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  1. Liliana says:

    Hello there. My daughter is 4 months old and after doing lots of research, including this website, I realized she is going through a sleep regression. I never really noticed them with my first son as he was good at taking naps and sleeping through the night.. maybe once in a while he will be fussing but it wasn’t as dramatic as my daughter right now. What has worked sometimes with her in the last couple of days is to let her cry for a bit and go back to hold her or put her pacifier back every 5 to 10 min. After 30 min of this she will be very tired and just put herself to sleep after 2 minutes of a last cry. It doesn’t seem to work as good at night and sometimes I think she might be in pain but as soon as I hold her she is fine and starts to fall asleep. I have continued the routine at night but it takes me 1.5 hours until she finally falls asleep for good. After that she sleeps throughout the night until a feeding at 4am and back to sleep until 8 or 9 am. Is there a different approach I should do at night? Thanks!

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says:

      Hi Liliana,
      Thank you for writing to us. I am sorry that sleep has become such a struggle! The 4 month sleep regression can be brutal. We’ve all been there, and 1.5 hours each night before she is asleep is likely exhausting for you! Keep up the hard work and hang in there! If you find that you would like more help, or perhaps to change the routine a bit, I would recommend that you consider our e-Book, The 3 Step System to Help Your Baby Sleep.
      The 3-Step System e-Book is the most popular e-Book on our site. Written specifically for parents whose babies are under 12 months of age, this book is designed to give you the information you need to get your baby sleeping soundly. Written in a straightforward, easy-to-read format, this book will answer all of your baby sleep questions.
      You can find and order the book directly online here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/3-step-system/
      I hope you find this information helpful. Good luck and hang in there!

  2. Annie says:

    Hello, will babies who early sleep train regress also? We are a schedule house. Meals at 7am, 12pm, 6pm. Bedtime is 745pm and we wake him at 645am for breakfast. Hes 4mos now and this has been our schedule since 8 weeks. He goes in crib awake and falls right to sleep. But many are saying “watch out for regression…” Eek! If they already sleep 11 hours at night and take 2 scheduled naps a day (9-10 // 1-3) do they still regress? Thanks!

    • Janelle Reid says:

      Hi @Annie, thanks for writing! All children’s sleep patterns go through at change around the 4 month mark where their sleep cycles change and become more like ours. The regression is simply that the baby does not know how to transition between the shorter sleep cycles so they often start waking you up every 2 hours or so and need your help to go back to sleep every.single.time. So all babies do go through that. It is however different how every child will respond. Even great sleepers will suddenly go from sleeping through the night since 10 weeks to waking up every two hours, while others transition smoothly and you don’t even know they went through a change. I had one of each. It’s important to be aware but it sounds like you’ve done a lot of research and have the tools ready in case your baby does react to the regression, you’ll know how to stay consistent and help him through. Hopefully he transitions smoothly though and you won’t have to change anything. 🙂 Good luck! If you think about it, let us know how it turns out!

  3. Michael says:

    We are definitely squarely in the 4MSR. Our son was sleeping great and now he hits all the symptoms – awake every couple of hours in the night, feeding a lot more, missing naps.

    He’s been going to sleep without any sleep associations and by himself while awake up until now.

    When he wakes in the night he is just all fuss and cry. He won’t put himself back to sleep the way he puts himself to sleep for a nap or at the start of the night.

    Any advice given that the main points here are weaning from associations and putting them down awake, which we’ve got covered?

    • Neosha says:

      @Michael – Thank you for reading and for sharing with us. The 4 Month Sleep Regression is definitely a real doozy – we commend you for hanging in there! If your little guy didn’t have any of those associations before it hit, hang in there and ride it out – we rarely want to create a long-term habit to deal with a short-term problem. Good luck!

  4. Jessica says:

    Hello my daughter is 18 weeks old. She has been a great sleeper. Bed time at 830/9pm and awake around 530am. Sleeping 9-10hrs a night straight. The last few days she has been waking every 2 hours after her first wake she never really gets back in to a deep sleep. I miss my good sleeper. Please help us get back to 9-10hrs a night.

    • Janelle Reid says:

      Hang in there @Jessica! The 4 month sleep regression is definitely a rough one, and it will just take time and effort to teach her how to self soothe and fall back asleep on her own. Here is a link to download a free guide which will give tips on where to start: https://www.babysleepsite.com/sleep-through-night-free-ebook/
      Please note that at this age 1-3 feedings at night are still normal so if she doesn’t go back to her super long stretches, but has stopped with the every 2 hour thing, that may be what she needs right now since there’s lots of growth spurts happening! If you need more help, please don’t hesitate to reach out. We have a ton of other resources for you if you need!

