30 and 7:30 he may wake up 0-4 times)

    I have resigned myself to the idea that until I am done BF (when he turns 1) that this may be my reality- what do you think?

  25. Melissa says:

    My 9 month old is waking up so early, 5:15 am. I’d appreciate some advice on how to lengthen his sleep. I typically put him down around 6:45 or 7 pm at the latest. He is nursed to sleep (I know the sleep association is not good, but it works for us). We started giving him a dream feed around 10 pm (sometimes he sleeps through it and other times wakes but goes right back to sleep). Mostly, he will sleep until 5ish, and sometimes wake once during the night, but we do not feed him. We will often wait until 6 am to go to him in the morning and then he gets nursed and we start our day. He sleeps from 2-3 hours during the day. Should I change the feeding from the dream feed to the 4 or 5 am waking time? Right now when he wakes at 5:15 he will not go back to sleep (we’ve tried going in right away to try to help him back to sleep, we’ve tried feeding him, and CIO, but they rarely work). Should I put him to sleep even earlier?

    I appreciate any advice.

  26. Debbye says:

    Hi Shannon,
    You are doing anything wrong! Please don’t think that you are the reason that your son is not sleeping! It looks like your baby just needs more help than some to learn that he can fall asleep and back to sleep on his own! Since you tried leave and check method, and it did not work out, feel free to start again with a gentler method, but I would definitely recommend teaching him to fall asleep on his own. And if it would make it easier for you, you can work on naps and nights separately. This series of articles may help you decide on a method to begin with, and give you a good starting point: http://www.babysleepsite.com/sleep-training/sleep-training-from-no-cry-to-cry-series-part-1/ Remember that the first days will be hardest, and try to stick with it for at least a week. Since you sound like you have been struggling for a while, you may want to consider a consultation package: http://babysleepsite.com/services
    Good luck!!!

  27. Debbye says:

    Hi Michelle,
    How are things going now? It looks like it may be a developmental stage, or temporary sleep regression, and I hope that things have improved now! teething and milestones definitely disturb sleep. Just try not to introduce too many new habits that you will need to break later! Here is a link to an article that may be helpful too: http://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-sleep-patterns/8-9-10-month-old-baby-sleep-regression/
    Best wishes, and hope you have good news!

  28. Debbye says:

    Hi Lisa,
    You are absolutely correct! There is a nasty little sleep regression right around this age! Here is the link to an article about it: http://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-sleep-patterns/8-9-10-month-old-baby-sleep-regression/
    As for the spoon… Sounds like my son! He would only eat finger foods for a few months too. It should pass too. A website that has been very useful to me on baby food is this one: http://www.wholesomebabyfood.com They’ve got some good ideas and advice!
    Good luck!

  29. Debbye says:

    Hi Candice,
    Waking once to nurse at his age would be quite common, but four times just sounds like a habit. A high protein snack right before bed could not hurt in trying to curb his appetite a bit, at least you will know he is not starving! It sounds like you are doing all the right things, so just try to continue implementing these good habits, decide which waking you will feed him for, and if possible have your husband handle any other night wakings. Many families find better success when Dad goes in at night wakings. This age is hard on sleep in general too (http://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-sleep-patterns/8-9-10-month-old-baby-sleep-regression/), but try to stick it out. The fact that he sleeps through sometimes is a good sign! Have you tried a little earlier bedtime? Even 30 minutes earlier may help of he is getting over tired.
    Good luck!!!
    Good luck!

  30. Debbye says:

    Hi Melissa,
    I think you are on the right track of eliminating the dream feed if he sleeps through it sometimes. Many babies at this age can’t quite make it through the entire night though without a feed, so try to feed at 4-5am instead of dream feed, unless he does not seem hungry. It sounds like he is just ready to start his day then? And not necessarily tired/fussy? If you want him to sleep later,you can tweak his bedtime a little, but I would not make the bedtime too much earlier. Sometimes its a trial and error thing unfortunately, but you may want to try to shift his schedule forward a little.
    Good luck!!!

  31. Jennifer says:

    hi my son just turned 9 months old last week, he has always been an excelent sleeper from about 2 months old, but the problem im having is not him waking up, he goes down to sleep at around 8:30 most nights, and doesnt usuallly wake up until around 6am the next morning, the problem we are having is we want him to sleep in his crib, i want to be able to put him in there awake and just have him fall asleep on his own, also his naps are very irreguallar, he usually has 3 naps a day, on in the early morning, after he has his first feeding, then again sometime just after lunch, and again just before supper time, i am willing to do the CIO but i would prefer not too, the only way he gets to sleep on his own and stays asleep is if he is in his vibrating chair and is in front of the T.V in our living room which has to stay on all night, is there any other way i can get him to fall asleep on his own and too stay asleep?? in his crib preferably
    thanks for any advice you or the other moms can share, i really appreciate it :)

  32. Debbye says:

    Hi Jennifer,
    At this point, your son probably doesn’t think of the crib as his bed. I would start with him spending some non sleep time in his crib, maybe reading or singing songs so that he starts to see the bed as his bed, and a positive place to be. You can also try sleep on his sheet for a night or two and then putting it on his bed so that it smells like you. If you’d like a more gentle approach, you can start out by putting him to sleep in his own bed for naps. Once he seems to have adjusted to that, then work on putting him down for the night in his own bed and then decide how you will handle any protests at bedtime or night wakings.

    There are some additional tips here that you might also find helpful:
    http://www.babysleepsite.com/how-we-sleep/baby-wont-sleep-crib/

    Good luck!!

