Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.
Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.
Exhausted and Confused?   Yes! I need help and more sleep.

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  1. Heather Sellers says

    Okay so my 11 week old is slowly coming out of severe colic (yes we’ve done everything to try and help him, and yes we’re very connected with pediatrician about it). He’s a major catnapper. It’s making it SO HARD to get him on any semblance of a schedule since all his naps are 20 min long. He JUST started consolidating his morning nap and will often sleep 2-3 hours for it. But the rest of the day and into the night is a nightmare. He can only stay awake an hour before he gets tired cranky (and yes, I look at sleep cues and have played extensively with awake times from 45 min – 75 min)…it’s clear that at an hour he begins to turn into a pumpkin….but he fights his naps like CRAZY and then only sleeps 20 min. We do this every day til midnight when he finally goes down for the night. I do a bedtime routine every night (I’ve played around with times), but he wakes up 20 min after going down every time….it’s driving us batty that he won’t go down before midnight! He fights it so much! What do we do??!

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says

      Hi @Heather – Thanks for writing to us! It sounds like you’ve done a lot of reading and work on sleep with your (almost) 3 month old! Sorry that things are not going smoothly! Those short naps and short wake times can be so tough and I’m sure you feel that just about all of your day is consumed by putting him to sleep, and trying to get and keep him to sleep! It sounds to me like you need some specialist help here – to help you really fine tune that schedule! I’d recommend speaking and/or writing to one of our consultants, to get maximum results and maximum support! Please check out our consultation packages here, and contact us if you have any questions! Hang in there Heather!

  2. Heather says

    This site was amazing when I had my first son but now I’m on my second and I’m not sure how to create a schedule for him. He basically gets carted around all the time as I get my first to all his activities (poor little guy.) How do you balance 2 kids on very different schedules. My first little boy is 3 1/2 and starts half day preschool in the fall. He also has music class and swim lessons. My second is 3 months.

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says

      Hi @Heather – Thanks for writing, and we’re glad that our site has been helpful for your family! Congrats on baby number two! We know how tough it is to juggle schedules, and there is bound to be many naps on the go, or late naps when you’re taking your older child to his activities! Finding the best balance is the best that you can do, and we have an article that should be really great help:
      Good luck Heather!

  3. Sruthi says

    What should be the ideal or maximum gap between feeds for a formula fed 3mnths old during night times..

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says

      Hi @Sruthi – Thanks for writing to us about your 3 month old! Please feel free to use the recommended sleep and feeding schedule on this page, and as you can see, we’d expect 1-2 night feeds plus a fill up (or dream) feed at this age. Feel free to make this schedule your own, and we hope it’s helpful! Thanks again for visiting our sleepy little village!

  4. Emma says

    Hi my baby is 2.5month old formula fed. He sleeps right through the night and drinks abiut 150mls every 3 hours (sometimes more). His last feed at night is 9pm and as he doesnt wake up at 1am i skip this feed and then feed him at 4am instead. Is this ok? He doesn’t wake up at night and sleeps so peacefully. He’s had plenty of wet nappies too and still heavy. Im not sure if i should even be skipping one feed at this age. There was an instance where i slept through 9pm and 1am feed (i know)and he didnt make a fuss either.

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says

      Hi @Emma –
      Thanks for writing, and it sounds like you have a great little sleeper on your hands! Congrats! You may want to speak to your little guy’s doctor to make sure that he is growing well and ask about skipping any night feeds. The pediatrician will know best based on your son’s development/growth/history! Many people follow the “don’t wake a sleeping baby” rule, but partially waking a newborn for a feed is often done too! Again, I’d ask the pediatrician to weigh in on this! Good luck!

  5. Deborah Nutt says

    Why is there a 1 hour gap between waking (7am) and feeding (8am) for a breast-fed 3 month old baby? My 11 week old daughter usually wants to eat as soon as she wakes. Is this ideal?

    • Neosha says

      @Deborah – Thank you for reading and for your good eye! We’ve adjusted this schedule to more accurately reflect a sample guide. 🙂

  6. Krinsu says

    My baby goes to sleep at 9 pm and wakes at around 7 am. In between she wakes just twice for feeding (wakes drawsy and goes back to sleep right after Feeding) .
    I m worried if this 2 times a night feeding is enough for my 12 week baby…
    Please suggest

    Thank u

    • Danielle says

      Hi Krinsu,
      Thank you for visiting The Baby Sleep Site! I’m sorry to hear you’re concerned about your 3 month-old’s feedings. If you have any concern about weight gain or overall health, we encourage you to check in with your pediatrician, just to make sure your daughter’s gaining well. However, it can be normal for a 3 month-old to feed just 2-3 times overnight, especially if she’s formula-fed. She may wake for more feedings occasionally during growth spurts, too. Please see our chart on night feeding by age for more info on how babies eat at night as they age:
      I hope this helps!

