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  1. Kate says:

    My 10 week old is difficult to put to sleep at night – we swaddle him, turn on the white noise machine, and hold/pat him (between 7 and 8pm). He will cry, drift to sleep, cry, drift to sleep and this often takes about 40 minutes until he will fall all the way asleep when we put him down in his co-sleeper. Is there something we are missing? Anyway to make this process shorter with less crying?

    • Janelle Reid says:

      Hi @Kate, thank you for writing to us! I am sorry you’ve been struggling getting your son to sleep at night. It is a skill he will grow in but there are things you can do now to help. You may be interested in downloading our free guide which has facts for new parents to help with their newborn’s sleep! Here is the link to sign up to receive it: https://www.babysleepsite.com/15-free-baby-sleep-facts-new-parents-must-know/
      If this persists and you need more help, we are here! We have an amazing team of sleep consultants that would love to help you with getting your son soothed and sleeping better. To read about the different options you can visit here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-toddler-sleep-consulting-services/
      Hang in there and I hope things improve for you soon!

  2. Morgan Bienhoff says:

    I see @amanda did not get a reply. After reading her post, I was VERY eager to read the reply as it is very similar to where we are with our 11 week old. He is exclusively breastfed (though he is still difficult to feed as he has a poor latch we and our IBCLC can’t figure out iF that is important to know) and sleeps great at night in his crib in our room from about 10:30/11:00 PM with a feeding between 2 and 5 AM and then usually ready to be awake for the day around 6:30/7:00 AM. However, naps are a whole different story. He fights sleep hard and always has—he requires considerable bouncing, patting and loud “shhh”ing. That is able to be handled; however, he absolutely refuses to be laid down to sleep at nap time. I have tried swaddling, not swaddling, dark room, light room, drowsy but awake, rocking to sleep, etc. Occaisionally I can put him down in the Rock N’ Play after he is good and asleep in my arms and he’ll sleep there for 30-45 additional minutes, but that probably only has about a 30% success rate. I will be going back to work in 5 weeks and he will need to be able to nap in a Pack N Play at daycare—they do not have the option to hold him for every nap. Is it too early to expect more than that? Should I expect a dramatic change in the next 5 weeks? What suggestions do you have to prepare my babe for daycare and allow me some time for dishes, laundry, etc. during the day?

    • Janelle Reid says:

      @Morgan Bienhoff, Thank you for writing to us! I am sorry you’ve been struggling with your son’s naps. I remember those days vividly with each of my son’s and I can totally relate. Part of this is developmental and he will be able to nap independently. It is possible he will develop some bad habits (also known as sleep associations) but that is not a result of you doing anything wrong, some newborns just need the help with naps more than others. Here’s an article that explains that further: https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-naps-2/bad-nap-sleep-habits-baby-may-develop/
      If you haven’t yet, be sure to check out our free nap guide you can sign up and download here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/free-baby-nap-guide/
      The key things to watch out for during the day with a baby this young is to make sure you are offering sleep a lot. You son make take a ton of super short naps a day, and that is ok at this age, we just don’t want him staying awake longer than 1.5-2 hours (less than that is normal too). If he exceeds this he will likely get overtired and sleep will become more difficult for him. When my son’s went through this, my baby carrier was my friend when I really had to get stuff done. I wouldn’t wear them for every nap (as that tired out my back) but it was especially helpful when I needed to cook dinner or clean up a bit.
      Hang in there! It will improve soon!

  3. Lauren says:

    My 3 month old daughter only takes 30 minute naps. I wake her up every day at 7AM & she goes to bed around 6:30PM every night. She’ll wake at 11:30PM & 4:30AM to eat. How do I get her to nap longer than 30 minutes? I put her down for her first nap at 8:30AM. Regardless of if she’s rocked to sleep or put down awake or drowsy, she’s always up within 30 minutes.

    • Janelle Reid says:

      @Lauren – Hi! Thank you for commenting. I am sorry you’re struggling with short naps for your daughter. That is amazing to hear she is sleeping so well for you at night! It is common for a baby to get good at one area of sleep (such as nighttime in your case) and struggle with the other because naps and night time sleep come from different parts of the brain. This was helpful for me to learn, as it explained so much!
      It is common for babies your daughter’s age to still take short naps, although some babies have begun to lengthen them out at this time so it can be difficult if you are comparing to an older sibling or to a friend or relative’s child. Here is an article that has some tips on how to tackle short naps if this does not resolve in this next few months (we’d say it’s a problem if by 5-6 months this is still going on): https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-naps-2/short-baby-naps-explained/
      Thank you for using the Baby Sleep Site as a resource for sleep!

  4. Jackie says:

    Hi there,

    My three month old daughter was born 6 weeks prem (due date 03/12/17 born 24/10/17). She has never been an enthusiatic feeder. Do I need to be concerned that she is wanting to sleep through the night? She will have a “top up” feed anywhere between 9 & 12pm at night but then doesn’t want to feed during the night. Is this okay? She is formula fed

    • Janelle Reid says:

      @Jackie, Thank you for your comment! It is tough for me to say for sure, so I would suggest you reach out to your daughter’s pediatrician as most babies should not go longer than 3 hours at night without a feed in the early days. Since she was premature they may still want her to do that based on how she is gaining weight and how much she is feeding during the day. I would make sure she is at an appropriate weight according to her doctor and see if they advise you wake her more often. My sister was in the same situation as you, and her son was not gaining weight, so she had to wake her son, but every situation is different! He was very very sleepy for months so it was tough work waking him up! I apologize I can’t give you a certain answer as all babies are different!
      Thank you for stopping by and using the Baby Sleep Site as a resource!