      • Jessica says:

        How do you recommend teaching her how to self sooth herself back to sleep? Is crying it out something I should allow her to do? She is 4 months. She can put herself to sleep for nap time but at night is the problem. I keep finding my self picking her back up and not even two minutes of hold her and she is out.

      • Janelle Reid says:

        Hi @Jessica, thanks for getting back to me. There are lots of different techniques to teach her to fall back asleep on her own (crying it out would be one of the options, but even within that there are tons of variations of what you can do) and many people begin this process between 4-6 months. Here is a link to an article on our site that goes over a few different sleep training techniques: https://www.babysleepsite.com/sleep-training/5-baby-sleep-training-methods-explained/
        Within this article there are lots of other links to give you more information on a specific technique. The important thing with sleep training is to definitely have a plan of action, and to give it some time for at least a week or so before changing the routine. Using the tips from the free guide I linked previously as well (establishing a bedtime routine, making sure the schedule is right, etc.) will all be keys in success.
        If you need more help, please let us know! We have a ton of other resources (you will see as you begin to click around), many are free, and we also have more in-depth information in our Members Area that you can read more about here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/diy/ and we have personalized consulting as well.
        Hopefully since your daughter was sleeping well for you before she will catch on quick and you’re able to get things on track very soon. Let us know how everything turns out or if you have any more questions!

  5. Richard Mc Wade says:

    My son is about to turn 5 months and we have been struggling with sleep training for the past few weeks. We never really slept during the day in the early months but always slept amazing at night..

    Currently he needs to rocked or patted to drowsy then in the crib and then patted till asleep.. occasionlly he will roll onto his tummy then wakes up.. this morning he was wide awake at 3am..

    the last two nights he’s suffered from congestion and prefers to be upright.. could this be hindering the training process? How long do we persist with the current method of training?

    My wife has Post Partem Depression and is not copying with the exhaustion.. she’s weeping and is struggling to deal with the lack of progress even though I feel there is some..

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says:

      Hi @Richard – Thank you for writing to us, and I am sorry that you are working hard but still struggling with sleep! Yes, certainly feeling ill/congested can be a hindrance to the sleep training process. Hang in there, and please support your spouse and help her do the same! It is great that you have noticed progress. That is a good thing! We recommend sticking with your “plan” for at least one to two weeks, before adjusting things. I am not sure how long it has been for you, or how consistent you have been able to be.
      One of our expert sleep consultants would love to take an in depth look at his sleep history and details about his day and night sleep and would be happy to help support you and your family through this!
      If you find that you would like more help, you can read about all of our sleep consultation packages here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/services/
      Hang in there Richard, and if your wife has not already sought help for her PPD, please check out this site with her: http://www.postpartum.net/ or call this number for support: 1-800-944-4773

  6. Yunene says:

    How am I coping? With coffee – I really just want to stab my eyes out I’m that tired. This is my second baby and I thought I would have it sussed being my second but nope – what worked for one definitely doesn’t work for the other. Ah well thank goodness for family and friends and awesome sites like this.

    • Janelle Reid says:

      @Yunene, hang in there! It is crazy how different babies can be! I’m glad you’re finding the site helpful and that you have support around you. If you need anything, let us know, but for now, go enjoy a cup of coffee!

  7. Hannah says:

    Good Morning,

    My baby boy is 17 weeks today and up until a week and a half ago he was sleeping through the night. Now the sleep regression has hit hard. I bath him at 7 and he has a massage and gets dressed for bed and has his bottle around 7:45 and he’s notmally asleep by 8:30 the latest, I put him in his cot when he’s awake but drowsy and he goes off on his own with no fuss. He sleeps solidly until 12:30 every night and that’s when it starts, at least once an hour he’s awake, I’ve tried giving him a bottle and he’s not hungry so I resorted back to just giving his dummy and he does drift back off but then an hour later he’s awake again!
    Any advice I would be hugely grateful!
    Hannah x

    • Janelle Reid says:

      @Hannah, thanks for writing to us. I am sorry you’re struggling with your son’s sleep! It sounds like he may be experiencing the 4 month regression so he’ll need to learn how to settle himself to sleep during those wake ups. Here is a link to a free guide with tips to help him sleep through the night: https://www.babysleepsite.com/sleep-through-night-free-ebook/
      Hopefully he gets back on track soon! Be sure to click the links in the guide that will take you to more resources and let us know if you need any more help.