  7. laikha says

    Hi, my 4 month old baby always naps for 10 minutes or less and then wakes up. For night time i would try to make her sleep by 10pm however she would be awake by 11 or 12am and then she sleeps and wake up at 3am to drink milk and then she sleeps wake up at 5/6 am to drink milk again then she sleeps until 10am but sometimes after 5am she would wake up every hour. Im breastfeeding her.

    • Janelle Reid says

      Hi @Laikha, thank you for writing to us. I’m sorry to hear you’ve been experiencing such frequent wake ups and short naps from your 4 month old. This is the age where babies are really able to get into a rhythm and schedule with their sleep, but it may take a bit of work and planning to decide the best approach for your baby and family. One big suggestion I can give is to try your best to get her to sleep every 2 hours during the day – and to not let any wake times exceed that. We are often misled thinking if we keep our baby up for hours that they’ll be so tired they sleep a ton, when in reality it overstimulates them and then causes them to sleep worse. Here is a link to a free guide with tips on getting her sleeping longer stretches at night:
      I do think that you would greatly benefit from working with one of our sleep consultants on this so if you’re interested in that feel free to contact us directly at [email protected] with more questions or check out our options here as well: services/
      Hang in there!

    • Miranda says

      Idk when you posted this but in case it’s recent–your baby might have been going through sleep regression. Or maybe she just hasn’t gotten to the point of staying asleep just yet. My breastfed baby would have that exact same schedule you described. She found her own rhythm on her own time. I simply go with her flow but it’s easy for me since I stay at home.

      • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says

        Great info Miranda! Thanks for sharing!

      • Barbara says

        Baby spits up what seems like half her feeding after breast fed is this normal

      • Danielle says

        Hi Barbara,
        Thank you for visiting us! We are not medical professionals and only work with sleep, so if you have questions about your baby’s feeding, we would recommend giving your pediatrician or your lactation consultant a call and checking in. There are many organizations that have free helplines to speak with a lactation consultant that you can search, too. We also have an article on sleep and reflux which might help you here:

  8. Catriona says

    Hello, Thanks for this helpful schedule. Can I please confirm if my 3.5 month old baby is going to bed at roughly 9 and waking at 7 (10 hours sleep) but wakes for approx 2 hours during this period for feeding does that need to be compensated for elsewhere (eg I should count it as 8 hours sleep) or is that included in the total recommended night sleep.

    • Janelle Reid says

      Hi @Catriona, thanks for writing to us! When you say waking for 2 hours at night, if you mean she is just being changed and feeding, and going right back to bed, and so the 2 hours is spread out between multiple feedings, then it’s probably fine to count it as 10 or close to it since they are in such a drowsy state when feeding. If she’s alert then I wouldn’t count that time as nighttime sleep and would try to eliminate those longer wakings of being so alert and make sure to try to add in some additional sleep during the rest of the day as she transitions out of that. If you need any more help let us know, we are here!

  9. Zandilee says

    Good day

    I am following a routine with my little 3 month old boy(13weeks and 2days)(he feeds 3hourly during the day and I try 4hourly at night),he has his naps during the day(2 of these naps are 1,5 to 2hours longs and also some catnaps). At night he will go to sleep 6 30- 7 00 at nights and stretch 4,5-5hours the first time around,but from then one only 1 30-2hours. Why is this? This has been going one a week of so

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says

      Hi @Zandilee – Thanks for writing to us! Sorry that your 3 month old is waking every 1.5-2 hours after that initial stretch! This is common! The first stretch of sleep is often the longest stretch of sleep. Help him begin to work on learning how to fall back to sleep when he wakes with minimal help from you, so thathe can start to consolidate his sleep a bit more and sleep longer. He may also be starting to regress in his sleep which is common at this age too.
      Here’s a link to an article that may help:
      Good luck!

  10. Kate Williams says


    I’m trying to follow the 3 month old sample schedule but my baby boy will only nap for 20 mins at a time when at home in his crib. I’ve timed it and he literally wakes after 20 mins like clockwork. He is able to sleep for a longer stretch if out in his pram.

    My question is, how should I adjust the schedule if he is only sleeping for 20 mins and secondly, how do I extend the 20 minute naps?


    • Neosha says

      @Kate – Thank you for reading and for sharing with us. Managing a 3 month old’s nap schedule can be a little tricky, for sure. You don’t say how your little guy is falling asleep – if he’s helped to sleep by feeding to sleep, being rocked or held to sleep, etc. this could definitely interfere with him sleeping longer when he’s still (not in motion). Here’s an article that may help you manage his naps a bit better as it goes over many tips for better and longer naps – Hope it helps, Kate. Hang in there!