Ready to Begin Your Sleep Journey?   Yes! Show Me How
Ready to Begin Your Sleep Journey?   Yes! Show Me How

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  1. Christina says

    Thanks Debbye, those links are helpful. Thanks for the advice, it is appreciated 🙂 .

  2. Kat says

    Well the putting to sleep is not the problem for me..staying a sleep is.. My girl goes to bed at around 7pm, then she’ll wake up an hour later and fuss, but I won’t go in and she’ll usually go back on her own.. then around midnight she’ll stir and I have to go in and reassure her by patting her and she’ll go back down.. then around 4 am she’ll do the same thing but sometimes it’ll take an hour of me going in and out and laying her down and telling her its still bed time, and she’ll go to sleep again for about an hour.. so she’s up for the day by 6 am if not earlier.. I’m exhausted of being up so much.. I’ve tried even feeding her at around the 4 am wake up to see if that puts her down, but it has no effect, she still fuses for an hour before finally going back down. I don’t know what to do any more. Her naps are good too,she goes down easy at about 9 am (for an hour to an hour and a half) then again at around 2pm she’ll go down for another hour or two.. any suggestions?? Also, she is now 10 month old if that helps..

  3. Debbye says

    Hi Christina,
    Sorry things are so rough! You may have more success if you work only an night time sleep and let him and get him to sleep however you can for naps. It is quite possible that if you help however you can to get him the daytime sleep he needs, things will ease up and he will not be SO over tired at bedtime and you can start to work on night time sleep. Here is an article outlining different methods for helping teach him to sleep:
    And an article about sleep associations too:
    And perhaps a sample schedule to use as a reference and as a goal:
    Good luck, and I hope sleep improves soon!!!

  4. Christina says

    My seven month old is a dreadful sleeper. Naps during the day are extremely difficult, with maybe two 30-45 minute naps. Night time wakings are going from bad to worse, he easily woke a dozen times last night. I am settling for whatever sleep I can get from him, however I can get it, but now he will often no longer nurse to sleep and if he does it only lasts half an hour.

    Clearly he is hideously overtired and I feel we are stuck in an ugly cycle. He is too tired to sleep yet too tired to learn to sleep. Co-sleeping has not answered our problems and I’m not sure what to do from here. I am *fairly* sure his reflux which was a big factor earlier has settled down though he continues on medication for this.

    Do I bite the bullet and try to soothe him in his cot, knowing that I can’t do the same even in my arms? Should I persist in doing whatever I can in getting him to sleep in the hope that his chronic overtiredness will ease and he’ll be more receptive to learning how to sleep?

    Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

  5. Debbye says

    @ Cara- Great news! Thanks for sharing and we look forward to more good news! 🙂

    @ Jessica- Thanks for your input and for supporting other parents here. It is true!

    @ Jenny- If co sleeping is not allowing you to get any sleep, then you may want to change that and continue to teach your son to fall asleep and back to sleep on his own. It is a vicious cycle, but it is not too late for him to learn! Don’t give up, and remember that you are free to choose what you want to do to handle the situation and go for it! Here are acouple of links with information that may help you form a plan too:
    You may want to consider a sleep consultation package (, as you sound at the end of your rope and we can give you a step by step and day by day plan to follow. I wish you all the best and hope to hear good news from you soon!

    @ Ramya- Your daughter likely needs much more sleep. Here is a link to a sample schedule: Use it as a reference to begin to try and get her sleeping more and at the right times. While crying when waking is quite common, (read this great article- )You may need to work on the schedule and begin to help her learn that she can fall back to sleep without nursing. The links I gave to Jenny in the comment above should be very useful in helping you research ways you can help her learn to sleep too.
    Good luck!

    @ Sasha- Thanks for writing! yes routine is a must, and it really does help many parents to talk to their baby/toddler about what to expect!

    @ Marian- So sorry you are still having sleep issues. As you know, your daughter has a sleep association with nursing, and you will need to break that cycle before she can learn to sleep on her own. There is a wide range of things you can try that lie between CIO and co sleeping. This article outlines various sleep training methods:
    Good luck, and please consider a sleep consultation package if things do not improve (

  6. Marian says


    I would like to sympathize with you. I have very similar issues. We have an 13 month old girl who fell asleep at the breast since birth and that problem no still persists. She wakes up a lot during the night crying because we put her back in her cot and only falls asleep again when nursed. When she sleeps with us in the bed, she cries less, but is still very restless and sometimes crawls into my arms or onto me.
    She actually slept well until 4 months when I started going back to work. Since then it has been a battle with sleep that is not improving. We have tried introducing a “lovey”, which she is not interested in, and taking her off the breast before she falls asleep, which does not seem to work either.

    Apart from just letting her cry, we actually do not know what to do anymore.

  7. Sasha says

    Good article! I wish I read something like this when my boy just arrived! (now he`s 2,5 yrs) I just fed him to sleep or just put him, never thought it will lead to the whole bounch of problems when I take him off the breast. if we had a routine by that time – things would be much easier.
    New moms, start routine now, untill it`s too late!

  8. Ramya says

    I have 10 months old daughter, she is never a 10-11 hrs sleeper… Max of 6-7 hrs at night with 2-3 nursing in between. But from a week, she has started screaming when she gets up in between. she is uncontrollable and will go back to sleep only if i nurse her. Please help me to give her a better sleep.

  9. Jenny says

    Thansks Nicole and Jessica for your responses. The guilt of co-sleeping does weigh down on me at times but I’m forced to do it out of necessity. I’m still exhausted because I’m such a light sleeper and my little guy tosses and turns and cries out sparatically throughout the night. So, I’m still sleep deprived and torn about how to help fix his sleep behaviors. I hate to throw my arms up in the air and just give up because I want more than anything to help him learn to sleep on his own. If I put him down awake he stands up and starts bouncing in his crib and crying so I’m forced to hold him. Its a vicious cycle that I know that I created by waiting to long to sleep train.

  10. jessica miller says

    i just had to respond to you because i am always saddened when i hear mothers ask if they have ruined their child by cosleeping and nursing to sleep. if anything you have done just the opposite. long before and still in many cultures worldwide, this instinctual parenting was the norm. unfortunately, women are made to feel guilty and inept if their babies wake, cosleep or nurse to sleep. This is not only normal but natural and many babies thrive this way. especially if you are a working parent cosleeping is a great way to bond and make up for lost time during the day. there are many great resources available to you with a vast amount of research backing the positive long and short term benefits to cosleeping.