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  1. sunita says:

    Thank you so much for sharing these helpful tips. These tips will help a lot to us.

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says:

      Hi @Sunita – Thank you for writing! We hope that these tips are very helpful too!

  2. TESSA says:

    My almost 5 month old has always fought her last nap of the day. If she wakes before 6 then I may fit in 4 naps, if it starts around 7 then it will be 3 naps. She just lies there tossing and turning, dozing off for a few mins then waking again. She can do that for an hour. I usually put her down 3.30-4pm. We have a nap routine and put her down when she seems calm and yawns. Her other naps she drifts off after 10-15 mins. Sometimes with her last nap, I give in and put her to bed early (knackered) or other times I get her to nap on me but that’s usually a 20 min battle. I try putting her down as soon as she rubs her eyes (usually around 90 mins after her last nap) and I’ve tried stretching her out a bit but she still fights it. What’s the best thing to do when they fight a nap that they still need? When she has a 3 nap day, the 1st 2 naps last 1 hr 20 – 1 hr 40. Not sure on a 4 nap day now as if she wakes really early I sometimes put her in our bed and she will drift off again. Depending when her nap ends, she goes to bed 6-6.30 to allow 30 mins for her to fall asleep so she’s asleep 6.30-7. She was having 1 night feed but has gone back to 2.

    • Janelle Reid says:

      @Tessa, thanks for writing to us! I am sorry you’ve been struggling with your daughter’s naps. If you haven’t yet, we actually have a free ebook available with nap help that you can sign up to receive here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/free-baby-nap-guide/
      If things don’t improve soon and you are not sure what to do next, it sounds like you would benefit from working with one of our sleep consultants where they can help create a schedule that works well for your family and with your daughter’s temperament. Here is the link to see all we offer: https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-toddler-sleep-consulting-services/ and if you have any questions please email us at contact@babysleepsite.com
      Hang in there!

  3. Chelsea says:

    Hello! I’m hoping you can clarify something for me. On the website and ebook Essentials to Newborn Sleep it says that 45 minute naps are totally normal for new babies (which was SUCH a relief to hear, and why I got hooked on this site). However, the importance on loooong, restorative naps (ah, I feel refreshed just typing that!) is also stressed. At what point do 45 minute naps stop becoming the norm or okay? Will they naturally start to lengthen at a certain age? I have a three-month old, and I think he is trying to give us a taste of a sleep regression by waking 45 minutes after bedtime. Usually when he wakes I feed him to top him off and he will sleep through the night with one more feed later in the night. So, nights are great. For now. But he still only naps 45-60 minutes 4 times a day. So, I THINK he is still getting the recommended amount of sleep (12 hrs at night, 3 hours during the day). Just wondering when I can expect naps to lengthen so I can help it along and stop stressing. 🙂 P.S. I’m a little obsessed with your site. Thanks!

    • Emily DeJeu says:

      @ Chelsea – you should feel okay about short-ish naps with your 3 month old. It’s only a problem if/when your child gets older and all his naps are 45 minutes old, and if the short naps are resulting in overtiredness and crankiness. When he’s ready to transition to 3 naps, you’d ideally want those to be longer – and then when it’s 2 naps, those 2 naps should be even longer. But for now, it sounds like all is well! 🙂

      Thanks for commenting, Chelsea 🙂

  4. Gina says:

    Hello! My just turned 6 month old is going through a rough patch with sleep. We went away for 3 nights about a month ago, which she didn’t like- woke every 30mins-1hr crying! Then she had a nasty cough and I rocked her and cuddled her and nursed her a lot during the night. Now she has gone from being a brilliant sleeper (waking once or twice) to a nightmare who wakes up every half hour (worst) to every couple of hours (best) and I have to cuddle or nurse her to sleep! I am exhausted :)!
    She is able to put herself to sleep at nap times and bed time- we have a good bedtime routine and she goes into her cot awake and then sucks her thumb and drops off without even a grumble. She is a short napper- 40 mins usually, and has 3 or 4 naps a day. She is eating 3 solid meals a day and breast feeding in between. What can I do to help her sleep better at night? Is it normal to have such short naps in the day? What am I doing wrong?
    Thank you so much for your website- as most parents, I’ve been trawling the internet for ideas, and your site is by far my favourite one.
    Thanks
    Gina

    • Emily DeJeu says:

      @ Gina – thanks for reaching out! In answer to your question, I’d first point out that 6 months is usually when most babies begin consolidating naps into longer nap-time sleep, so while 40-minute naps are on the short side (1 hour is ideal) it may just be that your little gal is late to the game in nap consolidation 😉

      I’d recommend these free guides to help with your situation:
      5 Ways To Help Your Child Sleep Through The Night
      7 Common Nap Mistakes

      So glad to hear that you find the site helpful! Hope these resources shed some light on what you’re going through. Best of luck to you, Gina! 🙂

  5. Aarti says:

    Hi, my 5 month old has started to extend her morning nap, but it can be as long as 2.5hours! She will then have a 30 minute nap at 1.30pm and another 30 minute nap at about 4. She tends to go to sleep between 7-7.30pm and wakes once at night at about 4.30am for a feed (although with the clocks going an hour back, she is now waking at 3.30am). She will then wake in the morning at 7am. Im just wondering whether her morning nap is too long, i dont ever wake her from sleep and wonder wether i should so she can have a bit of a longer bap in the afternoon?