  5. NALINI KANTA BAL says:

    My baby boy is 3month’s now. But he is still sleeping on a fix position only. There is no movement start.

    • Danielle says:

      Hi Nalini,
      Thank you for using The Baby Sleep Site as a resource! I’m sorry, but I’m not sure if I understand your question correctly. If you’re asking about rolling, it is very normal for a baby not to begin rolling until older than 3 months. We do recommend a baby be put to sleep on their back until at least 1 year-old, even if they then roll themselves 🙂 I hope this helps, but please let us know if you have any other questions!

  6. Cassie says:

    Hi! I have a 2 1/2 month old son that has been co-sleeping with me since birth. I know this is a terrible habit! However, I would really like to get him sleeping in his own crib. Now I am trying to lay him down and he immediately wakes up and starts crying. I’m letting him cry but I’m not sure how long to let him cry. Any advice? Thank you!

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says:

      Hi @Cassie!
      Thank you for visiting us! Often when working to transition your baby to his own bed, it helps to start spending time in or on the bed during the day and during non-sleep hours so that he can start to get an idea that it is his bed, and is a “nice” place to be. You might also consider sleeping with/holding the fitted sheet before putting it in his crib, so that it smells like you, as this will help comfort him. he may not have mastered the skill of falling asleep on his own yet, or falling back to sleep on his own yet at his young age, so you may want to limit crying by staying with him and soothing with your voice, patting, etc. You can also work slowly by putting him in his own crib at bedtime only, and then decide which wakings you may bring him into bed with you but to slowly start weaning him from coming to bed with you when he wakes.
      There are some additional tips here that you might also find helpful:
      https://www.babysleepsite.com/how-we-sleep/baby-wont-sleep-crib/
      https://www.babysleepsite.com/sleep-training/co-sleeing-transition-how-to/
      This Ebook may help with this, and many other common issues up through 12 months of age –
      https://www.babysleepsite.com/3-step-system/
      We hope that things go very smoothly! Good luck!

  7. Kaline says:

    Hi!

    If wake up time is fixed at 7am let’s say, what happens if the bed time at night varies from 9pm to 6:30pm? Do we still wake them at 7am regardless?
    Kaline

    • Danielle says:

      Hi Kaline,
      Thank you for using The Baby Sleep Site as a resource! Yes, if you’re attempting to do fixed points with your baby, you would wake them up at the same time every day, regardless of bedtime. The idea is that, over the course of a couple of weeks of the same wake up time and first nap time, bedtime would also start to fall within the same 30-60 minutes every night naturally. I hope this helps!

  8. Amanda says:

    My daughter started taking shockingly short naps around four weeks that haven’t gotten any better. We’re talking 5-10 minutes without fail if she’s placed on her bed, my bed, my chest, a swing, a bouncy seat…pretty much everything. I discovered that she sleeps okay in a wrap since I can anticipate her wakings every 10 minutes or so and bounce rather violently on an exercise ball to head it off. I can’t do this forever, though. She’s only 10 weeks old, but at what point do I start consistently putting her down to nap in spite of the brevity? She can get a giant nap in the morning (1.5-3 hours) and progressively shorter naps throught the day (45, 30, 25…) in a wrap, so I have trouble believing it would be beneficial to drop her to maybe an hour total of collective napping just to get her to sleep alone. No amount of soothing can get her back down after the dreaded short naps.

    She does this same thing at night for the first two hours of sleep (up after 5-10 minutes), but can usually be rocked back to sleep after a few minutes of crying. Will this get better with age? If so, when should I start trying?

    We do have a naptime and bedtime routine (diaper, song/book, snuggles, swaddle, then rocking to sleep) but she starts screaming as soon as she realizes I’m winding her down. The swaddle seems to cause her the most distress, but is the only way she stays asleep for any amount of time outside of a wrap.

  9. Ina says:

    My granddaughter is 2 yo and her mom does not want her to nap, She lets her sleep to 10:00am. And has no set bedtime. B this child needs sleep and is exhausted and rubbing her eye. What should I do here! I have told her many times this baby needs her sleep……she won’t respond to my pleas to let her sleep and encourage this! I am at wits end. I told my son but she rules the roost

    • Emily DeJeu says:

      @ Ina – so sorry to hear this! For starters, you could show her our custom schedule generator; if she plays around with that, she’ll see that we ALWAYS recommend an afternoon nap for 2-year olds. You could also point out to her that chronic lack of sleep has been tied to behavioral problems as well as ADHD-like symptoms. It’s also been linked to poor school performance. Hope these resources help, Ina — good luck to your family!!

  10. Dana says:

    I am working on establishing fixed points for my 8 week old breastfed baby in preparation for my return to work in 4 weeks. Currently, bedtime is 930pm and she is waking around 130pm and again around 5am to eat. She readily goes back to sleep after each feeding but is still sleeping soundly and quite tired when I wake her at 630am. Should I make her bedtime earlier?

    • Emily DeJeu says:

      @ Dana – Honestly, at this age, bedtime is kind of a non-issue. We don’t usually start focusing on bedtime until a baby is about 4 months old, because that’s the point when a more defined schedule starts to emerge. I’d say that what you are doing sounds awesome! Your rhythm sounds really healthy and good, and it sounds like your daughter is sleeping great at night. I’d be reluctant to change anything, as this sounds like it’s working well. And even if you did manage to get it to the point where your daughter was waking naturally at 6:30 a.m., that would likely change as she grows; she’s still so young and has a lot of development coming in the next few months.

      Hope this helps, Dana! If you need help when the inevitable 4 month regression hits, don’t hesitate to contact us again 🙂 Best of luck as you return to work in the next few weeks!

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