  8. Lauren says:

    My son is 3 months and is sleeping 7 hour stretches at night. I am terrified once the 4 month regression happens he will become a bad sleeper (my oldest child was a terrible sleeper).

    We rock him and cuddle before he goes to sleep and he always cries for awhile and then eventually goes to sleep – sometimes in our arms, sometimes I put him down when he is very close to drifting off and then sssssh him to sleep. Would this be considered a wind down session or a sleep association?

    Any specific advice about things we should be doing in the lead up to the regression to help or prevent it becoming terrible?

    • Janelle Reid says:

      Hi @Lauren, thanks for writing to us! I am sorry your first child was a terrible sleeper and that you are now worried about your second. It sounds like you are doing all you know to do to establish good sleep habits from the beginning so hopefully things will continue! It truly depends on the child. I had one child that never showed signs of any sleep regression, while my other gave me trouble for far longer. Here is a link to free guide that you can keep as a reference if you do begin to experience trouble as the next month approaches: https://www.babysleepsite.com/baby-sleep-through-night-free-ebook/
      Hopefully you won’t need it! 😉 If you need any more help, please let us know, we are here!

  9. Lola says:

    My son is almost 4.5 months. He has always gone to sleep 15 to 20mins after putting him down and sometimes lesser than that.

    Now the issue is, for the last 3 days or so, for his morning nap he has been playing and not going to sleep, he keeps practising his rolling technique and then eventually sleep. For his afternoon nap, he however won’t go to.sleep straight away, he will keep talking and cooing to himself, rolling and eventually crying, which I then go to him and carry him and gently but firmly tell him it’s his naptime and then leave the room. He cries for a minute or so and then he sleeps. (Or so) but then he wakes up after about 40minutes later he whines, but I don’t go to him, so I allow him fall back asleep again until it’s his wake up time. I have a toddler that I have to look after as well. How do I handle this phase, should I continue with what I am doing or allow him stay awake more, and then put him back to sleep

    He wakes up 6/6:30 am

    First nap: 8:/15 or 8: 20 am to wake up 10 am

    Second nap 11:20 am to wake up 1: 30 pm

    Third nap 3: 15 pm to wake up 4:15 pm.

    The reason for this nap gap is because he starts getting a little cranky at that time, so I close the curtain and he still cries a bit, but then i calm him and then he gors quiet. However, he still wont go to sleep until alomost 45 minutes later. He wont cry straight away, he will keep cooing and turning or even laughing, until it’s about 40 minutes and then he starts crying. Before I go him to reassure him and then he sleeps.

    Is this the real regression or it’s just him wanting more play time?

    • Janelle Reid says:

      @Lola – Thank you for writing to us. I am sorry you’ve been struggling the past few days with your son’s naps. It sounds like he has an amazing routine that you are sticking to, so if it’s a regression or him just testing out his new skill of rolling (that can often mess with sleep too) hopefully he’ll be back on track soon with the help of your consistency. 🙂 If you need any nap tips in addition to what you are already doing, be sure to download our free guide for naps here: https://www.babysleepsite.com/free-baby-nap-guide/
      Hope this helps!

  10. Chelsea says:

    I really appreciate this site and all the information. My baby is 4.5 months, and she’s definitely going through the sleep regression, but she already knows how to fall asleep on her own. When it’s naptime or bedtime I just go through the wind down routine and put her in bed, and she sometimes cries a bit but often falls asleep with no crying. However, she won’t sleep longer than 30-45 minutes during the day unless she’s in her swing, and she wakes up usually three times at night when she had previously been sleeping 6-9 hours in a stretch. Is this something we just have to wait out, or something we will need to work on?
    Again, so grateful for your input!

    • Debbye @ The Baby Sleep Site says:

      Hi @Chelsea,
      Thank you for writing to us! it sounds like you have been working hard to get your little one sleeping well! it is great that she can already fall asleep on her own! Those short naps are common, but feel free to try and encourage her to fall back to sleep if she can/will. That may take a little more time, so hang in there! Regarding her night wakings, I cannot say if she will outgrow that on your own, or if she will need help. Every baby is different, and some will drop those night wakings/feeds (if she is feeding at those times) on their own, and many will not. If you do find that you need to work on those night wakings or those short naps, we would love to help! Just contact us at any time if things do not smooth out! Good luck Chelsea, and thanks for reading!

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