    • Emily DeJeu says:

      @ Aarti – hmmm…hard to say. Keep in mind that the first morning nap is supposed to be the longest, as it tends to be the most restorative. If you need some schedule guidance, I’d strongly suggest that you check out our schedule resource page. You can see a sample 5 month schedule, or you can generate a customized schedule based on your baby’s age and usual morning wake-time.

      Hope this helps, Aarti! Thanks for commenting. 🙂

  6. saaliha says:

    @emily dejeu
    Thank you so much for your reply! This is the first time I have asked anyone so it feels good to get a positive response, I really like how you all are not completely against rocking etc….maybe in was just me but some people made me feel like I was spoiling my baby by cuddling him etc…. Thank you so much for replying! You made my day! May god bless you

    • Emily DeJeu says:

      @Saaliha – so happy to help! You are doing NOTHING wrong by rocking and cuddling your little one. Far from it! It’s just that the rocking may start to get burdensome, if you have to do it constantly in order to get your son to sleep – at that point, you may want to wean him off it. BUT, that said, what’s burdensome for some parents is perfect for others – so the decision about when to wean away from rocking is entirely yours! 🙂

      Thanks for commenting, Saaliha!

  7. Kelly says:

    Never mind ha ha! I just found your article on the 11 month nap regression and my little one is just on the cusp of walking as well. Will persevere for now and continue with the 2 naps – love this website and the new app!

    • Emily DeJeu says:

      @ Kelly – oh, good! Glad you found that. Thanks for your kinds words about the site and the app – always encouraging to hear feedback like yours! 🙂

  8. Saaliha says:

    Hi. I’m a ftm with a six and a half month old. He naps four times a day and each nap is half an hour long…. During the day he likes to be rocked to sleep though he’s asleep in a few minutes. At night he likes to nursed to sleep and wakes up about four times to feed… At night he’s down for 11 to 12 hours…. I would really appreciate it if you could give me some tips to get him to nap longer. Thanks

    • Emily DeJeu says:

      @ Saaliha – sounds like he may have a sleep association with rocking/nursing. That’s okay, provided you don’t mind doing those things to get him to sleep, but if you think it’s causing him to wake too soon from naps, or to wake too often at night, it may be time to work towards teaching him to sleep on his own. I think two of our free guides might be helpful to you: 7 Common Napping Mistakes and 5 Ways To Help Your Child Sleep Through The Night. Both address your struggle. You can see all our free guides by clicking here.

      Hope these are helpful, Saaliha! Thanks very much for commenting. 🙂

  9. Kelly says:

    I also have an 11 month old little boy who is having some nap drama lately. While he usually naps great, he has really been fighting or skipping entirely his second nap. When that happens, he does go to bed an hour earlier at night and it doesn’t seem to have any effect at all on his night – he is just a bit crabby and tired by bedtime (understandable, of course). My question is this: is it possible that he is transitioning to 1 nap? Having been a regular reader of all free posts and articles on this site for years, it is drilled into my head that he should not transition until about 15 months. But I have had friend after friend suggest that he could be transitioning, so I guess I am wondering if that is a likely possibility. On a normal night, he sleeps 11-12 hrs and naps about an hour and a half in the morning, it’s just these afternoon naps that have been all over the place for the past few weeks. Thanks! ??

    • Emily DeJeu says:

      @ Kelly – I’d hold off on transitioning him to one nap. There’s actually a weird little mini-sleep regression that happens around 11 or 12 months, and you know what the #1 symptom of it is? Resistance to the second nap!! You can read more about it here: Why Not All 12 Month Olds Transition To One Nap.

      Hope that article is helpful, Kelly! Thanks very much for commenting.

  10. Emily says:

    Hi! Thanks so much for all of the useful tips and info on the site. It’s been a big help!

    I have an 11 week old exclusively breastfed baby boy who doesn’t teally nap. His naps are short, an hour or less and he is very toughy to get to sleep. We swaddle for all naps, he doesn’t like the swing. He will sleep in a car seat or stroller or sometimes a carrier. But I can’t sort it out! He gets so drowsy in my arms, I lay him down in his crib with white noise, etc, but no dice. And if he does nap, it’s painfully short.

    At night he goes down after our bedtime routine around 7:30 8:00 pm and often sleeps until 2 or 3 am before waking for a feeding I just can’t figure out what’s going on with his nap sleep!

    • Emily DeJeu says:

      @ Emily (great name!!) – I’d say that this seems fairly normal for an 11 week old. 11 weeks is super young to expect regular or long naps – 11 week olds are definitely not consistent! But that’s okay – the regularity and consistency will come. Now, that said, there are definitely ways you can gently encourage longer and more regular sleep. You may be interested in our newborn e-book, Essential Keys to Your Newborn’s Sleep, which outlines ways to help a young infant sleep. You might also want to consider a Baby Sleep Site membership – this is by far the resource that best “grows” with your baby, as our Members Area is full of resources for the newborn stage up through the toddler stage. Given that you are right at the cusp of when things start to get interesting (aka the 4 month sleep regression), the Members Area would probably be a perfect solution for you.

      Hope this helps, Emily! Thanks for commenting. 🙂

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