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  1. LisaP says:

    I would add a myth that is sort of implied a lot, which is that once a baby is “sleeping through the night” it’s smooth sailing from then on. Don’t get me wrong, things were so much better after we sleep-trained my son. But there are still bad nights, with teething (esp. recently as his 2 year molars have come in), nightmares, sickness, etc. The main use of sleep training, I’ve found, is that it helps you get enough sleep in the brief spans of time between real nighttime emergencies. At least now I know that, when he can’t sleep, something is actually wrong and it isn’t just a reliance on us to help him sleep.

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says:

      Great addition @Lisa! Thank you for sharing! : )

  2. Magda says:

    Well, I just gave birth to my second son, a few days ago and since his first night his last feed was around 11:30pm and his next feed was at 6:45am and no I am not training him or swaddling him it just happened!, day 4 and still the same depending what time his last feed was if it was later he feeds later if it’s was earlier he wakes up early, I am still in shock since my first son only started to sleep thru the night at 3.5 years old. So now I’m trying to google to see if it was normal for a new born to sleep thru the night from th get go, and read on your post that that is Impossible!, well I thought that too, any ways I don’t know if this is just something that will go soon or what but I am enjoying it, he does eat very well when he is ready. And there hasn’t been anything different I’ve done with him compared to my first boy.

    • Janelle Reid says:

      Hi @Magda, wow! Thanks for sharing with us. My second born was very very sleepy in those early weeks. I was advised by my son’s doctor to wake him every few hours to nurse to make sure he got all the calories he needed, so as long as your doctor says it is fine and confirms the baby is gaining weight properly, I would also be enjoying the much needed and deserved rest. I hope the transition to 2 is good for you! (I have 2 boys myself, I love being a boy mom!)

  3. Mhegz says:

    My baby turned 11 week old today and he is sleeping from 10 in the evening until 7 or sometimes 8 in the morning straight. This first happened when he was 9 week old. There are still nights that he will wake up between 3 to 4 am or around 6 in the morning but most of the times is between 7-8 am. We moved our baby to his own room when he is 4 week old. We swaddled him and make sure he is full enough before bed. We also started his bed time routine around that time, So I can say we’re a happy parents now because after a few weeks of sleepless night, our baby started to get his sleeping rhythm. But yeah, every baby are different and unique.

    • Emily DeJeu says:

      @ Mhegz – Thanks for sharing your experience with us! 🙂

  4. Kate says:

    Oh, how I love your site and the comments from all the other parents. It’s so good to know that we’re not alone!

    I’ve heard #2 a lot, even from my husband’s step mother who never had babies! She babysat my two-year old one time at night (one time!) and claimed that he slept till 7am because they kept him up later. Well, he usually sleeps until 7am and almost NEVER sleeps any later when he goes to bed later. So no, keeping my toddler (or my little baby) awake longer does NOT help them sleep more. Thanks, but no thanks! (Although I do actually know one mom whose daughter will make up lost sleep–lucky!)

    It all comes down to the fact that every baby is different. And they’re different every day! My 10 week old took 3 GREAT naps in a swing two days ago and yesterday he cried pretty much every time I put him in it. And my toddler (@Vera) needs sleep training every few weeks, it seems. The only advice (if you can even call it that) that has consistently rung true is “As soon as you think you have it figured out, they change!”

    • Emily DeJeu says:

      @ Kate – So glad you’ve found The Baby Sleep Site helpful, Kate!! And I love your points – it is so true that just when you think you’ve got sleep down pat, something (or sometimes EVERYTHING) changes. Best to keep a sense of humor and good perspective, as it seems you’ve done 🙂 Thanks for sharing your insights!

  5. Shanon says:

    You want your baby to sleep through the night? You best be a swaddling guru. Practice practice practice it has to be perfect if it isn’t it won’t work. “Not Myth”

    • Emily DeJeu says:

      @ Shanon – thanks for taking the time to comment, and to share your tip!

  6. Helen says:

    A few of these hit home with me …
    Luckily I’ve been in the position where I have felt strong enough to say actually this is acceptable and working for us right now so we are happy when ‘discussing’ (being told!) what we ‘should’ all be doing. We need to remember not only are our babies different but we are different as Mothers and Families. I’ve got friends who want to be able to dump their babies in a cot and be downstairs in 5 minutes but it’s not right for us, I love the wind down time at night and the extra squeeze we have before bedtime. So what if it means I might not get a glass of wine til 8 instead of 7.30!!
    Also, the cultural point raised is an interesting one. I have a friend whose Mother is here from India helping her look after her baby and it’s so nice to hear mum saying if he cries he needs something. He’ll learn to sleep when he’s ready. She’s surrounded by friends whose babies sleep through from 4 months!

    • Emily DeJeu says:

      @ Helen – great points! It is so key that you do what you know is right for your little one – glad you have the confidence to speak up when someone is trying to “educate” you about how your kiddo “should” be sleeping. 😉

      Thanks for commenting!

  7. Nadine says:

    I’ve heard all of those myths as well and am a bit envious of those whose babies (allegedly) sleep all night for 12+ hours.
    My son was not a great sleeper as a baby and was a voracious feeder too. I followed my instincts early on and decided to co sleep with him since he would feed quite often during the night until 10 months old. At least this way we all got more sleep.
    I’m currently co sleeping with my 12 month old daughter who still feeds once during the night but other than that she sleeps ok and has a decent nap or two during the day. I figure they won’t be babies forever and won’t want to be in my bed for too long so I’m enjoying the closeness while I can.

    I’ve noticed that those breastfed babies that sleep through the night seem to be weaned earlier because there isn’t as much milk available to them. The more you feed the more milk is produced – that is why I never minded my babies feeding during the night, they know what’s good for them!

    • Emily DeJeu says:

      @ Nadine- great comment! It sounds like you’ve found an arrangement that works great for you and your family, and THAT is what is most important. 🙂 Thanks for commenting!

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