  33. Rendani says:

    Hi

    I have a nine months old son, he does not sleep through out the night, he wakes up every two hrs and when he wakes up he want to breastfeed all the time. And as a results he doesnt want to eat. Please help me to solve this problem because when i took him to the doctor , she said he is undewaight

  34. Debbye says:

    Hi Rendani,
    I am sorry that you are having a hard time! First, be sure that he’s on a good daytime schedule with a good bedtime as an overtired baby has a more difficult time staying asleep at night. Additionally, if he’s nursing to sleep at bedtime and at night time wake ups, then teaching him to fall asleep on his own (and not while feeding) will help him learn to self soothe and be able to put himself to sleep at bedtime and for night time wakings.You may want to work on not letting him fall completely back to sleep while feeding. He may become more awake for the first several times you try this but the key will be to be consistent and to use patting/shushing or even a bit of rocking to get him drowsy enough again to fall asleep on his own. Keep in mind the first few days or week will be the hardest as he will need time to adjust to learning this.
    Good luck!!!

  35. Ayla says:

    Hello,
    Firstly, thank you so much for your advice in advance!!
    My 9 month old girl dropped her 3rd nap just as she turned 9 months. Actually, we started stretching her awake time from 2-2.5 hours to 3 hours before first nap, 3.5 before second and 4+ before bedtime. Her 30-45 minute naps stretched out to about an hour when we did that, which was great. She now goes down easy for naps, sleeps about an hour, and wakes content. However, we are starting to notice that she is getting more and more clingy, and fussy as the days go on (especially in re afternoon/evening), and she has started crying when put down for bed (hasn’t done this in months!). She does usually sleep through the night, but she wakes very early (between 5-5:45 usually). So we try to keep a bedtime around 6:15-6:45 (but with 15-30 minutes of crying, it pushes bedtime back). So, does our baby sound like she is becoming more and more overtired? Are her awake times too long (any shorter through and her awake time before bed would be too long, or she would have to go to sleep SUPER early). Any suggestions to help with our evening crabbiness, crying before bed, and early waking?
    Thanks!!
    Here is a sample day:
    5:30 – wake
    6:00 – nurse
    7:00 breakfast
    8:30 – 9:30 – nap
    9:30 – nurse
    11:30 – lunch
    1:00 – 2:00 – nap
    6:30 – bed (asleep by or before 7)

  36. bess says:

    Hi!
    I have a question. My son would not go to sleep with me from the beginning. I always had to lay him down where ever I wanted him to sleep, cover him and give him his binkie and he would sleep. He never wanted to be held or rocked or anything. Well, my mom moved to town (state really) and during her transition of trying to get settled, my son was in his car seat a lot more. Now, he wants to be either rocked or in his car seat to go to sleep. He is 9 months old now (almost 10 months) and for the last 2 months, he has had very poor sleeping habits. I have tried to lay him down like before, but he just gets up and crawls away or fusses or whatever. I love the bonding time, I have to admit, however it is causing lots of problems with his sleeping routine–basically, it is shot! :) Any suggestions on what I can do to try to help him get better sleep? Also, since he is almost 10 months, I see your schedules and am seriously considering them…table food at this age or still baby food? He hates table food right now, so is it ok that he still is primarily on baby food? Thanks a million and a half!!

  37. Debbye says:

    @ Ayla,
    You can try to get the bedtime earlier as it does sound as if she is getting over tired. Once she is going to sleep better, you can try and shift her schedule forward. Shift everything in her day
    (meals, naps, bedtime, bath, everything) forward by 15 minutes a day until a more desired bedtime and wake time. This may take some time, and she may become overtired at first. But the key is to not let her make up for the lost 15 minutes by napping longer or going to bed earlier. You ultimately want her make up that time in the morning by sleeping in later.
    Best of luck!

    @ Bess- It sounds like you have a serious sleep association on your hands. You’ll likely need to take action to teach him how to fall asleep on his own. You can read more about various methods of sleep training here: http://www.babysleepsite.com/sleep-training/sleep-training-from-no-cry-to-cry-series-part-1/
    And do not worry too much about table foods vs. baby food. Different babies prefer different foods and textures, and that is okay! Just keep on offering him healthy choices! A website that has been very useful to me on baby food is this one:
    http://www.wholesomebabyfood.com. You might see if it is helpful to you too!
    Best wishes!

  38. Kristy says:

    My son, who just turned nine months on the 16th, is having such a terrible time with bedtime lately. His schedule is as follows:

    6-7 wake up (rarely 7:45)
    8:30 fruit and bottle at 9
    9:30-11ish nap
    12 fruit/veggie and bottle
    1:30 or 2:00 nap until 3 or 3:30
    6:00 fruit and veggie and bottle
    6:30-7:15 bedtime

    We sleep trained him to sleep in his crib at four months. It took him less than a week, really more like three days, to sleep in his crib for all naps and for bedtime. He still wakes up around 3 for a bottle and since he gulps it down and then goes right back to bed, I don’t mind getting up for it. The problem started about a week and a half ago. When we lay him down for bed, he screams and cries for an hour or even more. I get him after 15 minutes, cuddle him, and sooth him and then lay him back down. After 15 more minutes, I get him, rock him until he’s calm and lay him back down. After an hour, I give him a bottle, which he gulps down. (I guess I give in.) Then, he has been able to get to sleep pretty quickly. However, I don’t want to depend on that extra bottle just an hour or two after his last bottle of the day. It’s killing me to hear him cry. What should I do?

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