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  1. Jessica says:

    Hi I’m just looking for some advice or help. I have a 8month old boy who used to fall asleep at the boon between 11-11:30 at night and sleep right through till 7 or 8 in the morning. Now since about a month ago I’ll sit down with him same time every night which is about 830 -9 and he will nurse for 3-4 hours and then once hes done I’ll put him in his crib and he might sleep for 2hrs then be awake again. So I just bring him into my bed whip out a boob and let him est so I can sleep and he goes back to sleep. I just need help or somewhere to start. I need some me time. And he rarely will nap during the day

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says:

      Hi @Jessica – Thank you for writing to us about your 8 month old! It may indeed be time to sleep coach / sleep train your little guy, and start working on teaching him that he can fall asleep on his own, and back to sleep on his own! To start, I’d recommend reading this article, so that you can better understand his sleep:
      https://www.babysleepsite.com/sleep-training/sleep-association/
      If you’d like help with this, please contact us for more information on our offerings, and we’d be happy to help you find assistance that will be the perfect fit!

  2. Jessica says:

    I’m a first time mom and trying to decide whether we are ready to sleep train my 4 month old. I don’t know how to tell if he is capable of self soothing yet. He doesn’t know how to fall asleep without nursing and being held, day or night. I believe he is going through the 4 month regression because he used to sleep one 6-7 hour stretch at night and have 1-2 hour naps, but now only takes 20-45 minute naps and wakes every 1-3 hours at night. We struggle with having any sort of schedule and although I believe he could probably go 2-3 hours between nursing now, I end up nursing him every 1-1.5 hours just to keep him fed and rested during the day. He struggled with weight gain in the beginning and is in the lower percentiles, so I’ve just been doing anything to feed him, but now I’m thinking he will probably eat even better if we could establish a better feeding/sleeping routine. My boobs and I are exhausted! He is nearly impossible to keep awake while nursing (has been since day 1) and even refuses to nurse sometimes without first being swaddled! He is moderately intense and very persistent. I’m not sure how much crying we can handle because he is a purple-faced screamer once he gets worked up. Also I’m a “gentle” parent and have been fighting sleep deprivation and postpartum depression. I know we have to do something soon, but just because I am ready, does that mean he is ready? How do I know if he can handle it or if he’s developmentally ready?

    • Neosha says:

      @Jessica – Thank you for stopping by our sleepy little village and for sharing with us. Your persistent, intense little guy sounds like an absolute treat, but I’m sorry you guys are having some difficulties with his sleep. We’d love to help you all through this. The answer to this question is not a simple one, unfortunately. We do find that moms very frequently (quite often actually) have a little niggling like this when they’re ready for some sleep coaching and they are right on that their babies are also ready. There’s rarely a “best” time or “righter” time to start the sleep training journey in all honesty – it’s more a matter of making the decision and commitment to start, getting a good plan of action in place that you can turn to and depend on, setting yourself up with some good support before you get started, planning the day, then getting started with day 1. You should also run the idea of getting started with some sleep coaching by his healthcare provider to ensure he’s clear on that front as well.

      And, no worries at all – gentle sleep coaching is effective and possible though it’s often not 100% tear-free. Please consider connecting with one of our expert sleep consultants who have walked many, many mamas through this process and supported them straight through it to see a better sleeping family at the end of it all. You can read more about them here:https://www.babysleepsite.com/about And, if you’re interested in a consultation package or plan, you can read about those here:https://www.babysleepsite.com/services We would welcome the opportunity to serve you and your family, Jessica. Hang in there!

  3. McKenna J says:

    I downloaded the free e book, but there is nothing on it, can I re down load it or does it not work for phones? Also I’m just looking to create a rough draft routine for my 6 week old and when it’s best to feed and sleep.

    • Emily DeJeu says:

      Hi, McKenna! Sorry about your e-book troubles; I’m sending a copy of your problem to our CRS team. They will be in touch to help. In the meantime, you can see our sample newborn schedules here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/sleep-training/newborn-sleep-feeding-schedule/ This should help you create that rough draft of a routine for you 6-week old baby.

      Best of luck to you!

  4. Mihaela M says:

    My baby girls is 7 months old… she wakes up always between 7-8 a.m. She has 3 naps a day, going to bed between 8:30-9:30 pm… wakes up twice a night… but she can never falls asleep by herself… daytime or evening… any help please?… 🙂

    • Emily DeJeu says:

      @ Mihaela – Hmmm….sounds like you are helping her to fall asleep, correct? If you want to wean her away from that, then you could simply fade away whatever you are doing to put her to sleep. You’d do less and less of that *think* until she is falling asleep indepenently. There are many other ways to work on sleep, as well – you can see some here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/sleep-training/5-baby-sleep-training-methods-explained/

      Good luck!

  5. Lindsay says:

    We are on night two of sleep training…where we stay in the room with her. Tonight got completely messed up! After her routine,….bath, nurse, lullaby, down in the crib, we had 30 minutes of crying then a variety of disruptions! Dog, doorbell, sibling coming in room, husband picking baby! She eventually fell asleep without a tear but I think she was worn out from the show she was getting! Please tell me that we don’t have to go back to square one! Tomorrow do we just continue like we did from day 1 with the original routine? Could this have confused her? Wonder if tomorrow will be worse than the past two nights…(I was really looking forward to a minimum tear night).

    • Emily DeJeu says:

      @ Lindsay – Your instincts are right on! Continue as normal even in the face of disruptions; that’s the consistency piece of our ‘stay consistent’ advice. You can’t prevent disruptions like doorbell-ringing, dob barking, etc. – but you can stay consistent with your sleep coaching.

      Hope this helps! Keeps us posted on your progress 🙂

  6. irena says:

    Nicole- im a first time mom to a 11 week baby. He had really bad gases at birth and since 2 weeks my husband and ive started holding him and rocking him to sleep and sometimes he falls asleep at the breast. Its getting to the point where im exhausted rocking him for hours. Is it too early to sleep train? I was thinking of trying the method of little cry where you cut back on rocking each time, but my thing is when i put him down drowsy but awake and he wakes up, do i rock him back and then try it again? How long do i keep doing this? That method seems confusing to me. I want some advise and want to try things on my own first.

    • Emily DeJeu says:

      @ Irena – sorry you’re struggling with this! At 11 weeks, it’s a bit early for any formal sleep training, but the method you are describing (which is called the fading method) is gentle enough that you could use it now. With this method, you would do as you say – you would cut back on rocking. If your baby wakes after you lay him down drowsy, you’d just rock more, but not until he is all the way to sleep – just until he is drowsy again. Then, after a few nights of this, you’d trim the rocking even more. Again, every time he woke, you’d rock him for a bit, but not until he was asleep. Eventually, you’d get to the point where you could cut out the rocking altogether and just soothe him back to sleep while he’s lying in his crib or sleeping area, by patting or rubbing him, or something like that.

      Does that make sense? Hope this info helps! If you haven’t already, I highly suggest you download our free sleep through the night guide, found here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-sleep-through-night-free-ebook/

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