How Crying Can Lead to Babies Sleeping

How Crying Can Lead to Babies Sleeping

A lot of times parents don’t understand how crying can ever lead to their baby sleeping. They think that they will certainly exhaust themselves and fall asleep that way, eventually, but what are they really learning?

This article is NOT about cry it out. There is a LOT in between helping your baby back to sleep every two hours at night and letting them cry it out. This article is discussing how crying can lead to sleep and why crying might be a necessary step in your baby learning how to sleep, even if you are right next to your baby.

Imagine you are learning to ride a bike. Your parents have put training wheels on your bike to stop you from falling. But now it’s time for you to learn how to ride your bike on your own. Your parents tell you it’s time to take the training wheels off. For now, they’re still holding you as you pedal down the street. All of a sudden, they ask you, “Are you ready for me to let go?” You say, “I think so.” They let go and you are off riding your bike all on your own. You look back and see your parent has let go of the bike. You freak out, fall down, and scrape your knee.

It scared you to think that your parent was no longer holding on to you as you rode your bike. You fell down because you lost your focus and confidence. You are scared and you never want them to let go again. Maybe you’ll just never know how to ride a bike by yourself.

At this point, your parent has three choices:

a) Put the training wheels back on.

b) Keep holding on to your bike while you ride up and down the street.

c) Let go again and hope this time you learn to ride on your own.

Having the age and wisdom, your parents know that you CAN ride a bike. All you need is practice and confidence. If they choose the third option, they can find a gentler way to teach you how to ride a bike. But, one thing remains the same. It is very difficult to learn to ride a bike without some spills. We parents want to cushion your fall as much as possible.

When it comes to helping your baby sleep, you might use “training wheels.” Training wheels can come in the form of a pacifier, rocking your baby to sleep, feeding your baby to sleep or any other sleep crutch. One day you may realize that it’s your fault your baby won’t sleep and it’s time to take the training wheels off. You have decided that what your baby once NEEDED to sleep, now it’s simply a crutch, hindering him from actually learning how to sleep well on his own.

There are endless sleep training or coaching strategies (are you sleep training a tortoise or a hare?). One thing that remains the same with all of them… It is difficult to convince your baby that she can sleep on her own without some crying, just like it’s difficult to learn to ride a bike without some falling. Does that mean you send your child outside to ride a bike on her own or let her cry it out all alone in her crib in her room? Not necessarily. Some people abruptly “let go” of the bike without telling their child (“ripping off the band-aid”) and others hold on for years, and know that, eventually, she will learn to ride a bike. Everybody parents differently and you should have confidence that your way is the right way for YOUR family.

Crying is part of the way babies communicate. She may have trouble finding that confidence that she CAN do this. Stay with her to encourage and support her through the transition, if you wish. But don’t keep “holding on” to avoid her crying. We all need to fall down sometimes to learn how to get back up. It’s part of growing up. Only you can decide the “right” time for her to learn to sleep on her own. I promise you that most of the time the first few nights are the worst and things can get ten times better after that.

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