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  1. I’m pretty sure we’re in the 18th mo regression now. For the last 2.5 weeks, our LO will cry as SOON as we lay her in the crib. We’ve let her cry up to 1.5 hours with no end in sight. So we can all get sleep, we’ve just started laying her in bed (there’s a bed in her nursery) and one of us lays with her. Transferring to the crib is not working, so usually one of us sleeps with her during the night. It’s not a habit we want to get into, but it’s the only thing that’s let us get any sleep.

    My question is – will she bounce back to her old sleep trained ways after this regression? All the training techniques we used before are not working anymore. I don’t really want to let her cry longer than an hour and a half every night! I’d rather have her just get the sleep. I guess I’m looking for stories of people who did what they had to do to get through and made it out the other side without terrible sleep associations that had to be broken or retrained. 🙂 We keep her bedtime routine really consistent – she doesn’t fight going to bed, but as soon as we lay her in the crib she’s wailing.

    • @Jenn I’m sorry to hear your 18 month old is having a hard time right now! While some toddlers will get through the regression / phase and go back to “normal” sometimes parents will make new, long-term habits (like bed-sharing) such that what would have been temporary lasts a long time. Giving her some time to see if she bounces back is one option, though we typically recommend trying to avoid new, long-term habits. That doesn’t necessarily mean letting her cry for so long every night, but you do want to be consistent where she sleeps. If you’d like some help with this, we’d be happy to help! Contact us any time at https://www.babysleepsite.com/contact Hang in there!

  2. My 19 month old is in the middle of this regression. She has always been a great sleeper. Goes to her crib awake and sleeps from 8-8. Naps about 1.5 hrs. Sound machine and black out curtains. Nothing in our routine has changed except now she cries everytime I set her down in her crib. I check in every 5-10 mins, not pick her up and tell her to go to sleep then leave. Then she cries even more. This can go on for at least an hour during her nap times. What should I do? Her whole nap time is taken up by crying. Do I try for another nap later? I’ve tried laying on the floor by her crib until she sleeps, but I don’t want her to get used to this. Or is this something I can do temporarily just so she can actually sleep?? Please help!

    • @Hannah, Thanks for commenting. I am sorry you are feeling the 18 month regression in your house! It does sound like that’s what your daughter is experiencing and you are doing your best to make it through without building any long lasting habits. That is the key because you don’t want to start doing something that she will grow to depend on later after the regression ends. I know it is challenging, but it will be over soon, thankfully. If she is working herself up and not falling asleep after an hour, I would get her out and offer another nap 30-60 minutes later just to prevent her from being overtired. Hang in there, it seems never ending when you’re in it!

  3. My baby is already 18 months old…. and i can say she is one of the hardest baby to handle when it comes to sleeping through the night. Since birth (yes, you read it right. From 0 to 18 months) she wakes up at night and stay awake until 2 or 3 in the morning (5 or 6 am at most). I barely remember getting a good sleep. Our days become nights and our nights become days. I always ask her pedia if something is wrong with my baby. But we cant find good reason for her sleepless nights. We use baby lamp during the night when she sleeps and a well conditioned room. I read lots of books and google possible reasons for this behavior but i only see topics on sleep regression. Could my baby be possibly having sleep regression for 18 months? I tried giving her massage using oil with camomile before bedtime hoping it will calm her down. Even let her eat banana at night coz as i read it makes body relax and get goodnight sleep. I tried rubbing castor oil on her forehead coz i read it can speed up sleepiness…. hope someone can help me and give me idea how to make my baby sleep at night. (By the way, i have established a bedtime routine already….and i dont let her have naps in the afternoon near sleeping time).

    • @Garland, Thank you for writing to us. I am so sorry to hear you are struggling with your daughters sleep. We would love to help. First off, here is a link to a sample schedule that you can keep in mind of what you should be working towards (or something similar): https://www.babysleepsite.com/schedules/toddler-schedule/
      Here is a link to a list of several different reasons your toddler could be waking at night: https://www.babysleepsite.com/sleep-training/baby-toddler-night-waking-15-reasons/ I do not think it would be a constant sleep regression, as regressions smooth over in a couple weeks time. Any ongoing issues like you mentioned are likely the result of a scheduling problem or some of the other thing discussed in the article I linked above.
      If you find you are struggling with what to do next, I would highly recommend working with a sleep consultant to help create a schedule specifically for your family and help you step-by-step along the way until you reach your goal. Here is a link to the services we offer: https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-toddler-sleep-consulting-services/ We have a lot of different options so feel free to email our Client Relations Team at [email protected] and they will be able to help you select a package that is best for your family! Thank you for using the Baby Sleep Site as a resource for sleep!

  4. My LB is 17 (almost 18) months old and seems to be going through a sleep regression. He used to sleep 12-3pm in the afternoon and 7pm-7am without any problems. Now he will happily go down during the day and initially at night, but seems to be waking between 2am-5am and staying awake for at least an hour. Have tried milk, dummy, sleep training (going in after 5, 7, 10 Mins etc), but now his screams are waking the children living next door and I feel awful!

    Any advice is appreciated!!

    • @Laura – Thank you for stopping by our sleepy little village and for sharing. Oh no on waking the neighbors’ kids! 🙁 This age can definitely be a troublesome one for sleep as 18 months is a developmental leap and one filled with eye-opening independence! If your little guy is consistently waking between 2-5a each night (or most nights) though, this could be a scheduling issue asking you to take a look at his nap times and bedtimes to be sure you’re asking him to sleep at the right times leading to better sleep overall. You also may want to consider how you’re responding to the night waking so that you don’t develop any long-term habits or dependence, if this is not your goal.

      If you’re dealing with a regression, it’ll likely pass in a few weeks if no new habits are developed. It’s tough to wait it out when you’re in the midst of the waking, I know, but growing and developing takes a toll on our little ones’ brains and sleep. You can consider, if you haven’t already, some limit setting techniques to encourage better sleep/behavior. You can read more about that here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/toddlers/limit-setting-toddler/

      Hang in there, Laura, and please keep reading!

  5. My 15th month old has always been a good sleeper, although around 10 months he decided he no longer wanted to sleep in his cot, would cry uncontrollably as soon as he woke at night and ended up in our bed.
    The issue we are experiencing now, is he is constantly waking throughout the night even though he is in our bed with us particularly in the early hours after around 4am crying loudly like he’s had a night terror then going back to sleep but happening ever half and hour or so, after hours of this happening he wakes up uncontrollably crying and is inconsolable, the behaviour resembles a temper tantrum but he doesn’t respond to anything we do to try and help him, we are not sure what to do as the sleep deprivation is causing more tantrums throughout the day aswell, and is very exhausting for both us and our son.

    • @Brittney – Thank you for stopping by our sleepy little village. I’m sorry to hear that your little guy has started having such disrupted night sleep! I know how exhausting and confusing this must be for you guys. We don’t have enough information from you to give you specific tips or advice, but what you’re describing sounds similar to night terrors or confusional events. Many children who experience these during sleep do so due to a variety of causes, such as being too tired at bedtime, having a disrupted sleep schedule or routine or as a result of a sleep disorder. This article explains night terrors and confusional events in a bit more detail and offers up some suggestions on how to handle them in case that’s what he’s experiencing: https://www.babysleepsite.com/night-terrors-nightmares/baby-toddler-night-terrors-nightmares-series/

      You should also mention this behavior to your son’s healthcare provider to be sure that no medical issue could be causing him to sleep (or not sleep) this way. As you work on this, please also try to offer him naps during the day as usual so he can keep up on his rest during the day. If you need guidance on how a daily schedule for a toddler could look, here’s a sample one for your reference: https://www.babysleepsite.com/schedules/toddler-schedule/

      And, if you find you would like more one-on-one sleep support as you work through this and have eliminated/fixed any medical causes, you should consider our personalized sleep consultation options. With these packages, we’d be able to work with your family on developing a detailed plan of action for your son’s sleep. You can read about all of our sleep consultation packages online here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-toddler-sleep-consulting-services/

      Hang in there, Brittney!

  6. My 18 month old was a perfect angel when it came to sleeping/napping. Now he’s still doing ok with sleeping but napping is not happening. He will cry for more than an hour if I let him. We do the check and console sleep training and nothing is happening. I pick him up after (30 minutes which is now our limit because I can’t let him cry for an hour again) and then he falls asleep on the couch. What do I do? I take him back to his crib and he immediately starts crying again. Help.

    • @Stephanie, Thank you for commenting! I am so sorry to hear your son is struggling with naps! Hang in there, this is a tough regression but it will get better soon. Night time sleep versus nap time sleep are very different as they use different parts of the brain, which brings clarity to why one area is good and the other isn’t. This regression will hopefully pass soon, I would do what you can to keep him from getting over tired but also not build any long term bad habits that he will want to stick with even after the regression is over. Here is an additional link for toddler sleep help should you need some – as they develop their personalities it can become so difficult as they fight sleep in a different way than they did when they were babies: https://www.babysleepsite.com/toddlers/limit-setting-toddler/
      Thank you for using the Baby Sleep Site as a resource for sleep!

  7. My son is 15 months. I’m not sure if that’s too early for the 18 month sleep regression but he has all the traits of it. We did just cut out the bottle at night but honestly I think this is something different. His naps are becoming more difficult as well. He has his long nap around 10 or 11 and then his shorter nap (if at all) around 3. His bedtime is 8. He will sleep until around 4-4:30 and refuses to go back to sleep. He will scream uncontrollably and just get louder and louder and never fall back to sleep. I feel hopeless at this point

    • @Kayla Pennell, Thank you for writing. I am so sorry you have been struggling with your toddler’s nap and super early wakings! It could certainly be a regression, and it sounds like he may be trying to drop that second nap (the average age to do this is between 15-18 months) which could be causing some issues to your schedule and resulting in early wakings. Here is a link to an article with help for early wakings: https://www.babysleepsite.com/how-we-sleep/baby-waking-too-early/
      You may also find this sample toddler schedule helpful in making any needed transitions to nap time and bed time to prevent him from getting over tired: https://www.babysleepsite.com/schedules/toddler-schedule/
      If you find you need more help, let us know! We are here and have an amazing team that would love to look into this further for you and to help. I hope you see an improvement soon!

  8. My 17-month-old went from being a perfect 7pm – 6 am sleeper to hating sleep like overnight. If we try to put her in her crib she screams so hard she makes herself throw up usually within seconds. There’s no consoling the child. We are so desperate for sleep that we are setting up bad patterns but I don’t know how to combat the puking. She will do it over and over without even giving herself a chance to lie down. She doesn’t want to let go of me ever and we are so exhausted from this phase.

    • @Heather – Thank you for stopping by our sleepy little village and for commenting. Sounds like your little girl is showing some distress and bedtime, which can understandably be quite exhausting when it lasts for more than a day or two. And the puking can’t help things. We feel your pain!

      We would encourage you to discuss the situation with her healthcare provider to be sure the puking isn’t medically related. If not, you will likely have to decide on a way to help her through what could be separation anxiety at bedtime (which is perfectly normal at her age) and deal with the puking at the same time as setting the expectation of her going to sleep in her crib. You may have to gradually work through this change so you can assuage her fears but at the same time set some firm expectations as by this age many toddlers will benefit from boundaries such as this. It’s definitely easier for me to write that than for you to do it, I know, but you’ll want to get a plan in place and follow it consistently for at least a week or two to help her get back on track without falling into some unwanted sleep habits. If you’re interested in more support, I would encourage you to consider working with one of our sleep consultants who will be able to help you overcome the puking, for sure, as they regularly encounter this issue with many families of toddlers. I would suggest you consider our Basic Email Consultation Package which I believe will give you a plan and enough follow up to overcome this issue – you can read more about this plan here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-toddler-sleep-consulting-services/

      I hope this is helpful, Heather. Hang in there!

  9. I have a 4yo a 2yo and 18month old all girls the two older girls sleep absolutely fine the 2yo had issues but not like my youngest. we have co-slept since she was born.it started becoming an issue a few months ago as she was getting bigger and more wriggly so we put a cot with the sliding side taken off next to our bed so she had her own space but could still get to me if she needed to.Now it seems this regression has hit. Wen i stopped cuddling her to put her to sleep probably 5 months ago I would put her in her bed an I would stay in the room while she was falling asleep but not near her bed an she would drift off happily and if there was a night she was being silly I would simply say sleeping an she would rollover and go to sleep now when I put her in her bed she lies there making angry noises an then sits up an just stares at me an if I do my normal “sleeping konee” in my stern voice she screams which never happened before and wen i did get her to sleep she had been waking up and crawling all over me an end up headbutting me, hitting me while she was trying to go back to sleep she had even givin my partner a bleeding nose so a few days ago I turned her bed so now her head is still near mine on our bed but she can’t climb all over me .she has been waking up and crying an I put my hand through the gaps and hold her hand untill she goes back to sleep I’m just wondering if I’m being to hard on her as we Co slept for so long and the transition has been gradual so far but I do feel like maybe I’m breaking the strong bond we had before this 18month attitude and sleep difficulty showed up

    • Hi @Mads – Thank you for commenting! I am sorry to hear you’ve been struggling with your youngest daughter’s co-sleeping. It can be tough as they grow and develop more opinions and start exercising their will a bit more. It sounds like you are setting limits with her but are still there to support her, so great job! If this is a sleep regression, it will hopefully smooth out in a few weeks. If she continues to test you, you may find this article has some helpful tips on setting limits for her with her sleep: https://www.babysleepsite.com/newborns/newborn-sleep-baby-tips-10/
      Hang in there and thank you for using the Baby Sleep Site as a resource for sleep!

  10. My little is 21 mo and has been awesome for almost a year when it comes to sleeping. She is on scheduled naps and we have a bedtime routine that seems to work well up until 3 days ago. She beds down for naps just fine amd sleeps for about 2 hrs once a day. Bedtime has become the bane of my existance. I used to be able to get her in bed and then walk out. Now she screams bloody murder until i sit in the room with her. Bei g a single mom and a full time student this is not optimal for me. We still do routi e but any tips on what seems to be the seperation anxiety like behavior?

    • @Miss Power – Thank you for commenting! I am so sorry that you suddenly have been struggling with your daughter’s bedtime! Separation Anxiety does tend to come back around this age. Hopefully this is just a developmental leap that will smooth over in a week or so. Here is a link to an article about how to manage the separation anxiety and sleep that will hopefully help get you through this: https://www.babysleepsite.com/sleep-training/baby-toddler-sleep-separation-anxiety/
      Hang in there and I hope things improve soon!